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Is she right or being a tad bit too nervous

noelaninoelani Posts: 665Registered Users
My mother claims it is unsafe for a woman to take a trip somewhere alone. Doesn't matter if it's a weekend trip that's only an hour away or somewhere far like Australia, it's too unsafe for a women to travel alone. Is she right or is she being a bit too nervous?

Why do I feel like I'm asking a stupid question that I should know the answer to already???
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    noelani wrote: »
    My mother claims it is unsafe for a woman to take a trip somewhere alone. Doesn't matter if it's a weekend trip that's only an hour away or somewhere far like Australia, it's too unsafe for a women to travel alone. Is she right or is she being a bit too nervous?

    I hope she's not right. I go places all alone all the time.
  • Rubber BiscuitRubber Biscuit Posts: 1,294Registered Users
    I lived in Guatemala for 2 months by myself. I always felt safe. :dontknow:
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  • MassCurlsMassCurls Posts: 272Registered Users
    I travel alone all the time. Internationally, locally, and within the US. I've never felt especially unsafe just because I was a woman.
  • cymprenicympreni Posts: 9,609Registered Users
    I do all the time. I've never felt unsafe.
  • midgimidgi Posts: 2,409Registered Users
    I've traveled alone too. The thing about it is, I'm fully aware of the dangers I face in most situations because that's just reality, it's the world we live in. I'm cautious when I'm alone at ANY time, not just when I'm traveling. However, the possibility of danger doesn't stop me from living my life. If I let it, I wouldn't go anywhere or do anything.
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  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Posts: 7,223Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I travel alone all the time too. I think you need to be careful and have a communication plan but otherwise, it's not so different from living alone.
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  • noelaninoelani Posts: 665Registered Users
    Thank you guys, I knew the answer to my question before asking it but I guess I just needed that reaffirmation. lol.
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  • breezybabybreezybaby Posts: 347Registered Users
    I would travel alone, but I believe it is very important to do your research on the area you are traveling to...thoroughly

    I don't like traveling (when I'm out of town) alone at night, but that's just me....
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  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    OK...I'll be the lone ranger here. I won't say it's unsafe, but it might be imprudent. The world is getting crazier all the time.
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  • rileybrileyb Posts: 1,975Registered Users
    I travel alone for business all the time, and I don't see any difference between doing that and traveling for pleasure. Maybe I should tell work that I can't travel alone because I'm a woman. ;-)
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  • MizKerriMizKerri Posts: 1,701Registered Users
    Ha. There is a business trip that I'm leaving for today and I reeeeally do not want to go. I would love to use the woman excuse.
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  • ScarletScarlet Posts: 3,125Registered Users
    mrspoppers wrote: »
    I travel alone all the time too. I think you need to be careful and have a communication plan but otherwise, it's not so different from living alone.

    +1
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  • rileybrileyb Posts: 1,975Registered Users
    MizKerri wrote: »
    Ha. There is a business trip that I'm leaving for today and I reeeeally do not want to go. I would love to use the woman excuse.

    Ha, give it a shot! Let me know how it goes, I'm sure you won't lose any credibility... :p
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  • geekygeeky Posts: 4,995Registered Users
    noelani wrote: »
    My mother claims it is unsafe for a woman to take a trip somewhere alone. Doesn't matter if it's a weekend trip that's only an hour away or somewhere far like Australia, it's too unsafe for a women to travel alone. Is she right or is she being a bit too nervous?

    Why do I feel like I'm asking a stupid question that I should know the answer to already???

    Why draw the line at just trips? If a weekned trip an hour away is not safe, then so is driving 45 minutes to the mall or Costco. It takes me over an hour to get to work every day. I think I will tell my boss that I habve to work from home full-time because coming to work is too dangerous.
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  • JosephineJosephine Posts: 14,175Registered Users
    geeky wrote: »
    noelani wrote: »
    My mother claims it is unsafe for a woman to take a trip somewhere alone. Doesn't matter if it's a weekend trip that's only an hour away or somewhere far like Australia, it's too unsafe for a women to travel alone. Is she right or is she being a bit too nervous?

