The Official Online Dating Diaries Thread
cyndi
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Since so many of us are dating online, we should have a thread to discuss our dates.
I'll go first...
I have a date tonight! He's 31 and lives in Brooklyn. I honestly don't think he's that attractive, but this picture is the reason I winked at him....
He's 31, lives in Brooklyn, and seems to be on the "artistic" side...totally not my type, but oh well. I agreed to go out with him tonight, but then I remembered that there was a concert that I wanted to go to. Luckily, he thought it was a great idea. So, we're meeting at a little restaurant nearby to grab a drink and then we're going to the concert at nine. Wish me luck!
I'll go first...
I have a date tonight! He's 31 and lives in Brooklyn. I honestly don't think he's that attractive, but this picture is the reason I winked at him....
He's 31, lives in Brooklyn, and seems to be on the "artistic" side...totally not my type, but oh well. I agreed to go out with him tonight, but then I remembered that there was a concert that I wanted to go to. Luckily, he thought it was a great idea. So, we're meeting at a little restaurant nearby to grab a drink and then we're going to the concert at nine. Wish me luck!
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I winked at this guy, he winked back, but his profile didn't say that much about him. So, I asked what he like to do for fun in the city. This is his reply...
This was my response...
Idiots!
I'm not dating online, but I sure enjoy the stories.
Cindy, I am not on match but you do get a lot better response if you only contact guys that their profile says long-term. I don't contact anyone that their profile says dating, or hangout or other relationship.
To me, if it doesn't say long term, they are just looking for a fwb's or hook up.
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Boy the online dating tales I could tell!! Luckily I did find my husband that way and he cancelled out all the bad, wacky and frustrating dates I had
Gstring- you like a bit like Ann Wedgeworth (Lana from Three's Company among other shows) in you picture ,but much pretty and curlier! Have you been told that in person??
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Aw, that little dog is so cute, I love his little face! (Sorry to guano)
I was actually thinking she looks like Lesley Anne Warren..
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My best friend is doing online dating but she's going to online dating sites and not getting much luck (She's 40) I've never gone to an online dating site but I did meet my current SO online. Try to join a forum that you're interested in to meet people...the relationship date sites attract guys like that @sshole you were talking about. Good luck with it!
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Ill be able to fill in the drama after the dates!
Good luck with yours Cyndi!
plentyoffish is free, but I never found anyone I was really interested in on there.
I am willing to admit that my attitude sucks! Online dating doesn't feel like anything but a chore to me. I resort to it when things IRL get to be desert-like in the man department. Then things pick up IRL and I drop online like the bad habit that it is [for me anyway].
Same here. IF I'm looking at a profile, rather than a person, I'm looking with a checklist in mind. Honestly, men online just rarely seem the least bit appealing.
If I'm going through too much real-life dating slump, I do speed dating. I've found I end up going on dates with 1/4 to 1/3 of the guys I meet there, because I'm more open when meeting actual humans, not facing a computer screen. I have some kind of fun speed dating stories...
-Speckla
But at least the pews never attend yoga!
I think that as long as you are smart about it any site is fine. I tried the sites you pay for but I didnt find a 'greater caliber' of guy. There are normal guys on the free sites. But the free sites do get alot of wierdos...but they normally show thier true colors pretty fast. Asking for more pictures, wants to meet RIGHT AWAY for drinks...doesnt have much info in their profile. Im a PRO when it comes to online dating
It's definitely worth checking out! I use predating speed dating, which is associated with Ok Cupid now. So there's a month of free internet dating which I just don't use. They let you choose whether or not to communicate with the guys online so they don't give out any of your contact info.
I don't know what it's like in other places, but I have found the speed dating here is almost all educated professionals. I've met professors, hotel managers, lawyers, bankers, teachers, marketing guy for a bookstore chain, and many engineers. Tucson is NOT high in professionals compared to blue-collar type jobs, so the ratio at speed dating is surprisingly high.
My favorite story was the guy who said he was a chef, with a snooty air. And it turned out he specifically cut up vegetables at an old folks' home. When he walked in (early) he looks around and I'm the only female in the room, and says "well, typical women are going to be fashionably late." The woman running the thing and I just looked at each other... When he got to my station, he said he likes eating out at nice restaurants, looks me up and down and says "I can tell you do, too." Umm.... wow. He then spent far too much time bragging about how he had a really nice car. Given I had parked next to a different guy who drove up in a Corvette (and didn't mention his car) I was curious what this guy drove. Turned out, it was about a 5 year old Prelude. Now, I wouldn't think LESS of a guy for driving a Prelude. But I did think less of him for bragging about his fancy car...
