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why choose curly?

I am not sure in what forum this post actually belongs, but this forum usually has the most viewers.

So, with all the straight haired models, and examples of 'bad curly' in the media/personal lives (from hall of shame discussion) why do you choose curly?
In other words, where do you find your curl confidence?

I do it because it is easy, well easier than blow drying and straightening.
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  • MimsTXMimsTX Posts: 3,482Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    lol, I like being "different". My hair's the most distinctive thing about me, really, so I choose to play it up as much as possible.

    Whenever my hair's straight, I feel like I just blend in with everyone else. But rocking a bog ole head full of enormous bright red curls? No way in heck i'm blending in, even if I want to :P
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  • tulipantulipan Posts: 209Registered Users
    true_curl wrote: »
    I am not sure in what forum this post actually belongs, but this forum usually has the most viewers.

    So, with all the straight haired models, and examples of 'bad curly' in the media/personal lives (from hall of shame discussion) why do you choose curly?
    In other words, where do you find your curl confidence?

    I do it because it is easy, well easier than blow drying and straightening.

    Why?

    I started to wear it curly, because of my boyfriend. When I started to do it, I realized that I feel much more better with curls. I wore straight hair when I didn't like myself. Now I see that curls fit to my personality. The most important thing for me is that curly hair don't have ONE form. This form is changing during the day, and day by day. Curls are diffrent every day. I'm diffrent too. I don't want to jail them with gel or something. I don't want them to look perfect - whatever it means. I want them to be and that's all.

    Show me something interesting in straight hair? If you find something it is probably original hair-toy;) Straight hair is nice, shiny and...straight. I don't see anything inspiring. Sorry.
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  • curlylexcurlylex Posts: 104Registered Users
    I do it because it is me. It is who I am, how I am made - a gift from my curly Scottish ancestors.

    I don't look like myself straight-haired - it actually bothered my husband, the 2 times I have tried in the last 10 years... Also, I have baby-fine hair - to do anything other than leave it curly destroys it, so not really like I have other good options - if I want healthy hair, anyway.

    I have never been that influenced by others and not that inclined to look the same or "fit in". I have always noticed that it sets me apart, yet to do otherwise would not be true to myself.
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  • CCsMamaCCsMama Posts: 92Registered Users
    Well, IMHO, the media and the world at large is wrong and just jealous that they don't have a beautiful head of curly hair like we all do!

    I've only been doing CG for a short time, but it has made me feel so much better about myself and my gurls. I feel a lot more in control of them and I feel like I wear my hair instead of my hair wearing me!
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  • TillyMunchyWavesTillyMunchyWaves Posts: 671Registered Users
    I'm not choosing anything.

    My hair is wavy. It is what it is.

    If I straightened it, then I would be choosing to be straight.

    Also, it would take possible up to an hour to straighten every day (I am just guessing, I have never straightened in my life.) Why would I spend so much time fighting with myself? Leaving my hair wavy takes 5 minutes.
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  • whatsercurlwhatsercurl Posts: 4,049Registered Users
    I started wearing my hair curly because I was tried of bad haircuts, perms, straightening and frizz. But more importantly because I found out I was a curly. I didn't know until my hairstylist told me curly hair needs moisture.

    I stayed curly because of how much more curly hair is me than straight hair.
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  • Katina128Katina128 Posts: 560Registered Users
    I don't see any need to fight nature. It's what I was given, what I was born with, and I don't see any reason to go against it. I like being different, too. I don't fit the model mold anywhere else on my body, so why try with my hair?
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  • mrl234mrl234 Posts: 548Registered Users
    I was tired of trying to make my hair do things it isn't meant to do. It looks a lot healthier and prettier now that I've started CG and let the natural texture come through. Naturally straight hair can be lovely, too - if it's healthy. My hair just isn't healthy when continually made to look that way.
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  • newcurlynewcurly Posts: 1,310Registered Users
    I originally chose curly because I didn't want to fight summer humidity. I thought, "I'll go curly for the summer and start straigtening in the winter." My curls just bounced back to life after a few weeks, though, and I found mornings SO much easier. Since I have to be at work as early as 5:30 some days, it just made sense.