    Why do I feel like I'm asking a stupid question that I should know the answer to already???

    Why draw the line at just trips? If a weekned trip an hour away is not safe, then so is driving 45 minutes to the mall or Costco. It takes me over an hour to get to work every day. I think I will tell my boss that I habve to work from home full-time because coming to work is too dangerous.

    LOL, seriously.
  • rainshowerrainshower Posts: 4,420Registered Users
    i think that your mother is probably watching the news and is letting all of the missing people reports cause her to worry for you. i think anyone can be victimized at any time, whether traveling alone or in a group, close to their home or across the globe.

    i think if you travel alone, especially if you are going to a place with which you are not familiar, you should exercise common sense and caution at all times: not hiking alone or venturing off the scheduled itinerary that the tour group may be on, not traveling at night alone when you don't know the local crime stats, not donning yourself in your costly bling, not forming inappropriate intimate relationships with locals and going off with them, not drinking to excess at clubs or bars or doing drugs so that you can be taken advantage of. if you must see sights that aren't on the agenda, see if a couple of other tourists would mind going with you, and leave information with your tour guide/hotel manager/family at home, etc., about where you will be going, who you are with, their descriptions, and so on. it sounds excessive, but in these days when people seem to be more aggressive and confident about kidnapping and victimizing travelers, if you don't take the care to protect yourself, who will?
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  • journotravelerjournotraveler Posts: 2,816Registered Users
    Coqueta wrote: »
    I lived in Guatemala for 2 months by myself. I always felt safe. :dontknow:

    me too! in antigua. never had a problem.

    i've traveled by myself all around the world. never encountered anything that i couldn't handle. did i get hit on and hassled? sure. but you can encounter that right at home.
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  • newcurlynewcurly Posts: 1,310Registered Users
    I've traveled by myself domestically and internationally - always felt safe. Never worried too much about being alone.
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  • Stephanie198907Stephanie198907 Posts: 2,607Registered Users
    noelani wrote: »
    My mother claims it is unsafe for a woman to take a trip somewhere alone. Doesn't matter if it's a weekend trip that's only an hour away or somewhere far like Australia, it's too unsafe for a women to travel alone. Is she right or is she being a bit too nervous?

    Why do I feel like I'm asking a stupid question that I should know the answer to already???

    Its only unsafe if you go into the trip ignorant about the environment around you. She is going to be nervous either way because she is your mother, thats never going to change. As long as you have researched the area thorougly, know the emergency numbers, know not to wander alone at night or super early in the morning, know where all of the hostels/shelters are just in case you ever get lost than you should be fine.

    Travelling is something I've always wanted to do, with or without a companion. I've been to Europe 3 times buts its always been week long trips that were planned ahead. I want to go without an itinerary and just explore on my own and do things in my own time and not be herded around by tour guides like cattle.
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  • E.B.E.B. Posts: 158Registered Users
    I’ve been to Chicago, Toronto, and Quebec City alone. I know someone who went to Paris alone when she was 24.

    You may never see the places you want to see if you wait for friends or family to have the time or money to travel with you.
  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    If this is true, then it's probably "unsafe" for a woman to live alone as well, something I've been doing for the last 7 or so years.
  • ninja dogninja dog Posts: 23,780Registered Users
    I traveled to Europe alone while still in my teens, and then again in my mid-20s. I never felt unsafe. People often went out of their way to be kind and helpful, and I learned so much about independence, not to mention the rest of the (European) world.

    However, whichever poster above (I think it was rainshower) recommended that you leave an agenda with someone, or have company at night or when venturing into out of the way places, gave good advice. You should feel free to travel alone, but do it with intelligence and a modicum of caution.

