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Wow, that made me cry...so touching
Audrey Hepburn
meryn, well said.
I will say that I can relate...
Ever since the sports thread wars I have sensed a special connection between [edit] & Wile. Like the connection oil has to water. I almost can't speak of it. Wait....my eyes are misting. ~asq
Let’s just stay together and tell the world to kiss our ass. ~P
Oops! :oops: that was supposed to be such!
Med/Coarse, porous curly.
wow. That made me tear up.. that was very beautifully put, Meryn.
Best of luck, rcc... and (((((( hugs )))))))
It gets even more powerful, rose petal/circle of life analogies...I can't even bare to type it out right now, I have been crying too much lately.
RCC, I'll send you the poem when I can actually TYPE, it really is beautiful and may help you in this new chapter.
Like others said, it's unlikely she's looking to replace them, but she may have questions about her family history on both your side as well as her birth father's side- do you know if she's got his information or made contact? How would you feel if she wanted the two of you together to meet with her?
Best of luck and big hugs. I know this isn't easy, but it's important to her.
What a positive story you have as well. A close friend of my sister and her husband adopted a Russian girl a few years ago, and the adoptive mom has tried to keep the girl's heritage strong, even though she has no idea who her real family is (she found her in a Russian orphanage). The adoptive mom's family is Czech, so she understands and respects that connection for her daughter as she gets older as well.
Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid. ~ George Carlin
Location - WI
I am in awe of women like you.
"If you judge people,you have no time to love them"
-Mother Theresa
I'm really touched to see this thread get so long so quickly on a subject in which most people don't have first hand experience. It really means a lot.
I never really felt brave at the time when doing this. I actually felt more selfish - along the lines of "Oh my God I'm 16/17 and I can't have a kid! I'm still in school!" Even back then teen pregnancy was fairly common, so I was unusual in my decision. Most of my classmates either aborted or became single Moms. Had to be the odd one out I guess. My brother is still angry about the decision when he thinks about it because he doesn't think that someone should give up their own kid. We'll just have to dosagree on that one I guess.
I haven't heard if she wants to contact her birth father. The last I heard from was 5 years ago when he was in Atlanta.
At this point, I can only go with what she wishes. I'm sure she must be nervous too, and I don't want to run her off or anything crazy.
Med/Coarse, porous curly.
Lol, thanks! I'm 38. The powers of sunscreen!
Med/Coarse, porous curly.
when i was 24, i found out that i had a half sister 10 years older than me. it was bizarre meeting a total stranger who looked a lot like me. she'd known about me all along, but i didn't know about her. we've kept in touch over the years, and see each other from time to time. but i have to say, the feelings/connection i have with her are more like that of a distant relative, if that makes sense.
at any rate, just wanted to wish you well.
For the record, I too had to work the math, I've always thought you were in your early 20's. You have some serious uber-genes going on there.
3b/c/a mix. medium texture, low porosity
My Motto: Strand Test! some hair pics
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC] -- gone, but never forgotten.
We kept it short because she wanted to save some questions for when we meet in person.
She thanked me for not having an abortion, and I teared up. then she asked if I got to hold her, and I about lost it becuase I still remember getting to hold her in the nursery. How could I forget that? She had wondered if she got her tall (she'd 5'10") from me, but those aren't from me. She told me that she is pale, blue-eyed and has strawberry blonde hair.
She hasn't told her mother yet. She and her Dad plan on talking to her tonight. She wants to meet on Sunday if that all goes well with her Mom. I hope that her Mom takes it OK. I don't want her to feel bad.
She said that she has a great family and has been having a wonderful life, and how it was God's plan for her to be with her family. She asked how old I was when I had her, and I told her that I was 16 when I got pregnant and was 17 when I had her.
She hoped I wouldn't be mad about her contacting me first, and I told her that, although I often thought about her, I prefered that she initiated contact as she was only 21. It was cute that she sounded surprised that I knew how old she was, lol. I told her that I could not forget the day she was born if I tried!
That was so emotional, but it felt good. It brought up stuff that I thought I had dealt with years ago. I guess it doesn't take much to bring some things back.
Med/Coarse, porous curly.
(and as for the age i figured it out, but decided not to post it and let anyone else do the math!)
sounds like you both have a pretty good head on your shoulders and this meeting should be great!
have fun
3B just past BSL in back (when curly)
CG since 3/08
HG's:biolage condtioning balm and kpak (both the generic value versions)
overnight plop with a flour sack the strutt way
honey after leave-in
satin sleep cap & shea butter for day 2 hair
USING:KCKT&KCCC(its my HG
ALSO LOVE:jessicurl aloeba leave-in, rr, ccss
http://public.fotki.com/misfitcurls/
I hope it all goes well this weekend.
fine, med porosity, normal elasticity
Currently using the following 2 - 3 x/week:
Living Proof Perfect Hair Day suphate-free Poo, cone-free CO and styling treatment, plus KCCC
That is very sweet. I bet that alone meant a lot to her, knowing that you cared about her all this time