    I also love that by wearing my hair curly, I'm connecting just a tiny bit more to my family and my roots. My dad's parents both had 3a/3b hair and my dad is probably a solid 3a. Between a straightie mom and curly dad, I came out with these slightly funky, loopy curls that I love!
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  • xxmisschrisxxxxmisschrisxx Posts: 223Registered Users
    i LOVE curly hair - not just because i have it, i honestly love how it looks. i think its cuter than straight hair, especially for me.

    its also easier, of course.

    i dont think i "chose" curly, it chose me.
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  • RawrSallyRawrSally Posts: 1,388Registered Users
    MimsTX wrote: »
    lol, I like being "different". My hair's the most distinctive thing about me, really, so I choose to play it up as much as possible.

    Whenever my hair's straight, I feel like I just blend in with everyone else. But rocking a bog ole head full of enormous bright red curls? No way in heck i'm blending in, even if I want to :P

    I've never been one to run with the pack. My music is different, my thoughts are different, my personality is different, so now my hair is different.
    I mean, I have always loved curly hair. I've always wanted curly hair. It wasn't until I went through puberty and cut it that I realized it was curly. Needless to say, I was excited. But of course, I had no idea how to deal with it, so I straightened it for years and years. I found this website, and that all changed. I hid my straightener away and it has been gathering dust since March.

    I find that curly hair makes me feel more confident, it matches my personality, I don't care if it's humid anymore. Sure, I don't like that my hair poofs up like cotton, but it's alright. I like my voluminous, insane curls. I always felt boring with straight hair. And I am far from boring.
  • KindaWavyKindaWavy Posts: 383Registered Users
    i LOVE curly hair - not just because i have it, i honestly love how it looks. i think its cuter than straight hair, especially for me.

    its also easier, of course.

    i dont think i "chose" curly, it chose me.


    I love curly hair, too. In my case, I chose it, definitely by the time I entered elementary school. I couldn't have been more enamored when I realized, into my thirties, that if I treated my hair better, my hair would actually wave- and sometimes even curl- all on it's own. I wouldn't really say it's easier for me. Heck, I've got probably 25 years of practice with the curling iron, hot rollers, and pretty much any other device one can think of to make hair curly. But I sure am glad to have the option of scrunching some gel in, and leaving it go at that.

    I know that many, many people like straight hair. It's definitely had a run of being the "in" style. And sure, sometimes it can be pretty on some people. But the bottom line, for me, is that it's just not aesthetically pleasing. I'll always wear my hair curly in some way, shape, or form. Always have.
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  • SariaSaria Posts: 15,963Registered Users
    Because I'm a hair-styling moron. Seriously. I have no clue about using a blowdryer. My mom used to give me such a hard time about how she can do rollers on herself no problem and that it was something I needed to learn because she was tired of doing it.
    I can have straight hair, but only if someone else does it for me. And paying to sit at the hair salon waiting for my turn, getting rollers and sitting under a dryer for 45 minutes to an hour, then enduring the torture of a blowout is a lot more work than just going with my naturally curly hair. Nevermind the fear of so much as sweating when my hair is straight, and the fact that it starts to curl up slowly but surely after a couple of days. So, I'd have to be straightening my hair pretty much every week, and I can't even begin to imagine doing that.

    I liked my hair when I eventually realized it was curly, though I still didn't know how other people would react to it, because I can't recall seeing anyone who had hair as curly as mine and with as much volume anywhere near me at the time.
    Years later, and I still considered straight hair a better look for me, especially working with people who seemed to have no understanding of something other than straight hair existing in this world, and that it's supposed to look different.
    Heh, occasionally I'd strut with confidence when I knew I was having a rockin' hair day. Now my good hair days are about a million times better than they used to be, and I love to walk about with my big hair bouncing every way. It just feels like me. :)
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  • msjananimsjanani Posts: 624Registered Users
    I have a lot of reasons.

