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Do you have a booty call person?

violetsviolets Posts: 1,689Registered Users
Another one of those questions that I can't ask IRL and I'm curious about! And why would you prefer that to just dating the person.
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  • GuardianBGuardianB Posts: 1,818Registered Users
    I haven't but there were a couple of friends whose personality would have been very good for this.

    I don't know if I could be disconnected enough to do this. If I weren't married that is.
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  • SaKkehSaKkeh Posts: 986Registered Users
    I did once and it worked great for both of us, because we really didnt want each other as serious partners. The sex was great and we understood that this was what the "friendship" was about, no strings, no misunderstandings, no hurt feelings, jealousy. It ended well and we have remained friends minus the sex.

    I wouldnt reccommend this type of situation for anyone who is overemotional, clingy, or reads too much into everything.
  • ~915~~915~ Posts: 519Registered Users
    I did before I met my husband. I didn't want a boyfriend at all, but all the potential sex partners that I could come up with wanted to date me seriously. I didn't want to hurt any of them. So, I found a guy that didn't want to be tied down to a girlfriend, either.
  • MeghuneyMeghuney Posts: 4,263Registered Users
    Yes I do. :wink:
  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users
    Meghuney wrote:
    Yes I do. :wink:
    ha!
    Me too...
    
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  • MeghuneyMeghuney Posts: 4,263Registered Users
    Meghuney wrote:
    Yes I do. :wink:
    ha!
    Me too...
    


    :lol:
  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    This is the kind of thing I WOULD ask in real life!

    No, I don't. Emotionally, I just don't work that way. It'd be nice if I did...but, alas, no.
    The pews never miss a sermon but that doesn't get them one step closer to Heaven.
    -Speckla

    But at least the pews never attend yoga!
  • LAwoman516LAwoman516 Posts: 23Registered Users
    No --- but I wish I did! :twisted:
    "I'm not mad. I just want to know who did this so I can punish them." - Dwight, "The Office"
  • frizzybarbiefrizzybarbie Posts: 483Registered Users
    NetG wrote:
    This is the kind of thing I WOULD ask in real life!

    No, I don't. Emotionally, I just don't work that way. It'd be nice if I did...but, alas, no.

    Same with me here.
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  • divegirldivegirl Posts: 1,286Registered Users
    I do have a booty call person, and I am usually one of those people who doesn't work that way emotionally. But, it's worked out for more than a year so far, with both of us dating other people in between and no hard feelings.

    ETA: I am not interested in dating him because he is a well-known ladies man. I couldn't trust him as far as I could throw him! But he is quite charming and personable so we have fun.
  • curlylauracurlylaura Posts: 8,352Registered Users
    NetG wrote:
    This is the kind of thing I WOULD ask in real life!

    No, I don't. Emotionally, I just don't work that way. It'd be nice if I did...but, alas, no.

    Same here. Just can't separate the emotion from sex or sex from emotion.
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  • PoPo Posts: 2,607Registered Users
    I couldn't have a booty call person. I could have sex with a friend and not want to get serious, but I don't think I could do the total booty call. I cannot enjoy myself unless I like/love the person. It doesn't have to be romantic, but there has to be some type of emotion.

    Sakkeh's situation sounds like something I could do.
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  • SaKkehSaKkeh Posts: 986Registered Users
    curlylaura wrote:
    NetG wrote:
    This is the kind of thing I WOULD ask in real life!

    No, I don't. Emotionally, I just don't work that way. It'd be nice if I did...but, alas, no.

    Same here. Just can't separate the emotion from sex or sex from emotion.

    Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring aren’t the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.
  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    SaKkeh wrote:
    curlylaura wrote:
    NetG wrote:
    This is the kind of thing I WOULD ask in real life!

    No, I don't. Emotionally, I just don't work that way. It'd be nice if I did...but, alas, no.

    Same here. Just can't separate the emotion from sex or sex from emotion.

    Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring aren’t the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.

    Why?

    I am aware that for many people the two are separate. For me, they're not.

