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Guys who cross their legs

Anthro IncarnateAnthro Incarnate Posts: 555Registered Users
Why do some guys cross their legs? I'm not talking about the perpendicular cross with foot shooting out into space (the "guy" method). I'm talking about the traditionally lady-like leg crossing, one leg over the other, both feet aiming down.

Is there really a gender norm, or have I just been around too many macho people (the kind of men who would say crossing legs is "gay")? Is it a European thing? A comfort thing? I don't like crossing my own for too long, because it makes my legs fall asleep, and I don't even have...stuff...that would get smushed.
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  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
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  • Rebecca deWinterRebecca deWinter Posts: 2,254Registered Users
    to me, it seems like men that are around my age (25) and a little older, and a little younger, cross their legs the guy way.

    men that are over 30 seem to cross the other way.


    this is just what i've noticed in my own experience, so i'm sure there are a lot of exceptions.

    maybe it's just more comfortable to sit fully crossed for some guys.
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  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    I've never noticed a pattern of who has said this, but I've heard many people say things to the effect of showing the bottom of your foot like that is rude/uncouth. I've also always thought either sitting spread-eagled or with one leg crossed, somewhat spread-eagled is kind of... crude. It's like "here, check out my junk!"
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  • SariaSaria Posts: 15,963Registered Users
    I'll take a man who crosses his legs over one of the rude, inconsiderate jerks who sit with their legs as open ad possible as if their boys will suffocate if they don't. I can't tell you how many times I have been on the train squeezed against the end of a seat because the idiot sitting next to me gets to feel comfortable with his legs spread as much as humanly possible while sitting down.
    And I actually can't think of any young guys who cross their legs in either fashion. Only older men seem to.
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  • BoomygrrlBoomygrrl Posts: 4,940Registered Users
    It used to annoy me on family trips. I have two older brothers who would sit with their legs wide open. I had to sit in the middle, because I was the youngest. We rode in a sedan...not in an SUV (this was in the time before SUV's existed). Let's just say, I find sitting wide, especially in limited space is rude.
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  • midgimidgi Posts: 2,409Registered Users
    Sairis wrote: »
    I'll take a man who crosses his legs over one of the rude, inconsiderate jerks who sit with their legs as open ad possible as if their boys will suffocate if they don't. I can't tell you how many times I have been on the train squeezed against the end of a seat because the idiot sitting next to me gets to feel comfortable with his legs spread as much as humanly possible while sitting down.

    I COMPLETELY agree! I find it extremely rude when men sit like this as well, ESPECIALLY when someone has to sit next to them while they do it.
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  • subbrocksubbrock Posts: 8,212Registered Users
    im not sure who does it or why, but i know its hard for me to cross my legs the lady way. well maybe its not hard, but i find it uncomfortable. i cant imagine how not fun it would be if i had junk in between my legs...
  • LotsawavesLotsawaves Posts: 8,660Registered Users
    Men crossing their legs "lady style" is unattractive to me. Way too feminine for me. I prefer the way Bush is sitting compared to Obama. That's the only thing I prefer about Bush.
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  • wild_sasparillawild_sasparilla Posts: 4,306Registered Users
    It doesn't look feminine to me if there's no feminine body language around it - it just looks polite. Sitting with your legs wide open and your foot up in the air is just, to me, unacceptable when you're anywhere important. It looks to me like the man who's doing it wants people to think he's too cool for this and he's just gonna chill.
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  • LotsawavesLotsawaves Posts: 8,660Registered Users
    I just feel that if they can cross their legs like a woman then they may not have much of a package.:confused1: If a man is in a crowded space then he can just sit with his legs together without crossing them. I agree the wide leg thing in a crowded bus, etc is rude. Same goes for a woman. Hopefully, women don't sit like this...Ever....
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  • texascurlytexascurly Posts: 1,967Registered Users
    Lotsawaves wrote: »
    I just feel that if they can cross their legs like a woman then they may not have much of a package.:confused1: If a man is in a crowded space then he can just sit with his legs together without crossing them. I agree the wide leg thing in a crowded bus, etc is rude. Same goes for a woman. Hopefully, women don't sit like this...Ever....


    I once had a boyfriend who often sat with his legs crossed like a woman, and he had ample package...trust me!:toothy7:
  • LotsawavesLotsawaves Posts: 8,660Registered Users
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    Maybe so, but it just creeps me out. I guess I just like more of a macho man. If he crosses his legs like I do, then it bothers me.
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  • merynmeryn Posts: 1,806Registered Users
    Lotsawaves wrote: »
    I just feel that if they can cross their legs like a woman then they may not have much of a package.:confused1: If a man is in a crowded space then he can just sit with his legs together without crossing them....

