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Have You Found Your Passion?

g-stringrannyg-stringranny Posts: 2,701Registered Users
I feel like there is a void in my life. I think it's because I don't feel passionately about anything. I love my children & grandchildren & my friends, but I don't feel that is enough. I need to find something I'm passionate about. My job is fine, but it's just a job. I think I have always felt that something was missing in my life. At my age I feel I need to find this.
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  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    Have you ever tried a visualization exercise to figure this out? They can be extremely effective, both in finding out what your passion is and also laying the groundwork to help you realize it. [Because figuring out what to do is a tiny part of it, actually doing what you set out to achieve is the biggest challenge.]

    There is a really good one in the book "Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom," chapter 15.

    I have personally found similar "The Secret" based techniques to be a little too simplistic. The one in that book just walks you through it without making it out to be some miraculous cure-all. No hoopla.

    Through this approach, I have found [remembered, really] my passions and I'm in the process of more fully realizing them in my daily life.
  • criscatcriscat Posts: 355Registered Users
    Do you mean a romantic passion?
  • 2poodles2poodles Posts: 2,480Registered Users
    I finally found my passion (aside from spouse and family) - gardening! Nothing makes me happier than learning about plants, planning gardens, redesigning them, plant shopping, digging in the dirt and then seeing and tending the gardens. I especially enjoy trees and shrubs and those select "polite" perennials with some spashy annuals thrown in for drama. Such a wonderful mix of science and nature and art!
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  • InfraredheadInfraredhead Posts: 335Registered Users
    I agree with the above poster. Gardening is a passion. If you don't have a green thumb though I would recommend maybe taking a night class with a subject that you are interested in.

    One of the best decisions I ever made in my life was when I took a beginning photograpy course about twenty years ago. There were fifteen people in the class and all women. It was a wonderful experience and served as a jumping board for other artistic endeavors such as making jewelry, painting, and so forth. I can't imagine my life now without paint splattered on my clothing or a tool in my hands.

    I know what it feels like to not have that spark in your life. Journaling was also a great help. No worries...there are so many things out there to discover about yourself! :blob7:
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  • pigreyhoundpigreyhound Posts: 764Registered Users
    I decided to make a major career change when I turned 33. I decided to teach high school. And I suppose I have found my passion. Although it can be stressful and I occasionally come home, close the door and wonder what the heck I was thinking....overall, I really love what I do.

    I think I realized that making the change was necessary only after years of journaling and thinking and planning.

    Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results....

    You have the key to your passion in you. You just need to find it.

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  • g-stringrannyg-stringranny Posts: 2,701Registered Users
    criscat wrote: »
    Do you mean a romantic passion?

    No.
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  • g-stringrannyg-stringranny Posts: 2,701Registered Users
    wild~hair wrote: »
    Have you ever tried a visualization exercise to figure this out? They can be extremely effective, both in finding out what your passion is and also laying the groundwork to help you realize it. [Because figuring out what to do is a tiny part of it, actually doing what you set out to achieve is the biggest challenge.]

    There is a really good one in the book "Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom," chapter 15.

    I have personally found similar "The Secret" based techniques to be a little too simplistic. The one in that book just walks you through it without making it out to be some miraculous cure-all. No hoopla.

    Through this approach, I have found [remembered, really] my passions and I'm in the process of more fully realizing them in my daily life.

    Thanks for the recommendation. I'll be at Barnes & Nobles on Saturday. I'll look for the book.
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  • g-stringrannyg-stringranny Posts: 2,701Registered Users
    2poodles wrote: »
    I finally found my passion (aside from spouse and family) - gardening! Nothing makes me happier than learning about plants, planning gardens, redesigning them, plant shopping, digging in the dirt and then seeing and tending the gardens. I especially enjoy trees and shrubs and those select "polite" perennials with some spashy annuals thrown in for drama. Such a wonderful mix of science and nature and art!

    I enjoy gardening, too, but it's next to impossible to grow anything in this desert. When I watch shows on tv about gardens I feel so envious. I would love to live in that climate. I would especially like to grow a vegetable garden. I've tried it here & everything just burned up.
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  • SuburbanbushbabeSuburbanbushbabe Posts: 15,402Registered Users
    I'm with you there on the void. I'm close to your age and ready to do something different for the next 10 or so years. Just don't know what. I think I could use the help of a career or life coach with the discernment process.
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  • criscatcriscat Posts: 355Registered Users
    Well, I will suggest a practical approach then.
    There are 3 fundamental areas:

    1- Business (you like to make money).

