Natural misconceptions

Mocha Chai.Mocha Chai. Registered Users Posts: 14
Post some misconceptions, beliefs you had or others have told you as you went through your natural journey.

I just thought of this as I was just sealing my hair and flat twisting it, when my sister walked into my room. She asked me how did I get my hair like that. Thinking nothing of it, I told her I just washed it. She rolled her eyes and asked me what I really did to it, so I told her. After a moment of hesitation, she asked me if I could do her hair. I stopped my twisting and looked at her.

When I started my transition four years ago, she was the first to tell me that:
- you don't have "good" hair, so it won't grow w/o a relaxer
- b/c you don't have good hair, the only way you can wear your hair is either in locs, braids, bald, or in an afro, and god knows mom won't let you wear it all nappy.
- you're gonna end up relaxing again, because transitioning is too hard.

It just made me chuckle looking back on it, now that she and my mom like my natural hair alot. Only thing that was slightly true, was the last one, as my transition was difficult b/c I barely knew about healthy hair care, and my hair broke off at the line of demarcation lots, so my transition went on for 2 years.

Post yours!
- Co-washing it with...whatever my hair likes best, DC-ing every week or so, bunning/twisting it for growth & thickness, and got to trim that heat-damage :c
- No heat for a 1 month challenge...doing baby steps.

6 month comparison!


  • HipsterSoulHipsterSoul Registered Users Posts: 1,017
    when i first went natural, i had the misconception that all kinky/curly hair was the same. I also had the misconception that b/c it was natural, it would be very strong. Of course, it is stronger, but natural hair is very delicate also and you cant just go combing through it with a small comb like you can with straight hair. I also had the misconception that the hair i had when i first bc'd was the hair that I would have forever, but no it wasnt, it changed alot in texture.
  • Wild Curls Raquelle Wild Curls Raquelle Registered Users Posts: 793 Curl Neophyte
    Samielle1 wrote: »
    when i first went natural, i had the misconception that all kinky/curly hair was the same. I also had the misconception that b/c it was natural, it would be very strong.

    I second this. My hair was more fragile with a relaxer in it. I also had this misconception that it would grow like over night because it didn't have the bad stuff in it.
    confused curls
    addicted to henna

  • SuburbanbushbabeSuburbanbushbabe Registered Users Posts: 15,402 Curl Neophyte
    When the hairdresser who texlaxed me said I should let my hair go natural, I thought my hair didn't have the "right texture" to hang or have definition of any type other than frizz and bush. Turns out she was right.

    You must shampoo your hair or else it won't be clean

    I didn't think ingredients mattered all that much.

    I would look unattractive, sick and old with gray hair.
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    My FOTKI -

    Playing with my hair is a hobby. Fluffy, fine natural 4a. Goal= Healthy, beautiful hair that retains its length.
    Hear that crash? It's me falling off the CG wagon.
  • mojitochicamojitochica Registered Users Posts: 136
    I thought water wasn't good for your hair :dontknow:
    My fotki
    Hair type: normal, thick, highly porous, low elasticity
    Current products: castor oil and water
  • afrodominican1afrodominican1 Registered Users Posts: 650
    Misconceptions about natural hair is what kept me from going natural before now.
    I was told:
    My hair was nappy, unruly, too much work, and that i needed a relaxer for it to grow.

    I thought:
    I could use the same products i used when i relaxed
    I could wash my hair every week like when i was relaxed
    I could "grease" my scalp for it to be "moisturized"
    My texture that I had when i bc'ed would be the same as my hair grew.
    I would never make it through my transition and will relax again

    I am happy that I learned the truth about natural hair.
    BC: 2/16/08
    Second BC: 12/22/10
    Dreads!!! 2/16/2014
    Third BC:3/22/16
    Goal Length: waist length

    Princess Tiara, Guardian of the Crystal Heart of the Indigo Seas, in the Order of the Curly Crusaders
  • danrobin0313danrobin0313 Registered Users Posts: 186
    Ha.. so many misconceptions..

