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Parents won't let me date.. :P

GeminiSignGeminiSign Posts: 156Registered Users
This may sound off-topic, but it fits in. Okay, so recently a girl from my school passed away. She was the same age as me and she was only a Freshman. We weren't super close (we'd talk a little bit), but it still broke my heart. She might've died from Swine Flu, but no one is sure yet.

But her death got me thinking that.. we don't really have as much time as we think we do.. So I'm trying to not take any more chances and just go for what I want. Right now I want to ask this guy out, he's a friend of mine and he's really sweet and a gentleman.

The only thing is my parents won't let me date.. until I'm 18. >__>. At first I was like "Okay, I have time I can wait.." but I really don't want to wait anymore, especially because I don't know if I'll even be here tomorrow or if he will.

Do you guys have any advice on how to convince my parents to let me date I don't want to do this without their consent... and I'm kind of nervous on asking him out especially 'cuz people are always like "The guy should ask the girl." do you have any advice on that?
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  • geekygeeky Posts: 4,995Registered Users
    I don't think you should go against your parents. Would they be OK with you hanging out with this boy as friends, supervised? Maybe invite him to study at your house and then have dinner with you and your parents. If they get to know him then they might be more likely to let you guys date.
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  • burgundy_locksburgundy_locks Posts: 2,420Registered Users
    usually, im all for the 'life is short' speech. but i dont think if you tell your parent 'life is short, i want a bf' they're going to buy it. just tell them that you like this boy and if he were to ask you out, and you accepted it, that you hope that they can support you on this. tell them that you respect them and their decision but you really feel that you should get to know this boy on a bf/gf level.

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  • Who Me?Who Me? Posts: 3,181Registered Users
    Talk to your parents in a mature, non-emotional way, and ask them to discuss their reasons behind not letting you date.

    Do they let you hang out with boys in groups? If not, I would first work on that. Spend time with some guys in groups, or supervised by your parents. Then work on allowing them to let you date.

    Also, be clear with your parents on what it is you want to do with this boy. If you want to go to the mall, or have a burger with him and some other friends even, then that's something to be clear about. To your parents "date" might mean he picks you up and gives you flowers, takes you to dinner, and then you make out in his car.
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Maybe do some research and show them what the average dating age is in this country and provide statistics that show no correlation exists between teen dating and [whatever their fear is].

    Just talk to them, make a strong case and ask if you can revisit the topic w/ them in a few months after they had time to think about it and when you can show your grades are good and you are doing [whatever they like to see].

    Ask if they would be OK w/ group dates or if you brought him over for dinner so they could meet him.

    You may have to pass on this particular guy if your parents don't come around quickly.

    But there will be other guys and other opportunities...or he may still be available when you are finally allowed to date.

    No, do not ask him out. If he likes you, he will ask you out. At this point he may not eve be emotionally ready to have a gf.

  • Gemini13Gemini13 Posts: 5,000Registered Users
    geeky wrote: »
    I don't think you should go against your parents. Would they be OK with you hanging out with this boy as friends, supervised? Maybe invite him to study at your house and then have dinner with you and your parents. If they get to know him then they might be more likely to let you guys date.

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