    2- Arts (you enjoy making things - garden, food, etc).

    3- Charity (you like helping others).

    Now, since by your post I understand you want to focus on a specific passion, choose one area.
  • g-stringrannyg-stringranny Posts: 2,701Registered Users
    There are some things that I would like to do that I think could become my passion. It's just being able to do them. I'm very interested in nutrition. I have been since my early teens. Not sure why. Most of my books in my library are about nutrition. I'd love to have an organic garden & also some chickens so I could also have organic eggs. Unfortunately, I don't live in an area or have the yard space for this. My Father always had a vegetable garden & we both enjoyed it. I don't think I would like being a nutritionist, tho'. I'd also like to travel. I'm looking into a trip right now. It runs from September 26 to October 3. You hike through medieval towns in Italy's Tuscanny region and bike down country paths in Umbria between samplings of Italy's best wine. The cost is $2,700 which covers the wine tasting, meals & the hotel stays. The airfare & bike rental is extra. I don't know if I can save for it this year, but I want to at least do it next year. I'd also like to have my own business, but I don't want the regular 9 to 5 job. I'd like to do something online where my time would be more flexible. Wow! looks like I've just set some goals for myself.
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  • pigreyhoundpigreyhound Posts: 764Registered Users
    See, you just needed to write it down to realize what you wanted.

    Good for you. Any steps toward your goals are positive steps. Sometimes it takes more time than you would like but keep moving forward.
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  • g-stringrannyg-stringranny Posts: 2,701Registered Users
    I just requested a brochure for my trip!
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  • criscatcriscat Posts: 355Registered Users
    I just requested a brochure for my trip!

    You could use this trip opportunity to maybe exercise a different activity. If you assemble a group to do the tour with you, in general, you get your trip for free. You will have to talk to the travel agency and negotiate. And then assemble a plan to sell your trip.

    You talked about several things you would like to do, but, you will have to focus in a specific area at a time and try several things, to find something you love doing.
  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    Thanks for the recommendation. I'll be at Barnes & Nobles on Saturday. I'll look for the book.

    Yeah, check it out. And you may want to just look at that chapter, as the rest of the book is really just health oriented and probably not what you're looking for right now.

    The chapter is geared somewhat to a woman who might be having health issues and is trying to take a holistic approach to healing them. But if you can manage to disregard that part, the premise of the exercises is universally applicable.

    I found it a very powerful thing to do — definitely motivating and inspiring — and I've been reviewing my notes from the exercises to recharge myself every few weeks. I also plan to re-do the exercises every six months or so, something she recommends.

    Good luck!
  • g-stringrannyg-stringranny Posts: 2,701Registered Users
    criscat wrote: »
    I just requested a brochure for my trip!

    You could use this trip opportunity to maybe exercise a different activity. If you assemble a group to do the tour with you, in general, you get your trip for free. You will have to talk to the travel agency and negotiate. And then assemble a plan to sell your trip.

    You talked about several things you would like to do, but, you will have to focus in a specific area at a time and try several things, to find something you love doing.

    This trip is done in a group. They also have trips that you can do alone, but I don't feel like doing that. I like to be around people. I talked about several things I would like to do & I am focusing on one I feel I can accomplish.
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  • g-stringrannyg-stringranny Posts: 2,701Registered Users
    wild~hair wrote: »
    Thanks for the recommendation. I'll be at Barnes & Nobles on Saturday. I'll look for the book.

    Yeah, check it out. And you may want to just look at that chapter, as the rest of the book is really just health oriented and probably not what you're looking for right now.

    The chapter is geared somewhat to a woman who might be having health issues and is trying to take a holistic approach to healing them. But if you can manage to disregard that part, the premise of the exercises is universally applicable.

    I found it a very powerful thing to do — definitely motivating and inspiring — and I've been reviewing my notes from the exercises to recharge myself every few weeks. I also plan to re-do the exercises every six months or so, something she recommends.

    Good luck!

    I would be interested in the whole book not just that one chapter. I can't wait to get it.
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  • g-stringrannyg-stringranny Posts: 2,701Registered Users
    See, you just needed to write it down to realize what you wanted.