    Better I accept that and not try to lie to myself. I'm QUITE happy knowing I just don't work that way, and therefore being honest with myself and not getting into a situation where I'd get hurt. I would like to have the two separate for me, but they AREN'T. Never will be.
    The pews never miss a sermon but that doesn't get them one step closer to Heaven.
    -Speckla

    But at least the pews never attend yoga!
  • PixieCurlPixieCurl Posts: 5,656Registered Users
    SaKkeh wrote:
    Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring aren’t the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.

    Definitely true in some cases, but in other cases it's fine to not separate the two IF the person abstains from sex until the love/caring/emotion are present. It's when people have sex hoping to get love/caring/emotion that it becomes a problem.
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  • PoPo Posts: 2,607Registered Users
    PixieCurl wrote:
    SaKkeh wrote:
    Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring aren’t the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.

    Definitely true in some cases, but in other cases it's fine to not separate the two IF the person abstains from sex until the love/caring/emotion are present. It's when people have sex hoping to get love/caring/emotion that it becomes a problem.

    ITA.

    For me they are the same thing, so I don't have sex with people I don't care about. I have (once) and I didn't enjoy it. I'm okay with that.
    3c/4a
  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    Po and Pixie put it better than I did.

    Thanks, ladies!


    (So w/ what Sakkeh said-basically, just admitting that they aren't separate for me, then doing what they say is how to avoid unnecessary pain.)
    The pews never miss a sermon but that doesn't get them one step closer to Heaven.
    -Speckla

    But at least the pews never attend yoga!
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    PixieCurl wrote:
    SaKkeh wrote:
    Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring aren’t the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.

    Definitely true in some cases, but in other cases it's fine to not separate the two IF the person abstains from sex until the love/caring/emotion are present. It's when people have sex hoping to get love/caring/emotion that it becomes a problem.

    Agreed. I don't think people should have to learn to separate the two. Ideally, they should be part and parcel of the same experience. For many people, they are. And I think that's best.

  • curlylauracurlylaura Posts: 8,352Registered Users
    SaKkeh wrote:
    curlylaura wrote:
    NetG wrote:
    This is the kind of thing I WOULD ask in real life!

    No, I don't. Emotionally, I just don't work that way. It'd be nice if I did...but, alas, no.

    Same here. Just can't separate the emotion from sex or sex from emotion.

    Its hard, and this is where a lot of women end up in a lot of stress and hurt. Sex and love/caring aren’t the same. Quicker you (general you) learn to separate the two, the better of you are emotionally.

    If you (general you) can do that, then cool. I can't and I'm cool with that. I'd rather wait for the love before I jump into bed with someone. That's what's best for me.
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  • TriniCurlyGirlTriniCurlyGirl Posts: 24Registered Users
    Meghuney wrote:
    Yes I do. :wink:

    MEG!!!!!!! Where is your pic of Dwayne Wade? :cry: :cry:
    I love reading your posts just to get a piece of eye candy! :wink:
  • MeghuneyMeghuney Posts: 4,263Registered Users
    Meghuney wrote:
    Yes I do. :wink:

    MEG!!!!!!! Where is your pic of Dwayne Wade? :cry: :cry:
    I love reading your posts just to get a piece of eye candy! :wink:

    Girl...go to my myspace.com page. PLENTY there for ya! :wink: Ask babywavy!!
  • TriniCurlyGirlTriniCurlyGirl Posts: 24Registered Users
    Meghuney wrote:
    Meghuney wrote:
    Yes I do. :wink:

    MEG!!!!!!! Where is your pic of Dwayne Wade? :cry: :cry:
    I love reading your posts just to get a piece of eye candy! :wink:

    Girl...go to my myspace.com page. PLENTY there for ya! :wink: Ask babywavy!!

    I'm going over there to check it out..............
  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users
    :lol:
    What's w/ the teeny weeny peenie?
    