    1.I thought all oils were equal.. no idea that there was a difference in mineral oil vs. olive oil vs Crisco LOL

    2.The only natural styles were locs, braids or fro.. no idea that even hair that wasn't "silky" or a 3b or above could have a curl pattern

    3. Thought I could continue to use the same products I used while my hair was relaxed.

    4. Natural hair was instantly healthy once the relaxer was gone.. no idea I would have to take some much time and care and $$ in order to keep my hair healthy. Although now that I have a routine.. it doesn't cost much or take much time.

    5. Frizz never even crossed my mind.. I had never experienced it and thought it was something unique to my lighter (white) sisters.

    6.Wash N Go was literally "Wash N Go" Not Wash...Condition...Wash...Leave In.. Butter... Gel...Shake...Go :lol:

    7. All Natural Women are Militants.... this is totally not true. I just want healthy, chemical free hair just like so many other women.. nothing more or less.

    8.All curls are the same... Wow.. I was really ignorant in this regard. Waves, Coils, Curls, Naps... 3b, 3c, 4a, 4b .. it gets complicated. :happy7:


    Falling in love more and more each day with my natural hair :love4:

    Current rotation: Shescentit anything, Qhemet Burdock Root Buttercream, Castor Oil, Olive Oil, Hairveda Whipped Jelly, Aussie Moist and Aussie Gels

    Stats: Grazing APL, Dense, Medium Strands, 3c-4a curls
  • Sunyata B. Sunyata B. Registered Users Posts: 105
    -that my natural hair was the same texture as my newgrowth while perming(which is why I never seriously considered going natural for years)

    -I could use all the same products that I did while permed

    -that curly/coily hair only came in one size/texture

    -that it would be less time consuming and less expensive. On wash/detangle/twist day it takes forever :-(, but the rest of the week I'm just sealing my ends. Overall it is less expensive, but I am spending more when looking at individual products.
  • PrtyNCurls08PrtyNCurls08 Registered Users Posts: 85
    The misconceptions I had in regards to natural hair were:

    1. Natural hair was considered to be locks, braids, or an afro.
    2. Wash-N-Go literally meant wash your hair and head out the door!!!
    3. Naturally curly hair were for folks of mixed races or black folks with the "good" hair.
    4. Kinky hair meant "brillo" hair texture.
    5. Too much water dries out the hair.
    6. Natural hair on Black women are the same (Wow, I was not even on the same planet with this train of thought!!)!
    "...capturing a vision fair..." since 1908.

    Last Relaxer: March 2008
    BC: November 2008


  • Alice_42 Alice_42 Registered Users Posts: 791 Curl Neophyte
    1) Drugstore brands are just fine for natural hair no matter what's in them!
    Yeah, I don't really know where I got it.

    2)It's easier
    Not really, when I texlaxed it was literally: spray water on hair, put leave in conditioner + gel in, leave.

    3) Natural hair=bad hair=rough, dry, unmanageable, not cute

    4) Finding products isn't hard!
    WHAT WAS I THINKING! Finding products that I can get in stores is such a PAIN. It doesn't help the nearest beauty supply store is far away :(

    That's all I can think off right now, I'm 99.9% sure there are more though.

    Last relaxer: August 2008
    Big Chop: December 2008/January 2009
    Blog: Alice in Nappyland
  • jessie57888jessie57888 Registered Users Posts: 43
    I thought water wasn't good for your hair :dontknow:
    i thought i was the only one who ever believed this.
  • KitathenaKitathena Registered Users Posts: 1,666 Curl Neophyte
    Goodness where do I begin?

    I thought I could just wash my hair, and not have to put anything on it anymore...(well maybe some juices and berries like on Coming to America!)

    I thought I could comb my hair dry

    I thought my hair would be less work

    I thought i would not look right with braids and twists
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    My fotki pw:hair
  • mariag002mariag002 Registered Users Posts: 3,557 Curl Neophyte
    I thought I could just grab any product and it would work for me. It took me one year to find my "holy grails" and even they change as my hair grows.

