How Did Having Curly Hair Affected Your Life

For years Since I was Little I would Straight my Hair
All I saw on Tv is people Dislike Curly and Adversting to Straight your hair, At school people made fun of me because of my curly hair every girl had smooth straight hair I tryed everything to make my hair permently Straight but I couldnt I used to hate the way my hair looks
now im Starting to accept curls in my life and Be happy what i Have. Even though its so hard to take care of.


  • dernhelmdernhelm Posts: 84Registered Users
    :cheers: It's great that you're accepting your natural curls! It's who you are.

    I've always worn my hair curly my entire life. I've straightened my hair maybe 4 times, but it just didn't feel like me. Luckily I never had any negative comments about my hair, at least not to my face.
    :blob2: Hooray for curls!
    very fine/dense/high porosity
    No heat styling

  • wookiemousewookiemouse Posts: 295Registered Users
    I never, ever straightened mine. Never had a desire to! But I also didn't know until much later in life NOT to brush curly hair. My school years were pretty much one big afro. :) I don't remember being made fun of, but I did think that that was just the way my hair was and to accept it. Only later - when the Frizz Ease line came out - did I jump into the silicone pool and found out I had CURLS.

    3a/some b, med/high porosity, med texture

    My current HGs:
    Co-wash: Suave Naturals Coconut, VO5 Strawberries & Cream
    Conditioner: Deva OneC
    Leave-in: Shea M, Deva B'Leave In
    Cremes: CIAB, pink Boots
    Gels: BRHG

    CG since 2/07 and loving it!
  • PrettyMedusaPrettyMedusa Posts: 619Registered Users
    I never, ever straightened mine. Never had a desire to! But I also didn't know until much later in life NOT to brush curly hair. My school years were pretty much one big afro. :) I don't remember being made fun of, but I did think that that was just the way my hair was and to accept it. Only later - when the Frizz Ease line came out - did I jump into the silicone pool and found out I had CURLS.


    This. I had no idea how I could get the tangles out WITHOUT brushing, and I think there was this mistaken idea that I could make my hair lie "flat" if I brushed it, thus making it more "straight."

    Unlike you, I did have the desire to straighten my hair, only because I didn't really know what to do with it (luckily, I've never had a way with a blow dryer or flat iron). But I personally always found gorgeous, soft, boingy curls much more attractive than straight hair.

    Nobody really made fun of me either, but certain family members did make it hard. I remember my mother yanking my hair out with a brush every morning and my dad telling me that I should wear it tied back all the time because it was too unruly.

    I did fry my hair with a blow dryer almost every day for years, so by the time I was about 20, I had a ton of damage, split ends, brittle hair, etc. I still use a blow dryer with a diffuser, but I don't think I've had a split end in about six or seven years.

    Curls rock!
    Fine, porous 3a with some 3b...
    Co-wash: Suave Tropicals Coconut Conditioner (with shampoo bars 2x a month) Rinse-out: L'oreal Vive Pro Nutri Gloss Leave-in: Lustrasilk Styling: CK, Pink Boots, KCCC, AOMM, HESMU, BRHG, CJ Aloe Fix Gel Post-Styling: Apply product to wet hair, scrunch out water with Curls Like Us, diffuse for 5-7 minutes Treatments: Vatika coconut oil, Kama Brahmi oil
  • *Angela**Angela* Posts: 251Registered Users
    When I first read this question I thought to myself that having curly hair didn't have that much of an effect on my life. But then I started thinking back...

    I remember being about 9 or 10 and wanting hair like Marcia Brady. I would wear a long sleeve turtle-neck top on my head and pretend it was my hair. This was about the same time I talked my mom into getting a home straightener kit...which she attempted to apply but I still ended up with the same frizzy hair that she didn't have any idea what to do with. I also remember being teased by boys in elementary school...the one that stands out was when they would rub my hair and say my b*lls itch. Hilarious right?!?

    It wasn't until after I graduated high school that I found mousse and my hair life changed. I had curls. And they were defined and no longer frizzy and I started liking my hair.

    I did relaxing my hair in my early thirties (and even then I didn't lose my curl) but I didn't like the upkeep. I find that I am really low maintenance and like to keep things simple. Now I'm more concerned with the health of my hair. Of course I like it to look good too.

    I like that when people describe me to others they refer to me as the girl with curly hair. It's part of who I am and I love my curls now...most of the time ;-).
    3b. Normal porosity. Medium texture. Low elasticity.

    CONDITIONERS: GVP The Detangler, Tresemme Naturals Nourishing, CJ Curl Rehab, CJ Hibiscus & Banana Honey Butta, Suave Pomegranate Splash, KC Knot Today

    LEAVE-IN: Shea Moisture Shea Butter (LOVE!)

