So, my daughter wants to meet me. (with wedding pics 5/7/11

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  • CurlyinColoradoCurlyinColorado Posts: 3,093Registered Users
    I am so happy for you!
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  • sarah42sarah42 Posts: 4,034Registered Users
    I'm so glad things are working out well!
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  • Koukla72Koukla72 Posts: 1,680Registered Users
    Edited due to a cyberstalker. Sorry, guys. :(
  • YolyCYolyC Posts: 3,758Registered Users
    I'm so glad it's going so well.
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  • automaticflowersautomaticflowers Posts: 3,465Registered Users
    Yay! Thanks for sharing an update with us! This is the best thread ever. :love7:
  • KeeweeKeewee Posts: 1,376Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Wow thats a great story, I am glad everything is going so well for you...
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  • LoloDSMLoloDSM Posts: 3,778Registered Users
    I'm so glad things are going well, RCC. I've wondered if you two kept in touch and how it was going. She sounds like a lovely young lady.

    What heartwarming story. :)
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  • CurliLocksCurliLocks Posts: 10,573Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I'm so happy to hear you two are building a relationship and enjoying getting to know each other. Thanks for updating.

    This is such a great, feel-good thread. :D
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  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Awesome! :)
    does she like football?
    
    :laughing7:

    Yes, she does! She is very much the Steelers fan. Good girl. :)

    Thank you all for your well wishes and support! It means a ton.
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  • anonnymouseanonnymouse Posts: 1,340Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    That's really great. I'm so glad things are working out the way they are!
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  • badgercurlsbadgercurls Posts: 3,077Registered Users
    How wonderful! I'm so glad things are working out so well. :)
  • QuirkyYoginiQuirkyYogini Posts: 569Registered Users
    That is just so wonderful! I had to stop reading a few times so I wouldn't cry. I'm so glad that it's working well for you guys.

    I also think it's neat that she is a wavie! Maybe your beautiful hair will convince her to embrace them!
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  • cyndicyndi Posts: 3,341Registered Users
    Wonderful news! I'm so happy for you.
    I think that I deceive genius.:happy10:
  • RyanneRyanne Posts: 686Registered Users
    I just finished reading your story, and I'm glad it worked out so great.
  • love yourself firstlove yourself first Posts: 5,398Registered Users
    I am so happy for you!

    I am too :)
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  • nynaeve77nynaeve77 Posts: 7,135Registered Users Curl Novice
    This is the coolest thread, RCC! I'm so happy that you're getting to have a relationship w/ your daughter and that it's nice and drama free. :)
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  • 2happy2happy Posts: 5,138Registered Users
    How wonderful!
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  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Something of an update...

    It was a year ago today that my daughter and I reunited in person.

    Things are still going well, and we keep in touch pretty regularly. Heck, we're texting right now about the "Meet the Birth Mom" anniversary

    Her Mom has mellowed out a lot and is no longer worried that I am going to try to step in and play Mom.

    I've met much of her family, and she has met mine and her Bio Dad's.

    Her college graduation was interesting. Her parents threw her a nice dinner where the rented out the top floor of local restaurant. Her family, my family, and bio Dad's family allllll showed up.

    I hadn't seen the Dad and his family in over 10 years. It was weird, but nice, to see them again. So many of her extended family cam over and chatted at length with both of us. Two of her young (5 ish) cousins love playing with me because I look like their favorite cousin, lol.

    I've been happy by the relative lack of awkwardness. I seem to have found a role that is part friend/part Aunt. She finds me to be too young to be a "real mom" of an adult, which makes sense since her parents and my parents are the same age.

    It's been a really great year building a relationship, and the support I have received here has been immeasurable. Thank you all.
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  • LikeAustraliaLikeAustralia Posts: 2,812Registered Users
    I'm so glad (re)meeting her and her family has turned out well for you, RCC. It's great that you are feeling like you have a role in her life and her family is accepting and welcoming. I hope this new relationship continues to blossom and bring you much happiness. :)
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  • JosephineJosephine Posts: 14,408Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    SydneyCurl wrote: »
    I'm so glad (re)meeting her and her family has turned out well for you, RCC. It's great that you are feeling like you have a role in her life and her family is accepting and welcoming. I hope this new relationship continues to blossom and bring you much happiness. :)

    Ditto. I'm glad everything is working out for you.
  • M2LRM2LR Posts: 8,630Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    RCC, I am so glad to hear that it's working out so well for you!!!
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  • rockthecurlzrockthecurlz Posts: 910Registered Users
    I'm happy for you and your new relationship. It is funny how things turn out. I know she is glad to have you in her life. Congratulations! :)
  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users Curl Neophyte
    Very :cool:...
    That's wild about her folks being the same age as yours...
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  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Very :cool:...
    That's wild about her folks being the same age as yours...

    Well, my parents are quite young to have a kid my age. They are 58 and 61.
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  • sassysuzannesassysuzanne Posts: 501Registered Users
    What an awesome story. Congratulations RCC. Your daughter looks so much like you, it must have been a little weird. Same hips, stance, smile, wow. My best friend is adopted and she would love to meet her birth family. Unfortunately, she came from an orphanage in China and will probably never have the opportunity. My hats off to you for making such a difficult decision at such a young age and for handling all of this so well....
    Suzanne

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  • CurliLocksCurliLocks Posts: 10,573Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Thank you for the update. :) I'm glad you have found a niche and are building a relationship with her. Happy Anniversary! :)
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  • Jess the MessJess the Mess Posts: 5,844Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Boomygrrl, I thought about you when I noticed the mannerisms. :)

    I guess it's something most "regular" parents take for granted at some point, but it was so weird to see someone looking me and acting like me. Even the way we hold our elbows, hands and legs for a picture was so similar. It was wild.

    Interestingly, with her hair flat-ironed, I can see that the shape of her eyes comes from her birthfather.
    It's amazing to me how much mannerisms are genetic. My daughter has always been very much like me and I figured it was because she learned my mannerisms. When my husband died my son was 1. Now at 6 he has so many of his dad's mannerisms, the way he walks, faces he makes, etc. I am convinced it is genetic.

    RCC I am so happy this has worked out for both of you. I can only imagine what thinking of her all those years was like and to now have a connection must be amazing. I just read this entire thread and teared up quite a few times. What a great story.
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  • redcelticcurlsredcelticcurls Posts: 17,502Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Boomygrrl, I thought about you when I noticed the mannerisms. :)

    I guess it's something most "regular" parents take for granted at some point, but it was so weird to see someone looking me and acting like me. Even the way we hold our elbows, hands and legs for a picture was so similar. It was wild.

    Interestingly, with her hair flat-ironed, I can see that the shape of her eyes comes from her birthfather.
    It's amazing to me how much mannerisms are genetic. My daughter has always been very much like me and I figured it was because she learned my mannerisms. When my husband died my son was 1. Now at 6 he has so many of his dad's mannerisms, the way he walks, faces he makes, etc. I am convinced it is genetic.

    RCC I am so happy this has worked out for both of you. I can only imagine what thinking of her all those years was like and to now have a connection must be amazing. I just read this entire thread and teared up quite a few times. What a great story.

    I do find it interesting to see how some mannerisms look genetic.

    I'm glad that your son has some of his father's mannerisms and expressions; it leaves a little piece of him here.
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  • tiramisu62tiramisu62 Posts: 46Registered Users
    I know i am a little late here but what a fantastic story! you are both very lucky to have each other.
  • va_candiva_candi Posts: 849Registered Users
    Thanks for sharing your story. Reading this thread and seeing the photo of you and your daughter really made my day. I'm glad things are still progressing well for the two of you.

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