CurlTalk

Official Facebook thread

medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
I thought I'd start a thread where we can ask general questions about FB and people can share tips for navigating the monster that is Facebook.

This morning I noticed a wall-to-wall conversation on my Live Feed. Lots of my friends have conversations and I don't see them. Is there a privacy setting that these two women aren't aware of? As far as I know, my wall-to-wall communications are private but I'm not sure how I did it. :lol:
«13456711

Comments

  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    I honestly don't know the answer to this.

    I do know that if you really want something to private, you should use the messaging feature. That's the only way to be certain what you say will remain private from all.
  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    I rarely do status updates for myself and I rarely write on people's walls. I mostly just respond to my FBF's status updates. Anything that is private I will do via email or private messaging, as you mentioned.
  • SarcasmIsBeautySarcasmIsBeauty Posts: 5,640Registered Users
    You can't hide wall to wall communication from people any more unless you hit remove after you post it:
    Whether we display a story on your profile is now controlled by the privacy of the content itself, rather than an additional setting. For example, only people who can see both your Wall, and the Wall to which you posted would be able to see a story about you writing on a friend’s Wall. You cannot completely turn off recent activity stories anymore. However, if you want to remove a particular story that currently shows up, simply click the “Remove” button that appears to the right of the story after you move your mouse over it. Learn more about privacy here.
    I used to have it so that my posts wouldn't show up in the news feed but now they do. It's annoying and a bit stalker-ish in my opinion. I miss the 2006 FB.
    Turtles: omg please don't put that in your moo moo

    Nej: too late... moo moo has been infiltrated.
  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    I used to have it so that my posts wouldn't show up in the news feed but now they do. It's annoying and a bit stalker-ish in my opinion. I miss the 2006 FB.

    It doesn't bother me. The way I see it, FB is quite public. It's like being out in the town square. You want privacy, you have to be deliberate about it [that is, use the messaging function].

    And I guess I don't really see the point of trying to be private on someone's wall, where people can see it by just visiting their profile.

    The whole point of FB is to encourage interaction. With most things going into the live/news feeds, it achieves that end.

    Just yesterday a couple friends were doing a wall-to-wall conversation and a couple of us glommed on and it was really funny. It was a total hijacking [or guano as we call it here, and no, the OP totally didn't mind! :)].
  • CurlyCurliesCurlyCurlies Posts: 1,641Registered Users
    Yep. If person A posts a message on person B's wall & you are friends with both of them, you'll be able to see it.

    If you haven't already, check your privacy settings and make sure that everything is set to your satisfaction. I mainly just use facebook for CafeWorld and Farmville, but I was still really suprised to find that they had changed my default settings to 'everyone' & 'friend of friend' when the new changes were put in place.
    33abhqq.gif
  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    I saw two wall-to-walls just now on my Live Feed. Two members from here where discussing a show that was on last night and I cannot figure out why I'm seeing their conversation.

    One of the conversations looked like this:

    Jane Doe > Mary Smith: Hi Mary! It's so great to hear from you after all of these years! Where are you living now?

    Then right below I see:

    Comment Like See Wall-to-Wall

    If I click on wall-to-wall, I can see the entire exchange. Why is that an option for some friends and not others? I'm trying to figure out what controls that setting.
  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    medussa wrote: »
    I saw two wall-to-walls just now on my Live Feed. Two members from here where discussing a show that was on last night and I cannot figure out why I'm seeing their conversation.

    One of the conversations looked like this:

    Jane Doe > Mary Smith: Hi Mary! It's so great to hear from you after all of these years! Where are you living now?

    Then right below I see:

    Comment Like See Wall-to-Wall

    If I click on wall-to-wall, I can see the entire exchange. Why is that an option for some friends and not others? I'm trying to figure out what controls that setting.

    You need to be FB friends with both people for it to show up in your feed and to view the entire wall-to-wall exchange. Maybe that's the difference?
  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    wild~hair wrote: »
    You need to be FB friends with both people for it to show up in your feed and to view the entire wall-to-wall exchange. Maybe that's the difference?