    I started wearing my hair curly more often because my boyfriend liked it. But I've stayed curly because I like it. It's me--I look all wrong when I straighten my hair now. When I have my hair flat-ironed "for a change" I'm constantly fighting with it, messing with it, trying to get it to look "right" but really, nothing can really help, because straight hair just isn't me.

    I see my curly hair as a big part of my identity, right up there with being a woman of color or a political leftist. It's a statement for me, not just a look.

    It's no coincidence that coming into my own as a woman, gaining confidence, and becoming the person I wanted to be directly coincided with my acceptance of the texture of my hair. It is, quite literally, my crowning glory.

    I love having the kind of hair that makes people stare. I like being described as "the Indian girl with the curly hair." I like that in wearing my hair curly I'm "sticking it to the man," expressing myself, and being my natural self all at once.
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  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    Why curly? Because that's what God gave me.
  • curlycue82curlycue82 Posts: 92Registered Users
    Interesting answers...especially the 'I don't choose it' ones...sure, God gave curls, but we choose to wear them, right? I mean, by choosing to NOT iron/blowdry/heat style out the curls, then we are, in effect, choosing curls.

    No?

    Anyways, just wondering, I feel like curls reveal a part of my identity too, and are inherently tied to who I am, plus, I am a styling bone head (until this recent too short haircut, I couldn't even use bobby pins) so it is easier...but I think it is easier because it is mine.
    :)

    Does that make sense?
  • ReddishRocksReddishRocks Posts: 779Registered Users
    For me, it's a cultural identity thing. I'm a natural redhead and an Irish stepdancer. The bouncy curls accentuate the dance movements, and lots of girls wear curly wigs to get the look. I'm not crazy enough to hope for ringlets with my 2c tendencies, but if I could be a solid 3a, I would be the envy of my dance troupe. ;)

    There's something magical and powerful about a redhead with curls... she's dangerous and exciting. :)

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  • mycolorfulheartmycolorfulheart Posts: 158Registered Users
    I never really knew how to care for my hair before, so when I wore it curly it was kinda limp, dry, not attractive. I cut my hair a couple months ago and it's been growing pretty fast, but I went through an awkward phase where it didn't look good straight. I also wanted it to grow out and everyone told me it would grow faster if I didn't use too much heat. So I started trying to wear it curly, and now I love it that way! I love that it feels healthy, and that it's 100% ME. I also love that it looks really unique and eye-catching. I've gotten so many compliments on it, I never got compliments on my straight hair.
  • FrizzBgoneFrizzBgone Posts: 2,678Registered Users
    Because its me ... and I am a true believer in that what suits you best is making the most of what you were given .... Anytime I've tried to fight the curls, I've always been sorry.

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  • discobugdiscobug Posts: 404Registered Users
    I agree with MimsTX, I like to be different. I never followed the crowd in high school, and I still like to go against the flow, do what's different. I absolutely think God gave me curly hair b/c He knew when He created me that it was part of personality and that I like being different. Too bad it took me so long to embrace it!
    I'm actually going completely curly now that I've found a good routine and my hair is behaving, having good spiraly curls. I usually curl the front with an iron to smooth it out and style it to make it look a little more "tame" in the front, but today I went totally nuts and let it do whatever it wanted.

