How can I get my mom to let me transition?

gymluvgymluv Posts: 22Registered Users
I'm 13, and I want to transition. I want to see what my hair looks like. I remember when I was a little girl I begged my mom to let me get a relaxer. Now, about 7 years later, I'm regretting it. My hair used to be thick and now my hair looks like it's starting to thin. I brought up transitioning a couple months ago, but she just fussed about my hair looking "bad". She said it was expensive. Which I think is absurd considering she spends $60-$70 on my hair per month. She also said that I had to get a blowout, which I told her isn't true. I'm prepared to do everything necessary during my transition, and I've done my research. Can someone please help me?!


  • Goin'GreyGoin'Grey Curl Neophyte Posts: 301Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Pick a time when you and your mother are both calm, stress free and alone.

    Show her some photos of beautiful natural women and girls who's hair you love.

    Explain in a calm manner that you want to feel good about your hair and body and you want to honor yourself and take the best care you can of yourself and that includes going natural. Explain to your mother that the transition will not overnight but a long journey and you are asking for her support. Explain to your mom that it is directly connected to self esteem.

    Maybe in time your mom will see how beautiful your natural hair is and you can help her with her hair! But in the end it's what YOU think that matters!

    Follow your instinct!
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  • DeeinKCDeeinKC Posts: 43Registered Users
    If your mom won't let you fully transition, perhaps she is willing to compromise. Ask her if you can stretch your relaxer for say 6 months or a year and see how it's going. After that time period, you can both re-access your hair and how your caring for it and whether or not you still want to continue not relaxing. If you do a good job of taking care of your hair and remain committed to being natural, perhaps over time your mom will see how important this is to you and jump on board.

    Good luck with whatever you and your mom decide. And remember, in just a few years you will be able to transition and won't need her approval! ;-)
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