    STYLERS: CJ Curl Queen (LOVE!), Biotera Gel, LA Looks Sports Gel, AOMM
  • diggitydiggity Posts: 58Registered Users
    I still struggle with acceptance of my natural hair texture. It's not as bad now because I feel a lot more confident, in general. I go out with my hair curly, good and bad days. And I also straighten sometimes. But for many years, I felt like my hair was hideous and that I had no chance in being accepted or considered attractive because of it. Part of the problem is that I didn't know how to take care of my curly hair. Brushing, harsh sulfates, etc.

    And people were definitely cruel. I remember one of my close friends telling me that my hair felt and looked like a Brillo pad. Another friend's brother said I would be really cute if not for my "bad hair." I remember going to a concert once, and it was very hot and humid inside. My hair had been behaving, but it frizzed out like crazy in the humidity. All of my friends were laughing and saying, "What happened to your hair?" When you're already insecure about something, those words can really hurt.

    I'll also admit, having curly hair affected my life in some obvious ways. I didn't go swimming with friends too often because I didn't want them to see my hair after it gets wet and dries to a mass of frizz. I skipped out on trips to the lake or fun outdoor activities in the summer when it was really humid because I didn't want to be embarrassed by my temperamental hair. I think that's the saddest part of all - that I didn't feel free to just have fun and do what a kid or young person should do because I was afraid of how my hair would react.

    The last year of high school, I discovered flat irons. I wore my hair straight from then on all throughout college. Then I tried going CG for more than a full year after college, and I did everything right.. but it just didn't work for me. My hair is very fine in texture and a lot of products and routines that are designed for curlies don't work for me. So now I'm back to a routine that uses some cones but largely focuses on gentle cleansing and lots of deep conditioning. So far, so good.
    3Aish hair, thin and fine-to-medium in texture, couple inches past shoulder length
    Wash/Condition: Jessicurl GLS, Aloeba, Too Shea
    Curly: GVP The Cream (love this)
    Straight: Ojon Tunu on wet hair, Aveda Smoothing Fluid and Style Prep Smoother before flat ironing or blow drying
  • StruttsWifeStruttsWife Posts: 819Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    It surprises a lot of people to find out I straightened my hair for 18 years...until I moved to Florida in 1997. And even then, I didn't stop because I wanted to...I stopped because I had to. Trying to straighten your hair down here, especially in the summertime, can be like trying to herd pigs.

    It took a few years, but I learned to love and embrace my curly hair. And now my passion in life is teaching others to love and embrace theirs :)
    - Tiffany
    Hair Stylist and Curly Hair Specialist - St. Petersburg, FL (Tampa Bay)

    Blog: Live Curly, Live Free
    Facebook fan page: Live Curly Live Free

    Sulfate- and non-water soluble silicone-free since 04/22/2002
    3B, brunette: medium texture, low porosity, high density

  • sexyjacksparrowsexyjacksparrow Posts: 439Registered Users
    I'd agree with the brushing thing. I thought my hair was wavy and big rather than curly when I was a teenager as I would brush it (and hence mostly wear it up as I didn't like the bushiness). I always thought I had really thick hair as there was so much volume. Turns out I don't!

    It has only been the past two years I have really stopped trying to detangle whilst my hair is dry
    get frustrated and basically rip through my hair with a brush

    I now detangle in the shower with conditioner and running water - my hair condition is so much better.
    [FONT=&quot]UK curly - mostly 2c[/FONT]
    • [FONT=&quot]Going back to basics![/FONT]
    • [FONT=&quot]Happily using a mixture of sulphates, cones and CG products.
    • [FONT=&quot]Permanently undecided whether to cut or grow![/FONT]
    [FONT=&quot]Currently loving:[/FONT]
    [FONT=&quot]Lush I Love Juicy shampoo
    Charles Worthington frizz smoothing conditioner[/FONT]

    [FONT=&quot]Superdrug coconut & almond intensive conditioner[/FONT]
    [FONT=&quot]Montagne Jeunesse avocado & cherry bark mask[/FONT]
    [FONT=&quot]Umberto Giannini curl gel
    Boots 'pink' curl creme
  • vähän kiharavähän kihara Posts: 16Registered Users
    It affected my life in that I have worn a ponytail almost always for years and years. If I straightened it, it would not stay straight, and I just didn't know what to do with my hair. I am still trying to figure it out.
    Don't worry, it only feels kinky the first time....

    2, Fiii
    low porosity

    Modified cg: Freeman
    Papaya & Lime Overboard Shine conditioner and Urtekram rose low poo.

    For styling, Garnier Endurance Invisible Gel, it has a water soluble cone in it.