    :lol: I associate it with not having enough muscle mass in the thigh area. If they can comfortably cross their legs, they're a little too skinny for my taste.



    plus it just looks... prissy. :silent:
  • Yes, Still PaulaYes, Still Paula Posts: 485Registered Users
    I think it's common among taller men (though not limited to them). Maybe it's more comfortable for some men to sit that way. Both Bush and Obama are tall, so it doesn't surprise me to see them sitting that way. Funny, it also seems common for men to sit that way when they wear professional attire.....
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    Lotsawaves wrote: »
    I just feel that if they can cross their legs like a woman then they may not have much of a package.:confused1:


    Um...not true, in my experience. I've noticed that really tall or lanky guys are the only ones able to sit fully crossed in comfort. The tall guys often have big junk.

    I own a tall man who sits full crossed...this is how I know. ;)
  • CurlyCurliesCurlyCurlies Posts: 1,641Registered Users
    This doesn't bother me as much as seeing all the young guys around here wearing skinny jeans. I feel like something is wrong if there is a remote possibly that I could wear my guy's jeans...
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  • CsaracCsarac Posts: 861Registered Users
    Lotsawaves wrote: »
    Men crossing their legs "lady style" is unattractive to me. Way too feminine for me. I prefer the way Bush is sitting compared to Obama. That's the only thing I prefer about Bush.

    Agreed. It makes me so uncomfortable that I can barely look at a man who sits like that - I don't know why, it's just one of my "things." Maybe I am just used to seeing men sit the more "manly" way because that is how all my uncles, male cousins, brother and bro-in-laws sit.

    As far as the train goes, that to me is a completely different animal - I never sat next to a man who crossed his legs in ANY way on a crowded subway (in the over 15 years I took the train) but I have sat next to them when they spread there legs so far apart (with both feet still on the floor) that is squished me. That is just a douchebag move, IMO, I mean, COME ON!
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  • Bill.SiggyBill.Siggy Posts: 1Registered Users
    So I think I got an answer for you. don't know if it helps. but my son sits that way. So I asked him why. My son is 36 years old, has 6 children and has been married to his wife for 16 years. He has a large frame stands 5'9" 200 pounds, athletic build. More than sure they have had their ups and down in their younger years. needless to say they are happy now in their older years...LOL. My son is very intelligent. He's a very funny guy. He does anything for his family. He can cook, build homes, rebuild cars, play instruments, take care of children, sew, bake, crochet, very good carpenter, he does masonry, works on electronic, plumbing, electrical, also was a marine for over a decade and, much more but than blowns me way because he believes in plural marriage and that woman are the true powers of the world....weird. sometimes I wonder if he's even mine...JK. at times it just amazes me, how he is so divers but extra good hearted at his core. Any-who-dee point is, when asked. he said it does get tight down there. but is has tricks to lift them prior to seating. he says when he doesn't seat like that even with whitey tighties on it feels like his whole package is dangling in the wind. He said it feel better pulling them up and using the thighs to support his package vise just hanging. he also said men who are young and "balls haven't dropped" can't sit that way because their package is to small to maneuver that distance and will get crushed. It was a funny conversion. but makes sense. he also stated just because some men especially older and wiser men sit that way doesn't mean their gay. but be careful not to get confused but watch for the flamboyancy. the hand gestors, palm up talking, and high pitch voice because those are usually dead give away of the confused gender...LOL. his words. he also stated he has nothing to prove to no one because he done enough for this country and could careless what people say about how he sits. but don't get any liquid courage, or wild hairs, because he has no problem shoving a spoon into a person heart right through the gaps of their rib cage. I take it mainly people have asked him that question to many times. P.S. he did add showing the bottom of the sole is very disrespectful and dirty. My 2 cents. hope it helps
  • Jessica.WileJessica.Wile Posts: 74Registered Users
    I don't think it makes them gay, but the thought would cross my mind. I think it can be a cultural thing too. Among the heterosexual, I think you'd see far more of it in the UK, France, Italy, etc than you would the US. Our perception of masculine is somewhat different.
  • BotticelliBritBotticelliBrit Posts: 2,075Registered Users
    I've seen lots of guys sit with their legs crossed in England. I've also seen it a lot in Korean and Japanese TV shows. I don't see how it has any kind of connotation either way. I guess it's comfortable for some guys, uncomfortable for others. Just like for girls - lots of my friends cross their legs, but I hate doing it.

    I don't think it makes a guy any less 'macho', nor do I think it's a 'feminine' way to sit. They're just crossing their legs, LOL. What's the big deal?
    I think you'd see far more of it in the UK, France, Italy, etc than you would the US. Our perception of masculine is somewhat different.

    ^^ Agree above. America does seem to have rather . . . ridiculous notions, when it comes to this sort of thing.
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  • BluebloodBlueblood Posts: 1,748Registered Users

    ^^ Agree above. America does seem to have rather . . . ridiculous notions, when it comes to this sort of thing.

    To be fair there are certain "man bags" you can have in the Italy which are considered feminine in the UK.
  • CatitudeBooCatitudeBoo Posts: 525Registered Users
    Lol, never gave it much thought either way. I just don't care. Btw, this is a rather funny & random thread to bump 7+ years later.
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  • DedachanDedachan Posts: 1,644Registered Users
    I dated a guy from Madrid who crossed his legs that way. He was tall but not lanky (he had a naturally broad physique without being athletic, but not fat in anyway). And by no means "small".