Do you think your looks matter less when you get oilder?
I have a friend who feels that they matter much less when you are 40 and over. I think there are many considerations such as one's marital status, type of employment, quality of friendships and one's sense of self being solid that come into play when answering this question.
What do you all think?
What do you all think?
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This. But I still wanna look good/sexy.:p
I think that my looks still matter to me as much, but are somehow....less central to my life, if that makes sense. When I want to emphasize my appearance, it's nice to feel I still can, but when I don't care, it's nice to be old enough to lose myself in what I'm doing, regardless of looks.
Men's looks matter less to me, though. Contrary to popular opinion, I think they lose it more than we do.
I'm also fairly accepting of the fact that I'm not gonna look like I did when I was younger. But I may look a little more polished. I was kind of a mess back then!
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Looks don't really matter less but I've learned to enhance what I have instead of tryin' to fake or regret what I don't.
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i do care how i look, but i don't care how others perceive me. i wear what i wear out of financial restrictions, and i feel okay about it. i think of it as being 'retro.' so, i want to look nice but i don't care about other's opinions. and that is very freeing.
i think no matter how old we are we want to look as best as we can without going crazy -- it's part of our dignity. ever either be sick yourself or talk with someone who is and the complaint often comes up about how bad they look? if we think we look nice, then we can forget about our looks and do what we need to do and do it better.
point being, we like to look nice no matter how old we are. it just takes a different perspective.
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I agree with these posts. Though looks do not carry the same type of importance, they are still important. Part of aging gracefully is learning to accept what you have, highlight the good points, and I do feel that I don't want to look like I am "trying too hard", if that makes any sense. There is definitely a natural sexiness that comes from a confident older woman. Embracing my grey hair and not caring about my crows feet is my way of exuding that type of confidence.
As far as fitness goes, I do want to maintain my figure as best I can. Vanity doesn't have much to do with it these days. It's more about maintaining my health, vitality, energy, flexibility, etc. I want to be able to be an active grandparent when the time comes and also to stave off all the aches and pains from aging and letting onesself go. I figure if I can make it to 50 still wearing the same size jeans as I do today, I'll be doing well.
I agree to the bolded here. :glasses1:
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and i say that because many, MANY men my age all think that they're such hot stuff that they *deserve* beautiful YOUNGER women.
being fat like me... i don't stand a chance.
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So I answer YES.:thumbup:
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I'm single, so I'm probably more diligent about staying slim than a married person, but that's just a theory. If my butt is tight and in good shape, it helps my confidence tremendously.
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However, back in my 20s and 30s, it was more about straightening the hair and putting on lots of makeup. (Hey, I was taking cues from the glam rockers of the 80s!)
Now, though, it's not about the eyeliner, but about being true to myself. I try to keep the natural curls and (still acne-prone) skin looking healthy, and I'm confident enough to say, "This is me, like it or not." If not, well movin' on... :lurk:
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i love that your 105 yr old gg aunt has a 72 yr old bf!!!! with all the competition out there, worse as we get older, wow!!! :toothy4: good for her!!
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what she said
"If you judge people,you have no time to love them"
-Mother Theresa
I'm comfortable in my own skin and am not obsessed with my looks, but I still wash my hair and put on lotions and wear makeup and nail polish every day. It makes me feel good.
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Right now I'm findin a renewed focus on my appearance and health. The hair thing is part of that. Plus for the first time ever I was told I had high triglycerides and low good cholesterol so that's kind of a wake up call.
I have a son with special needs (lots) and the last 10 years was more about him honestly---I feel like my 30's just whizzed by due to all his issues. I didn't focus on myself at all--so I'm kind of making up for it now but *for me* and no one else. That feels darn good!
I think the general thread from many of the posts here is that they want to look good for themselves--less about others and more about finding your own sense of self and getting that confidence. I notice at my work that most of us in our 40's and 50's carry ourselves much more confidently and assuredly--we seem to have greater comfort with ourselves and sense of purpose...as opposed to the under 30's where it is mostly about how they appear to others..with some exceptions. I think that's just the nature of that age though
Great topic!
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I've been married for 18 years, and I still find myself envious of the women who have head-turning good looks. I wonder what it would be like to get attention just for being physically attractive. Maybe it's not all I think it is.
I do think I look pretty good for my age, particularly in that I have managed to stay thin. Being thin is extremely important to my self-image. I can control my weight; I can't control the fact that I don't have the features of a model.
fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
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Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC
But I'd say keeping one's weight down and posture good goes a long way towards looking great as one ages.
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