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Transitioners support thread

mariag002mariag002 Posts: 3,557Registered Users
:D Hello ladies,

I am hoping that the moderators will turn this into a sticky so everyone can have one place to post questions instead of having it go into CN space unanswered. I successfully transitioned from relaxed to natural in 06-07 and if it wasn't for the help of this thread I know I wouldn't have been able to do it.

I am hoping to follow the same format as the transitioners thread over at LHCF (click here to see)

I'm also hoping others will chime in with blogs, youtube videos, products, etc that will help you on your journey.

RULES TO SUCCESSFUL TRANSITIONING:
  • There is no wrong or right way to transition!
  • The line of demarcation where the relaxed hair ends and the new growth starts is very delicate. Please treat your hair like silk until you are ready to do the BC (big chop)
  • Co-wash your hair at least once a week to add moisture to your hair. If you are not ready to co-wash, then wash with diluted shampoo.
  • BC when you are ready. Don't cut your hair until you are ready.
  • Deep condition at least once a week
  • Be very careful with heat. You could potentially damage your healthy new growth by flatironing your hair too often.
  • Naturally curly hair is unique and varies from person to person. Sometimes the hairtype looks completely different once you cut your hair. Don't be discouraged. This is the hair God gave you so therefore it is beautiful! Concentrate on your hair, not your neighbors.
  • Join Fotki and start taking monthly pictures. This will help you see your progress. It will especially help on those days that you think your hair is not growing.
  • Write a journal or blog! It will help you keep things in perspective. Before you reach for that relaxer or BKT try to remember why you wanted to transition in the first place.
Other ladies please chime in and add to this list!


Haircare Basics

List of acronyms we use on this site. Trust me we have many!
Hair types - PLEASE NOTE that you won't know your hair type until your relaxed hair or other chemical is completely cut
Henna support thread
Amla Powder information

Transitioning Hairstyles
My rollersetting video - Part I and Part II
Long Hair Styles Gallery - Can be used for protective styles
Natural Hair Styles - twist outs, bantu knots, braid outs, etc...

Youtube is a great resource for finding transitioning hairstyles. You can also visit Fotki and see many inspiring pictures. We women of color mostly hang out in the 4a thread, come and join us!

Natural/Homemade Recipes for your hair
Natural Recipe website
Motown Girl's recipes


Naturals: worst mistakes you ever made as a natural: /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Flonghaircareforum.com%2Fforums%2F...d.php%3Ft%3D223081" class="Popup

Best Pics of Natural Hair/Heads: A thread of encouragement: /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.longhaircareforum.com%2Ffor...d.php%3Ft%3D168146" class="Popup

Hair Blogs
o /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fclutchmagonline.com%2F" class="Popup
o /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.urbancurlz.com%2F" class="Popup
o /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fthenaturalhaven.blogspot.com" class="Popup
o /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fkeepitsimplesista.blogspot.com" class="Popup
o /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.textureplayground.com%2Fblog%2F" class="Popup
o /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fnewlynatural.com%2Fblog%2F" class="Popup
o /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.curlynikki.com" class="Popup
o /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.afrobella.com" class="Popup
o /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.honeybrownsugar.com%2F" class="Popup
o /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.motowngirl.com" class="Popup

Transitioning Stories
Our very own Curly Nikki has dedicated much of her blog in helping others transition to natural. Click here to read many transitioning stories from people that have successfully gone from relaxed to natural.
- Maria

Big Chop: 9/23/07
Relaxer free for almost 5 years!