    You and CurlyCurlies are right. That's what it is. It's not something I see on my Live Feed a lot.
  • reenireeni Posts: 149Registered Users
    Here's my don't understand thing.. whatr's the difference between 'Live feed" and "news feed"? They're all notes from someone, just in a different order. At least on my page.
    I get so confused on FB!
    What a WONDERFUL day!!
  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    Live Feed is everything your friends are doing...what they become fans of and who they just became friends with. Those are the two most obvious to me.
  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    My understanding of it is:

    - Live Feed contains everything, in chronological order,

    - while News Feed contains the things that are getting comments. The more comments, the more something bubbles to the top of the News Feed.

    Sometimes I will load one or the other and get something strange. Like it will just be status updates and nothing else. It strikes me as another FB bug.

    The top thing to understand about FB is that it's extremely buggy. I see things go wrong on that site almost every day.

    This, and the way they change things up constantly, are both good reasons not to entrust FB with anything private or important.
  • MichelleBFTMichelleBFT Posts: 4,812Registered Users
    Also, the news fee shows you updates from groups you're in and things you're a fan of. Live feed does not.

    I agree with the assessment that FB is a public place and you have to be cautious of what you put out there. Assume everyone can see it, or find it if they want to, if it isn't in a message.
    "And politically correct is the worst term, not just because it’s dismissive, but because it narrows down the whole social justice spectrum to this idea that it’s about being polite instead of about dismantling the oppressive social structure of power.
    Fun Fact: When you actively avoid being “PC,” you’re not being forward-thinking or unique. You’re buying into systems of oppression that have existed since before you were even born, and you’re keeping those systems in place."
    Stolen.
  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    Also, the news fee shows you updates from groups you're in and things you're a fan of. Live feed does not.

    I have those things in both feeds. Everything is in my live feed, and the ones that have a lot of comments are showing up in my news feed.

    For example …

    A post from Frostie the Dancing Cockatoo was made about an hour ago, and has a dozen comments and several "likes." It shows up in both feeds, sort of in the middle of the page.

    Meanwhile, there's a post about health care reform from a political page that's hopping, with over a hundred comments. It's almost at the top of the news feed, well above the Frostie one. It was originally posted last night and has completely fallen off the page in the live feed [but it's still there if I load more of the feed.]
  • reenireeni Posts: 149Registered Users
    Thanks, I not quite as confused.
    What a WONDERFUL day!!
  • xcptnlxcptnl Posts: 15,678Registered Users
    Does anyone know why FB is asking for your email for Farmville and Cafe World? Will we no longer be putting things on our wall in those application - it will go by email???
    Central Massachusetts

    One good reason to only maintain a small circle of friends is that three out of four murders are committed by people who know the victim. ~George Carlin~

    In regards to Vagazzling: They just want to get into the goods without worrying about getting scratched up by fake crystals. ~spring1onu~
  • sew and sewsew and sew Posts: 3,443Registered Users
    I've noticed that if I'm on a friend's profile and view a comment they posted to a friend...even if their friend is not a contact of mine, I can see their friend's status update to which my friend commented. However that same friend of theirs has their settings on 'friends only' as far as who can view their stuff.

    If independently of my friend's action to their page, I want to view their wall, I would be limited from doing that.

    If someone is not friends with both people (like myself in that instance) I don't think facebook should allow that person to see the content their non-friend posted. The exchange doesn't show up on any home feed because it's not between two mutual contacts, but it's still viewable off profiles.
    “It was only a sunny smile and little it cost in the giving but like morning light it scattered the night and made the day worth living.” - F. Scott Fitzgerald

    3B ■ Medium/Course ■ High Porosity
  • SarcasmIsBeautySarcasmIsBeauty Posts: 5,640Registered Users
    wild~hair wrote: »
    I used to have it so that my posts wouldn't show up in the news feed but now they do. It's annoying and a bit stalker-ish in my opinion. I miss the 2006 FB.

    It doesn't bother me. The way I see it, FB is quite public. It's like being out in the town square. You want privacy, you have to be deliberate about it [that is, use the messaging function].

    And I guess I don't really see the point of trying to be private on someone's wall, where people can see it by just visiting their profile.

