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Do You Friend/Accept Friend Requests From Strangers On Facebook?

SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
I have not, but the other day a friend of a friend sent me a private message about quad skating (he'd seen my post on his friend's page) and after a brief correspondence he friended me and I accepted.

Ugh, what a mistake. He's SUCH a prolific poster that he fills up the feed page and I miss what the people I ACTUALLY care about are doing. Whenever he'd see me online he'd try to chat with me. And yesterday on his feed he posted a porno video.

So I de-friended him and I've learned my lesson.

Will you friend/accept friend requests from strangers on Facebook?
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  • BoomygrrlBoomygrrl Posts: 4,940Registered Users
    No, I won't. There's a few people I know that I won't accept...I don't feel comfortable accepting someone I don't know. Why would someone want me as a Facebook friend if they don't know me? I would question that.
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  • SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
    Boomygrrl wrote: »
    No, I won't. There's a few people I know that I won't accept...I don't feel comfortable accepting someone I don't know. Why would someone want me as a Facebook friend if they don't know me? I would question that.

    I think some people are "friend collectors." Like the more friends they have the more important they feel, which is why they friend everyone they know.
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  • pulchri2dinouspulchri2dinous Posts: 1,014Registered Users
    I don't. I also delete people when I notice that my number of friends is getting too high (strange, I know :toothy6:). It's only the people I don't really talk to though.

    You can choose to "hide" updates from people you don't care about, just click the upper right side of the update on your home page.
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  • YolyCYolyC Posts: 3,758Registered Users
    Nope. I've gotten requests with "I'm a friend of so-and-so" messages attached. I'm like yeah and so what? I ignore them. Hell, there are even folks from hs which have sent request and I've ignored. If in 4 years of school we never even said hello, I'm not really interested in a friendship 20 years later. Yes, I can be bi+chy sometimes. :laughing6:
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  • goldygoldy Posts: 5,455Registered Users
    Nope.. I have "friended" a couple of people who I couldn't figure out who they were but they were friends with a lot of my older hs and elementary school friends. They both ended up being people that I went to school with but wasn't necessarily friends with. I "defriended" both :dontknow:
    I only want people on my friend list that I was really close with and haven't seen in ages, family, or friends I see in life outside of facebook.
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  • newcurlynewcurly Posts: 1,310Registered Users
    Nope. If you don't know me in person, I won't accept your friend request.
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  • MichelleBFTMichelleBFT Posts: 4,812Registered Users
    Nope. I had one person send me a friend request because he wanted to discuss the subject of one of my fan pages. I sent him back a message that said I'd be willing to answer questions on the subject (the first message made it sound like he was doing research of some kind). He never replied back, big shock. So I just declined the request.

    I've got plenty of friends whose status updates and things don't run on my main page, because they're people I knew a bazillion years ago and I don't really care. No sense in unfriending them, but I don't need to know about their hourly status updates. So they're hidden, but I can seek them out if I want.
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  • JosephineJosephine Posts: 14,175Registered Users
    No. I need to do some spring cleaning with my friends though..a lot of people from hs have added me and some of them I don't remember or barely talked to.
  • CynaminbearCynaminbear Posts: 4,476Registered Users
    Only one. I checked his friends and saw we knew a lot of the same people, so I thought he was an online friend. It turns out we only know one person in common. He's still a friend, though, because he seems nice and doesn't misbehave.
    I'm on TBD and get some friend requests from guys. I check out their page first to make sure they're not creepy. I want to see who they're friends with and what groups they belong to before I outright refuse.
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  • luvmylocsluvmylocs Posts: 7,578Registered Users
    depends on who our common friend is and if we have something in common. i don't like having people on my page that i don't talk to at all or that aren't real friends if we don't have things in common. like the twitter convo, some people use fb to market their business or they go through your friend list and add friends. i've had that happen. one guy just added me then wrote about his business on my wall..wtf!! no sir, delete comment, delete friend. i wish i could figure out how to hide my friend list. i have made friends with a couple of people that were friends of friends but we had something in common, fitness and we talk and correspond now.