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Comments

  • Nichole23Nichole23 Posts: 57Registered Users
    Great thread! I'm transitioning and my last relaxer was April 2008. So I'm about 14 months post now, my goal is 24 months. I hope I can make it that long! I have been relaxed most of my life so I'm not even sure what my hair will look like when I chop, I guess thats what scares me the most. But I'm determined and I'll love it no matter what. :love5:
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    Natural | BC: Sept 4th, 2009 | Curl Type: 3c
    Fine | Low Porosity
  • journeygirljourneygirl Posts: 33Registered Users
    Thank you so much for starting this thread and for providing links to so much good information! I am about two months into my transition and can use all the help I can get! I've been toying with the fotki idea...this past weekend I tried my first TnC (to help blend the two hair textures) and took pictures just in case I decide to start that fotki account!
  • NamunNamun Posts: 113Registered Users
    Maria, you are a God-send. Thank you for this thread. :icon_smile:
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    “If you are planning for a year, sow rice; if you are planning for a decade, plant trees; if you are planning for a lifetime, educate people”
    Chinese Proverbs quote
  • GermanCurlyGermanCurly Posts: 123Registered Users
    Thank you! This is great!!!:love3:
    mother-tongue: German:tongue3: - sorry for the mistakes I'll make!!!
    3c/4a
    Last relaxer: August 14, 2008
    BC: July 11, 2009
    Fotki - PM for PW or leave a message in my guestbook
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]


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  • mariag002mariag002 Posts: 3,557Registered Users
    Thank you ladies!

    I tried miserably for YEARS to transition only to fail every time. If it weren't for this forum I would still be relaxing my hair. I want to make it a sticky where people can at least post their thoughts, questions, concerns, cheer others on, etc.... I'm sure the other ladies that have successfully transitioned will chime in as well. My hair will be 2 years natural in Sept. :toothy10:
    - Maria

    Big Chop: 9/23/07
    Relaxer free for almost 5 years!

  • garnergarner Posts: 82Registered Users
    Thank you, Maria for starting this thread. I have been transitioning for 45 wks and I am constantly learning about my hair. :study: When I am DCing I am usually entertaining myself by looking at Fokti's and you tube videos regarding natural or transitioning hair. I do not know when I will BC, however my plan is to continue transitioning as long as I can. I am very thankful for the support all of us receive here.:thumright:
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  • mariag002mariag002 Posts: 3,557Registered Users
    garner wrote: »
    Thank you, Maria for starting this thread. I have been transitioning for 45 wks and I am constantly learning about my hair. :study: When I am DCing I am usually entertaining myself by looking at Fokti's and you tube videos regarding natural or transitioning hair. I do not know when I will BC, however my plan is to continue transitioning as long as I can. I am very thankful for the support all of us receive here.:thumright:

    When I was transitioning I was always looking at Fotki albums too. It helped me keep focused on my goal. I tell ya though, those 10 months DRAGGED but once the relaxed ends were gone it was just a whole other life. I had to learn to care for my natural hair. The last time I had seen my hair natural was 1981 so you can imagine how crazy that was LOL Its been fun though. I love this site. I hope I can help many people. :toothy10:
    - Maria

    Big Chop: 9/23/07
    Relaxer free for almost 5 years!

  • mymi7887mymi7887 Posts: 24Registered Users
    Nichole23 wrote: »
    Great thread! I'm transitioning and my last relaxer was April 2008. So I'm about 14 months post now, my goal is 24 months. I hope I can make it that long! I have been relaxed most of my life so I'm not even sure what my hair will look like when I chop, I guess thats what scares me the most. But I'm determined and I'll love it no matter what. :love5:

    Please tell me how you made it to 14 months? Lol I'm approaching 13 and boy oh boy I can't stop feeling on my new growth and thinking how pretty it is. I get tempted to BC but I know I have 'chipmunk -like' cheeks and short hair is a no-go.
  • Nichole23Nichole23 Posts: 57Registered Users
    I have really high/prominent check bones too and I think longer hair compliments me more which is why I have such a long transition. I've just been keeping my hair in a bun almost everyday and I deep condition often.
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    Natural | BC: Sept 4th, 2009 | Curl Type: 3c
    Fine | Low Porosity
  • desert flowerdesert flower Posts: 188Registered Users
    Thanks, Maria! After 10 months of transitioning I also couldn't take it anymore and did the BC this weekend! Seriously, Maria, after staring at your fotki, I made the appointment.

