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High school reunions

AmandacurlsAmandacurls Posts: 6,252Registered Users
Have any of you ladies gone to your 10/20/30, etc year high school reunions? What were they like? For those of you who haven't, would you go? My high school reunion is getting closer and I've always been really sure I don't want to go back. I had a bad hs experience and I really don't see how it would benefit me any. I am in contact with the people from high school that I want to be, I haven't lost touch with anyone that I want to keep in touch with. A lot of people keep telling me that I will regret not going. What are you ladies thoughts on hs reunions?
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  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users
    I have not regretted not going. Do I wonder what everyone looks like now? Sure...but, no one would recognize me or hubby anyway...so...lol
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  • cymprenicympreni Posts: 9,609Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I haven't gone, and I have no plans of ever going.

    99% of my friends were underclassmen or graduated already, the fews friends that were in my class I'm still in contact with. As for the rest of them, I don't care if I ever see them again.
  • gemini12gemini12 Posts: 146Registered Users
    My DH graduated from the same HS the year before I did and I have to say that I've had more fun at his reunions than at my own. I had several friends in his class that I didn't keep in touch and it's fun reconnecting with them even if it's just the night of the reunion. My class's reunions just always seem more tense or something but it's been worth it just to go and see the few friends I've lost touch with. But, honestly, it wouldn't be a big deal to me if I skip the next one.
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  • MizKerriMizKerri Posts: 1,701Registered Users
    I went to my 10-year. It was mostly lame but I did reconnect with a couple of people I'd lost touch with. Only one I still keep in touch with since then. I am glad I went, although if I go to my 20th I will probably leave my SO home, because he was so very bored.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    I skipped my 10th and 20th HS reunions, because I just wasn't over the trauma of high school well enough by then. I went to my 25th (3 years ago already, ack!), and it was a blast. It was a trip seeing all the young folks I remembered looking old. They all looked like themselves, just older. Good thing I didn't look any older. ;)

    Really...it was fun. I don't want to see any of those people on a regular basis, but it was fun seeing how they turned out as adults.
  • rileybrileyb Posts: 1,975Registered Users
    I went to my 10 - it was horribly planned. They did some kind of awful Monte Carlo casino night thing at some cheap hotel with bad lighting and ugly carpeting. There was no music and literally we all just stood in an ugly flourescent lit convention room and stared at one another.

    It was good to see some people though, and we had a good time anyway. Most of the women had gained a lot of weight and most of the men had lost a lot of hair, but for the most part people were the same. Except for the couple who announced they were now swingers and propositioned numerous people at the reunion. :laughing6:
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  • AmandacurlsAmandacurls Posts: 6,252Registered Users
    A big sticking point for me not going is knowing that most of the people who were such asses haven't changed, they might change by the 20 or 30 year reunion, but I've seen some of them around town and they still act the same. I work with a woman now who was 2 years ahead of me at the same hs and said that at her reunion a big majority of them still acted the same and were bringing up gossip and issues from hs. I just see my time as valuable and in going to something like that it would be a waste of time, money and stress. I would definitely go to my college's homecomings and reunions, but hs is a no go.
  • rileybrileyb Posts: 1,975Registered Users
    Yeah, if you had a bad hs experience, I can't see any reason to go. I liked most of the people I went to hs with, so I enjoyed myself, but it would have been torture if I didn't get along with them.
    I haven't got the slightest idea how to change people, but I still keep a long list of prospective candidates just in case I should ever figure it out.
  • MichelleBFTMichelleBFT Posts: 4,812Registered Users
    My graduating class organized an informal 5 year reunion and I went to that three years ago. It was lame, and if I had it to do over again I probably wouldn't go again. I'll probably still go to the ten year, though, as I'm a glutton for crap like that.

