Spinoff: Changing last names...

The thread about being old fashioned had me wondering what other people did/would do if they got married? I didn't change my last name and will probably hypenate my kids' last name (in the event that we have any). What did/or will you do?
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Sarah
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Why would you have to give up your middle name? Wouldn't you just be first name middle name maiden name husband's last name?
The harsh-sounding, 3 syllable, 8 letter, highly Germanic maiden name just doesn't flow, with or without my "real" middle name.
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At work I hyphenate. Both my last names are short and so hyphenated they are still shorter than many other peoples one last name. I did this because I publish in my field and so I wanted a connection to my work/thesis that were pre-marriage and those after.
I'd never hyphenate. My Eastern European last name is difficult enough on its own.
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But it gets to be pretty long, so I only use it on official documents. I'm known as firstname husband's last name, and when I sign I'm first name middle initial husband's last name, and the maiden name gets completely dropped.
That's what happened with me. I've been married for 6 years and I still have stuff in my maiden name, including my passport. When things expire then I think about getting the name changed... I'm just always sure to carry my marriage certificate with me when I travel.
I was ambivalent about DH and I having the same name. But I do really like the fact that my son and I have the same name.
Girl, I already have five names, and they're all long!
Yeah, it does help that my husband's last name is far easier to spell and pronounce than my maiden name, plus it's just prettier. I was just telling him over the wekeend that if he'd had a last name like Echevarria I wouldn't've been able to take it because I can't say it right.
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Ms. Maiden Name.
See, to me that's confusing.
I don't mind calling you Jane Smith, but if your son is Joe Jackson, I'd rather my kids call you Mrs. Jackson, so they know who you are in relation to your child, who they already know.
I can be introduced as Ms. So and so. And once I have met someone (adult or child) I do prefer to be addressed by my first name. I don't find it disrepectful at all.
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I have a friend whose mother was recently divorced because her husband was abusive. My friend still goes by that last name, but I have no idea if her mother does. She's now dating, so should I call her Mrs. Last name of ex-husband, or what?
I'm always sort of embarassed to ask people how I'm supposed to address them.
Sarah
"And death is at your doorstep
And it will steal your innocence
But it will not steal your substance
But you are not alone in this"
“My ability to turn good news into anxiety is rivaled only by my ability to turn anxiety into chin acne.” - Tina Fey
I have a very Hispanic name and an English name sounds horrible with my name. I also already have 4 names and don't want to give any of them up. Five names is too much for me.
Children will have my last name as one of their middle names. For example my son's name is Daric Jose mylastname dadslastname.
Right, but my kid would be Joe Smith Jackson, so they would get the connection....
So, that being said, I will keep my own name. My children can hyphenate or take both (my last name is very simple, so if I marry someone with a simple last name we will likely do one of these), or take the husbands name. I will know my kids are mine, I don't feel the need to stamp them with the label of my name.
And now, and when I'm married, if your child or any other human being needs to address me formally they can call me "Ms. MyLastName".
Aside: I also don't like the use of "Mrs." or "Miss". I don't think it's anyone's business if a woman is married or not, and it should therefore not be used as part of your name!
Why not ask your friend what to call her mother?
Sometimes divorced women do keep their ex-husband's last name if it's the same as the name of the kids.
I always thought my friend's girlfriend was Irish because of her last name, but it turned out to be her ex's name, and she was actually Russian.
Edited to quote the post I was referring to.