Itching to relaxed.... CURED!

ninadefninadef Posts: 243Registered Users
I'm 8 mo post and it's going alright but I am so sick of seeing my ponytail in the mirror!
My mind has entertained the thought of getting a texturizer again......

BUT a couple of days ago I went with my sister to the hair salon for her touch up.
Her dotter is 3 weeks old so she needed me to take care of her.

My hair acted up in the morning of course and was reluctantly stuffed into it's usual ponytail holder.

We walk into the salon and the chemicals are flying all over the place.

Heads were silky, swinging, flowing, tossing.... you know the drill.

But then I looked a little closer.
I have to say that to each her own, I judge not she who relaxes but this salon (one of two in my city) isn't the most skilled at handling these damaging chemicals.
Lye was being pulled through all types of heads, beautiful Ethiopian hair to sad broken off bi-racial hair.

As one customer was paying her bill I caught a glimpse of her and me in the mirror.
Her hair was bone straight, bsl and she was happy.
My hair was stuck in its ponytail, coils struggling to breakthrough the semi-smooth top, hairline beginning to frizz upp because of the heatwave.

BUT my hair was SHINEY, very dk brown and vibrant.
While hers, although relaxed, siliconed and flatironed, was dull reddish/brown, strands that looked like they were screaming in pain, small broken-off pieces sticking straight up here and there....

So I was cured.
While I would love to have managable hair, a shake n go sort of thing, I'd much rather have healthy hair.
I am too happy right now!:love1:

Sorry for the long post!


  • Stephanie198907Stephanie198907 Posts: 2,607Registered Users
    Glad your not itching to relax anymore and I love how you spelled daughter(dotter). It took me two times to realize what it was suppose to say and I think its cute for some reason.:toothy4:
    When I first starting transitioning I had the relaxer itch for the longest. I would always say imagine how long your hair would be if you would just relax already!!!! Then I realized I would look like everyone else and the smell of chemicals snapped me out of that pretty quick. Glad you decided to stick with us naturals:thumbleft:
    Last Relaxer: Nov. 07
    BC: May. 2010 (30 months)
    Hair Type: thick 4b/4a
    Current length: back at APL
    Goal length: hip :color:
    Staples: natural growth aides
  • OnyxCabeloOnyxCabelo Posts: 1,767Registered Users
    I'm glad you decided against the relaxer - if you hadn't I was going to tell you to take a look at my story.

    I'm not completely against relaxers and texturizers, if others want tp wear them - fine - shoot, I used to wear a texturizer myself. But since I had this mishap, I'm always very cautious, and I tell others to really think about it, before going back to them. Especially you, since you've been transitioning for 8 months - you've come so far!

    Natural hair does show it's shine and health better than hair that has been altered. YOur hair, I'm sure shows it's own natural health and shine, whereas those who are flatirons and permed, have to rely on cones and glosses to imitate that natural shine.
    Currently:Alaffia Shea & Coconut Enriching Shampoo, Alaffia Virgin Coconut & Shea Enriching Hair Lotion, Qhemet Amla Olive Heavy Cream, Qhemet Honeybush Tea Gel.

    Last Texturizer: March 12, 2008
    BC: July 21, 2008
    Hair: Coarse, low porosity, iii.

    Certified Denirophile:love5:

    "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting a different outcome". ~ Albert Einstein
  • blessedhimeblessedhime Posts: 1,458Registered Users
    I'm happy that you've stuck with naturals. Natural hair is so gorgeous. Wearing your natural texture is empowering :occasion5:.
    Blessed Princess Diamante, High Archivist of the Thrifty Trinitarians in the Order of the Curly Crusaders

    Last Relaxer: July 31st, 2008
    BC: 14th August, 2009
    Favourite Product Line: None at the moment
    HGs: Amla, brahmi, maka, neem, hibiscus and fenugreek powders.

  • lit26lit26 Posts: 131Registered Users
    I flatironed my hair today and it has never looked this silky! almost looks like i am mixed with egyptian and black! lol! i love it!
    last perm 11/8
    Bc'd 4-9-9 :sunny:

    A product to make tranistioning EASIER!:cheers:
    Scissors. Think of it like this, your mixing dirty clothes with clean clothes, you can use all the perfum you want (hair product) but the dirty clothes (permed hair) will never be clean, will eventually get old, raggedy, and eventually start shredding/breaking(natural&permed hair). Don't waste your time. Transitioning for most is a :boxing: fight that relaxed hair will win!