    HTH
  • BoomygrrlBoomygrrl Posts: 4,940Registered Users
    I lived alone for 7 years too...never was a problem for me. I think as long as you use a little bit of common sense, you will be just as safe as being at home. There's no 100 percent guarantees, whether you're at home, at work, on vacation, or wherever. But you can decrease the chances of something horrible happen by taking a few precautions.
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  • brown_eyedgal20brown_eyedgal20 Posts: 412Registered Users
    I have traveled all over the world, never had a problem. I have been taught to always be aware of my surroundings (not just when traveling) and I have also been through military police training which taught many self defense skills. I know I am not immune to horrible things, but feel I am a bit more prepared than I was previous to all of the things I have learned.
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  • brown_eyedgal20brown_eyedgal20 Posts: 412Registered Users
    noelani wrote: »
    My mother claims it is unsafe for a woman to take a trip somewhere alone. Doesn't matter if it's a weekend trip that's only an hour away or somewhere far like Australia, it's too unsafe for a women to travel alone. Is she right or is she being a bit too nervous?

    Why do I feel like I'm asking a stupid question that I should know the answer to already???

    Its only unsafe if you go into the trip ignorant about the environment around you. She is going to be nervous either way because she is your mother, thats never going to change. As long as you have researched the area thorougly, know the emergency numbers, know not to wander alone at night or super early in the morning, know where all of the hostels/shelters are just in case you ever get lost than you should be fine.

    Agree.
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  • wavycurly40+wavycurly40+ Posts: 2,017Registered Users
    geeky wrote: »
    Why draw the line at just trips? If a weekned trip an hour away is not safe, then so is driving 45 minutes to the mall or Costco. It takes me over an hour to get to work every day. I think I will tell my boss that I habve to work from home full-time because coming to work is too dangerous.

    And of course, driving to any of these places is probably the most dangerous part of your day. EVERY day.

    Sure women face real dangers, but life is full of danger; are we going to stop living?

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  • ZinniaZinnia Posts: 7,339Registered Users
    Has your mom not seen Forensic Files? Probably better if she hasn't...:p

    My point...most of the murders that take place on FF are by people the victim knew. A lot of the victims are attacked at home (some living w/other people), on the way home or leaving home.

    So as others have stated, as long as you have common sense, traveling alone should be fine.
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  • noelaninoelani Posts: 665Registered Users
    I feel the same way everybody here feels. I wish she would as well. I travel to work alone on the train, I go into the city alone to do shopping. I don't know why to her that's not the same thing. I should be use to her way of thinking/feeling by now. In High School it wasn't til Junior year if I'm not mistaken that I actually got to go home on the train by myself. I would get picked up by my father everyday and no not in the car, since I went to school in one of the busiest locations of NYC he would come on the train and stand in front of my school waiting for me for us to take the train back home. Humiliation at its finest.

    I have a feeling that she feels the same way about me living alone. A lot of times when I mention moving out she says that you need two incomes to survive. (Umm so nobody in this world lives alone?? Yeah ok, whatever you say.) And she says, really you want to move out? Why do you want to move out so much? I'm 26 and not getting any younger. Sometimes I think I probably wanted to move out the day I was born. :laughing9:

    [Ok, rant over.]
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  • OBBOBB Posts: 4,174Registered Users
    one thing about women who ive known that travels alone often. they are well prepared, have good common sense and high maturity level. no this doesnt mean if you're not any of these you shouldnt travel alone. is is what ive noticed throughout my travels.
  • kurlskurls Posts: 843Registered Users
    noelani wrote: »
    My mother claims it is unsafe for a woman to take a trip somewhere alone. Doesn't matter if it's a weekend trip that's only an hour away or somewhere far like Australia, it's too unsafe for a women to travel alone. Is she right or is she being a bit too nervous?

    Why do I feel like I'm asking a stupid question that I should know the answer to already???

    It's all her...trust me! My mother is the same way - paranoid about anything I do ALONE! WHen I moved out on my own, she about near died of an anxiety attack thinking all the bad things in life would happen to ME....when I travel alone for an HOUR back and forth to the city, she swears up and down I am putting myself in danger...I recently have traveled cross country alone and THAT set her off in a tizzy also.

    I've given up listening to her rants. Yes, I know she means well and cares, but I am an adult and I do not allow things to SCARE me out of life - as mom does. She is one of those women that cant drive 30 mins away from home on her own for fear of getting lost! So as foryour mom, again, it's HER issue and you know she is overreacting.
    People will always do what they want to do...no matter what you say!
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