    She cut some of my natural hair in the back to give me a cute cut and while I almost cried when she was doing it, I love it now.

    As you pointed out, though, the transition is far from over. I am getting to know my hair again after a few years of doing the Japanese straightener and the last time I had hair this short, I was three years old!

    I am still really nervous about it! I had forgotten about frizz! Haha!

    I never in my life thought I could pull off short hair because my face is chubby but Yodit (from Salon Revive in DC) cut side swept bangs for me to balance the look. Again, I would have never thought of it but it works...or at least I think so! My husband has been very sweet about it and keeps telling me that he loves the cut because he can see my face...really, I think he loves that I am not spending hours in the bathroom!

    As soon as I get home, I will bravely post some pics.
  • Stephanie198907Stephanie198907 Posts: 2,607Registered Users
    Nichole23 wrote: »
    I have really high/prominent check bones too and I think longer hair compliments me more which is why I have such a long transition. I've just been keeping my hair in a bun almost everyday and I deep condition often.

    ITA with your entire post. I too have high cheek bones and long hair looks good on me. The shortest I can get away with is jawline/chin length and thats only if it has a heavy side bang otherwise it doesn't look right.
    I do a dt once a week and I bun 99.9% of the time.



    to Maria,

    the urbancurlz and curlynikki link are broken. I think you just need to add the http:// before each one so it goes to the website. Thanks for this thread!
    Last Relaxer: Nov. 07
    BC: May. 2010 (30 months)
    Hair Type: thick 4b/4a
    Current length: back at APL
    Goal length: hip :color:
    Staples: natural growth aides
  • E.B.E.B. Posts: 158Registered Users
    I like /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Flongnaturalhair.blogspot.com%2F" class="Popup, especially because she started transitioning a month before I did. She's transitioning out of texlaxed hair and I'm transitioning out a relaxer (bone straight).

    I really like /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fmembers.fotki.com%2FMarie1837%2Fabout%2F" class="Popup because she transitioned for more than 36 months, her hair looked beautiful the entire time, and now she has beautiful natural hair.
  • curliitommii curliitommii Posts: 139Registered Users
    E.B. wrote: »
    I really like /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fmembers.fotki.com%2FMarie1837%2Fabout%2F" class="Popup because she transitioned for more than 36 months, her hair looked beautiful the entire time, and now she has beautiful natural hair.


    i really want to see it but the album is locked :-(
  • E.B.E.B. Posts: 158Registered Users
    E.B. wrote: »
    I really like /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fmembers.fotki.com%2FMarie1837%2Fabout%2F" class="Popup because she transitioned for more than 36 months, her hair looked beautiful the entire time, and now she has beautiful natural hair.


    i really want to see it but the album is locked :-(
    Try going to her guestbook and leaving a message asking for the password. Most of the messages in her guestbook are people asking for the password.
  • Stephanie198907Stephanie198907 Posts: 2,607Registered Users
    Last Relaxer: Nov. 07
    BC: May. 2010 (30 months)
    Hair Type: thick 4b/4a
    Current length: back at APL
    Goal length: hip :color:
    Staples: natural growth aides
  • mariag002mariag002 Posts: 3,557Registered Users
    Whimsy of LHCF just did the BC after over 24 months of transitioning. Her hair is gawgeous! LOL

    Here is her blog link with pictures:

    /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Flongnaturalhair.blogspot.com%2F" class="Popup
    - Maria

    Big Chop: 9/23/07
    Relaxer free for almost 5 years!

  • NamunNamun Posts: 113Registered Users
    mariag002 wrote: »
    Whimsy of LHCF just did the BC after over 24 months of transitioning. Her hair is gawgeous! LOL

    Here is her blog link with pictures:

    /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Flongnaturalhair.blogspot.com%2F" class="Popup


    WOW, her hair looks great!
    I've been so impatient with my hair lately. I think this is the hardest part...waiting.

