Did you tell your SO right away?

UsodaUsoda Posts: 918Registered Users
I need to take a pregnancy test and I'm not sure if I want him to be in on it with me, or if I want to take it privately and only tell him if it's positive . . .

I'm just wondering what you guys did . . .


  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    Usoda wrote: »
    I need to take a pregnancy test and I'm not sure if I want him to be in on it with me, or if I want to take it privately and only tell him if it's positive . . .

    I'm just wondering what you guys did . . .

    We were trying, so he knew what was going on, but I didn't give him all the day by day details. So I took the test without saying anything, hoping to surprise him with a positive (which is what happened) but had it been negative, he would have eventually wanted to know and I would have told him.

    Good luck!
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  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    1st time, he was in the next room, dying with the flu. It was about 6am.

    2nd time, he was at work. I had already had my blood drawn and was waiting for the doctor to call. I caved, got a positive and called him at work screaming.

    3rd time, he was in the kitchen with the kids. We went grocery shopping right after. But we were shocked. At least I was. I lost my car keys. I never lose stuff like that. :lol:

    4th time, I can't recall. I'm pretty sure it was a weekday and he was at work.

    I've always told him when I was planning on testing. So he knew pretty quickly afterwards if it was negative or positive.
  • geminigemini Posts: 3,325Registered Users
    My husband and I spent the weekend in Vegas before I took the test. I think he made a comment like "Are you pregnant or something?" when I had this overwelming craving for orange soda. I said "Maybe." He said he realized it was a possibility when I could not stand to be in the smoke filled casino. Usually I can tolerate the smoke, but this was a "I have to return to the room NOW or else I am really going to be sick." I went up to the room and left him at the slots. :lol:

    The day after we got home I took the test and showed him the stick. It was Valentine's Day. He couldn't believe it. We had to read how to interpret the results several times (two lines means yes). He was so excited and happy and I was like "WTF?!" Even after he mentioned his suspicions from the weekend he was still totally floored and psyched.
  • webjockeywebjockey Posts: 2,786Registered Users
    yup. both times.
  • CGNYCCGNYC Posts: 4,938Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Yes. I was so baffled by the results, I felt like maybe I was reading it wrong (yeah, I had the one that acutally SAYS "pregnant" but hope springs eternal) so I took it to him for a second opinion. As I have said here before, I told him, "Don't touch this, I peed on it, but what does it say?"
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,259Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    My husband was never much interested in participating in the peeing-on-the-stick thing, so I just told him after the fact.
  • KaiaKaia Posts: 8,815Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I took the test and then called him when it turned positive. He was in the middle of doing something and got annoyed at me calling him over. He couldn't understand what was so important that I couldn't wait a few minutes. He understood once he saw. :lol:
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  • fuzzbucketfuzzbucket Posts: 996Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    It was election day 2006, about 6 AM. He knew I was going to test. I peed on two sticks before I left the bathroom because I didn't believe it. I went in the bedroom and told him, "Good news! The Democrats are going to take the house and we are going to have a baby."
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  • internetchickinternetchick Posts: 6,191Registered Users
    My husband was with me all three times, which was good with #3 because I needed a shoulder to cry on(very unplanned).
  • nynaeve77nynaeve77 Posts: 7,135Registered Users Curl Novice
    He was with me when I took it. In fact, he read the stick before I did because I was too scared to look...I'd had a lot of negative results and didn't want to see if it was another one.
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  • CynaminbearCynaminbear Posts: 4,476Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    He was watching the time with me for #1.
    I told him as soon as I saw him with #2, I think. I had to go to the doctor for that test.
    With #3 I didn't tell him I was going to poas mostly because I didn't think it would be positive. I remember rushing to show him the results because we were floored.
    For #4 I was afraid to tell him and waited for a couple weeks. I can't believe noone knew I was pg because I was sick all the time and had to eat constantly. I told him on our engagement anniversary, as well as admitting I was worried to tell him. He came home that night with a white teddy bear and a beautiful bouquet of roses. My excuse to my family was the anniversary. We were living with my parents and sister at the time.
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  • Brown_Eyed_GirlBrown_Eyed_Girl Posts: 1,353Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    The morning that I knew I could test, I ended up waking up extra early, so I took the test by myself in the middle of the night. I really wanted to wake him up and tell him right away, but he really has trouble getting back to sleep in the middle of the night, so I restrained myself. I told him as soon as we got up that morning.

