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Letting hair go grey

jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,241Registered Users Curl Dabbler
I just posted on a grey hair thread on the general board and thought maybe some of the over 40 fogies would like to read this topic.


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--I'm located in Western PA.
--I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, started going grey in late 2005.
--My hair is 3B with some 3A, texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
--My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
--My CG and grey hair progress -- http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html
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  • MarMar Posts: 3,003Registered Users
    Your hair looks cool.
    If mine was growing out "better" I would do it.
    I think I'll wait a little longer.
    My mom was dark salt and pepper gray at my age,but then it went pure white/silver.
    She is 81 and gets compliments all the time!
    "what's so funny 'bout peace, love and understanding?"



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  • MaudieMaudie Posts: 508Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I gotta hand it to you, Jeep! You're almost there! :D (As you know, I caved in and colored, but I will eventually join you again. :lol: )
    Maudie


    CO wash-Vo5 Kiwi Lime
    Regular CO-Tresemme Naturals Silicone Free
    Deep CO-Aussie 3 Minute Miracle

    Shampoo-Jhirmack Silver Plus Ageless once a week
    Cream-Garnier Fructis Sleek $ Shine Leave-In Conditioning
    Gels-LA Looks Sport

    Going silver-last hair color 4/10/15
  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,241Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    I'll tell ya, girls, it ain't easy. In some light it looks nicely blended and sparkly. In other light it looks like I have skunk in my family tree. And, yes, the texture is different. Some hairs stick straight out of my head like antenna. I make it all sound soooo attractive, huh? But I'm starting to like it.
    --I'm located in Western PA.
    --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, started going grey in late 2005.
    --My hair is 3B with some 3A, texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
    --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
    --My CG and grey hair progress -- http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html
  • MaudieMaudie Posts: 508Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I'll tell ya, girls, it ain't easy. In some light it looks nicely blended and sparkly. In other light it looks like I have skunk in my family tree. And, yes, the texture is different. Some hairs stick straight out of my head like antenna. I make it all sound soooo attractive, huh? But I'm starting to like it.

    No, it ain't easy. Mine looks like a Cruella De Ville imitation, only with the white in the center, not half and half. I have to admit; it's an acquired taste. :)
    Maudie


    CO wash-Vo5 Kiwi Lime
    Regular CO-Tresemme Naturals Silicone Free
    Deep CO-Aussie 3 Minute Miracle

    Shampoo-Jhirmack Silver Plus Ageless once a week
    Cream-Garnier Fructis Sleek $ Shine Leave-In Conditioning
    Gels-LA Looks Sport

    Going silver-last hair color 4/10/15
  • SunderellaSunderella Posts: 89Registered Users
    Last November I colored because of a little comment my son made, and now wish I would have left well enough alone, I have not recolored since then and getting frequent trims to get the crud outa my hair. I will never recolor again I was really liking the color and texture of my hair.
    2c/3a Fine Blonde/Silver
  • journotravelerjournotraveler Posts: 2,816Registered Users
    i found my first gray hair at 22; premature gray runs in the family. i colored it once when it was super short--a semi-permanent rinse. i couldn't wait for it to wash out. i, too, hated the texture.

    most days i embrace the gray. i'm a dark salt and pepper, still mostly black hair but with lots of silver threaded through and a tiny white streak in the front. i'm 44; i'm often told that i look much younger. an older friend--64--told me recently that i should dye my hair because "your husband would never tell you, but he'd love to have a wife that looks younger." my husband tells me that he truly does not care either way.

    i don't dye because a. i'm lazy; b. i hate the idea of running to cover up my white roots for fear of outing myself; and c. i love silver hair on other people.
    3B corkscrews with scatterings of 3A & 3C.
  • lazy loopslazy loops Posts: 8,792Registered Users
    I don't have gray hair, per se, it's more like white wiry strands.

    I leave them alone since they kind of add highlights to my strawberry blonde-ish hair.

