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I'm tired of fighting him to comb it!

Kinky DayShaKinky DaySha Posts: 528Registered Users
:sad5:So my 13mo old curly boy was lucky enough to be blessed with an abundance of hair. In my family, we don't cut the hair until 1yr old. Thanks to his dad (he's half Jordanian), he's got hair to his shoulders when wet and not even stretched. He's got a curly afro when dry. And it doesn't help that he kinda looks like a girl already:).

Problem: I have to fight to comb the hair. I cornrow it from time to time, it takes an hour for 5 or 6 measly braids. I will put it into a ponytail, which reinforces the girl-thing. I let him wear the fro which my husband adores, but then it takes forever to detangle and he cries and cries(which is why this isn't my favorite).

I'm at my wit's end. How much should a boy have to go through just to have his hair done? I want to save him and cut it, by DH says no:argue:, and secretely I think he is so adorable and cutting would take away his personality. I have been sold by a relative that I should dred it or something, because if I cut it won't grow back the same.

What do I do? That's him in my avatar 4months ago.
Last perm 8/07, big chop 5/08, several mini chops since
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  • LikeAustraliaLikeAustralia Posts: 2,812Registered Users
    If he's 13 months, he's past the 1 year mark, so if it's causing that much trouble, get it cut. Cutting it will not change how it grows - remember, it grows from the root, not the end.

    I'd say cut it. He's a baby. He wants to be happy and comfortable and he certainly doesn't associate his physical attributes with his personality yet, so you probably shouldn't either. Why make him miserable just because it's cute? Chop chop :)
    :sad5:So my 13mo old curly boy was lucky enough to be blessed with an abundance of hair. In my family, we don't cut the hair until 1yr old. Thanks to his dad (he's half Jordanian), he's got hair to his shoulders when wet and not even stretched. He's got a curly afro when dry. And it doesn't help that he kinda looks like a girl already:).

    Problem: I have to fight to comb the hair. I cornrow it from time to time, it takes an hour for 5 or 6 measly braids. I will put it into a ponytail, which reinforces the girl-thing. I let him wear the fro which my husband adores, but then it takes forever to detangle and he cries and cries(which is why this isn't my favorite).

    I'm at my wit's end. How much should a boy have to go through just to have his hair done? I want to save him and cut it, by DH says no:argue:, and secretely I think he is so adorable and cutting would take away his personality. I have been sold by a relative that I should dred it or something, because if I cut it won't grow back the same.

    What do I do? That's him in my avatar 4months ago.
    Not Cindy or Sindy or Syndey or any other such abomination.
    It's Sydney, like Australia.
    Formerly known as SydneyCurl.

  • Kinky DayShaKinky DaySha Posts: 528Registered Users
    My husband has been fighting me and says absolutely not! Do I go behind his back and cut it anyway? I'm trying to wear him down, but to no avail. I don't wanna just go against him. But something's gotta give.:sad8:
    Last perm 8/07, big chop 5/08, several mini chops since
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    Current loves:Tressemme Nats, AO GPB, One and Only Argan Oil Hydrating Mask, Alba Botanicals Leave-in, KCKT, Qhemet BRBC & OHHB, Terresentials Mud Wash, Trader Joes Nourish Spa
    "Be the change you want to see in the world." - Gandhi
  • eweniqueewenique Posts: 1,502Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Are you trying to comb it when it's dry? If so, no wonder the little guy is miserable! Wet his hair throughly and load it up with a moisturizing conditioner when you have to comb it out. Don't go behind you husband's back! That would weaken your relationship with him by causing some loss of trust. You could suggest that he try caring for your son's hair so that he can see just how difficult it can be.
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  • LikeAustraliaLikeAustralia Posts: 2,812Registered Users
    My husband has been fighting me and says absolutely not! Do I go behind his back and cut it anyway? I'm trying to wear him down, but to no avail. I don't wanna just go against him. But something's gotta give.:sad8:

    I don't mean to sound harsh or ignorant, but I'm not really sure why it's such a big deal. Does your husband have long hair that takes him hours to detangle? Does he do your son's hair? If not, then he has no idea what it takes to maintain. Try to explain to him that, although you like how it looks, he is only a little kid and it really doesn't matter how he looks! He should be comfortable!
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    It's Sydney, like Australia.
    Formerly known as SydneyCurl.

  • Kinky DayShaKinky DaySha Posts: 528Registered Users
    Thanks so much for the advice. I talked to my DH and found out the reason he doesn't want to cut it is because he had long hair until he was 6 and wanted the same for Nuri. But he had dreadlocks. So we agreed to try dreadlock and if we dont like it, I can cut it. Happy medium. Yay!:thumright:
    Last perm 8/07, big chop 5/08, several mini chops since
    Fine, medium density, low porosity. PJ in recovery:angel12:
    Current loves:Tressemme Nats, AO GPB, One and Only Argan Oil Hydrating Mask, Alba Botanicals Leave-in, KCKT, Qhemet BRBC & OHHB, Terresentials Mud Wash, Trader Joes Nourish Spa
    "Be the change you want to see in the world." - Gandhi