    From your post, it sounds like maybe this is unplanned. The times before we started trying when I thought I might be pg, I usually mentioned it to him so that I didn't have to worry by myself. I never ended up needing to test those times though b/c I got my period.
  • SpiderSpider Posts: 3,381Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I didn't really expect that I was pregnant (with DS) when I was a few days late. DH was in the ICU pulmonary unit of the hospital after two freak pulmonary emboli nearly killed him.

    The days leading up to the test were very stressful, but I took the test at home alone, and it came back postive. I debated on whether to wait until DH came home (and was out of the woods) or tell him now because he was incredibly bad off and in so much pain (and on morphine). I did tell him in the hospital, and he thought I was making it up. He told his dad the next day (instead of waiting until we could tell both his parents together) and dad thought he was high on the morphine.
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  • marielle448marielle448 Posts: 1,823Registered Users
    my husband is such a killjoy when it comes to announcing pregnancies because he's too practical. ;)

    #1 I suspected I was pregnant so I took a test and bought a baby food jar to tell him. He was pretty much, "oh okay, that's great" and even then didn't really sink in until the doctor's office confirmation.

    #2 I took a test because I was not feeling well and I called him and told him over the phone. Again he was happy but the man is hard to get excited over anything.

    #3 I was tired of waiting for my period so took a test (after having a previous negative about 2 weeks before) and then walked out of the bathroom a bit in disbelief to show him. I asked him what he thought and he said, "well we wanted another one and now it's happening" then smiled. I'll take that. :D
  • rainshowerrainshower Posts: 4,420Registered Users
    Usoda wrote: »
    I need to take a pregnancy test and I'm not sure if I want him to be in on it with me, or if I want to take it privately and only tell him if it's positive . . .

    I'm just wondering what you guys did . . .

    it took a few months before we got pregnant with our first. so every month, we both sat in front of at least two tests to see the results. but when i was finally pregnant, i took the test while he was watching tv and made up an excuse for him to come upstairs. when he came into the bathroom, he saw the test on the counter and started smiling.

    with our second, i peed and brought out the test for him to see.
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  • subbrocksubbrock Posts: 8,212Registered Users
    one kid but we needed two pregnancy tests for her. both times he was there while i took the test. i think i even made him tell me what the stick said. he was so sad when it came up negative (stupid stick lied. i was pregnant.) the second time we had gotten into a huge awful fight about something and werent on speaking terms. it was the worst fight we've ever had. i called him at work and told him as soon as i found out.
  • SigiSigi Posts: 2,379Registered Users
    My husband always wants to be around when I take a test. I wanted to do a surprise type thing, but he would rather be there, even if in the next room.
  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    If we had been in the same place, I would have made him stay there while I peed on the stick. But we were in separate continents, so I told him the next day (as soon as we spoke).

    It wasn't ideal but it worked out. We were both able to freak out in private and then be there for each other. If it had been negative, I'm not sure I would have mentioned taking the test.

    Good luck, Usoda. I hope you get the test result you are hoping for. If not, know that it will work out and you can get some great support here.
  • sarah42sarah42 Posts: 4,034Registered Users
    With #1, we were together.

    With #2, I secretly suspected I was pregnant but didn't want to tell him until I knew. I took the test while he was out of the house and it came up +. When he got home I was like, "Hey, look on the counter, there's something I want to show you...."
  • UsodaUsoda Posts: 918Registered Users
    Thank you everyone for your feedback.

    I ended up taking a test yesterday and I didn't tell him I was taking one.

    We both are not sure if our future plans will accommodate children well: I'm expanding my career into contract work which involves a lot of travel and he is pursuing his own business. I wouldn't not welcome a baby, it just would mean restructuring our plans -- a lot!

    I was experiencing a lot of hunger, which I thought was due to PMS. I was also experiencing a lot of cramping with no menstrual fluid. So, then I got really worried . . .

    I tried to abate my fears since I have no nausea or mood swings, etc.

    The test turned out negative, so it was a lot of fuss for nothing. As of this morning still waiting on my period, though :sad8:

    Thanks again.
  • Brown_Eyed_GirlBrown_Eyed_Girl Posts: 1,353Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I know how stressful that can be. We really wanted DH to finish law school before having children. We would have adjusted our plans if I had gotten pg unexpectedly, but it was still stressful the times that I thought I might be.

    I hope your period shows up soon!

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