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How do you recommend CG?

I love my hair today. Due to some styling routine changes, more conditioner than usual, and a little BRHG I got the clumpiest, curliest hair I've had so far and it's lasted throughout the day. I'm only sad my camera batteries are dead.

And I think my hair got some notice. At lunch today a female coworker noticed my hair and commented (somewhat gleefully) that I had worn it curly, and looked at it repeatedly while we ate with others. I wanted to recommend CG to her and send her here because I bet she has beautiful curls hiding in her hair, but I just didn't know how to bring it up without either being rude or sounding like a freak.

Unfortunately, she didn't give me an opening by asking any questions or making any further comment. Have any of you found a good way to recommend CG to someone that hasn't outright questioned you about your hair care practices? I'd like to spread the word in a graceful, non-backhanded-compliment way if I can.
2bMii, normal porosity
CG since 5/8
:love2: Growing to natural color since 6/13
Co-wash: Suave Naturals
Poo: Jessicurl HCC, Giovanni TTTT
Co/LI: LVPNG, Jessicurl Too Shea, Giovanni DLI, Honey
Style: KCCC, Jessicurl RR/CC, BRHG, Crew Pomade, Jessicurl AIS

Comments

  • CurlyHairedFarmerCurlyHairedFarmer Posts: 3,073Registered Users
    My best friend has curly hair that she has straightened since she was 12. She is now 20. Recently she told me my hair looked really good. I just replied "Thanks, I follow a special routine" and left it at that. The more she saw my hair, the more she made comments until finally she said "I wish I could manage my hair better." That was my opening. I asked if she would like to know what I do, and now she follows some CG guidelines.
    Currently Loving:
    Shampoo: Giovanni 50:50

    Conditioners - CJ Strengthening, CJ Beauticurls Argan and Olive Oil, CJ Rehab, CJ Curl Fix

    Leave-in: CJ Smoothing

    Deep Conditioner: CJ Hibiscus and Banana Deep Fix

    Stylers - Tigi Curls Rock Amplifier, AG:Recoil, KCCC, Mop-C Curling Cream, Paul Mitchell Sculpting foam
  • finchfinch Posts: 333Registered Users
    Well, I'll put this as gently as I can.....advice is usually best accepted when it is asked for. Pretty much straight across the board. I see a pregnant woman and I am DYING to talk to her about breastfeeding, using a sling/baby carrier, not crying it out, etc.. I see a mom with an obviously autistic kid (my oldest son is autistic), and I am DYING to talk to her about autism acceptance, get her to join my playgroup, etc.. But in both cases, I hold my tongue, no matter how difficult it is (sometimes I practically have to do deep breathing to keep myself from saying something...lol).

    People can say, "oh but your hair is so different than really personal stuff like autism and pregnancy." Well, no it's not. Your hair is very tied to how you feel about yourself. People are very sensitive about their personal appearance. I know when people have given me unsolicited hair/makeup tips, I felt belittled and ugly. I felt embarassed and ashamed of my own appearance. No matter how nice they were.

    I just let my hair do the talking. People will eventually ask. I get asked all the time now "what do you put in your hair??!!?" I got asked just today, as a matter of fact. LOL. I totally understand wanting to shout about the CG method from the rooftops. Wanting to grab every curly you see on the street and tell her about it. I just think that one's personal appearance is such a sensitive matter, even if it's "just hair," that it's best if we don't pass out hair advice unless asked. Really and truly.
    Medium texture, normal-high porosity, wavy-curly 2c to 3a-ish hair that is MOISTURE HUNGRY!!!
    Currently recovering from a protein hair crisis. :( My hair hates protein, apparently.

  • CurlFaceCurlFace Posts: 176Registered Users
    finch wrote: »
    I know when people have given me unsolicited hair/makeup tips, I felt belittled and ugly. I felt embarassed and ashamed of my own appearance. No matter how nice they were.

    This is sooo true. My last place of work was in a retail environment, and at least 3 times I had Avon ladies ask me if I'd ever had a facial because they have stuff for oily skin (hmm, wonder if I was shiny that day) and that they could give me a free facial. I know they were just trying to sell their product, but I really didn't need a reminder that my skin is oily, thanks.
    Type: 3a - type 1 on the underside. Thinning.
    :glasses11:
    Currently using:
    -Organix Tea Tree Mint Shampoo (occasionally)
    -Garnier Fructis Triple Nutrition conditioner
    -Suave Waterfall Mist Conditioner or Gee Your Hair Smells Terrific as leave-in
    -A mix of Shique Gel and HE Totally Twisted mousse
    -FX Curls Up Mousse, on occasion


  • BackliteyesBackliteyes Posts: 91Registered Users
    finch wrote: »
    Well, I'll put this as gently as I can.....advice is usually best accepted when it is asked for. Pretty much straight across the board. I see a pregnant woman and I am DYING to talk to her about breastfeeding, using a sling/baby carrier, not crying it out, etc.. I see a mom with an obviously autistic kid (my oldest son is autistic), and I am DYING to talk to her about autism acceptance, get her to join my playgroup, etc.. But in both cases, I hold my tongue, no matter how difficult it is (sometimes I practically have to do deep breathing to keep myself from saying something...lol).

    You've exposed yourself, now I have one more person to plumb for advice if I ever had a kid! :laughing2:

    finch wrote: »
    People are very sensitive about their personal appearance. I know when people have given me unsolicited hair/makeup tips, I felt belittled and ugly. I felt embarassed and ashamed of my own appearance. No matter how nice they were.

