4 years and still clueless

momtoenamomtoena Posts: 5Registered Users
My oldest daughter is 4 and has (I think) type 4 hair of some kind. It is fine but super, super thick and has only been trimmed once in her life. It looks absolutely beautiful when it is wet but kind of poofs out a lot when it dries. I honestly don't really mind it like that and neither does she but my husband throws a fit. At this point, I am putting it in braids and leaving it like that for too long. I am looking for other ideas. We have a party to go to this weekend and I would love to let her hair out. One of the big problems we have though is that she is very tender headed (as am I) so every time I comb her hair, it involves lots of tears and screaming. If I comb it with conditioner or something while she is in the tub, do I have to comb it again when she gets out? If we decide to let her hair out, how often should I be combing it? I really don't think I would be able or willing to comb it out without sticking her in the bathtub again.
Also, I am looking for suggestions on how to weigh it down a bit once it is dry. I don't think the hair itself is all that dry, I think it's just so fine and there's so much of it that it goes a little crazy.
And while I'm posting, any suggestions on what else I can do with it? I don't know how to do cornrows and don't know anywhere I can take her to get that done. When we have tried to put it just in a ponytail, it is so thick I can't keep it all combed out enough to pull it all back without getting lumps.
I really need to figure out something that works for us as she starts school next year and my 2 year old is looking like she is going to have the exact same hair.


  • Geek_ChicGeek_Chic Posts: 1,275Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I don't have kids, or type 4 hair, but I do follow the Chocolate Hair Vanilla Care blog. It's written by a Caucasian mama who has adopted an African-American child. Their products and routines over the years are all there, as are styling how to videos and just general lifestyle posts. I've even learned a few things I can apply to my own routine. You might have a look there for anything you can incorporate.
    CG since 11/2011
    2c /3a F /Mii, low porosity

    Go To Products /Routine:
    Clarifying: Suave Essentials Strawberry
    Low Poo: Renpure Luxurious Argan Oil
    CO: Suave Essentials Strawberry, V05 Kiwi Lime
    RO /LI: Tresemme Perfectly (un)Done, Cure Care, V05 Kiwi Lime Squeeze, Suave Essentials Strawberry, Renpure Brazilian Keratin (old formula)
    Stylers: LALSG, AIF, HETT, Suave Professionals Firm Control
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  • adthomasadthomas Posts: 5,525Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    First what conditioner are you using to detangle? Not all of them have good slip. Tresseme Naturals moisture formula gets good slip revenues from almost everyone. I love it. i also mix it with AVJ and use it as a li. I have kinky hair that is longer. After I cowash I usually use li and seal with oil then do twists. I use shea butter or gel or pomade on the ends to get more polished look and keep hair from unraveling. When my hair is dry, I smooth a little bitty bit of oil or hair milk over it and take it down wear it out. Called a twist out. The twisting reduces shrinkage and tangles. When I hair was shorter I did wash and gos but probably not good for really active little kid.
    Uh, while hubby is complaing maybe he should try doing her hair. My ex was a single dad and he could do his daughters' hair so pretty.
    Yes, it's real. No, you can't touch it. :wav:
  • InimitableInimitable Posts: 148Registered Users
    Another good site is beads, braids & beyond

    Beads, Braids and Beyond
    BC'd July 1, 2011:love10:
    Bella is dense, thick, with low porosity

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  • anonymous_127430anonymous_127430 Posts: 16Registered Users
    Sounds just like me when I was a kid. My mom did cool looking braids as a kid, so I suggest you braid her hair. But what you should do first before braiding her hair is use some kind of a oil or moisturizer. My mom always used coconut oil, but its best to use curl ehancing smoothie or any moisturizer and this gives a good slip to detangle her hair and then seal it with coconut oil. After sealing it with coconut oil, I think its best to do singles. Dont make them to big or too small, and its best to leave them in for at least a week, if you want to take them out so her hair can be naturally curly. Let me know if you want me to clarify more.

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