›
CurlTalk

How long do you wait...

MintMint Posts: 1,143Registered Users Curl Neophyte
in Non-hair discussion
...before dropping the L-bomb? I know lots of people who say "I love you" very shortly into a relationship, but I think it's wise to wait a while. What do you think?
2a/M-C/ii hair. Super long.

Comments

  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    i'm sort of lame in that I wait for the guy to drop that bomb first.

    For me, I have to take time to make sure that it's actually love and not the whole rush and infatuation of something new and exciting. That dopamine can make me a bit goofy.
    Kiva! Microfinance works.

    Med/Coarse, porous curly.
  • merynmeryn Posts: 1,807Registered Users Curl Novice
    redcelticcurls wrote: »
    i'm sort of lame in that I wait for the guy to drop that bomb first.

    Not lame, really smart. I do the same thing.

    My current SO said it after about 2 months. He was over at my apartment, making this incredible seafood pasta dish. I said something about "I love your cooking.", he looked over me and said "I love YOU." :love7:
  • SarahMarieSarahMarie Posts: 901Registered Users
    I think I was with my boyfriend for about 4 months when I said it. That's when I felt it. He didn't say it to me until about 2 months later, but I would rather him wait to say it when he meant it and not just because I said it to him.
  • MintMint Posts: 1,143Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    redcelticcurls wrote: »
    i'm sort of lame in that I wait for the guy to drop that bomb first.

    For me, I have to take time to make sure that it's actually love and not the whole rush and infatuation of something new and exciting. That dopamine can make me a bit goofy.

    Me too! LOL.
    2a/M-C/ii hair. Super long.
  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    I've only said it once (in a romantic sense - I tell people I love that I love them, including friends, regularly), and not very far into the relationship. I'm not sure timeframe... But I've dated other guys for months without saying it. I just wait until I believe it. One of my friends told me that since love is an emotion, there are different levels of it perhaps, but if I believe I love someone - I do. Made sense to me...
    The pews never miss a sermon but that doesn't get them one step closer to Heaven.
    -Speckla

    But at least the pews never attend yoga!
  • LotsawavesLotsawaves Posts: 9,777Registered Users Curl Virtuoso
    I never say it 1st.
    From Michael Berg:

    Every person has a unique connection to the Creator that can never be extinguished, and every person has a great soul that can manifest important things in our world. To make a person feel less than they are because of something inside themselves, be it faith, race, or sexual orientation, is the greatest sin of all."
  • ninja dogninja dog Posts: 23,780Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I said it first with my ex. It felt wonderful.

    As to timing, I guess I've said it whenever I'm sure I feel it, although come to think of it, as redcelticcurls said, that dopamine rush usually kick-starts my emotions.Something to watch in the future.

Leave a Comment

BoldItalicStrikethroughOrdered listUnordered list
Format
Heading 1Heading 2
QuoteCodeSpoiler
Emoji
:):D:(;):/:o:s:p:'(:|B):#:*<3o:)>:)
Url
Image
Align leftAlign centerAlign rightToggle HTML viewToggle full pageToggle lights
Drop image/file
Home • Non-hair discussionComment As ...

Howdy, Stranger!

It looks like you're new here. If you want to get involved, click one of these buttons!

Sign In Register
New DiscussionExpand for more options.

Quick Links

Categories

Edit My Account View My Public Profile Logout