    Now if I had my choice, I'd go for the Bonnie Raitt stripe look she sported in the 80s-90s (I don't know what her hair looks like now)! 8)
  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,241Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    Love her and her hair. Here's a pic from February of this year. Still lookin' great.

    raitt_bow.jpg
    --I'm located in Western PA.
    --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, started going grey in late 2005.
    --My hair is 3B with some 3A, texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
    --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
    --My CG and grey hair progress -- http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html
  • snaphunksnaphunk Posts: 82Registered Users
    I tell you ladies, I have just a little gray, and haven't dyed my hair for almost a year and a half. My hubby thinks it looks "cute". I am very torn whether to get on the dye bandwagon again. Every time I decide that is IT I am ordering some RC today, someone revives one of the gray threads, and I decide to wait. Must be a sign from the "curly gods" :wink:
  • lazy loopslazy loops Posts: 8,792Registered Users
    Love her and her hair. Here's a pic from February of this year. Still lookin' great.

    raitt_bow.jpg

    Oh yeah! :D
  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    I'm probably at least half gray. I started going gray at 19, so I've been coloring my hair for 22 years. I'm not ready to go gray!

    It doesn't help that my idiot "friend" tells me I look like skunk if I get even the teensiest bit of roots. :roll:
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  • MaudieMaudie Posts: 508Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Before I colored again, I had been comparing "going gray" notes with this lady that worked at a store where I shop. Yesterday, I saw her again and she was silver and white. She hadn't seen me since I colored and said, "YOU DID IT!!!" I actually cringed. :lol:
    Maudie


    CO wash-Vo5 Kiwi Lime
    Regular CO-Tresemme Naturals Silicone Free
    Deep CO-Aussie 3 Minute Miracle

    Shampoo-Jhirmack Silver Plus Ageless once a week
    Cream-Garnier Fructis Sleek $ Shine Leave-In Conditioning
    Gels-LA Looks Sport

    Going silver-last hair color 4/10/15
  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    I'm considering trying to grow it out again. It's such a pain in the ass though. It wouldn't be so bad if the contrast between the hair colors wasn't so damned huge. Blondes definitely have it easier when it comes to growing out the gray. My roots are instantly noticeable, and of course most of the gray is right at the part in my hair, so there's no hiding...except for coloring it.

    Ugh. I'm at the point where I really should color the roots every 4 weeks, but damn it that's expensive and time consuming.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    Sigh...I don't know WTF to do with my gray hair.

    I'm 44, and have a young looking face. I've been coloring my hair for probably 18-20 years. I have some very large sections of gray...mostly at my temples, and a big fat splotch of white right in the middle of my head, right in my part area. It's difficult to color. The gray is so resistant. My natural color is dark brown. I like it dyed dark auburn and I used commercial boxes of dye for years. Unfortunately, the stubborn gray wouldn't cover with the boxes anymore unless I use a higher volume peroxide, like 30 or 40%. That damaged my hair pretty severely. So, a year or so ago, I switched to RC color. That covered the gray, but because it has no "lift", it also darkened the rest of my hair to almost black. So, early this year, I switched to henna. The henna itself won't dye my gray enough to cover it, so I have to add indigo. Again, because there is no lift, my non-gray hair is getting way too dark. Plus, it grows so fast that the grays show up again within a week of dying it. I cannot be dying my hair every week. It's too expensive and time consuming. I'm FED up. I wish I could just let it go gray, but because I'm so dark, the contrast with the white hair is just so ugly on me, and the process of growing it all out will take me over a year. I don't know if I'm strong enough to look at tri-colored hair for that long without giving up and dying again. My husband is no help. He tells me I look "fine" no matter what I do.