    The whole point of FB is to encourage interaction. With most things going into the live/news feeds, it achieves that end.

    Just yesterday a couple friends were doing a wall-to-wall conversation and a couple of us glommed on and it was really funny. It was a total hijacking [or guano as we call it here, and no, the OP totally didn't mind! :)].

    Oh I don't post anything too personal or outrageous, I just think it's annoying and liked it better when we could hide it. FB circa 2006 was much better than it is now IMO :)
    Turtles: omg please don't put that in your moo moo

    Nej: too late... moo moo has been infiltrated.
  • SpiralliSpiralli Posts: 3,654Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    medussa, thank you so much for starting this thread!

    I am very new to FB. I have younger cousins -- adults, 40-ish -- who post stupid alcohol-related comments. Like I give a flying flip about what they are drinking and how many more they want???? This shows up on my News Feed or Live Feed. Does anyone know if there is any way for me to block seeing that cr^p?
    Location: Texas
    Type: 3b/3c (i), below shoulder length.
    CO wash: A-O GPB LYY, Desert Essence Coconut, Oribe Silverati
    Leave-ins: Curl Junkie Beauti-Curls, KCKT, cno overnight
    Styling: BRHG, MGA Sculpting Gel, A-O Mandarin Magic Gel, LOTD AVG, LALSG, CJ Pattern Pusha
    DT: Curl Junkie Deep Fix, Briogeo Don't Despair Repair!
  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    curls2grow wrote: »
    medussa, thank you so much for starting this thread!

    I am very new to FB. I have younger cousins -- adults, 40-ish -- who post stupid alcohol-related comments. Like I give a flying flip about what they are drinking and how many more they want???? This shows up on my News Feed or Live Feed. Does anyone know if there is any way for me to block seeing that cr^p?

    You're welcome.

    As far as not seeing that stuff, you can hide these individuals by scrolling over their comments and clicking to the far right on "hide." I did that with my BIL, who was posting eleventy billion Mafia Wars requests daily. I don't see him on either of my feeds now but he's still able to post comments on any pictures I post or to the occasional status update. It was the perfect solution for me.
  • SpiralliSpiralli Posts: 3,654Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    OK, I see how to do that. I'm wondering if there is any way to just stop all posts from goofy people from appearing on the News/Live Feed? Aside from un-friending them.

    ETA: Duh. OK, now I get it. I also have to click on the rectangle that says to "Hide Person'sName". :) So cool! :)

    And do people get notified if I un-friend them? I know they can see if I still have them listed as a friend, if they care to look through my short list of friends.
    Location: Texas
    Type: 3b/3c (i), below shoulder length.
    CO wash: A-O GPB LYY, Desert Essence Coconut, Oribe Silverati
    Leave-ins: Curl Junkie Beauti-Curls, KCKT, cno overnight
    Styling: BRHG, MGA Sculpting Gel, A-O Mandarin Magic Gel, LOTD AVG, LALSG, CJ Pattern Pusha
    DT: Curl Junkie Deep Fix, Briogeo Don't Despair Repair!
  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    By hiding them, you're just stopping their silly posts from popping up on your news feed and live feed. Un-friending them is, as you wrote, taking them off your friends list. They won't get a notification. But if your list is short, they might notice. ;)
  • afrosheenqueenafrosheenqueen Posts: 5,400Registered Users
    Can anyone shed some light on why everyone is stating that they owe so much money in "fines"? What's going on now?
    4a/b Texlaxed hair w/ highlights. Medium texture & high porosity.

    HG's: CJ Daily Fix, Bobeam Cheris Hibiscus shampoo bar, KC Spiral Spritz, Knot Today, CJ Rehab, KBB LL Hair Mask, Cassia, KCCC, oil blend of Avocado, Camellia, Jojoba, & Meadowfoam oils

    SL APL BSL MBL
  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    Dunno, ASQ. Facebook has a lot of memes, maybe it's a new one?
  • ~Ghost Poster~~Ghost Poster~ Posts: 2,264Registered Users
    Can anyone shed some light on why everyone is stating that they owe so much money in "fines"? What's going on now?

