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How long did it take you to get pregnant?

Jess2316Jess2316 Posts: 617Registered Users
My hubby and I have been trying since I went off the pill in June. I'm starting to wonder if there is something "wrong" or if it's normal or what. Since going off the pill my periods have been more like 6 weeks apart rather than 4ish. Does that mean I'm ovulating later than the normal day 12-18 a woman would normally ovulate with a regular cycle?

When do we start worrying/get checked out?
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  • CGNYCCGNYC Posts: 4,937Registered Users
    Have you read Taking Chrage of Your Fertility? I think there's a website, too.
  • Jess2316Jess2316 Posts: 617Registered Users
    Nope, never heard of it! I haven't done a lot of research on the topic..I'm not one for reading a lot of books etc before starting something. I'm thinking maybe I should now though.
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  • Jenny CJenny C Posts: 1,195Registered Users
    I second reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility.

    I charted and got pg on the first try twice. Even though I had 28-30 day cycles, I ovulated around day 17 or 18, and had a short luteal phase. I would never had know that if I wasn't charting. I would have been having sex too early going by the standard O on day 14.

    It's all in the timing (assuming nothing is wrong of course).
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  • goldygoldy Posts: 5,455Registered Users
    I agree with checking out Taking Charge of Your Fertility.
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  • M2LRTooM2LRToo Posts: 446Registered Users
    I got pregnant right away after going off of the pill (literally 3 weeks later). I read the Taking Charge...book during that three weeks, and started charting my cycles, and ended up pregnant. So, I didn't really know what my cycle length was, other than I didn't ovulate until CD21.

    After he was born, I charted again...and I found that I didn't ovulate most of the time until CD21 or later, resulting in longer cycles, my longest was around 45 days, I think. It's just what was normal for me. With baby number two, it took us two cycles, but I was sick during the first cycle, so no nookie during ovulation. But I was also charting, so I knew when ovulation was, etc.

    I recommend reading the book, and checking out their site...it used to be called ovusoft.com, not sure if it still is.
  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users
    J~ What were you sick from?
    I was actually under the weather during our prime time & hubby was the one who convinced me...bam! sure enough, it was a winnah :D
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  • Jess2316Jess2316 Posts: 617Registered Users
    Guess I'll be doing some researching tonight!
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  • mad scientistmad scientist Posts: 3,530Registered Users
    Another recommendation for the book! Its really important to know how your own cycle works if you are trying to get pregnant.

    My first was conceived in the first month. With my second, it took about 6 months, but I have really long cycles so it was the 4th cycle.
  • M2LRTooM2LRToo Posts: 446Registered Users
    J~ What were you sick from?
    I was actually under the weather during our prime time & hubby was the one who convinced me...bam! sure enough, it was a winnah :D

    Hmm...I think it was like a stomach flu or something, I don't specifically remember.
  • geekygeeky Posts: 4,995Registered Users
    Jenny C wrote: »
    I second reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility.

    I charted and got pg on the first try twice. Even though I had 28-30 day cycles, I ovulated around day 17 or 18, and had a short luteal phase. I would never had know that if I wasn't charting. I would have been having sex too early going by the standard O on day 14.

    It's all in the timing (assuming nothing is wrong of course).
    +1 on the book.
    I also have late ovulation and a short luteal phase, which I never would have known without the book. Got pregnant within about 3 cycles both times.
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  • LoloDSMLoloDSM Posts: 3,778Registered Users
    We got pregnant the first month after I went off the pill.

    We had gone to my OB beforehand for pre-conception counseling. He said to come back for fertility testing, etc. if we didn't get pregnant in six months (if you're over 35) or one year (under 35).

    Good luck (and have fun)!
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  • The New BlackThe New Black Posts: 16,738Registered Users
    It took my parents 13 years. My mom's sister, 10. Their mom had 11 kids. Go figure...
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  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users
    It took me 3 years with my son. I had endometriosis and needed surgery. After the surgery it took me 2 cycles to get pregnant.

    With my 2nd child it took me 3 months.

    You do really need to know when your cycle is. I ovulate early like between CD9-11. I wouldn't wait to talk to your doctor. Go on in and make sure nothing weird is going on. He or she will also do some testing to make sure you are immune to everything (MMR, chicken pox etc). Good Luck!!!
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    If you've been trying since June, it's probably time to do something about it. See your doctor for a checkup, and possibly an infertility work-up, and also get the book recommended above, which will really help you pinpoint ovulation.

    Also, be sure you're having enough sex. Every day is not too often, but do it at least every-other-day. All through the cycle.

    I got pregnant on the first try with my first 3. With my 4th, I was still breastfeeding the 3rd, and didn't get pregnant til she weaned. I got pregnant on the first cycle after weaning.
  • shellibeanshellibean Posts: 4,500Registered Users
    DAMN RCW- you are one fertile-myrtle!
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  • PoodleheadPoodlehead Posts: 6,959Registered Users
    18 months with #1. 9 months after weaning for #2. 11 months after weaning for #3.

    I am the anti-RCW. :lol:

    With #1 we tried Clomid (including internal ultrasounds) for a while but I didn't like it, and got pregnant 5 months after getting off it.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    shellibean wrote: »
    DAMN RCW- you are one fertile-myrtle!



    I am. Those last 2 babies were at ages 35 and 38 too. That's why the old man is neutered.