    It sucks getting old.
  • MaudieMaudie Posts: 508Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I know what you're saying. After I colored my hair again, one of my sons told me that when I was gray "my hair didn't match my face". I guess that's a compliment. :wink: I think my husband is fine with coloring or not coloring. Eventually, I will let it go silver once more. I would hate to cut it short, though, so I will just endure it when the time comes (again :roll: ).
    Maudie


    CO wash-Vo5 Kiwi Lime
    Regular CO-Tresemme Naturals Silicone Free
    Deep CO-Aussie 3 Minute Miracle

    Shampoo-Jhirmack Silver Plus Ageless once a week
    Cream-Garnier Fructis Sleek $ Shine Leave-In Conditioning
    Gels-LA Looks Sport

    Going silver-last hair color 4/10/15
  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,241Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    I'm pretty much done with the growing-out transition. It's my one year anniversary since I stopped coloring my hair. I've kept it trimmed up to chin/shoulder length and the grey is just about at the ends now.

    I have dark hair and yep, the lightness of the grey really bugged me. But I've gotten used to it and don't even notice anymore. Most of my grey is at the top and front. The back and underneath is still dark (for now!). The one great thing about the greys is the sparkle it has in the sun. My hair has never been shiny so it's a nice treat for me (hey, I have to find something good about looking like an old granny!)

    No more coloring, no more roots, no more skunk stripe. Freedom at last.
    --I'm located in Western PA.
    --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, started going grey in late 2005.
    --My hair is 3B with some 3A, texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
    --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
    --My CG and grey hair progress -- http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html
  • SuZenSuZen Posts: 1,595Registered Users
    For those growing out dark hair, would it be possible to have a salon give you gray highlights, to blend everything in while it's growing out?
  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,241Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    I tried that. I visited local salons and they looked at me like I was sprouting extra heads. I phoned salons within a 100 mile radius and they thought I was joking. They were happy to color it pink or green or pitch black, but grey was like some horrible foreign thing to them. I'm not saying this would be the case everywhere, but it was here. The only place that seems to be 'into' grey hair is Asia and that wasn't in the budget!
    I thought about doing it at home, but it's just too damaging to get dark hair bleached comletely and then colored grey. So I just toughed it out. It really wasn't that horrible. When I was having a particularly skunk-like day, I just dabbed on some Fanciful wash-out color and it was fine.
    Also, I cut my hair and kept it at chin/shoulder length. It would take a lot longer to grow out (and looks worse to me) if one has really long hair and keeps it long for the whole transition.
    --I'm located in Western PA.
    --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, started going grey in late 2005.
    --My hair is 3B with some 3A, texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
    --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
    --My CG and grey hair progress -- http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    When I was having a particularly skunk-like day, I just dabbed on some Fanciful wash-out color and it was fine.


    That's an interesting idea. I might consider using a wash-out dye around my temples for the first few months to get through the hard part. The part-area I can hide fairly well by doing a half-up hairdo...which I wear most the time anyway.

    I'm still thinking about it.
  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    Oh, I totally use mascara on the roots. Seriously. I start getting roots at about the 3 week mark, more or less, so I use mascara to cover them 'til I feel like going to the salon.

    This time, though? I may just let it rip, see what happens.

    I now wish I'd been like my cousin - we both started going gray at 19. I opted to color; she didn't. Now she has a headful of long curly salt and pepper hair (at 37 years old) and looks fabulous. And then there's me, still fighting the skunk stripe, still stressing over the roots. Bleh.
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  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,241Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    I'm not sure what we all have against skunks anyway. Look how cute they are! :)

    skunk.jpg
    --I'm located in Western PA.
    --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, started going grey in late 2005.
    --My hair is 3B with some 3A, texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
    --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
    --My CG and grey hair progress -- http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html
  • SuZenSuZen Posts: 1,595Registered Users
    Of course it would be you with the skunk pic, jeepcurlygirl!

    They are cute. From a safe distance.
  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    I really never worried about it until my "friend" Gina started constantly giving me a tough time the very second one gray hair showed up. :roll:
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    Rock on with your bad self.