    This is month three since my last relaxer and I'm now able to pull it back into a small pony tail. I want to try different products, but I really won't know if they work until I have enough new growth or BC. Ugh :angry3:
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    “If you are planning for a year, sow rice; if you are planning for a decade, plant trees; if you are planning for a lifetime, educate people”
    Chinese Proverbs quote
  • curlycolacurlycola Posts: 11Registered Users
    I got my last relaxer just this past march. Instead of gradual transitioning I' m wondering if I should just BC now and begin to take care of my natural hair. Waiting is hard, and it's a hassle to take care of both types of hair. I don't know if I have the head shape for it though. T_T
  • NamunNamun Posts: 113Registered Users
    OMG!!! I can't stop touching my new growth! I've had my hands in my hair all evening. My hair is still over moisturized from my coconut milk mishap from Tues, and the curls feel so soft...I have different curl types all over.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    “If you are planning for a year, sow rice; if you are planning for a decade, plant trees; if you are planning for a lifetime, educate people”
    Chinese Proverbs quote
  • mariag002mariag002 Posts: 3,557Registered Users
    OMG!!! I can't stop touching my new growth! I've had my hands in my hair all evening. My hair is still over moisturized from my coconut milk mishap from Tues, and the curls feel so soft...I have different curl types all over.

    Oh man I remember those days. I used to love feeling the new growth. Now I like to twirl the entire hair and feel the curl at the tip. Its some serious afro in hair disease (aihd) LMAO I'm sure that's why my left side grows slower than the right.
    - Maria

    Big Chop: 9/23/07
    Relaxer free for almost 5 years!

  • mariag002mariag002 Posts: 3,557Registered Users
    Hello ladies!

    Our thread has been featured on CurlyNikki.com's blog! :thumbright: Here is the article:

    /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.curlynikki.com%2F2009%2F06%2Fresource-for-newbies-and-transitioners.html" class="Popup

    And here is a post from someone that I thought made a great valid point
    This is a great labor of love Maria. Thanks! Although, I believe there is a wrong way to transition if the necessary care is not put into the transition (hence: lack of proper moisturizing and deep conditioning, excess heat, etc.) I didn't know a lot of this stuff when I was transitioning. Actually, when I grew out my relaxed hair, I didn't even know the term 'transitioning' is what it was called when growing out the chemically altered hair to natural hair. i just knew I didn't want anymore relaxers. I grew my relaxed hair the wrong way because at the time I wasn't aware of the wealth of info out there that supported the process. Now I have healthy hair but suffered unnecessary breakage due to lack of knowledge on proper hair care. So I definitely believe there is a WRONG way. Thanks for the great resource for us that have been through it and still need help and those of us that are beginning.
    - Maria

    Big Chop: 9/23/07
    Relaxer free for almost 5 years!

  • NamunNamun Posts: 113Registered Users
    mariag002 wrote: »
    Hello ladies!

    Our thread has been featured on CurlyNikki.com's blog! :thumbright: Here is the article:

    /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.curlynikki.com%2F2009%2F06%2Fresource-for-newbies-and-transitioners.html" class="Popup

    And here is a post from someone that I thought made a great valid point
    This is a great labor of love Maria. Thanks! Although, I believe there is a wrong way to transition if the necessary care is not put into the transition (hence: lack of proper moisturizing and deep conditioning, excess heat, etc.) I didn't know a lot of this stuff when I was transitioning. Actually, when I grew out my relaxed hair, I didn't even know the term 'transitioning' is what it was called when growing out the chemically altered hair to natural hair. i just knew I didn't want anymore relaxers. I grew my relaxed hair the wrong way because at the time I wasn't aware of the wealth of info out there that supported the process. Now I have healthy hair but suffered unnecessary breakage due to lack of knowledge on proper hair care. So I definitely believe there is a WRONG way. Thanks for the great resource for us that have been through it and still need help and those of us that are beginning.

