dating a guy 5 years younger than me!!

bananashakebananashake Posts: 65Registered Users
He will turn 29 in August. I'm turning 34 in a month. We are having so much fun together, but it feels so weird dating a guy who is 5 years younger! His mom is only 19 years older than me. His "older" brother is still younger than me. He is mature, has a nice job, has a mortgage, etc. But I can't help but feel that I'm too old for him. He's never really been in a relationship before, whereas, I have had a few and I sometimes feel like I'm damaged goods because of those failed relationships. He is sooo undamaged and playful. :blob3:

Is 5 years too much of an age difference????

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  • NalliaNallia Posts: 2,979Registered Users
    If he was the one five years older would you still be worried about the age difference? If you have things in common and enjoy each other I don't see the problem. Maybe his lack of baggage will help you find your faith in relationships again.
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  • Corrina777Corrina777 Posts: 3,204Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Short answer is no. I just turned 34 myself and look younger than my age, so I'm normally approached by guys in their mid-20's (admittedly, being asked out by a 22 year old totally freaked me out). I think the older you get the less the age difference matters, as long as you're both mentally in the same place- and he sounds like he's totally got his life together. It took me a very long time to get comfortable with the idea of dating younger guys, but now 5 younger doesn't seem bad.
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  • EilonwyEilonwy Posts: 12,391Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Is 5 years too much of an age difference????
    Not unless you're under 23.
  • CanItBeChristineCanItBeChristine Posts: 6,343Registered Users
    His mom is "only" 19 years older than you?! Then she is still old enough to be YOUR mom, so I don't see the big deal!

    I really don't think it's a big deal...I'm currently interested in a guy 4 years younger than me, and I look younger than him and when I first met him, he refused to tell me how old he was because he thought it would be a turn-off.

    It'd be more extreme if you were 25 and he was 20 (I feel like a lot happens during those years) but it really closes-up as you get older.

    Ugh, I'm sorry that you're stressing about this! I'm thinking about the guy I worked with last lusting after an 18-year-old girl (he was 29) and that was all fine but when it's the other way around...
  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    I'm 34 and wouldn't hesitate to date a 29 year old guy if he seemed like he might be a good match for me. I try to stick to guys who are in relatively similar places in their lives, but the age range of ones who will cuts a pretty wide swath. I'd say mid 20's up to mid-40's probably contain guys who are potential good matches as far as what's going on in their lives as a general rule. Of course many aren't - but I wouldn't rule a guy out if he's in a similar place in his life.
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  • KikapooKikapoo Posts: 1,087Registered Users
    I'm married to a guy who's 4.5 years younger than I am. His older sister is also younger than I am. My MIL is a grand total of 13 years older than I am (she started young). Obviously I see nothing wrong with it :-D.
  • KurlyKaeKurlyKae Posts: 3,413Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    He will turn 29 in August. I'm turning 34 in a month. We are having so much fun together, but it feels so weird dating a guy who is 5 years younger! His mom is only 19 years older than me. His "older" brother is still younger than me. He is mature, has a nice job, has a mortgage, etc. But I can't help but feel that I'm too old for him. He's never really been in a relationship before, whereas, I have had a few and I sometimes feel like I'm damaged goods because of those failed relationships. He is sooo undamaged and playful. :blob3:

    Is 5 years too much of an age difference????[/QUOTE]

    NO, of course not.
    He sounds like a great guy. If this is the only thing that's bugging you, I think you can relax. Age is a number. Maturity is what's important. As long as he's not acting like a teenager, you're in a good place. Enjoy, continue to get to know each other. The rest will come as it should.
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  • rouquinnerouquinne Posts: 13,732Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    5 years, is that all?

    ;)

    i've gone 16 years each way. and lots of relationships with guys 9/10/11 years younger.
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  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    My BF is nine years younger and it hasn't presented a problem at all.


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  • cosmicflycosmicfly Posts: 1,814Registered Users
    My BF is nine years younger and it hasn't presented a problem at all.


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  • murrrcatmurrrcat Posts: 9,596Registered Users
    my mom married my dad when he was ummmm 22? she's 6 years older, they've been married 26 years now....uh I don't see a problem, unless like Eilonwy said..you're like 20 and dating a 15 year old.
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  • SpiderSpider Posts: 3,381Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I'm 5 yrs older than my DH. No big deal, if everything else is good.


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  • sleepymekosleepymeko Posts: 1,002Registered Users
    It's fine! I couldn't date a guy five years younger than me... But that's because I'm twenty-two. Bwhahaha. I'm always perving on the eight-teen year olds though.
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  • LAwomanLAwoman Posts: 2,949Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Nah 5 years is nothing!
  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,754Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I dont really see the issue. Its not like you are 19 and he is 14.
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  • BekkaPooBekkaPoo Posts: 3,861Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    At your age no.. I'm almost 37, hubby just turned 30 two weeks ago, so I might be biased, but I don't see a problem.
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  • Fifi.GFifi.G Posts: 15,490Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I am 36 and I would have no issue with dating a guy 5 years younger, as long as he is mature. That is the main issue. If he has had all the "light bulb moments" in life, that he's supposed to have had at this point, and has a good head on his shoulders... Congratulations!! I know plenty of men my age, and older, that have the maturity level of a 16 year old. Age and experience doesn't always make them wise.
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  • KyonzillaKyonzilla Posts: 22Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    It's funny how googling "Dating a guy 5 years younger than me" brought me to a thread I am familiar with... :)

    I am 26, and age is NEVER an issue until one of us actually mentions it. He will be turning.......21 this month. :-? And just saying that makes me CRINGE!!! Besides the (what seems to be a) large age gap, we have a lot in common, get along quite well, he's my type...tall (6'4ish), dark and handsome...we've known each other forever (born & raised in the same small town). And I've never "noticed" him until recently....which makes me feel better because that means I wasn't a pedophile (haha bad joke).

    He graduates college this year & has a good head on his shoulders....the age just TERRIFIES me b/c I feel as if he hasn't "lived" yet.....&I'm not sure if I'm in the way of this experience (of living).....sigh
  • kells1kells1 Posts: 1Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Neophyte
    I'm also 26 and his turning 21 December. What a coincidence

    I love him to the moon and back, he says he wants me to introduce him to my parents soon, it's gonna be so awkward coz he's a year younger than my little sister..


  • GretchenGretchen Administrator Posts: 10,831Administrators, Moderators Administrator
    kells1 said:
    I'm also 26 and his turning 21 December. What a coincidence

    I love him to the moon and back, he says he wants me to introduce him to my parents soon, it's gonna be so awkward coz he's a year younger than my little sister..


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  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 20,715Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Virtuoso
    5 years is pretty much nothing. But yes, it all depends on both people. I usually prefer people nearer my own age for something long term but I've dated people from a few years to 15 years older and 15 years younger.  
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  • bomegabomega Posts: 1,353Registered Users Curl Virtuoso
    5 years is nothing. I have dated as much as 10 years in either direction.
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