    I thought my hair would be easier to manage. Wrong! Its just more fun to deal with. I'm still learning but I'm hoping it will become easier with time.

    I didn't know about shrinkage. I had no idea my hair would shrink so much. I REALLY thought that my BSL hair would be BSL curly hair. Not! :lol:

    I thought I was going to really like my hair. Not even close, I LOVE my hair. I look in the mirror and think to myself, hair this sexy should be illegal! :tongue3:
    - Maria

    Big Chop: 9/23/07
    Relaxer free for almost 5 years!

  • afrodominican1afrodominican1 Registered Users Posts: 650
    I look in the mirror and think to myself, hair this sexy should be illegal!
    So funny but so true! your hair is gorgeous!
    BC: 2/16/08
    Second BC: 12/22/10
    Dreads!!! 2/16/2014
    Third BC:3/22/16
    Goal Length: waist length

    Princess Tiara, Guardian of the Crystal Heart of the Indigo Seas, in the Order of the Curly Crusaders
  • KinkyPJKinkyPJ Registered Users Posts: 297
    I thought going natural would be cheaper. I guess it can be but I love trying new products and layering products, which is pricey.

    I also thought the only way to go natural was to buy a flat iron. LOL, seriously, I flat ironed my hair for three years straight until I found

    I thought I'd never be comfortable enough to rock a fro in public, now I's dying to fro it.
    It's supposed to be hard. If it wasn't hard, everyone would do it [:afro:]. The hard... is what makes it great. -- Tom Hanks in A League of Their Own

    If you judge people, you have no time to love them. -- Mother Teresa
  • nikkidanniellnikkidanniell Registered Users Posts: 235 Curl Neophyte
    OK here were mine:

    I thought Oil was a moisturizer.. now I understand its more of a sealant (always wondered why I would load my hair with oil and it still felt crispy)

    I thought I wouldn't like my texture so my intention was to keep my hair straightened- this went out the window the first day I wore my hair out and it rained like hell after I paid $50 for a press...

    thought it wouldn't be attractive to wear it out in a fro or twists, etc.

    Thought the folks at work would be looking at me like :shock:- I was wrong.. most co-workers love my hair and ask me for advice and some of them have been natural longer than I have!

    Didn't think ingredients mattered

    Thought the so-called miracle products (ie: Miss Jessies) would make my hair look exactly like the models .. Now I know it's more about techniques and moisture than it is expensive prods..
  • hippychichippychic Registered Users Posts: 4,673 Curl Neophyte
    1. thought natural hair meant locs, braids or picked out fro only; never coils/curls
    2. thought only shampoo got your hair clean because you just had to have mucho lather for clean hair
    3. thought you had to comb or brush your hair into submission
    4. thought hair was hair, never knew about hair types, textures
    5. never thought one head could have more than one hair type
    6. never thought I would turn into a hair project junkie and that it would be so much fun :tongue3:
    LOIS (OS); cottony, TYPE 4 hair, fine/med strands; no cones bcz my hair hates them; last relaxer '98; now low porosity:?, ignores most natural hair rules; BC #8

    faves: suave, v05 shampoo, conditioner (my own), raw shea butter, castor oil, peanut oil, aloe juice
  • dsg-girlycurlydsg-girlycurly Registered Users Posts: 343
    I thought:
    • water was my hair's enemy
    • my hair would have grown down to my elbows by now.......:dontknow:

    4A&B -- Henna and the entire Essential Balms product line; lately Carol's Daughter honey mimosa & black vanilla leave-in. Staple products are SheaMoisture, Aubrey Organics and Trader Joes Norish Spa conditioner, ACV and IC Fantasia Gel. I'm also Mixtress (I love making my own hair concoctions :glasses9:)

    Be encouraged -- Cuzz Fuzz is what it Duzz!!

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