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How to introduce a non-seafood lover to seafood?

SpiceCurlsSpiceCurls Posts: 501Registered Users
How can I encourage a non-seafood lover to eat seafood? I won’t force anybody or be naggy about it. But I find that when I try stuff that turned me off initially, I usually like it.

What kind of seafood dishes are OK for newbies?
I'll tell ya what I want...what I really really want.
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  • SoaringSirenSoaringSiren Posts: 765Registered Users
    Some people are stubborn with their eating habits. But if this person seems to be open to it, then it wouldn't hurt to try some basic seafoods like shrimp, maybe some salmon. Nothing too extreme. Like they'd probably get a bit weary if you tried to feed them lobster, or squid.

    I think the fact is that your tastebuds change as you age, and that explains why you end up liking foods now that you used to hate when you were younger.

    I know I used to HATE tomatoes and all types of potato salads, but now I love them! :)
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  • Riot CrrlRiot Crrl Posts: 3,135Registered Users
    Breaded and deep fried.
  • webjockeywebjockey Posts: 2,786Registered Users
    mild tasting fish like orange roughy or flounder could be good for people who are turned of by that "fishy" smell or taste.

    if texture is more of the issue, you can try more "meaty" fishes like swordfish, shark or tuna steaks.
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  • criscatcriscat Posts: 355Registered Users
    Is that an adult?

    If it is, why would you want to do that?
  • KookyCurlKookyCurl Posts: 1,980Registered Users
    Things to avoid: anything you have to disassemble to eat it. While lobster is often the gateway seafood it's hard to eat properly. It requires carnage. Personally I love the carnage. If you do do lobster do it up salad style (mmm...in a hot buttered roll....I love that it's almost Lobster Roll season!)

    Also steer clear of clams and oysters and things that require you to eat the belly.

    Scallops are good and mild and not gross looking (except when raw). A white fish is good too.

    I also second the battered and deep fried option.
    Ask they what they don't like about it. It will help determine where to go from there. Also it may come to the fact that you have a determined non-seafood eater on your hands. Here's how I see it is it's all the more yummy stuff for you!
  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    Fried calamari

    But you seem to be assuming this person has never tried seafood. Do you know that for sure? I really dislike most seafood and it's not for lack of trying. I just don't like that fishy smell or taste and never have.
    I also have ethical objections to a lot of seafood, considering the way it is harvested. If land animals were harvested that way for food, there would be an uproar I bet. But sea animals live out of sight and thus mostly out of mind. So are you sure they don't have personal reasons for avoiding seafood?
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  • midgimidgi Posts: 2,409Registered Users
    Even fried, no one could convince me to eat or love seafood. I tried it again a few years ago and I'm just not about the texture or the smell.
    I just want to do what I want to do when I want to do it.
  • SpiceCurlsSpiceCurls Posts: 501Registered Users
    criscat wrote: »
    Is that an adult?

    If it is, why would you want to do that?

    Why not? Some seafood is good for you (I know...I know...mercury). If I can introduce a person to a new experience they might like, great! I like it when that happens to me. If he's not open to it, I won't push. I'll ask once then move on.
    iris427 wrote: »
    Fried calamari

    But you seem to be assuming this person has never tried seafood. Do you know that for sure? I really dislike most seafood and it's not for lack of trying. I just don't like that fishy smell or taste and never have.
    I also have ethical objections to a lot of seafood, considering the way it is harvested. If land animals were harvested that way for food, there would be an uproar I bet. But sea animals live out of sight and thus mostly out of mind. So are you sure they don't have personal reasons for avoiding seafood?

    No, I'm not assuming. I was going to mention in my post that I don't know what seafood/if any he's tried, but I forgot to.
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  • M2LRM2LR Posts: 8,630Registered Users
    criscat wrote: »
    Is that an adult?

    If it is, why would you want to do that?

    This was my first thought as well.

    If someone told me that they didn't like seafood, the last thing I would do would be to try and make them eat it...or take them somewhere that does "only" seafood.

    If he's said that he doesn't like seafood, then I would assume that he's either 1) had it and doesn't like it, 2) hasn't ever had it and has no interest in trying it.

    Also assuming that this is date #4, the last thing I would do if I wanted date #5 is suggest a place that I KNEW he wouldn't like. That seems kind of counter productive to me.
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  • criscatcriscat Posts: 355Registered Users
    You mean this person never tried seafood? Weird.
  • criscatcriscat Posts: 355Registered Users
    SpiceCurls wrote: »
    Why not? Some seafood is good for you (I know...I know...mercury). If I can introduce a person to a new experience they might like, great! I like it when that happens to me. If he's not open to it, I won't push. I'll ask once then move on.

    Well, unless you offer the "person" fugu, I doubt this is going to be an exciting new experience. You sound mommyish with this seafood is good for ya :laughing7:
    M2LR wrote: »

    This was my first thought as well.

    If someone told me that they didn't like seafood, the last thing I would do would be to try and make them eat it...or take them somewhere that does "only" seafood.

    If he's said that he doesn't like seafood, then I would assume that he's either 1) had it and doesn't like it, 2) hasn't ever had it and has no interest in trying it.

    Also assuming that this is date #4, the last thing I would do if I wanted date #5 is suggest a place that I KNEW he wouldn't like. That seems kind of counter productive to me.

