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Transitioning time? what to do with the naturalness...

michikobmichikob Posts: 118Registered Users
how long did it take you guys to get the relaxer out?
When I once stopped relaxing it took about a year or more;; I don't really remember.
What I do remember: It was EXTREMELY frustrating dealing with my natural hair...any type of moisture would make it curl up immediately.

Going to this site makes me miss my natural hair; but not the CUTTING, and the DRYING and pressing and BLECK. lol any ideas?

so yah;; 2 questions in one =]
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^That was when I didn't have a relaxer for about a year and some months.
current relaxer
Natural: 4b
=D

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  • MissKinkyCoilyMissKinkyCoily Posts: 827Registered Users
    I had my hair relaxed in August 2003. I was still in college and living alone so I couldnt afford to go to the hair dresser. I was never very good with getting touch ups. I would go 6 months sometimes without one. So, I just decided to embrace my curls.

    I wore my hair in twist-outs for the entire transition. I only straightened it once for the holidays.

    In June 2004, I went to the hair dresser for my birthday. At this point it was a little passed my shoulders. She cut it in a layered bob (chin length in the front, slightly longer in the back). I had about 2 inches of relaxed hair left; I cut it myself in October 2004.
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  • soon2bsoon2b Posts: 220Registered Users
    I think it took me a little less than a year to get all of the relaxer out....It had started to really thin so I just went ahead and let it go. instead of trying to fight ur natural hair with heat maybe u should work with ur texture. Try more protective styles that if u sweat or whatever ur hair wont show so much of an obvious difference i the two textures. Then when u are completely natural u can worry about styling it.
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  • michikobmichikob Posts: 118Registered Users
    thanks guys =]
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
    ^That was when I didn't have a relaxer for about a year and some months.
    current relaxer
    Natural: 4b
    =D
  • OnyxCabeloOnyxCabelo Posts: 1,767Registered Users
    I've been transitioning for a few months now, and honestly, I've just been wearing it up every day. I've been purchasing and using some good quality products to deep condition and pamper my hair. I figure doing this with the low manipulation will help me prepare my hair for the BC *keeps fingers crossed*:).
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  • michikobmichikob Posts: 118Registered Users
    I was thinking of wearing it up to when I get it natural--> I wanted to use like, gel or something to make my hair kind of slick back and then have the bun on top.
    but any type of gel or cream moisturizer is like water to my natural hair and immediately makes it frizz up.
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
    ^That was when I didn't have a relaxer for about a year and some months.
    current relaxer
    Natural: 4b
    =D
  • mariag002mariag002 Posts: 3,557Registered Users
    It took me 10 months, but that's because I didn't mind having 5 inches of natural hair. Other people wait longer so they can have longer hair. Yes its extremely frustrating to transition, but once its over its soooo worth it.

    If you were pressing your natural hair then you were making it drier than it already was. This time maybe try working with the curl and adding more conditioners to moisturize your hair. We're all here to help you!
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    Relaxer free for almost 5 years!

  • drjo91drjo91 Posts: 32Registered Users
    I had my hair relaxed in August 2003. I was still in college and living alone so I couldnt afford to go to the hair dresser. I was never very good with getting touch ups. I would go 6 months sometimes without one. So, I just decided to embrace my curls.

    I wore my hair in twist-outs for the entire transition. I only straightened it once for the holidays.

    In June 2004, I went to the hair dresser for my birthday. At this point it was a little passed my shoulders. She cut it in a layered bob (chin length in the front, slightly longer in the back). I had about 2 inches of relaxed hair left; I cut it myself in October 2004.


    I saw your fotki!! Your hair is BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!! I am also from NYC. ANyways, i hope to do my hair the way you have it on your fotki.
  • MissCurlyCueMissCurlyCue Posts: 145Registered Users
    I wore my hair in Kinky Twists for the most part until my natural hair grew out to a length that I felt was "tolerable" for me. I transitioned for a year, so it was long enough for me to get SOME length to work with (I never wore my hair short before, so I knew if I just BC'd early on, I wouldn't know what to do with my hair).

    I also wore regular plaits under hats...I tried to wear hairwraps but could never find the right fabric. I also wore a lot of pretty silk scarves.

    I BC'd over the course of that year in a series of "little chops" starting at about month five. That was by accident (long story). I could've waited longer.
    Last Relaxer: October 2007
    Transition Period: 1 Year
    Final Big Chop: October 2008
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  • MissKinkyCoilyMissKinkyCoily Posts: 827Registered Users
    drjo91 wrote: »
    I had my hair relaxed in August 2003. I was still in college and living alone so I couldnt afford to go to the hair dresser. I was never very good with getting touch ups. I would go 6 months sometimes without one. So, I just decided to embrace my curls.

    I wore my hair in twist-outs for the entire transition. I only straightened it once for the holidays.

    In June 2004, I went to the hair dresser for my birthday. At this point it was a little passed my shoulders. She cut it in a layered bob (chin length in the front, slightly longer in the back). I had about 2 inches of relaxed hair left; I cut it myself in October 2004.


    I saw your fotki!! Your hair is BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!! I am also from NYC. ANyways, i hope to do my hair the way you have it on your fotki.

    Thanks! Its all gone now, LOL. Well not really, but much shorter.
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    Final Chop: October 2004

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  • SuburbanbushbabeSuburbanbushbabe Posts: 15,402Registered Users
    It took me 14 months and 3 cuts. I was so glad to get the last of those dead ends out. In fact my anniversary is coming up -- 10/26 will be 2 years since I cut out the last of the texlax. I never looked back.
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  • KurleeEdnaKurleeEdna Posts: 714Registered Users
    It'll be one year end of Nov '08 since my last relaxer. I've got exactly 5 1/2" of new growth. Overall my hair is several inches past shoulder length. I was thinking of joining some of the others here in the Spring '09 chop, but I may do it earlier. This two-textured hair is driving me nuts! :banghead: (It's mostly 3C, with more 4A at the crown and hairline; closer to 3B at the nape.)

