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He suggested that I get a weave!!!!

aunatural1aunatural1 Posts: 156Registered Users
Ok, so I took my twists down lastnight to rock a twist-out for work.. didn't turn out so hot.. so I ended up throwing a headband on!

I admit that my hair still looked alittle wild (it was a flopped back fro)... but I got pissed when my (blk) superintendant suggested that I get a weave, so that my hair was more in place.. I WEAR A PHUCKIN BUN EVERYDAY.... I told him that I'm not getting a damn weave, and that my hair IS in place every other day! He said that when you have as much hair as I do, it would be best to get a weave so I didnt have to deal with it! :angry7: GEE, thanks for telling me how hard dealing with MY hair can be, u bald schmuck!!

What made matters worse.. is the fact that he mentions this in front of our closet racist! You know the guy... "My best friend is blk.." But in his case, "My moms best friend is blk, and she would kill me if I made a neg. comment about them.. and I grew up with her son!!"

Anyway. I joked that both of them rather I had a relaxer, so I looked more like them... As I pointed to the white guy! [laughs] He just said I'm light skinned, but not light enough to pass... :laughing7:... :angry7: I'll pass on that..
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  • danrobin0313danrobin0313 Posts: 186Registered Users
    aunatural1 wrote: »
    Ok, so I took my twists down lastnight to rock a twist-out for work.. didn't turn out so hot.. so I ended up throwing a headband on!

    I admit that my hair still looked alittle wild (it was a flopped back fro)... but I got pissed when my (blk) superintendant suggested that I get a weave, so that my hair was more in place.. I WEAR A PHUCKIN BUN EVERYDAY.... I told him that I'm not getting a damn weave, and that my hair IS in place every other day! He said that when you have as much hair as I do, it would be best to get a weave so I didnt have to deal with it! :angry7: GEE, thanks for telling me how hard dealing with MY hair can be, u bald schmuck!!

    What made matters worse.. is the fact that he mentions this in front of our closet racist! You know the guy... "My best friend is blk.." But in his case, "My moms best friend is blk, and she would kill me if I made a neg. comment about them.. and I grew up with her son!!"

    Anyway. I joked that both of them rather I had a relaxer, so I looked more like them... As I pointed to the white guy! [laughs] He just said I'm light skinned, but not light enough to pass... :laughing7:... :angry7: I'll pass on that..

    Whoa!!! That guy is so far out of line it is crazy. I hate when people try to tell me about MY hair. Keep on truckin' my fellow curly.. some people are just afraid of themselves.. you know :wink:

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  • jeamariajeamaria Posts: 1,851Registered Users
    aunatural1 wrote: »
    He said that when you have as much hair as I do, it would be best to get a weave so I didnt have to deal with it! :angry7: GEE, thanks for telling me how hard dealing with MY hair can be, u bald schmuck!!

    What made matters worse.. is the fact that he mentions this in front of our closet racist! You know the guy... "My best friend is blk.." But in his case, "My moms best friend is blk, and she would kill me if I made a neg. comment about them.. and I grew up with her son!!"

    Anyway. I joked that both of them rather I had a relaxer, so I looked more like them... As I pointed to the white guy! [laughs] He just said I'm light skinned, but not light enough to pass... :laughing7:... :angry7: I'll pass on that..

    LOL at the bolded! And you know something would be wrong if you started taking hair advice from someone who has none of their own (unless it was along the lines of "Don't do what I did?":wink:).
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  • SuburbanbushbabeSuburbanbushbabe Posts: 15,402Registered Users
    He was way out of line, especially as he's your manager. And to say it in front of someone else. Stupid jerk.
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  • subbrocksubbrock Posts: 8,212Registered Users
    what is wrong with people?? good Lord...
  • OnyxCabeloOnyxCabelo Posts: 1,767Registered Users
    jeamaria wrote: »
    aunatural1 wrote: »
    He said that when you have as much hair as I do, it would be best to get a weave so I didnt have to deal with it! :angry7: GEE, thanks for telling me how hard dealing with MY hair can be, u bald schmuck!!

    What made matters worse.. is the fact that he mentions this in front of our closet racist! You know the guy... "My best friend is blk.." But in his case, "My moms best friend is blk, and she would kill me if I made a neg. comment about them.. and I grew up with her son!!"

    Anyway. I joked that both of them rather I had a relaxer, so I looked more like them... As I pointed to the white guy! [laughs] He just said I'm light skinned, but not light enough to pass... :laughing7:... :angry7: I'll pass on that..

    LOL at the bolded! And you know something would be wrong if you started taking hair advice from someone who has none of their own (unless it was along the lines of "Don't do what I did?":wink:).