    This is what I was scared of and why I chose not to say anything even though I wanted to. It's fine, I will bide my time. :laughing6:
    2bMii, normal porosity
    CG since 5/8
    :love2: Growing to natural color since 6/13
    Co-wash: Suave Naturals
    Poo: Jessicurl HCC, Giovanni TTTT
    Co/LI: LVPNG, Jessicurl Too Shea, Giovanni DLI, Honey
    Style: KCCC, Jessicurl RR/CC, BRHG, Crew Pomade, Jessicurl AIS
  • kathymackkathymack Posts: 9,999Registered Users
    If another curly/closet curly compliments me--I thank them and tell them I "work" to get it this way. It usually opens them up to ask questions.
    3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity
    SE PA

    HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me, Aloe Fix
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
  • onethousandcurlsonethousandcurls Posts: 1,118Registered Users
    I do something similar to KM. I'll say something like, "Thanks, I tried this new...." or "Thanks, I've been working on it." Something that indicates it is NOT a freak accident that my hair looks good or that it's just my natural curls that make it look good (because so many times I've felt that some curly girl had nice hair because her curls were just nicer than mine, not true!). That way, they are aware that there is something to be done to have nice hair. They usually ask, if at least out of polite interest, what that new thing is.
    3b/c, CG 9/18/08
    Last process: 04/05/08 Big Chop: 08/08/09
    Currently: Herbal Essences Hello Hydration, Herbal Essences Set Me Up gel (summer only), Boots Curl Creme (winter only)
  • BackliteyesBackliteyes Posts: 91Registered Users
    Thanks KM and onethousandcurls, stating that you're putting some sort of special effort in is a good baiting tactic for questions if they're inclined at all to ask. Also, it's as safe as it gets to stick to making statements about yourself. ;)
    2bMii, normal porosity
    CG since 5/8
    :love2: Growing to natural color since 6/13
    Co-wash: Suave Naturals
    Poo: Jessicurl HCC, Giovanni TTTT
    Co/LI: LVPNG, Jessicurl Too Shea, Giovanni DLI, Honey
    Style: KCCC, Jessicurl RR/CC, BRHG, Crew Pomade, Jessicurl AIS
  • SariaSaria Posts: 15,963Registered Users
    I've seen so many women that I've wanted to mention CG to. Not because they looked bad, but I can see how much their hair would benefit from it. I once saw a woman with her hair down and I could tell it was brushed out. I was dying to say something, but I didn't. It's hard for it not to come off as rude. Heck, I've often seen women with gorgeous curls and I wanted to compliment them and I didn't because I didn't want to be too forward. I think it really is best if you wait for someone to actually ask.
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  • finchfinch Posts: 333Registered Users
    finch wrote: »
    Well, I'll put this as gently as I can.....advice is usually best accepted when it is asked for. Pretty much straight across the board. I see a pregnant woman and I am DYING to talk to her about breastfeeding, using a sling/baby carrier, not crying it out, etc.. I see a mom with an obviously autistic kid (my oldest son is autistic), and I am DYING to talk to her about autism acceptance, get her to join my playgroup, etc.. But in both cases, I hold my tongue, no matter how difficult it is (sometimes I practically have to do deep breathing to keep myself from saying something...lol).

    You've exposed yourself, now I have one more person to plumb for advice if I ever had a kid! :laughing2:

    finch wrote: »
    People are very sensitive about their personal appearance. I know when people have given me unsolicited hair/makeup tips, I felt belittled and ugly. I felt embarassed and ashamed of my own appearance. No matter how nice they were.

    This is what I was scared of and why I chose not to say anything even though I wanted to. It's fine, I will bide my time. :laughing6:
    LOL...biding your time is a smart idea. She will come to you eventually. They always come to the dark side eventually....MUHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! :evil2:
    Medium texture, normal-high porosity, wavy-curly 2c to 3a-ish hair that is MOISTURE HUNGRY!!!
    Currently recovering from a protein hair crisis. :( My hair hates protein, apparently.

  • That70sHeidiThat70sHeidi Posts: 34Registered Users
    I've mentioned it to a handful of people at work (some curly, some not) but several have either said it wouldn't work for them or outright argued with me over it, so whatever. It's not like I'm going to hold them down and condition them, you want frizz, you got frizz. :P
    2A/B, F, i - thinning on top due to meds
    Above-shoulder length, can't plop!
    Using: VO5 Tea Therapy Blackberry Cond (cowash), LA Looks Mega Hold gel
  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users
    If someone asks, I mention that I have a set routine that works for me, and that I am picky about products.

    I'll explain further if people ask, but no one has freaked out about cg specifics except for my hairstlyist trained Aunt, who finds no pooing to be gross. I find it ironic that she told me that my hair was at its best ever, yet my routine grossed her out.
    Kiva! Microfinance works.

    Med/Coarse, porous curly.
  • mpgirlmpgirl Posts: 1,163Registered Users
    I find myself complimenting other curlies whether they have healthy looking curls or not. Most of us grow up hating our curls so compliments always pick us up. I don't tell them they have crappy curls, I tell them their curls are beautiful. They are always surprised. This happened at dinner just last night. Our server have very curly hair and I mentioned that they were beautiful. She, looking a bit off balanced, thanked me, but said she wished they looked more like mine. By then end of the night, I have given her Struttswife's salon and name and a couple of websites (this one included) to get started with.

    Even if they don't ask about how I get my hair to look good, they still feel good about getting a compliment. I like to think that I'm blessed every time I help another curly to appreciate their curls!:love4:
    3b spirals, fine texture, normal porosity, dense
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    Deva Low Poo
    Suave Naturals Coconut for detangling
    Renpure Organics conditioner/leave-in
    Homemade FSG
    KCCC
    Curl Junkie Stuff
    BRHG


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