    Grats on your Curly Nikki feature! I read it this morning and your pictures are very nice. Your curls are awesome Maria. Thanks again for this thread.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    “If you are planning for a year, sow rice; if you are planning for a decade, plant trees; if you are planning for a lifetime, educate people”
    Chinese Proverbs quote
  • NamunNamun Posts: 113Registered Users
    Umm, since I have my hands in my hair all the time :rolleyes:, I've noticed that my new growth on the sides of my head is getting flat and wavy. I can barely feel the curls, while the back is curly with defined curls and firm texture. The last time I washed, I rollerset my hair. If I wash and go, my new growth curls up everywhere. I know different textures and curl patterns are normal, but it's kind of weird . . . anyone else experiencing this?
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    “If you are planning for a year, sow rice; if you are planning for a decade, plant trees; if you are planning for a lifetime, educate people”
    Chinese Proverbs quote
  • Black Hoya ChickBlack Hoya Chick Posts: 185Registered Users
    i realized today when i pulled my hair (even though i am not supposed to stretch it until the beginning of july lol) that I am APL...a little past even! woo!
    Kinky Curly Knot Today = :love5:
    Philippians 1:3

    Fotki: /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fmembers.fotki.com%2FNigerian-Princess%2Fabout%2F" class="Popup

    Current: Natural 3C/4A BSL; Long Term Goal: WL
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  • Stephanie198907Stephanie198907 Posts: 2,607Registered Users
    i realized today when i pulled my hair (even though i am not supposed to stretch it until the beginning of july lol) that I am APL...a little past even! woo!


    wow your hair grows fast! im officially jealous:afro:
    Last Relaxer: Nov. 07
    BC: May. 2010 (30 months)
    Hair Type: thick 4b/4a
    Current length: back at APL
    Goal length: hip :color:
    Staples: natural growth aides
  • Black Hoya ChickBlack Hoya Chick Posts: 185Registered Users
    i realized today when i pulled my hair (even though i am not supposed to stretch it until the beginning of july lol) that I am APL...a little past even! woo!


    wow your hair grows fast! im officially jealous:afro:

    lol funny, i am always complaining that it grow too slow. but i am on my grind! i want it to be full APL (or real close) by the end of the summer. ambitious i know lol
    Kinky Curly Knot Today = :love5:
    Philippians 1:3

    Fotki: /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fmembers.fotki.com%2FNigerian-Princess%2Fabout%2F" class="Popup

    Current: Natural 3C/4A BSL; Long Term Goal: WL
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  • NamunNamun Posts: 113Registered Users
    For some reason, I've been thinking about BCing. I even had a dream about it last night. Last time I dreamt about cutting off my hair, I did.

    Originally, I wanted to keep my length so I can put my hair up, but I don't know. I mean I've BCed before and yeah I missed my hair, but I also enjoyed having it short.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    “If you are planning for a year, sow rice; if you are planning for a decade, plant trees; if you are planning for a lifetime, educate people”
    Chinese Proverbs quote
  • azenonazenon Posts: 4Registered Users
    I am ne wto the whole transitioner thread and I need all the help i can get!! :)
  • BlkBeauty85BlkBeauty85 Posts: 11Registered Users
    I am 6 weeks along... and I am NERVOUS. But this site has been amazing at calming me down. Thanks to the contributors.
    Last Relaxer: May 2009
    BC Estimated: May 2010
  • preddy_blakkpreddy_blakk Posts: 39Registered Users
    This thread is super helpful! I'm 8 months post relaxer and don't see me bc'ing anytime soon. I've NEVER had long hair but hope to have a good length when I BC. With all the help this thread has and various blogs, I think I will be able to better take care of my hair and retain some length, which I think was the problem I had with relaxed hair. Loving my new growth!


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    Last Relaxer: 10/18/2008

    Probable BC : 10/10/2010
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