    My husband's ten year is this year, and I really want to go to that. I have no idea why, but I really, really do.
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    A big sticking point for me not going is knowing that most of the people who were such asses haven't changed, they might change by the 20 or 30 year reunion,


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  • SuburbanbushbabeSuburbanbushbabe Posts: 15,402Registered Users
    I went to my 25th or 30th. It was not bad; fun to see former cut-ups now upstanding citizens.
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  • AmandacurlsAmandacurls Posts: 6,252Registered Users
    A big sticking point for me not going is knowing that most of the people who were such asses haven't changed, they might change by the 20 or 30 year reunion,


    Even if they don't change, YOU won't care anymore by 20-30 years.


    Good point.
  • LoloDSMLoloDSM Posts: 3,778Registered Users
    I moved my before my junior year in HS, so I went to two schools. I will probably never go to another reunion for my second HS because I don't care about those people.

    As for my first one, I went to the 5th, 10th, and 15 year reunions. The 5th was painful because people hadn't changed enough. The 10th was better. By the 15th, it was downright fun to see many of the snotty girls had gained weight and were working crappy jobs; many of the good-looking guys were bald or fat; and many of the geeks and nerds were great success stories.

    I'm looking forward to my 20-year reunion now that I have a child so everyone can quit feeling sorry for me. :wink:

    I say go and have a good time. If it sucks, just make an appearance and then go have fun with your friends somewhere else.
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  • sarah42sarah42 Posts: 4,034Registered Users
    My 10-year reunion was last summer. I kind of wanted to go, but it ended up conflicting with a holiday my husband and I were planning. We ended up going to England and Scotland and skipped the reunion. A friend sent me some pictures, and it looked very lame. I'm so glad I didn't go--our trip was so much better.
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  • SpunkyCurlsSpunkyCurls Posts: 1,523Registered Users
    I went to mine after swearing up and down that I wouldn't because I was teased and picked on in high school. I went thinking if it sucked, I could take the party elsewhere and have fun.

    It was a blast. We had ours at a casino. People had grown up- well, except for one girl whom I don't even remember. I reconnected with a ton of people and though we don't really talk regularly, we had a great weekend and look forward to the next reunion. I was so happy that I went.

    My brother also didn't want to go to his but he's going to his this weekend. He had a change of heart after some friends contacted him and he decided it would be fun. I'm glad he's going.
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  • ninja dogninja dog Posts: 23,780Registered Users
    I didn't/haven't, but I've enjoyed hearing gossip from those who have.
  • deedlesdeedles Posts: 2,467Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    DH and I went to our 10th back in 2003 (yikes!) and it was okay (not great) my biggest complaint was almost no one had left our state and that they were all in the family businesses of parents (i.e. landscapers, firefighters, cops, teachers) another complaint is that most of the cliques hadn't changed one bit they all hung out together..

    I did enjoy one part sitting next to one of my old classmates (a guy) and his wife and him filling me in on all the gossip (divorces, drugs, alcohol) yep, and it all was the popular kids who went downhill!!!

    I did get an invite recently to a 15 year (why we are having one I don't know) DH and I aren't going as far as I know.

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  • Jess2316Jess2316 Posts: 617Registered Users
    I went to my 10 year. It was kind of interesting but I wouldn't say it was fun or exciting. Like many others I still talk to the people I want to talk to so I didn't really care if I saw anyone else, but in the end I'm glad I went. My best friend and I agreed to go together and leave together, that was the only way we were going!

    In high school I had a tendency to be friends with guys and I feel like those friendships didn't really carry over into the following years so I was glad to see a lot of them there. I also was able to chat with people I was friends with in middle school but grew apart from in high school. Everyone seemed pretty mellow and friendly so it was nice.