    So there you have it, that's my explanation!
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  • ArcanaArcana Posts: 68Registered Users
    I love my hair curly. When I straighten it, as many others here, I don't feel like I look like me. My curls make me stand out, and they make me feel beautiful. To me there is something so romantic and free about curls, and I've always loved them. My curls are always me, no matter whether they are perfect or full of frizz (besides it's easy enough to toss it up in a messy bun type thing with a few tendrils, and that always gets compliments no matter how bad my hair looked before hand!).
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  • Morgan_AdcockMorgan_Adcock Posts: 2,573Registered Users
    Well, I have a lifetime of experience in the frustration of denying my curl. Given how much time, effort, and discomfort I've gone through trying to make my hair fit into whatever the current style (always some version of straight) was, I can't say that it's laziness. I love that it's much, much easier to care for my hair now that I know about Curly Girling, but I think it's more about having healthy hair, and knowing now how to get out of its way, so I can let it get on with doing what it does best. It never did anything else well, and it's wonderful to learn that it can be great.
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  • RyanneRyanne Posts: 686Registered Users
    Well, I never straigtened my hair so wouldn't now how that looks.. (I always refused offers to straigten it)
    Because curly hair is just a part of me, though I sometimes wish for straight hair. I wouldn't change in.
  • FeedYourHeadFeedYourHead Posts: 236Registered Users
    Why curly?

    For me, my hair is MUCH lower-maintenance curly than it ever was when I straightened it. I had (bad) haircuts every six weeks to "cut against the curl" when I wore my hair short and straight. I blow-dried my hair to a crisp at the ends with a metal round brush and a hot hair dryer to straighten it. Then I gunked up my hair with lots of products designed to keep it straight. (So much for "wash-and-go"!)

    Now, most days, I scrunch with FOTE and go! A couple times a week, I co-wash and condition. And as a special treat for my hair, I might feed it a hair mask or some honey. But overall I spend a lot less time "doing" my hair.

    I also like it that my hair is "wild," that it won't ever be fully tamed or controlled. It gives me something to aspire to ;)

    There's another reason I wear my hair curly now: I realized I needed an attitude adjustment regarding my hair when my father (a 3a like me) lost his hair to chemotherapy. Missing the hair on his head, while hating mine, didn't make any sense anymore. Dad's cancer was the catalyst for my CG journey.

    When Dad died, I didn't inherit any money from his estate--it all went to doctors in the end--but I did inherit his hair, and now I can look at it in the mirror every day with love.

    Like the cherished legacy it was intended to be.
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  • CelebrationCelebration Posts: 134Registered Users
    I chose curly in part because of my mom. She raves about my curls - always has. Whenever I straighten my hair she wants to cry. But I also chose curly because I can't straighten my hair by myself. It is too coarse and thick. I could never seem to get it right. Finally, I chose curly because I think my hair looks much more healthy when it is curly. When it's straight, it looks a lot duller for some reason. Like others, I feel that curly hair chose me and I could either go with what God gave me or spend the rest of my life fighting a losing battle.

    It makes me sad that some people get picked on because of their curls. I've gotten some comments here and there, but nothing that would ever make me want to hide behind a straightening iron for the rest of my life. We have a right to be who and what we are.
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  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users
    Nothing else about me fits the societal beauty ideal, so why should my hair? Besides, I like my hair.
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  • AprilnUtahAprilnUtah Posts: 519Registered Users
    I love my curly hair, and so does my DH, and everyone in my family too.

    Curly hair is sexy and interesting.
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  • Gemini13Gemini13 Posts: 5,000Registered Users
    I didn't choose curly- it's just the way it grows out of my head, lol. Honestly, I don't pay much attention to what's "in." Being a biracial woman who's only 4'10", I could never look like a typical model even if I wanted to. I'm into keeping most things more or less natural.
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  • onethousandcurlsonethousandcurls Posts: 1,118Registered Users
    Because I finally realized that setting the trend is way more fun than following it.

    And straight hair NEVER sticks out in the crowd like curly heads do.

    For the record, I was at a football game last Saturday, and every single girl in the stands I could see had straight hair, mostly by flat iron (you can definitely tell!). It's just...boring. A whole row of flat, blunt edged hair. I like never knowing how my hair will dry!
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  • tattooedmommietattooedmommie Posts: 145Registered Users
    This has been a great thread to read.

    I have to admit, unlike a lot of people in the thread, I haven't liked my curls (until just a few days ago!). I only tried going curly because I was exhausted from always straightening and worrying about the weather and if I got in a shower or a bath or a pool or anything, what my hair would look like.

    After just a week of curls, I love them and have no plans on going straight again!
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