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so angry with him..

sexyNcurlysexyNcurly Posts: 241Registered Users
hi everyone, I am so angry with me ex at the moment. Flashback..
We started going out 7 months ago, things were great we couldnt get enough of each other. During the last few months he saw me once a week, saw his friends every saturday night. Finally, he broke up with me said that he needed to see what it would be like to be single again. He cried and so did I when it happened, he was always so sweet. I contacted him a few times afterwards trying to change his mind since he said he still liked me, just didn't want a relationship. He didnt change his mind but said if I needed a friend I could talk to him. So tonight I imed him online, my 9 year old cousin is having surgery tomorrow and I was upset and wanted to talk to a friend. So I imed him and asked if he could call me for a little bit (he knew about my cousin's surgery) and I said I was feeling upset and just wanted to talk. He got all weird and said that I was lying just to try and talk to him and that he didn't think it was really that important to talk and then he ended with calling me a crazy biotch. Im so mad at him, I should never have talked to him. I feel like such a fool, am I?

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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    How old is this guy? He sounds really young. Guys are jerks, and younger guys are even jerkier.

    Don't call or text or IM him anymore.
  • MeghuneyMeghuney Posts: 4,263Registered Users
    Maybe you calling and trying to change his mind those times made him believe that this was just a ploy on your behalf to get him to change his mind again? Regardless, he said he would be your friend.

    Anyway, I think you need other people you can talk to other than him. That would just probably end up weird anyway.
  • ScarletScarlet Posts: 3,125Registered Users
    You can't change his mind. Just let him be.
    The first lesson of economics is scarcity: There is never enough of anything to satisfy all those who want it. The first lesson of politics is to disregard the first lesson of economics - Thomas Sowell
  • LAwomanLAwoman Posts: 2,949Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Sounds like he's an EX for a good reason.

    Don't let him control your emotions anymore, and definitely don't IM, call or text him anymore.
  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Posts: 7,223Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    The first thing to remember is that when somebody says they don't want to be in a relationship right now, what they really mean is that they don't want to be in a relationship with YOU. That doesn't mean you're a bad person; it just means they're not feeling it.

    The second thing to remember is that it's next to impossible to be just friends with someone if one of you wants more, especially if the other person knows you want more. There will always be disappointment and misunderstandings.

    My advice is to dust yourself off and not talk to your ex anymore. You're not a fool, just naive to think you could turn to him like a friend.
    When are women going to face the fact that they don’t know their own bodies as well as men who have heard things?

    Don Langrick
    Bonsai Culturist
  • LotsawavesLotsawaves Posts: 8,660Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Mrspoppers, is right on.
    From Michael Berg:

    Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
  • ProblemChild84ProblemChild84 Posts: 40Registered Users
    Yep, I couldnt change my ex-fiance for nothing..things just got worse and worse...well mom said guys are alot more immature than women....what can I say?
  • LotsawavesLotsawaves Posts: 8,660Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Yep, I couldnt change my ex-fiance for nothing..things just got worse and worse...well mom said guys are alot more immature than women....what can I say?

    I don't he is really so much immature as he just isn't into her the way she is into him. I think he threw the friend card at her as not to hurt her as much. She tried getting him to go back to her, when he wasn't interested. He should have been more honest & he shouldn't have resorted to calling her a stalking ***** or whatever it was that he called her. I think he thought she would get the hint, but she didn't.
    From Michael Berg:

    Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."