    I use Max Green Alchemy (organic / non-sulfate) shampoo, and it cleans really well without drying me out. Conditioners with olive or avocado oil work best for me (especially for detangling). Aloe vera does nothing but dry and frizz me up even more. Go figure!

    So... it all depends on how fast your hair grows (normally 1/2" per month) and how short you're willing to go if you want to chop off all of the relaxer. In the meantime, DEEP CONDITION as often as possible! (There are a lot of new products out there, so you'll need to experiment.) Keep away from the irons and if needed, keep your hair up in poofs and buns until you decide to cut.

    Keep us informed. :icon_smile:
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  • mariag002mariag002 Posts: 3,557Registered Users
    KurleeEdna wrote: »
    It'll be one year end of Nov '08 since my last relaxer. I've got exactly 5 1/2" of new growth. Overall my hair is several inches past shoulder length. I was thinking of joining some of the others here in the Spring '09 chop, but I may do it earlier. This two-textured hair is driving me nuts! :banghead: (It's mostly 3C, with more 4A at the crown and hairline; closer to 3B at the nape.)

    I use Max Green Alchemy (organic / non-sulfate) shampoo, and it cleans really well without drying me out. Conditioners with olive or avocado oil work best for me (especially for detangling). Aloe vera does nothing but dry and frizz me up even more. Go figure!

    So... it all depends on how fast your hair grows (normally 1/2" per month) and how short you're willing to go if you want to chop off all of the relaxer. In the meantime, DEEP CONDITION as often as possible! (There are a lot of new products out there, so you'll need to experiment.) Keep away from the irons and if needed, keep your hair up in poofs and buns until you decide to cut.

    Keep us informed. :icon_smile:

    Wow that's alot of new growth. How are you managing the two textures right now?
    - Maria

    Big Chop: 9/23/07
    Relaxer free for almost 5 years!

  • conrad2826conrad2826 Posts: 23Registered Users
    michikobI was thinking of wearing it up to when I get it natural--> I wanted to use like, gel or something to make my hair kind of slick back and then have the bun on top.
    but any type of gel or cream moisturizer is like water to my natural hair and immediately makes it frizz up.
    Hey Michikob - I've been trying this product which is really good - always small amount is needed, very natural, no chemical in this gel - it's qhemet Biolgics honeybrush tea gel....very good! Especially when I put my hair in a bun it gets all those small hairs that stick out...its worth the $$$....
    deep condition treatment
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    conditioner giovanni leave-in direct
    oils coconut/olive/alma/castor
    natural hertiage shea butter elixir
    cayenne & olive oil treatment
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  • Black Hoya ChickBlack Hoya Chick Posts: 185Registered Users
    I am 7months in transition with about 4+ inches of new growth. Right now I am in a bunning stage. I just smooth the hair into a bun. I use smooth and shine gel, and coconut oil. I do this at night and tie it down. By the morning it is smooth and has a hold (that is not hard). Working quite well. Probably gonna stick to it for a while
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  • NutmegNutmeg Posts: 166Registered Users
    I'm just over a year into my transition, with no BC, just regular trims. I've probably got about 3 or so inches of relaxed hair at the ends. I have been all about ponytails and buns for the most part -- it gets straightened when I get my trims, and I've probably straightened about 4 times on my own. I'm hoping to have all relaxed hair gone by February.

    The halfway point is the worst! The two textures is SO annoying! But thankfully I never had breakage because I was all about co-washing, protective styles and moisture, moisture, moisture!

    I had edges trauma early on in my transition, but then I found Hicks Total Transformation Smooth Edges -- /home/leaving?target=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.totaltransformations.org" class="Popup --and I haven't looked back since!
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  • NutmegNutmeg Posts: 166Registered Users
    It took me 14 months and 3 cuts. I was so glad to get the last of those dead ends out. In fact my anniversary is coming up -- 10/26 will be 2 years since I cut out the last of the texlax. I never looked back.

    And congrats on the anniversary, SBB! I remember when you first welcomed me to the board...can't believe it's been a year!
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  • KurleeEdnaKurleeEdna Posts: 714Registered Users
    mariag002 wrote: »
    KurleeEdna wrote: »
    It'll be one year end of Nov '08 since my last relaxer. I've got exactly 5 1/2" of new growth. Overall my hair is several inches past shoulder length. I was thinking of joining some of the others here in the Spring '09 chop, but I may do it earlier. This two-textured hair is driving me nuts! :banghead: (It's mostly 3C, with more 4A at the crown and hairline; closer to 3B at the nape.)

    I use Max Green Alchemy (organic / non-sulfate) shampoo, and it cleans really well without drying me out. Conditioners with olive or avocado oil work best for me (especially for detangling). Aloe vera does nothing but dry and frizz me up even more. Go figure!

    So... it all depends on how fast your hair grows (normally 1/2" per month) and how short you're willing to go if you want to chop off all of the relaxer. In the meantime, DEEP CONDITION as often as possible! (There are a lot of new products out there, so you'll need to experiment.) Keep away from the irons and if needed, keep your hair up in poofs and buns until you decide to cut.

    Keep us informed. :icon_smile:

    Wow that's a lot of new growth. How are you managing the two textures right now?

    I usually have my hair up in either big clips, ponytail or a poofy bun (with curls sticking out of the top of the bun).

    We're having a drought here in the South Carolina upstate. So, even though the pollen is bad for my allergies, my hair is quite happy with the low humidity!
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