Hair as an accessory??

newmenewme Posts: 141Registered Users
I have been relaxer free for nearly 2 years and completely natural (post bc) for almost 15 months. It has been a journey to say the least. I have spent more time caring for my hair than ever before. I have learned more about proper hair care than ever before. Because of that, my hair has grown tremendously and looks and feels quite healthy and strong. I am really happy about that.

However, with that said, sometimes I crave more versatility with my style and with my look. This morning, I woke up and could not bare another twist, twist-out, wash-n-go or puff. So I decided, for the first time in 15 months, to blowdry and flat iron my hair. It took FOREVER, came out great, but I'd be kidding myself if I didn't admit that my ends got damaged in the process. They don't "look" bad but they "feel" bad and I saw tiny little ringlets on the floor so I definitely broke my hair.

Which got me to thinking, why does changing up my style have to be so onerous? I change my clothes to suit my moods but as long as I am completely natural, I cannot change my hairstyle (curly to straight to curly) without damaging my hair. Ugh! That frustrates me beyond belief. I like the way I look in a twist out. I like the way I look with straight hair. Yes, I want it all and I don't want to spend all weekend doing my hair I don't want to have to cut off damaged hair because I want to change up my style every once in a while. Why can't my hair be like any other accessory that I change up at will?

For those of you who go from curly to straight and back again, how do you do it without damaging your hair and how often do you do it? Thanks.

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  • KerricurlsKerricurls Posts: 104Registered Users
    I used to think that natural hair was an accessory. Afterall, natural hair is suppose to be versitile. Why can't I wear a wash and go today, a twist out tomorrow and straight the next day?
    I realize, the hard way, that when you treat your hair as an accessory, it will begin to look like an accessory. Like all accessories, it will being to lose it's glory and look worn out. Basically, damaged and unhealthy hair. If you're ok with that, then by all means, treat your hair like your clothes. Just know that you can't just go to the store and purchase a new head of hair. :sad10:
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  • Alice_42 Alice_42 Posts: 791Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Honestly, I dont think you can do ANYTHING to your hair without damaging it. With that in mind, I say enjoy your hair as your fiercest accessory and treat it like you would your favorite one. You keep it shiny and in good condition but you'll treat the damage from wear and tear when you see it TOO KEEP IT LOOKING FIERCE. You dont AVOID wearing it because you're afraid of damaging it--what's the point of HAVING something that awesome if you cant rock it?!
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  • MissKinkyCoilyMissKinkyCoily Posts: 827Registered Users
    Have you seen this? Maybe you could try this technique.

    http://www.curlynikki.com/2010/02/no-heat-rollerset-for-natural-hair.html

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  • newmenewme Posts: 141Registered Users
    Kerricurls wrote: »
    I used to think that natural hair was an accessory. Afterall, natural hair is suppose to be versitile. Why can't I wear a wash and go today, a twist out tomorrow and straight the next day?
    I realize, the hard way, that when you treat your hair as an accessory, it will begin to look like an accessory. Like all accessories, it will being to lose it's glory and look worn out. Basically, damaged and unhealthy hair. If you're ok with that, then by all means, treat your hair like your clothes. Just know that you can't just go to the store and purchase a new head of hair. :sad10:

    You are so right. I think I'm going to have to have versatility a little sparingly to keep my hair strong. Maybe I'll start thinking of straight hair like diamond earrings rather than clothes. The diamonds never go out of style, are not for everyday and you have to be real careful with them (the hair that is)because if you lose them they're hard to replace.
  • AptlifeAptlife Posts: 86Registered Users
    Have you seen this? Maybe you could try this technique.

    http://www.curlynikki.com/2010/02/no-heat-rollerset-for-natural-hair.html

    HTH
    Thanks for this, her hair came out great. I don't how it'll take to type 4, but maybe I'll try it out if I get bored with my hair.
  • myshamysha Posts: 17Registered Users
    My mom has been referring to hair as an accessory for years now. Although I'm pretty sure her idea is completely different from yours. I get what you're saying though, and I'm sitting here right now playing with my hair thinking about whether I want to sit for 3 hours and straighten it myself.

    But back to my oh so special Mom. For her, hair really is an accessory because she buys so much of it. She keeps it in my closet [even though she has a closet of her own :( ]. She's got straight and black, curly and black (same thing in a honey blonde). She's at the wig shop at least once a month. Now she's into lace fronts. She says she's done with weaves and that wigs are better because you can change them faster and let your hair breathe. I've tried them and I'll say its not that convenient when you've got thick curly hair.

    But who knows, maybe it will work for you. It's a good way to change up cut, color and style with no damage to your hair (just your wallet).
  • CurlyteeCurlytee Posts: 273Registered Users
    You are still my hair Idol MissKinkyCoily


    uote=MissKinkyCoily;1271828]Have you seen this? Maybe you could try this technique.

    http://www.curlynikki.com/2010/02/no-heat-rollerset-for-natural-hair.html

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  • NinjaretteNinjarette Posts: 3,982Registered Users
    I don't straighten with heat often, and I don't double heat process...it's either blow dry, or flat iron....never both. Blow drying and then flat ironing my hair is a recipe for breakage and baldness. So, I don't do it.

    If I'm just going to flat iron, I stretch out my hair by banding or braiding.

    But honestly, the flat iron rarely gets used. I can blow dry my hair straight enough, and set it on rollers, and get a great look.
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  • MissKinkyCoilyMissKinkyCoily Posts: 827Registered Users
    Curlytee wrote: »
    You are still my hair Idol MissKinkyCoily


    uote=MissKinkyCoily;1271828]Have you seen this? Maybe you could try this technique.

    http://www.curlynikki.com/2010/02/no-heat-rollerset-for-natural-hair.html

    HTH
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    Aww, that's so sweet. Thank you for the compliment.
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  • kalanekalane Posts: 424Registered Users
    Nea wrote: »
    I don't straighten with heat often, and I don't double heat process...it's either blow dry, or flat iron....never both. Blow drying and then flat ironing my hair is a recipe for breakage and baldness. So, I don't do it.

    If I'm just going to flat iron, I stretch out my hair by banding or braiding.

    But honestly, the flat iron rarely gets used. I can blow dry my hair straight enough, and set it on rollers, and get a great look.

    I'm going to try this next time I straighten my hair. So simple, but I never thought of it. Thanks NEA!
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