    Ugh...not another one! I thought the person I saw doing that was serious, though she was being very cryptic about what the fine was for. I just thought she was being kind of stupid posting personal info then trying to be all private about it, telling people to check their PMs. Figures it was just another "game." I think people feel as if they are clever and "in the loop" or something by participating in those.

    Thanks to my FB friends for helping me beat my FB addiction--there's the silver lining!
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]d575b15bb0aa40deb59950570e3268e7.gif
    Baby fine, honey & caramel hilites, 4a/3c now 2b w/DIY BKT & LOVIN' it.
    Cowash-V05 Extra Body
    L'oreal EP Moisture-Rinse-out
    JFLVM
    BRHG mix w/
    KCCC/KCKT (winter)
    Clean-smelling-hair freak washes EOD; dry w/bowl diffuser
    Cassia+henna+grays=Gold-red hilites :love1:
    ~That you don't share my experiences/opinions doesn't invalidate them :wink:
    I wondered if it tasted like a hot dog. ~Phoenix
  • wavycurly40+wavycurly40+ Posts: 2,017Registered Users
    I've noticed that if I'm on a friend's profile and view a comment they posted to a friend...even if their friend is not a contact of mine, I can see their friend's status update to which my friend commented. However that same friend of theirs has their settings on 'friends only' as far as who can view their stuff.

    If independently of my friend's action to their page, I want to view their wall, I would be limited from doing that.

    If someone is not friends with both people (like myself in that instance) I don't think facebook should allow that person to see the content their non-friend posted. The exchange doesn't show up on any home feed because it's not between two mutual contacts, but it's still viewable off profiles.

    I noticed this too, and I agree. It's very strange and a little unsettling. Just another reason why anything purely private should be limited to the message feature, I guess. What's annoying is that FB keeps changing. So you may assume that things are done a certain way, or that there's a certain degree of privacy, based on what happened in the past.... but then it changes. They don't really fully inform us of the ramifications of these changes. So be careful out there!

    Wurly and proud!
    Modified CG since 2008.
  • SarcasmIsBeautySarcasmIsBeauty Posts: 5,640Registered Users
    Can anyone shed some light on why everyone is stating that they owe so much money in "fines"? What's going on now?

    IIRC from myspace a few years back its just a stupid little "quiz" based on how many sexual activities you've done, each has a price next to it and you add it up and there's how much your fine is. Stupid really...
    Turtles: omg please don't put that in your moo moo

    Nej: too late... moo moo has been infiltrated.
  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    Can anyone shed some light on why everyone is stating that they owe so much money in "fines"? What's going on now?

    IIRC from myspace a few years back its just a stupid little "quiz" based on how many sexual activities you've done, each has a price next to it and you add it up and there's how much your fine is. Stupid really...

    Ooooookay.
  • afrosheenqueenafrosheenqueen Posts: 5,400Registered Users
    Can anyone shed some light on why everyone is stating that they owe so much money in "fines"? What's going on now?

    IIRC from myspace a few years back its just a stupid little "quiz" based on how many sexual activities you've done, each has a price next to it and you add it up and there's how much your fine is. Stupid really...

    :confused1:

    All of my friends are in their 30's and married. Why are they still doing this? This is rhetorical question for myself....Wow.
    4a/b Texlaxed hair w/ highlights. Medium texture & high porosity.

    HG's: CJ Daily Fix, Bobeam Cheris Hibiscus shampoo bar, KC Spiral Spritz, Knot Today, CJ Rehab, KBB LL Hair Mask, Cassia, KCCC, oil blend of Avocado, Camellia, Jojoba, & Meadowfoam oils

    SL APL BSL MBL
  • tikigodstikigods Posts: 165Registered Users
    I like Facebook. I'm a little disturbed by some of the people that want to be my "friend". They're really not interested in "friendship" more like spying and gossiping.

    At one point I had over 600 "friends". The number has been drastically reduced.
    "Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are."- Kurt Cobain

    FNNlm4.png
  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    Get notification when someone views your profile.

    It looks like you have to join in order for this to work. I can't imagine who'd want to do that.
«13456711