Over 40 Forum
In the general hair discussion forum, it has been brought up getting a group of us together who are over 40. Would it be possible to add a separate forum covering this? Not that we don't appreciate the tips from all the younger women(in fact they are the ones who probably set all of us in the right direction); but it would be interesting to exchange hints, tips, ideas from those of us who are older, especially since I think we are a smaller contingent and it's difficult to pick out posts specifically geared towards us and by us.
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I think a similar question was raised before, someone wanted an over 40 forum (can't remember who) and I think it was Roquinne who said she liked that we are all different ages. Of course, she said it much more eloquently than me... But anyway, I just think that could separate us instead of uniting us.
This is only my opinion, of course.
Sharon
But won't that start to isolate us? We could all end up having our own forums: teen forum, over 20 forum, over 30, 3as, 3bs, 4's etc... I like that we are all different ages and all have different hair types.
I think a similar question was raised before, someone wanted an over 40 forum (can't remember who) and I think it was Roquinne who said she liked that we are all different ages. Of course, she said it much more eloquently than me... But anyway, I just think that could separate us instead of uniting us.
This is only my opinion, of course.
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It might isolate us to a small extent. I can't imagine any of us not going to the General Discussion Board for everyone's ideas most of the time. I just thought that we might like occasionally to ask a question or get a suggestion from someone close to our age who might be experiencing the same problems. I am sure sometimes some of the younger women prefer ideas from women in their own age group.
It might isolate us to a small extent. I can't imagine any of us not going to the General Discussion Board for everyone's ideas most of the time. I just thought that we might like occasionally to ask a question or get a suggestion from someone close to our age who might be experiencing the same problems. I am sure sometimes some of the younger women prefer ideas from women in their own age group.
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Okay....maybe I'm dumb, but what does age have to do with which gel, shampoo etc. works. Not trying to be sarcastic here. I just think that if a 16-year-old is having good luck with a product, why wouldn't it work for me? I'm 33. I just don't see why there would be any logical use for a separate forum.
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Us old ladies can get specific with thread topics.
the last time someone suggested it, one of the teens piped in that there should be a teen board too.
don't divide - unite.
there are all kinds of places on the net with specific discussion groups for "women of a certain age". this is for curly hair - it's our common element.
and this goes for non-hair discussion too.
it's strange - but when i've specifically asked for help on things from the "older" curlies, i get very little input from them, even when i put in the topic that i need help from the over 40s...
Im torn between yea and nay....
Lets face it we are all here for our curls!
I would love to share info with other mature curlies. It was fun while it lasted.
I would even like to see our ages posted in our profiles.
I love this web site!!! Ronda
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But, seriously, I think that if you do decide to go with an over 40 forum, than you need to be prepared to give others their own forum who request it as well. That way it will be fair to everyone.
Sorry, I don't mean to sound so bossy.
i thought that anyone who had a question, concern or needed advice etc.. can post on the different forums and the person who "regardless of age" that had something to say, advice, or had a simialiar experience "regardless of age" will post a reply, we are on a honest system here so if a 20 year old does not know anything on the subject she/he would not post a reply and if a 45 year old who can contribute, advice or had a similar experience would post a reply....
I personally don't think is fare to isolate age groups like that...not for nothing but like someone else mention - gels, shampoos, makeup tips, marriage questions, female questions, man issues, woman issues pertain to all ages and frankly products do not have age differences!...and the advantage is that you get a point of view from different a age group..and the old generation learns from the young curlies and vice versa!
And personally munchkin not to attack you or anything -but most of the advice here and the discussions apply to ALL AGES!
just my .02 cents
Maybe what we can do is post our ages in the profile section - so that way when someone older is reading and it applies to them they can verify if its coming from a young, or an older curly girlie
I understand seeking advice from your peers, but to alienate yourself from the younger curlies..??? Maybe you could be more specific in the questions you ask..stating that you would like feedback from curlies your own age. But frankly, I don't see why the fact that I'm 28 has anything to do with whether or not you should take my advice. Curlies your own age can give bad advice just as easily as I can! (Not on purpose of course!!!)
And for the comment that younger women don't think twice before spending their money...what on earth would make you think that?? Sometimes I think 3 or 4 times before I spend. I think age has very little to do with how quickly we do or don't spend and how much we spend.
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I know you said you were done, but just in case you check back...
I for one am very interested in learning about menopause. It would be nice to benefit from what you and others are going through. The women I know don't seem to talk about this other than to admit to the occasional hot flash.
As far hair loss, I had no idea.
Oops, I guess I kind of got a little off topic.
While I am at it, I just now noticed that you are also from PA.
Munchkin,
I know you said you were done, but just in case you check back...
I for one am very interested in learning about menopause. It would be nice to benefit from what you and others are going through. The women I know don't seem to talk about this other than to admit to the occasional hot flash.
As far hair loss, I had no idea.
Oops, I guess I kind of got a little off topic.
While I am at it, I just now noticed that you are also from PA.
I am back to respond to Shorty. I guess menopause has been my main concern for an over 40 forum. Do all these changes affect your skin? your hair? Do things you have been doing for years suddenly not work? This is where I am at in life and would like feedback on this. As far as hair loss, yes, it is a concern for a lot of women. The news story indicated several million women a year after menopause face the loss of hair, and that it is even harder for them to deal with than men -- probably because we are all so used to having great heads of hair for so many years, or we all (at least I do) think our hair is who we are to some extent. This particularly interested me because my mother, who had a tremendously beautiful head of thick hair, suddenly found it getting very thin in her 50's. Since entering her 70's, she has hardly any on top; you can see right to her scalp. Right now I am sitting here with a lot of hair, lot of curls, am 51 yrs old, just starting change of life, and wondering just what lies ahead for me. Maybe nothing, maybe a lot. I would love to hear from other NC members who are facing this stage of their life and have found possibly products that worked last week, don't work this. (P.S. They did say if you got to a dermatologist as soon as discovering hair loss it can be reversed in a lot of instances.)
And yes I am from PA; in fact, not far from you. We go to Pittsburgh several times a year. Just went twice this summer to the new PNC Park (which is fabulous) to watch the Pirates (they did even win once while we were there).
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Anyway, how bout posting some of those concerns at the non-hair board. Or, maybe a menopause forum?
Oh, I will start responding to you in the non-hair forum. I think I've taken enough space up over here.
Curly hair is particularly challenging in this regard, because curls are associated with youth, playfulness, fun, being funny, wild, looser, etc etc.
We older women are supposed to look more serious.
In the "straight-hair" world, as women get older they tend to either wear their hair up, or to cut it short. Beyond a certain age it is no longer appropriate to attract so much attention to hair - this is considered too overtly sexual, or too playful, or simply too uninhibited as a woman gets older.
I have found here that this is not well understood by the majority of the posters that I've come in contact with so far. Hasn't been a particular problem - other than the fact that many suggestions for managing curly hair result in hair styles that I can't get away with in my professional life
It would be nice to hear from other women who are faced with stringent appearance requirements how they handle their hair. This is definitely my most pressing concern. My hair is a BIG challenge for me in my professional life. If I were home all day, my decisions about my hair would be very different.
I suppose I could ask this question on the General Discussion board, and name it with a topic name that would alert the over-40's (and other women with this concern).
I guess if there were an over-40 group, it would be easy to go to that board and quickly read through all the topics. As it is now, I would have to search for this topic.
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