    We stayed a couple hours at the most and left.
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  • ursulaursula Posts: 1,461Registered Users
    I didn't go to my 5- or 10-year, but I may go to the 20-year reunion (which is fast approaching). The reunion committee set up a website for my 10-year, so I actually got to see how everyone looks now without having to go. :toothy7:
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  • Myradella3Myradella3 Posts: 2,481Registered Users
    I was on the planning committee for our 10th. The planning was more fun than the reunion. The last one was a three-day event. I chose to only go to the dinner on the last day.
  • StarrwithoutniteStarrwithoutnite Posts: 1,732Registered Users
    I dont plan on going to my 10. I lost touch with everyone for a reason. I may go to my 20 or 25 just for giggles. I do want to see everyone else get old while I stay young and fabulous! ;)
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  • papayahedpapayahed Posts: 1,282Registered Users
    My 20 year is coming up in a couple of months. I've been talking to my friends from hs that I'm still in contact with and none of us really want to go. There are a few people I wouldn't mind seeing but it's being held at Dave and Busters. It's $50 for appetizers, coffe, tea, and soda. NO OPEN BAR!!!! They are planning a girls night only (all girls school) the night before which I think I'm going to attend and skip D&B. The funny part is that we're hoping some friends we knew after high school are going to be at the bar moreso then anyone from hs.
  • Nappy_curly_crownNappy_curly_crown Posts: 4,162Registered Users
    My 10 year was just this summer and I didn't go. I didn't have a bad experience, but I just didn't feel the need to go and spend a lot of money to see people that I really didn't like while in high school. Plane tickets, rental car, clothes, hair, it all adds up. I spent the money that I would have used to go to my reunion and did something else and I was happy with that decision. My mom was upset with me for not going (she teaches at the high school that I went to) but I did what made me happy.
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  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    I went to my 10 - it was horribly planned.
    I didn't have a bad experience, but I just didn't feel the need to go and spend a lot of money to see people that I really didn't like while in high school

    ITA, and ITA.

    For our 10th, the same 'popular' crew that ruled HS planned the reunion. They planned an entire week. Some nights were for this, one night was for "family" where you could bring the kids, other nights were for that. It made absolutely no sense to me. WHERE were you supposed to leave the kids for the 'non-family' activities?

    I went to one of those "Find your classmates" websites and the same small group that was awarded all the special rewards at class assemblies and got all the class presidencies in HS were on all there, still talking only to each other and joking in code. Thanks, but no thanks.

    P.S. Upon further reflection, I highly doubt that ANYbody would recognize me, as I look absolutely nothing like I did in HS, having been a tiny, bespectacled, mute geek. I'm from a very small town and I see tons of my former classmates regularly. Of all the people I've seen from H.S. over the years, I'd say only one recognized me on sight.

    P.P.S. This isn't to say I haven't had fantasies of making a grand entrance in full makeup in a clinging gown with a plunging neckline, with a "Hello, my name is _______" sticker because I know nobody'd recognize me. I'll just say that looking like a 4th grader in HS definitely has it's benefits in later years LOLOLOL....
  • AmandacurlsAmandacurls Posts: 6,252Registered Users
    My 10 year was just this summer and I didn't go. I didn't have a bad experience, but I just didn't feel the need to go and spend a lot of money to see people that I really didn't like while in high school. Plane tickets, rental car, clothes, hair, it all adds up. I spent the money that I would have used to go to my reunion and did something else and I was happy with that decision. My mom was upset with me for not going (she teaches at the high school that I went to) but I did what made me happy.

    ITA with the bolded. I did have a bad experience in hs (don't know if I said that already, apologize if I did) and like you, I'd rather take that money and take myself to a spa or something. Maybe I'll go to the 20, we'll see.

    To put it in perspective a year or more ago I was at a local dance club/bar and a guy came up and started talking and flirting with me. At the time I didn't know, but he happened to be friends with one of the "popular" girls I went to hs with. When he walked back over to them she said "why were you talking to HER, she was such a dork in hs." We'd been out for like 6 years and she still has the audacity to say that about me? I was peeved, but considering the kind of person she is/was I didn't expect anything different.
  • BoomygrrlBoomygrrl Posts: 4,940Registered Users
    I went to my 10 year reunion and enjoyed it. I wasn't a popular kid, but I had some friends. What I liked...I know it sounds catty...but I liked the fact that we "regular joes" had such a blast dancing and cracking up, and the then "popular" kids looked bored.
    My 20 year reunion should be next summer...ack! Already!? NOOOOOO!!!!
    I'm a late bloomer...I just got married last year and am trying to get pregnant, so I don't know if I'll be able to go to the 20 year one, but if I do...I know I'll have a lot of fun.