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  • kaymoorekaymoore Posts: 298Registered Users
    That bald guy is way out of line and does not recognize real beauty when it is in his face. Girl, keep your head up and do not worry about him. He is stupid! :sad8:
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  • forensic_curlychickforensic_curlychick Posts: 266Registered Users
    WOW..thats some ignorant ish. You and your hair are beautiful girl continue to rock your twist out
  • aunatural1aunatural1 Posts: 156Registered Users
    Thanks for the replies ladies.. Just wanted to share that with ya.. BTW.. the same guy told me that he doesnt like twists.. (when I had it professionally done too) Too ethnic looking for him!:sad8:
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  • latinegralatinegra Posts: 80Registered Users
    OMG! I want to kick his AS*$% for you!!! :evil1: I can't stand people like that, especially when it's a "brotha."
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  • KitathenaKitathena Posts: 1,666Registered Users
    Wow is your darker skin "too ethnic" for him too? I have no words. I'm glad you were able to keep your cool for the most part.
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  • empressriempressri Posts: 4,812Registered Users
    Tell him to p*ss off.
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  • eche428eche428 Posts: 2,782Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Every time I see this title I assume it must be your hair stylist. It's your freakin' BALD boss! WTF

    You really gotta wonder about some people. I sooooo wish you could just kick his azz!
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  • BugEyeZBugEyeZ Posts: 314Registered Users
    omg...this conversation took me back to the plantation. where the hell is mizz celie when you need her???
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  • eccentric_kurlzeccentric_kurlz Posts: 4,144Registered Users
    Oh he has some f-n nerve. I would have told him since he wanted me to get a weave so badly, how about he pay for it, and pay for me to get it kept up every other week or so for as long as I keep it in. People always have something to say about how you should be doing something, but never want to front the money to do so. Like you actually solicited his advice, anyway. LOL!

    That would have shut his ignorant a-s up. Stupid people....I swear.
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  • ninja dogninja dog Posts: 23,780Registered Users
    It stinks working with people who make personal comments. Is he even allowed to do so under the company rules? Jerk.
  • SuburbanbushbabeSuburbanbushbabe Posts: 15,402Registered Users
    If he keeps on making personal comments about your appearance, I'm thinking HR violation.
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  • ninja dogninja dog Posts: 23,780Registered Users
    ITA, SBB.
  • curlsrgreatcurlsrgreat Posts: 70Registered Users
    Wow....he was outta pocket for that comment..... way......very offensive
  • sam1082sam1082 Posts: 61Registered Users
    Your story almost reminds me of that one episode of Living Single, when Kyle's black boss told him he should cut his hair if he wanted to get the promotion, you know, thinking that would help him, but inevitably the other bosses didn't really care about his hair...

    I'm sure he THOUGHT he was helping you, maybe he's never met black women that actually LIKE their hair in its natural texture. I mean, to be honest besides myself and CNikki, I don't know anyone that actually tries to work with their natural texture, and hell, I JUST stopped pressing my hair a few weeks ago! Eveybody else I know is down with that chemical fire cream ... oops, I guess I been on NP too long:laughing7:

    Dont even sweat that dude, and keep it moving. Sometimes it's best to leave the ignorant ones alone for a while:wink:
  • aunatural1aunatural1 Posts: 156Registered Users
    sam1082 wrote: »
    Your story almost reminds me of that one episode of Living Single, when Kyle's black boss told him he should cut his hair if he wanted to get the promotion, you know, thinking that would help him, but inevitably the other bosses didn't really care about his hair...

    I'm sure he THOUGHT he was helping you, maybe he's never met black women that actually LIKE their hair in its natural texture. I mean, to be honest besides myself and CNikki, I don't know anyone that actually tries to work with their natural texture, and hell, I JUST stopped pressing my hair a few weeks ago! Eveybody else I know is down with that chemical fire cream ... oops, I guess I been on NP too long:laughing7:

    Dont even sweat that dude, and keep it moving. Sometimes it's best to leave the ignorant ones alone for a while:wink:

    There are alot of ppl here that compliment my hair! One blk guy even told me he wished his wife would do the same for herself and their daughter (no flirty type stuff)... So their young daughter (6) would have that "Black is beautiful" attitude!

    Anywho... we say just about anything in this office, so I just took it with a grain of salt, and ignored him. I was just annoyed that he said it infront of the white guy.. when he was one of the main ppl who complimented my hair when I was new! :sad8: Alot of white people already think we cant grow long hair, and wear weaves, why would u feed that?
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  • aunatural1aunatural1 Posts: 156Registered Users
    If he keeps on making personal comments about your appearance, I'm thinking HR violation.

    Girl, I was waiting on something else so I could call MEO (Military Equal Opportunity)! :wink:
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  • kdkd Posts: 291Registered Users
    :munky2: just stupid
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  • ShonesShones Posts: 244Registered Users
    Start documenting what's happening to you. Type it up and keep it at home (not at work) -- dates, exact situations, anyone who was present at the time these comments were made. You never know... you might need to present it one day. If he said things like this to you, what are the chances he said it to someone else (pretty high, I would guess)?

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  • aunatural1aunatural1 Posts: 156Registered Users
    Thanks for the advice, girl! =)
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  • mariag002mariag002 Posts: 3,557Registered Users
    If he keeps on making personal comments about your appearance, I'm thinking HR violation.

    I agree.

    Shones is right too. I would start documenting because had he been white he would've been fired.
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