-Speckla
But at least the pews never attend yoga!
It's always interesting to identify those single people — IRL or online —*where you can see so obviously why they're still single, but the source of the problem completely eludes them. They carry their baggage in plain view, for any and all to see.
I'm always grateful because it gives me a clear signal to keep looking.
LOL! A prelude??! One of my friends did the speed dating thing once and the guy told her 'well you definitely like to talk, don't you?'.
There is actually this convention thing in Ohio that my sister is going to and my mom is pressuring me to go where you go to meet guys and they have speed dating. I wanted to go at first but now I'm thinking it's going to be a waste and a bunch of not my type people. Urgh..
Yeah, those are the easy ones!
I just thought the guy who did marketing for a bookstore was the COOLEST guy. I thought it was an awesome job. He also wrote books in his free time. For some reason, though, I made him very insecure. It was too bad, because if he'd thought he was as cool as I thought he was, I think we would have gotten along really well!
-Speckla
But at least the pews never attend yoga!
Never on both of these women. I get Sarah Brightman & Joan Collins alot.
AKA new2curls
Actually not sure if you can tell from this picture or not but when I first saw your pic it reminded me a lot of my mom. This is a pic of her about 20 years ago(don't have a recent one on me now).
Hehe! I thought you looked like my mom's old friend Arlene...who always got that she looked like Joan Collins
I have another pic. I will put that in my avator & see if you all have the same reaction. It's actually a more recent pic.
AKA new2curls
I like the new picture and looks a bit like Linda Ronstadt. I guess you look like a lot of other pretty brunettes
The online thing is kind of tiring and too much work. I go up and down on it. Probably will start talking to men and meeting up for coffee within the next 2 months. If there are any truly notable stories, I will share
(taking a break from posting starting late august 2009)
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The date went well and we both enjoyed the concert. When I emailed him to say thank you, he said that he was looking forward to our pets' playdate, but didn't actually ask us to join them anywhere which I thought was weird. I don't know what to say.
Now for the mixed emotions...I came home crying. The whole time I was at the concert, I was thinking about my ex-boyfriend. We haven't been together in years, but we hooked up when I was home at the end of June. I can't help it. There's just something between us that I can't explain. I know we're not right for each other, but I'm afraid I'll never have that connection again with somebody else. I seriously thought we were going to get married before things fell apart. Even my mom loved him and was excited that we were spending time together when I was home.
I have a "date" this Sunday. He's very nice looking(and tall....all the guys I've gone out with have been my height, lol), and we actually have really good conversation. He's new to the area(moved from Houston), and works for a local independent label.
I think we'll have a good time. He's sarcastic like me, which means he knows how to NOT take himself too seriously.
And did I mentioned he's nice looking? LOL!
I'll post details tomorrow after our date.
I've sorta lucked in the online dating thing, with the exception of encountering one flaky douche, but even the ones that I didn't feel a connection with are still cool people.
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Anyway, I have been dating a lot for fun. There is one guy that I have a strong connection with. We have been dating all summer. We always have fun and there is a lot of chemistry. Both of us know each other are dating other people. Last night I told him how I felt about him. He told me that he was too unstable and would end up hurting me. Then added that I should continue to date more and we should be friends for now. :sad8:
I have enough friends.
I appreciate the honesty, but damn, that sucks. He always made the first move so I thought he was interested. I hate putting myself out there. Now I remember why I usually wait for the guy to share his feelings first.
It stings because not in my whole years of dating have I had such a connection with someone. I will get over it because I know there are other men out there that I will share the connection with. It hurts all the same.
Sometimes I hate dating in NYC. Dating here seems much more complicated than other cities I lived in.
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Once the number three, being the third number, be reached, then lobbest thou thy Holy Hand Grenade of Antioch towards thy foe, who, being naughty in my sight, shall snuff it. ~Armaments 2:9-21
He sounds awful :thumbdown:
But what ever happened with *cinderalla guy*? The one you were supposed to meet at noon near B&N? Inquiring minds want to know..........
(taking a break from posting starting late august 2009)