    i agree with the comment about "friend collectors"...i had a threshold of 200 and i'm over that. time to clean house. i had an interesting story, a lady that i used to work with added me as a friend when i was new to fb. then over time i noticed some really weird behaviors by her and when i'd see her in the building she would not speak to me...i noticed it several times, she'd walk by my office with her head down so she wouldn't have to speak to me....so after that and something she had on her page that i felt was racist i un-friended her..i felt better although i felt a twinge of guilt over un-friending her.
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  • hayseedladyhayseedlady Posts: 646Registered Users
    I check friends first. If I have no idea then I deny the request.
  • geminigemini Posts: 3,325Registered Users
    Springcurl wrote: »
    Boomygrrl wrote: »
    No, I won't. There's a few people I know that I won't accept...I don't feel comfortable accepting someone I don't know. Why would someone want me as a Facebook friend if they don't know me? I would question that.

    I think some people are "friend collectors." Like the more friends they have the more important they feel, which is why they friend everyone they know.

    I agree--but I call them hoarders. If I don't know you from any time or place (including message boards) in my life, then I ignore the request. I realize some people use facebook for networking, but I would likely set up a new, "serious" profile for that purpose.
  • geekygeeky Posts: 4,995Registered Users
    No. If I don't know you in real life I will not be your fb friend.
    I have quite a few people from HS as facebook friends that I was not close to in HS, but have had some nice facebook bonding with. That I don't mind.
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  • cyndicyndi Posts: 3,341Registered Users
    No. But I do have a few people who are a friend of a friend. But if they were annoying, I would delete them.
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  • geminigemini Posts: 3,325Registered Users
    YolyC wrote: »
    Nope. I've gotten requests with "I'm a friend of so-and-so" messages attached. I'm like yeah and so what?

    I got one from "This is A___, wife of B____, (your husband's) classmate."

    My husband, B and I all went to the same college. I was a year behind B and my husband. I knew both of them. I sent her a message saying "Hi, were you at the reunion, have we met?" No response. I mean if you're going to be bold enough to send a request, at least stand by it. I gave it a few days and ignored her request. Not long after that, B sends me a request to define our relationship by saying I knew him through my husband (not true)

    I have never written on this guy's wall and vice versa. I think his wife was being insecure. The whole thing makes me laugh. My husband has plenty of female FB friends I don't know, but I don't go sending them requests saying "Hi, this is G___, wife of A____" :lol:
  • LoloDSMLoloDSM Posts: 3,778Registered Users
    I don't think so. There are a couple friends of friends, I've thought about contacting. They are people I've met, liked, and wanted to know better. I wasn't sure about the etiquette though.

    I sometimes feel a little unpopular because of my paltry number of friends, but then I see DH's page (he has business contacts and accepts all friend requests), and I would be annoyed with the people who post the inane details of their day.
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  • gekko422gekko422 Posts: 4,869Registered Users
    geeky wrote: »
    No. If I don't know you in real life I will not be your fb friend.
    I have quite a few people from HS as facebook friends that I was not close to in HS, but have had some nice facebook bonding with. That I don't mind.

    This. I get random FB requests from time to time and I just ignore them.
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  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    I did once, by accident. We knew one person in common, but he really wasn't someone I needed to friend.
  • afrosheenqueenafrosheenqueen Posts: 5,400Registered Users
    Strangers? No. But they need to be at least aqauintances for me to friend them.
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  • Rebecca deWinterRebecca deWinter Posts: 2,254Registered Users
    somewhat ot, but you can change your settings so you don't see many or any of someone's updates so they don't flood your page.


    still though... i don't friend people i don't know.
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  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    I had an old friend who I moved away from, so we were 3000 miles apart. We kept in touch via email and IM, but it fell off for a few years.

    When Facebook came to be, I asked him to be my friend. He said, "Send me an email, tell me what you've been up to" — like it was a test or something? I never did it. I thought that was dumb. We can catch up on email, we can catch up on FB, what's the diff? And I'm not a friend collector — I only have about 50, and it's stayed there for months. And at the time this was going on, I only had about 20 friends.

