Seriously- Why don't men like Curly hair?

This is a topic that I find very frustrating because I have no idea as to why this is. The boyfriends that I've had just hated my hair curly. My current boyfriend always jokes and says "ahh my hands are stuck" whenever he puts his hands in my hair. My ex hated how curly hair looks and actually made it completely clear when I wore it curly to university once. It seems like whatever guy I meet doesn't like curly hair. I probably know like 2 who actually like curly hair out of like 50 guys I know. It really annoys me because I don't think it looks bad. If you tell me the only reason guys like straight hair is because they can put their fingers through it, is just being unreasonable. You can put fingers in curly hair just be more gentle. When I straighten my hair my boyfriend is like "yes! I love straight, I don't like curly..." Funny thing is he met me as a curly and has the nerve to say something about it? I am angered...:laughing7:
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Tell them to sod off.
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I think it's all about personal preferences. Some men like blondes and others prefer brunettes. I've always dated men who liked exotic looking women with curly hair. I would be angered as well if my boyfriend said that to me especially when he met you when you had curly hair. He should accept you & love you as you are.
I could never be with someone who said they didn't like curly hair. I know women who have curly hair & their husbands prefer straight hair & I honestly don't know how they married them knowing that. It's one thing to be young & single & be able to maintain straight hair but it's another to be married, holding a full time job & looking after children & finding enough time to put lipstick on in the morning.
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Hilarious .... I think your English is just fine
Thats what I'm wondering? How can you date someone that is so outspoken about something he doesn't like about you? I could see if you smoked, or drank too much, but your hair?
When I met my ex, he had a goatee. LOVED it on him, but then he shaved it off one day. I told him I preferred the goatee, but I would never bring it up more than once or harp on it.
I think its one thing to compliment your straight hair (obviously what he likes more) but he shouldn't complain about your curls...thats just rude!
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haha...I didn't mean it literally!
You have a point. One of the first times I ever talked to him he asked me if I ever straighten my hair. However this to me didn't seem like him dissing my hair - it was a question. The 2 years I've been with him its only now that its starting to bug me since I wear it curly a lot more now. I have realized its really important for someone to like me for me - hair and all and maybe its time for a change of relationship. How much are you supposed to compromise in a realtionship? Sigh...break ups are complicated...
I then straightened my hair almost continously from 2003 to may 2008 now I have embraced my curls and I can't imagine going back to straight hair, my husband says that he prefers my curls that they make me look more friendly! lol
To celebrate 5 years of being married we are having a blessing ceremony while on our cruise and my husband wants me to wear my hair curly.
So I would say make sure that you get a man that loves you for you because you are going to be saying hello first thing in the morning for a good many years.
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I also have a hard time understanding why he met you as a curly, but gives you a hard time about your curls. My guess is that he really likes YOU, and you probably shouldn't break off the relationship for it. BUT I would definitely talk to him. Ask him why he started dating you if your curls bothered him so much. Explain that your curls are a part of who you are, and when he complains about them, it makes you feel really bad. If after having a sincere talk with him, he still harrasses you, then I would take it as a sign that he doesn't care how he makes you feel. Only then would I start thinking about whether or not it was a relationship for me.
Well said. If a guy wants you, he needs to want all of you -- not just selected parts. Trust me -- you will find a guy who adores you and your curly hair. Dump any guy who doesn't so you can keep the pathway open for the good guys!
Jeez. It's right up there with jerks with wear "No fat chicks" T-shirts. So damn ignorant.
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curls are sexier, imo.
Because most men are being told what they're supposed to like (by pop society and the media)?
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YOU ARE SO RIGHT!!!
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DH couldn't care less how I wear my hair. If I'm happy with it and don't spend hours in the bathroom (like I did with flat-ironed hair), he doesn't care. I think that's how it should be. It's your time to fight nature. He should love you regardless of what you do with your hair, and if he's got a problem with it, you're better off without him.
My ex-husband (the one with the small willie - I always work that in whenever he is mentioned) HATED my curly hair. He also hated my clothes, my hair color, my friends, and pretty much everything about me. My point (other than bringing up the small willie) is that it isn't worth changing yourself to make someone else happy. Be true to yourself (and your hair!), and the men will follow. :tongue5:
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My 2 cents.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uE7uc9Q7GE8
If done right, curls are very sexy.
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I love that quote :toothy7:
Guys view curly hair as more independent? Interesting.
I'm sorry that this has happened to you. I pretty much agree with everyone else. If he doesn't like you for you, then it's time to go. I would suggest talking to him first before you just up and leave.
The whole independent thing caught my eye because I have heard this quite a few times. I guess it plays into that whole control thing. Some guys want to control their women. There are still some men who won't have anything to do with a woman, not just because of the way she looks, but because she might just be a little better than him. Men are all about their egos. If they see a woman who is doing her own thing, they get intimidated. Some men want a woman that is easy to control sort of speak. I guess if a man sees a woman with curly hair, or doing a style that is against what is popular at the moment, they take her as independent.
There's nothing wrong with being independent, though. It just means you are able to think for yourself. If I were you, I would talk to your boyfriend about how damaging straightening your hair can be. Ask him if he wants you to end up with broken off unhealthy hair because he wants you to have straight hair. That should change his mind.
I'm glad that I have a boyfriend who loves my 4a hair. I just took some straight weave out of my head and he begged me not to put it back on, lol.
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My 2 cents.
Wow, I've never heard anything like that before. I had no idea wearing your hair curly sent so many messages. I just never paid it that much attention. It was straight b/c you wanted it straight, curly cuz you wanted it curly, etc.
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