creepy guy *update*
subbrock
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remember how i told you about my friend's SO/baby daddy who was texting me and just gave off creepy vibes? well he went full on creepy and basically proposed that we be hookup buddies! who does that?????? today he sent me a barrage of texts, some of which were very very very innapropriate.
ive decided against telling my friend about it because after talking to both of them, ive come to realize that she has to know about his constant infidelity and just chooses to try to explain away his inappropriate behaviors or ignore it.
i was really hoping that they werent both creepy, but that they did indeed sell amway. i will definitely be keeping my distance from him and distancing myself from her as well.
here is the original thread:
http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/showthread.php?t=48276
ive decided against telling my friend about it because after talking to both of them, ive come to realize that she has to know about his constant infidelity and just chooses to try to explain away his inappropriate behaviors or ignore it.
i was really hoping that they werent both creepy, but that they did indeed sell amway. i will definitely be keeping my distance from him and distancing myself from her as well.
here is the original thread:
http://www.naturallycurly.com/curltalk/showthread.php?t=48276
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letting my hair be natural again after getting it straightened. yeah yeah, im a traitor :pirate:
I was in a similar situation several years ago, and when his wife found out she was so pissed at me. I told her, I'm not the one who tried to get in my pants! But our friendship was pretty much ruined after that. Sucked.
There are some underlying issues there, that's for sure ...
BTW, I tend to think people in these types of situations always know something's up. They're just not facing it because it's too hard.
The decision to tell or not to tell is hard. But, if you feel she won't do anything useful with it, perhaps, it's for the best that you don't.
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the reason that i dont plan on telling her is that i know she wont do anything about it. like i think i said before, he cheated on his then wife with her and shes told me about at least one time he's cheated on her. she must have known he was up to something with me because just before i was going to tell her he had been texting me and sending me stuff on facebook, she made excuses for what he was doing in an attempt to save face.
i havent told my SO and im still debating on whether or not i should. i definitely dont want things to get ugly.
ITA! You've done her a favor that she won't appreciate now, but will think of you down the road when this relationship goes down the tubes. Maybe not. Unfortunately, there is a child involved.
AKA new2curls
Oh yeah she knows but doesn't want to believe. WHy do people do these things? Why do we women do this to one another???? Sigh...
you don't want things to get ugly? things have gotten as ugly as they can get, haven't they?
you haven't done anything wrong. and it's not your responsibility to shelter someone else's kids (by not telling) from family drama that was created by their own parents.
him having children wasn't enough to stop him from cheating or for her to take off her blinders, so you being totally honest with her isn't going to hurt the children any more than they already have been.
you should tell her person-to-person and sever ties with her. and you should tell your SO everything.
ETA: if this had been a one-time, out-of-character come-on that he'd made out of drunkenness, for example, i might say no one needs to know. but his liberties were thought-out and intentional and repeated. your friend and your SO need to know.