    He was always a little weird like that — persnickety — so maybe it was for the best.

    I do need to actually know or have known someone IRL to be their Facebook friend. I have no problem rekindling old friendships, though. In fact, my "best friend" from school just got back in touch with me via Facebook, I haven't connected with her since we were about 20. So that's cool. She lives in Texas, so we're not going to be hanging out any time soon, but if we can catch up, stay in touch, I think that's a great thing.
  • CocoaCoilyCocoaCoily Posts: 2,648Registered Users
    Only if he's a hottie. ;)
  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    *guano alert*

    CocoaCoily got me thinking …

    Anyone ever flirted via FB with a friend of a friend? 'Cause I'm thinking of doing this.

    I first noticed him because his comments [that I can see via her posted items] are often funny. And he has his profile open to friends of friends, so I've been able to check him out. He's cute! And actually single.

    Hmmmm … I've been thinking about sending him a friendly little email. I could ask her to arrange an introduction, but she's the road trip friend [mentioned in an earlier thread] and she and I are keeping a cordial distance right now.
  • M2LRM2LR Posts: 8,630Registered Users
    Springcurl wrote: »
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    Will you friend/accept friend requests from strangers on Facebook?

    No.
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  • luvmylocsluvmylocs Posts: 7,578Registered Users
    wild~hair wrote: »
    *guano alert*

    CocoaCoily got me thinking …

    Anyone ever flirted via FB with a friend of a friend? 'Cause I'm thinking of doing this.

    I first noticed him because his comments [that I can see via her posted items] are often funny. And he has his profile open to friends of friends, so I've been able to check him out. He's cute! And actually single.

    Hmmmm … I've been thinking about sending him a friendly little email. I could ask her to arrange an introduction, but she's the road trip friend [mentioned in an earlier thread] and she and I are keeping a cordial distance right now.

    i met a guy that is into fitness via another friend and i sent him a friend request because i was able to see that he'd just completed that marathon and he had a nonprofit to bring fitness to children and he was single. he accepted my friend request and we talked in real life and have a few times. it didn't lead to a love connection but hey, he's a friend now, go figure ;-)

    i say do it...

    i did read an article that one of the ways to protect yourself on fb was to not list your status. maybe this is tricky if you're married but i took single off mine and i would never put "in a relationship" and link in someone elses profile....but anyway...just a thought to consider too....some guys may be more likely to try to friend you if they see you are single...that can be good or bad.
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  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users
    wild~hair wrote: »
    Anyone ever flirted via FB with a friend of a friend? 'Cause I'm thinking of doing this.


    I have a friend getting married to someone in May that he met on facebook. They met because they were both a fan of some author or something. Anyway they've dated for about 5 years and will be getting married in May.

    Good Luck and be careful!!!
  • luvmylocsluvmylocs Posts: 7,578Registered Users
    wild~hair wrote: »
    Anyone ever flirted via FB with a friend of a friend? 'Cause I'm thinking of doing this.


    I have a friend getting married to someone in May that he met on facebook. They met because they were both a fan of some author or something. Anyway they've dated for about 5 years and will be getting married in May.

    Good Luck and be careful!!!

    great story! i saw a story of a couple that met on myspace (they had no common friends). i believe it can happen and i'm a big believer in just meeting people for friendship, even if that guy isn't "the one" he may have some cool friends and your "one" might be in that group...
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  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    Haha, I think I just might do this!
  • wavycurly40+wavycurly40+ Posts: 2,017Registered Users
    Heavens no. I have enough trouble with the people I know. There are several that I would now like to defriend, but I don't want to hurt their feelings. One is a fringe relative who is, as it turns out, kind of creepy! Ew.

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  • shellibeanshellibean Posts: 4,500Registered Users
    No. I befriended someone from here once, but I freaked myself out that there was a "stranger" on my friend's list, so I explained, apologized & deleted.
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