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    Ever since the sports thread wars I have sensed a special connection between [edit] & Wile. Like the connection oil has to water. I almost can't speak of it. Wait....my eyes are misting. ~asq
    Let’s just stay together and tell the world to kiss our ass. ~P


  • TriniCurlyGirlTriniCurlyGirl Posts: 24Registered Users
    Meghuney wrote:
    Meghuney wrote:
    Yes I do. :wink:

    MEG!!!!!!! Where is your pic of Dwayne Wade? :cry: :cry:
    I love reading your posts just to get a piece of eye candy! :wink:

    Girl...go to my myspace.com page. PLENTY there for ya! :wink: Ask babywavy!!

    I'm going over there to check it out..............

    THANK U MEG!!!!!!!! I love those pics. Where did you find them? I have not seen any of thise shots of him before. OMG, you made my week!! You have one that is my favorite - him in the white undershirt and kahaki or green shirt over it with the matching hat snd the silver chain :D :D
  • TriniCurlyGirlTriniCurlyGirl Posts: 24Registered Users
    Meghuney wrote:
    Meghuney wrote:
    Yes I do. :wink:

    MEG!!!!!!! Where is your pic of Dwayne Wade? :cry: :cry:
    I love reading your posts just to get a piece of eye candy! :wink:

    Girl...go to my myspace.com page. PLENTY there for ya! :wink: Ask babywavy!!

    I'm going over there to check it out..............

    THANK U MEG!!!!!!!! I love those pics. Where did you find them? I have not seen any of thise shots of him before. OMG, you made my week!! You have one that is my favorite - him in the white undershirt and kahaki or green shirt over it with the matching hat snd the silver chain :D :D
  • TriniCurlyGirlTriniCurlyGirl Posts: 24Registered Users
    Meghuney wrote:
    Meghuney wrote:
    Yes I do. :wink:

    MEG!!!!!!! Where is your pic of Dwayne Wade? :cry: :cry:
    I love reading your posts just to get a piece of eye candy! :wink:

    Girl...go to my myspace.com page. PLENTY there for ya! :wink: Ask babywavy!!

    I'm going over there to check it out..............

    THANK U MEG!!!!!!!! I love those pics. Where did you find them? I have not seen any of thise shots of him before. OMG, you made my week!! You have one that is my favorite - him in the white undershirt and kahaki or green shirt over it with the matching hat snd the silver chain :D :D
  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Posts: 10,780Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I do, it's been going on for almost two years. I had just come out of a serious relationship and wasn't up to being involved with anyone, but still wanted sex. He was just starting to really take off in his carrer and didn't/doesn't have time to be a "good" boyfriend/partner.

    It works for us, and we both know things will never go any farther. We're great friends and have even met the people the other was seeing and can be objective about it.

    It's not something I talk about, only one friend really knows about him and I like it that way. It's like my own secret little world that I can escape to when I want :wink:
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  • zmanzzzzzmanzzzz Banned Posts: 3,826Banned Users
    im developing a harem.
  • violetsviolets Posts: 1,689Registered Users
    I do, it's been going on for almost two years. I had just come out of a serious relationship and wasn't up to being involved with anyone, but still wanted sex. He was just starting to really take off in his carrer and didn't/doesn't have time to be a "good" boyfriend/partner.

    It works for us, and we both know things will never go any farther. We're great friends and have even met the people the other was seeing and can be objective about it.

    It's not something I talk about, only one friend really knows about him and I like it that way. It's like my own secret little world that I can escape to when I want :wink:

    Wow, that is a really long time to have sex with someone and not get attached to them.
  • MeghuneyMeghuney Posts: 4,263Registered Users
    I do, it's been going on for almost two years. I had just come out of a serious relationship and wasn't up to being involved with anyone, but still wanted sex. He was just starting to really take off in his carrer and didn't/doesn't have time to be a "good" boyfriend/partner.

    It works for us, and we both know things will never go any farther. We're great friends and have even met the people the other was seeing and can be objective about it.

    It's not something I talk about, only one friend really knows about him and I like it that way. It's like my own secret little world that I can escape to when I want :wink:

    If it goes on for that long, to me, it IS a relationship...just one that doesn't fit the standards of what people would normally CALL a relationship.
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