Mothers, daughters, and the rituals of hair....

BleuSoulBleuSoul Registered Users Posts: 110
I ran across this beautiful article from the Washington Post http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/01/22/AR2010012203259.html
another hair board and was struck by how it resonates with something I have learned to appreciate in the last year with my own daughter. As I mentioned in another thread my daughter is my hair idol and I once used to LOATHE the times I spent trying to "tame" her hair. More than any inch of growth I may have gained in the last few months on my own head, I treasure the knowledge I gained from boards such as nc.com and others which has helped me to grow and love the "ritual" of doing my daughters hair and to show her this love as an extension of how I truly care deeply for her and all that she is and will be. As this author mentions, the time I spend each week during "wash day" has become moments for deep bonding. I have seen in blossoming in my daughter as she realizes her hair (and beauty) are unique and just what God had in mind when he shed his light on her :).

I hope you all enjoy the article as much as I did.

Peace

Comments

  • Booker Ts MamaBooker Ts Mama Registered Users Posts: 670
    The site says the post may have moved or is no longer available.

  • BleuSoulBleuSoul Registered Users Posts: 110
    Ok try this one (I think I got an extra few characters in the original post)...


    http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/01/22/AR2010012203259.html
  • BleuSoulBleuSoul Registered Users Posts: 110
    (I swear I have the hardest time figuring out the edit function on this site!)

    http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/01/22/AR2010012203259.html
  • msjaimmsjaim Registered Users Posts: 948
    loved it! dare i say it made a sister a little emotional even.
  • Booker Ts MamaBooker Ts Mama Registered Users Posts: 670
    That's a really nice article. I enjoyed reading it. Thanks for posting the link again!! :)

  • BleuSoulBleuSoul Registered Users Posts: 110
    msjaim wrote: »
    loved it! dare i say it made a sister a little emotional even.

    yeah me too msjaim lol (I had to stop halfway thru and get it together :tongue5:)
  • RoRoRoRo Registered Users Posts: 29
    Wow, what a great article! Thanks so much for sharing!
  • Candy72Candy72 Registered Users Posts: 83
    Yes, this was a great article...I was truly touched after reading it.
  • totallytwisted<3totallytwisted<3 Registered Users Posts: 228
    Thanks for sharing BleuSoul that was really beautiful. It made me drift back to when my mother used to do my hair. The bucket of barette's, the grease, the hot comb..... I hated it at the time but reading this does make me remember the intimacy of talking to my mommy during the process, and how pretty I felt after. Till this day my mom always tries to con me into letting me do my hair, and I always wonder why. Now I know...
    Last Relaxer December 4, 2008
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  • taltaltaltal Registered Users Posts: 614
  • rachelolivia2010rachelolivia2010 Registered Users Posts: 372
    Awh! That was really nice! I remember when my mom used to do my hair! The pulling and pinching my little hairs together lol. It hurt so badly! She did it with my younger brother and with my little sister she still does it. :) This is why i want a little sun-kissed daughter. I'd do her hair and make her feel beautiful and gorgeous all day. :)
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    Co-Wash: Vo5 Herbal Escapes Moisturizing Conditioner Free Me Freesia With Aloe Extract & Aussie Moist
    Leave In Conditioner: KCKT & seal with shea butter.
    Gel/Styler: KCCC or EcoStyler for edges.
    I think my hair likes cones... :)
  • KilaelKilael Registered Users Posts: 67
    The article does bring back memories of my mom doing my hair as a child, but what's funny is that since I've been natural, we started doing something kind of similar. While she is still relaxed, I go over to her house and roller set it on her wash days, and she gives me scalp messages with our coconut oil/castor oil/evoo mix. I'm 25 years old and spend most Sundays with my mommy massaging my scalp, but there's something about sitting on her bed watching tv with her that still makes me feel warm and safe.
    I finally have my own fotki. :laughing6:
    http://public.fotki.com/Kilael/
  • NayaNaya Registered Users Posts: 922
    Absolutely loved this article! Thank you for sharing!

    I loved the term "children favored by the sun" and this is my new phrase. :)
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    3C/4A mix I think
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    Vegan-ish

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  • rachelolivia2010rachelolivia2010 Registered Users Posts: 372
    Naya wrote: »
    Absolutely loved this article! Thank you for sharing!

    I loved the term "children favored by the sun" and this is my new phrase. :)

    Me too! :)
    awnmvgt87.png
    4a/OS/FN/Spongy
    Co-Wash: Vo5 Herbal Escapes Moisturizing Conditioner Free Me Freesia With Aloe Extract & Aussie Moist
    Leave In Conditioner: KCKT & seal with shea butter.
    Gel/Styler: KCCC or EcoStyler for edges.
    I think my hair likes cones... :)

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