    Now that I no longer need the uber-fertility, I wish I could pass it along to someone who would appreciate it more than me.
  • cymprenicympreni Posts: 9,609Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    geeky wrote: »
    Jenny C wrote: »
    I second reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility.

    I charted and got pg on the first try twice. Even though I had 28-30 day cycles, I ovulated around day 17 or 18, and had a short luteal phase. I would never had know that if I wasn't charting. I would have been having sex too early going by the standard O on day 14.

    It's all in the timing (assuming nothing is wrong of course).
    +1 on the book.
    I also have late ovulation and a short luteal phase, which I never would have known without the book.

    Could have said this. Took me about 18 months with both. But we weren't charting or doing anything special just having a lot of fun.

    According to the book there are several things you can do on your own or problems you can identify that could possible save you a lot of the big stuff. Always best to try the less evasive stuff first.
  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    One time unprotected sex - two weeks after stopping the pill. It wasn't on purpose. I thought I was ok because I heard it took a while for fertility to return. Yeah, right.
  • PeppyPeppy Posts: 3,290Registered Users
    19 years and counting.

    We've seen tons of docs and they all seem to agree that you should start seeking help after a year.
  • LoloDSMLoloDSM Posts: 3,778Registered Users
    Peppy wrote: »
    19 years and counting.

    We've seen tons of docs and they all seem to agree that you should start seeking help after a year.

    I'm sorry, Peppy. That sounds very hard.
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  • BrewCrewGrlBrewCrewGrl Posts: 442Registered Users
    I agree Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler is great! It gave me more insight into my cycle and I think all women should read it even it not trying to get pregnant.

    We are having our two year anniversary of trying to conceive this cycle, won't be celebrating :( Big Hugs to you Peppy.
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  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    It took me 3 years with my son. I had endometriosis and needed surgery. After the surgery it took me 2 cycles to get pregnant.

    Same here. I had undergone fertility treatment for my second pregnancy but wasn't successful until I had my endo removed AND switched fertility doctors. I had the surgery in August, switched REs in September, and got pregnant with my first daughter in October. That was the longest it ever took me.

    Other pregnancies were easier. With two pregnancies, it took us two cycles and with the other two, we got pregnant on the first try.

    Toni's book was really useful for me as a reference guide. I was very familiar with my cycles, just from how predictable they were.

    I think you need to figure out if/when you're ovulating, so you can time intercourse better. It's all about timing. I don't think it could hurt at all to just see your OB/GYN to discuss your concerns.

    Also, this is a great website for support and information.
  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users
    Peppy wrote: »
    19 years and counting.

    We've seen tons of docs and they all seem to agree that you should start seeking help after a year.


    I am so sorry.
  • goldygoldy Posts: 5,455Registered Users
    {{{hugs}}} Peppy
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  • sarah42sarah42 Posts: 4,034Registered Users
    Now that I no longer need the uber-fertility, I wish I could pass it along to someone who would appreciate it more than me.

    I know exactly what you mean. It seems unfair. Like my friend who has always longed to have 5 children--she and her hubby went through 3 unsuccessful rounds of IVF. Their story does have a happy ending because they have their first daughter through adoption and are working on a second adoption.

    Hugs to Peppy and best wishes to the original poster. You've gotten some good advice.
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  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    Big hugs, Peppy and BrewCrewGirl

    To the OP, I also think you should buy TCOYF and try charting and/or using ovulation predictor kits. That way you will know if you are ovulating and when in your cycle it is occurring. Have sex at least every other day, like RCW said.

    I've heard that if you are under 35, you don't need to get checked out until it's been a year, so you might want to call your doctor and find out if they will see you yet. If you are over 35, I think you are supposed to call after 6 months.

    Good luck, I hope it happens for you soon! :)
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  • PeppyPeppy Posts: 3,290Registered Users
    iris427 wrote: »
    I've heard that if you are under 35, you don't need to get checked out until it's been a year, so you might want to call your doctor and find out if they will see you yet. If you are over 35, I think you are supposed to call after 6 months.

    You are correct. I was under 35 when we started trying so that's why I had "a year" stuck in my head.
  • 22sunny2222sunny22 Posts: 22Registered Users
    inherited curls & medussa--how did you guys know to get checked for endometriosis? i've always thought that maybe I've had it...how long did you try before you got checked for it? If you have it, does it automatically mean that you'll have trouble with infertility?
  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    22sunny22 wrote: »
    inherited curls & medussa--how did you guys know to get checked for endometriosis? i've always thought that maybe I've had it...how long did you try before you got checked for it? If you have it, does it automatically mean that you'll have trouble with infertility?

    The only time I had trouble conceiving was with my second pregnancy. I had a laparoscopy about 1 year into trying without success. The specialist found "very superficial endometriosis," not worth lasering off.

    By the time I had my second laparoscopy (2 years later), the endometriosis was at stage II and I had a huge chocolate cyst on one of my ovaries. It was never confirmed but I suspect that years of fertility drugs made the endometriosis grow much faster than if I had been cycling unassisted. I had the second surgery in August 2003. I haven't had any trouble conceiving since.

    Here are some signs that might point to you having endometriosis. But a definite diagnosis can be made via surgery. My symptoms, along with my inability to get pregnant prompted my specialist to do the laparoscopy.

    Sunny, have you been trying without success?

    Big hugs to all the curlies who have been struggling with infertility. It's a heartbreaking thing to go through.
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