    *~*~*~*~*~*~*~*

    Be excellent to each other. ~ Abraham Lincoln

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  • MaudieMaudie Posts: 508Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Mine always looks more like someone cracked a silver egg over my head. :roll: Btw, they do sell a sort of crayon at Sally's that you can temporarily cover your roots with.
    Maudie


    CO wash-Vo5 Kiwi Lime
    Regular CO-Tresemme Naturals Silicone Free
    Deep CO-Aussie 3 Minute Miracle

    Shampoo-Jhirmack Silver Plus Ageless once a week
    Cream-Garnier Fructis Sleek $ Shine Leave-In Conditioning
    Gels-LA Looks Sport

    Going silver-last hair color 4/10/15
  • CelticCurlsCelticCurls Posts: 558Registered Users
    I used to like my gray "Elvira streak" -- when it was 1/4 inch wide. I used to get compliments on it, & had it since I was about 35. But after the kidney adventure when I turned 40 this year, it seemed to really accelerate it. I started getting more gray hairs along my hairline, & the streak widened to 1/2 inch. Instead a neat contrasting streak, it now just looks splotchy & uneven.

    So I colored it. My 32 yr old BF kind of liked it -- how perverse is that? :) I used the semi-permanent that fades out gradually, & color lasts forever in my hair, so after 2 months, I tried that new root touch up color kit from, I think it's Clairol. You brush it on & rinse after 10 min. Perfectly blended the roots & was gentle. I don't have to do overall color more than every 4 mos or so.

    On another note, did anyone see the cover of More mag, w/ Jamie Lee Curtis? She's letting her hair go gray, looks great. And there's a whole spread of 40+ women, including several gorgeous curlies - going gray naturally. There's a 3A with gorgeous bright silvery curls. Now if mine looked that that, I'd be pleased. Maybe in another 5 years
    3B, bra-strap length
    laidback, very-modified CGer
    HG: GF Sleek 'n Shine Leave-in; Alagio
  • making wavesmaking waves Posts: 9Registered Users
    I'm 38. I started getting grey hair at 16. I guess I started dying my hair when I was in my late 20's. It seemed like I always had roots showing and I hated the mess and the smell. So I've been letting my hair grow for the past year. Right now I have about 3 inches of grey hair and the rest is brown down to the middle of my back. When the grey hair gets long enough, I will cut off the brown and donate it to locks of love. I have a brown streak in the middle of my forhead instead of a grey streak so I want to play that up when I get the haircut.
    ttfn,
    making waves
  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,241Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    making waves,
    We'd all love to see some pics of your hair!
    --I'm located in Western PA.
    --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, started going grey in late 2005.
    --My hair is 3B with some 3A, texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
    --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
    --My CG and grey hair progress -- http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html
  • making wavesmaking waves Posts: 9Registered Users
    Hi JeepCurlyGurl,
    I don't have a digital camera but I'll see if I can find some pictures that scan ok or get a friend to take some. Then I'll try to figure out how to post them. I really don't know how to do much more with a computer than send e-mail.
    ttfn,
    making waves
  • donnafinadonnafina Posts: 43Registered Users
    Jeep, your photos are wonderful, and your hair is growing out nicely! gives me something to look forward to- getting back to longer hair!

    I couldn't bear the multicolor-looks like it needs a color in a bad way- hair, so I cut it really short. I put some photos on fotiki- through the years- just have the one bad one of my avatar with it all grey. More salt and pepper
    2b-3c depending on the weather, conditioner, length, etc.
    Going grey since April, 2006. No cutting since May / June, 2006.
  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,241Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    donnafina
    Thanks! I'm getting used to the grey and it's so nice not to have to think about coloring anymore.
    Your long hair is beautiful but I certainly love that short perky cut!
    --I'm located in Western PA.
    --I found NC in late 2004, CG since February 2005, started going grey in late 2005.
    --My hair is 3B with some 3A, texture-medium/fine, porosity-normal except for the ends which are porous, elasticity-normal.
    --My long time favorite products are Suave & VO5 conditioners, LA Looks Sport Gel, oils, honey, vinegar.
    --My CG and grey hair progress -- http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/going-gray/179328-jeepys-grey-hair-progress.html
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