    Good for you. Any steps toward your goals are positive steps. Sometimes it takes more time than you would like but keep moving forward.

    Thanks for the encouragement.
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  • ZinniaZinnia Posts: 7,339Registered Users
    No...still searching.
    Life shrinks or expands according to one's courage. Anais Nin
  • BugEyeZBugEyeZ Posts: 314Registered Users
    i know exactly how you feel! only thing is, I have always followed my dreams to some extent. but now, even they don't motivate me. in fact, i find myself resenting doing them. so i do nothing. it sucks. i feel lost in the wilderness. and since i never married of had children, i can't even use that for distraction.
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  • g-stringrannyg-stringranny Posts: 2,701Registered Users
    I think sometimes having a husband & children can keep you from finding your passion. You concentrate more on them and forget about yourself.
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  • ZinniaZinnia Posts: 7,339Registered Users
    BugEyeZ wrote: »
    i know exactly how you feel! only thing is, I have always followed my dreams to some extent. but now, even they don't motivate me. in fact, i find myself resenting doing them. so i do nothing. it sucks. i feel lost in the wilderness. and since i never married of had children, i can't even use that for distraction.

    I could have written this...sometimes, dreams shouldn't come true...
    Life shrinks or expands according to one's courage. Anais Nin
  • g-stringrannyg-stringranny Posts: 2,701Registered Users
    I guess you just have to come up with new dreams. I know, easier said then done.
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  • dembidjdembidj Posts: 32Registered Users
    This is so amazing. I was visiting a friend and talking with her 15 year old daughter. I asked her what she wanted to be when she grows up and we had a good talk about what she's good in in school, and what she really enjoys doing. I encouraged her to find a way to make money at something she really enjoys doing; to find her passion and make it work for her. She asked me "Did you find yours?" That stopped me in my tracks. I've always been passionate about my faith and have worked in the ministry since I was 20, but most of the time as a volunteer. I'm at a place right now where I'm between jobs, and can afford to be picky about what I apply for. So, now I'm examining my thoughts about my passion. Mostly, I love taking care of people. Now, I need to find a way to translate that into an income. I thought of Tour Guide or docent, Patient Advocate, Event planner, . . . Any suggestions? Thanks in advance!
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  • g-stringrannyg-stringranny Posts: 2,701Registered Users
    I think it is great that you were talking with her about her passion. I remember doing this with my daughters & they have worked with what they wanted to do for the most part. I never had this with my parents, so I am still searching on my own.
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  • love yourself firstlove yourself first Posts: 5,398Registered Users
    The things I have a passion for (like food, fashion, travel, the arts) are all things I indulge in as hobbies. None would make enough money for me, and I am also highly suspect of turning a passion into a *job* given the inevitable dynamics of work including competition, routine, high levels of responsibility, etc..

    Not sure if your question is more of whether you should spend your work hours pursuing your *passion* or whether it is a question of identifying something you feel passionate about, at any stage of your life, though you are posting on over 40 and dynamics seem to shift with age.
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  • g-stringrannyg-stringranny Posts: 2,701Registered Users
    I'm just talking about having a passion about something. My ex is a pilot & he flew as a hobbie. He now flies Citation jets as a job & he said it takes some of the fun out of it. I think I could see having a passion for travel & photography & being able to do this & make a living also. I think it would still be enjoyable.
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  • love yourself firstlove yourself first Posts: 5,398Registered Users
    Oh, I definitely agree that it is important to identify passions and to pursue them, as hobbies. Without that life is less full.

    Depending on the passion, it might be possible to turn it into a job. All depends on how much money you need and what the field of your passion might be.
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  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,251Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Everyone should have a passion of some sort! It makes life worth living!
    I've always loved the beach, my pets, gardening, reading.
    The only passion that I get paid to do is gardening - I do landscaping as a second job. Other than that, I like to keep my passions as simply things I love to do just for me.
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  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    g-stringranny, glad you're into the book, it's a good one, I think. It was a birthday gift from a friend years ago and I finally read it recently — so glad I did.

    I think your point is well made about finding a new dream/passion if the old ones don't pan out or grow stale. That's just life, ain't it? Things are always changing, even your passions.

    And also agree with the points made about making your passion your career. I think the idea is to do whatever makes you happy — if it winds up making you money, great! If not, well then, no biggie, you'll still enjoy doing it anyway.
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