    Many people looked pretty much the same, but some really surprised me...they changed a lot. Some of the "geeky" kids turned out to be successful, good looking men. Yay for geeks!!!
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  • BoomygrrlBoomygrrl Posts: 4,940Registered Users
    Amandacurls, when you talked about your experience about the girl calling you a dork at the night club, it reminded me of something.
    My best friend was kind of "dorkish" in high school...it's okay, because I was a total dork. Anyways, both of us are no longer dorks...Okay, maybe I still am a little....LOL

    Anyways, my friend wanted to help coordinate the reunion...and she overhead one of the popular girls say, "Oh no, not Shannon!" Luckily, the other popular girl that was coordinating it wasn't so catty and had no problem with my friend helping out. My friend was offended by that comment, but then realized that her life was so much better now and that it was sad for that one girl to still be like that. My friend helped coordinate a great reunion!!! Kudos to us dorks!!!
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  • CGNYCCGNYC Posts: 4,937Registered Users
    I went to my 5th and 10th and had a great time. I got to talk to people I hardly knew at all in high school (in our school, you picked a focus and could further specilize so I was in humanities, meaning I didn't have a lot of classes with someone in the sciences, so our paths hardly ever crossed) and some of them were living near me, so that was cool...I had new people to hang out with.

    I was really surprised by the handfull of people who apparently showed up just to talk about how stupid it all was and how dumb everyone was in high school and how these people STILL wouldn't give them the time of day. Well, perhaps if you weren't smirking at them and talking behind your hand, they might say hi.

    Edited - I just read some of the other posts. I'm not making a dig at everyone who hated high school. It's just weird to me that people show up and either a. complain that no one would talk to them (while they were giving dirty looks) or b. complain that "those stuck up *****es" tried to talk to me. Don't go if you're just going to be miserable, it's not worth it.
  • CynaminbearCynaminbear Posts: 4,476Registered Users
    I skipped my 10th because it was too expensive and we were going through a really bad time. About 5 months later I ran into one of my former classmates and she was incredibly rude. Called me fat in a round about way, which I didn't even get for a week. She claimed to be a model getting ready for a movie. I bit my tongue and didn't rudely ask if it was XXX.
    She tried pulling the same crap with my sister a little while later and my sis shut her down. I wish I could have seen it.

    I went to my 20th, sort of. There's a tradition of an informal bar meet-n-greet at a specific bar in town. My husband and I went to that, ran into some people but no one I was friends with during school. I went because I was curious about some classmates, but didn't get to talk to one of them. Found out I had a stalker in high school. While the guy was talking to me my husband was whispering funny things in my ear.
    They had a picnic for the families on a Sunday but it was about 100 that day so halfway there I decided to skip it and took my kids to McDs instead.
    I inadvertantly insulted 2 classmates trying to tell the story of that one classmate. They misunderstood me and I wish I could explain myself.
    I'll decide when the time comes if I'm going to my 25th or 30th.
    My dad said at the 10th everyone is busy trying to prove they're not what they were in high school, or for the popular kids, still like they were in high school. By the 20th most of them have changed enough to be actual humans.
    I went as a guest to a friend's 10th and had a blast. One of her friends had married one of my chemistry classmates so that was interesting.
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  • CGNYCCGNYC Posts: 4,937Registered Users
    My school also has a cool tradition of classes crashing each other's reunions. So your jrs and srs are likely to turn up, or at least a lot of them. Or if someone's brother was five classes ahead of you, he and some of his friends might decide to come and they'll call friends from other years and then you'll finally have a face to put with that "got sent to the ER for alcohol poisining the very first weekend" story.

    We have a very tight alumni group. One year I had seven or eight friends from my class staying for NYE and by the time it was over, there were about 50 of us from various classes and people tend to stay in touch. I have introduced myself to people in parking lots because I saw their bumper sticker or noticed their ring. I've only had one bad experience and that was last year. I met a current senior who was a *****, but I met her mother at the same time and she couldn't tell us fast enough how all her kids were "almost TOO gifted" and then she shared their various scores, so I'm guessing the *****y apple doesn't fall too far from the *****y tree.
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