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  • M2LRM2LR Posts: 8,630Registered Users
    Plus, if it's only date #4, I think it's almost too early to try the "I want you to try new things!!!" angle. You're still kind of getting to know each other.

    I don't know, it's just not something that I would do.
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  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    SpiceCurls wrote: »
    criscat wrote: »
    Is that an adult?

    If it is, why would you want to do that?

    Why not? Some seafood is good for you (I know...I know...mercury). If I can introduce a person to a new experience they might like, great! I like it when that happens to me. If he's not open to it, I won't push. I'll ask once then move on.
    iris427 wrote: »
    Fried calamari

    But you seem to be assuming this person has never tried seafood. Do you know that for sure? I really dislike most seafood and it's not for lack of trying. I just don't like that fishy smell or taste and never have.
    I also have ethical objections to a lot of seafood, considering the way it is harvested. If land animals were harvested that way for food, there would be an uproar I bet. But sea animals live out of sight and thus mostly out of mind. So are you sure they don't have personal reasons for avoiding seafood?

    No, I'm not assuming. I was going to mention in my post that I don't know what seafood/if any he's tried, but I forgot to.

    OK now I'm confused. You said you don't know what kind of seafood he's had or if he's tried it. So yes, you're assuming that he hasn't tried it.

    Sorry, but I'm an adult and if I tell someone I don't like a certain kind of food, I hope they would give me the benefit of the doubt that I know what I like and don't like. It would really annoy me if I told someone I didn't like something and then they tried to push it on me. Especially someone I had recently started dating.

    My two cents as someone who doesn't like seafood.
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  • SpiceCurlsSpiceCurls Posts: 501Registered Users
    It's not for date 4...It was an idea for maybe down the road. LIKE I SAID, I'll ask if he might want to try it. If not, then fine. I won't make it for him. I'm not going to "make" him eat it either and I'm certainly not taking him to any seafood restaurants.

    How is not knowing what kind of seafood he's had (or if he's tried it) assuming that he hasn't tried it?

    I don't know means I don't know. So I must find out. Not assume. And no one is pushing. I said I'll ask. This is getting weird.
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  • vegas_curlsvegas_curls Posts: 857Registered Users
    criscat wrote: »
    You mean this person never tried seafood? Weird.

    Um, not really. It could depend on the person's upbringing. Perhaps they simply weren't exposed to seafood while growing up for cultural reasons. Maybe a parent had an intense dislike for seafood, or perhaps a parent or sibling had a seafood allergy. A number of scenerios could apply.

    SpiceCurls, the next time you and this person go out to dinner, if you order a seafood dish, politely ask, "Would you like to taste some of my ____?" If they refuse, don't push it, simply enjoy your dinner.

    I'm with midgi - as someone who doesn't care for seafood, you'll have to let that person come around on their own terms and in their own timing. IF they express an interest in wanting to try it, start them out s-l-o-w-l-y, like on something that's firm and not so fishy tasting.

    hth
  • SpiceCurlsSpiceCurls Posts: 501Registered Users
    criscat wrote: »
    You mean this person never tried seafood? Weird.

    Um, not really. It could depend on the person's upbringing. Perhaps they simply weren't exposed to seafood while growing up for cultural reasons. Maybe a parent had an intense dislike for seafood, or perhaps a parent or sibling had a seafood allergy. A number of scenerios could apply.

    SpiceCurls, the next time you and this person go out to dinner, if you order a seafood dish, politely ask, "Would you like to taste some of my ____?" If they refuse, don't push it, simply enjoy your dinner.

    I'm with midgi - as someone who doesn't care for seafood, you'll have to let that person come around on their own terms and in their own timing. IF they express an interest in wanting to try it, start them out s-l-o-w-l-y, like on something that's firm and not so fishy tasting.

    hth

    Good idea - that's one way to do it.
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  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    SpiceCurls wrote: »
    It's not for date 4...It was an idea for maybe down the road. LIKE I SAID, I'll ask if he might want to try it. If not, then fine. I won't make it for him. I'm not going to "make" him eat it either and I'm certainly not taking him to any seafood restaurants.

    How is not knowing what kind of seafood he's had (or if he's tried it) assuming that he hasn't tried it?

    I don't know means I don't know. So I must find out. Not assume. And no one is pushing. I said I'll ask. This is getting weird.

    Because if you don't know, you don't ask about how to get someone who doesn't like seafood to eat it on a message board. You ask the person themselves if they like it.

    You specifically said in your OP that he is a non-seafood lover and you want to introduce him to seafood. Introduce means present something new to someone. So, yes, you are assuming he has never tried it.
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  • criscatcriscat Posts: 355Registered Users
    Yes, there is ambiguity in the OP, that's where the confusion came from.

    Anyway, now I'm curious Spice Curls. Tell us more, why didn't the person ever tried seafood?

    Or did has he tried it, didn't like it (non-seafood lover), but now you want to persuade him to eat it because seafood is good for you?
  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    criscat wrote: »
    Yes, there is ambiguity in the OP, that's where the confusion came from.

    Anyway, now I'm curious Spice Curls. Tell us more, why didn't the person ever tried seafood?

    Or did has he tried it, didn't like it (non-seafood lover), but now you want to persuade him to eat it because seafood is good for you?

    She doesn't know if he's tried seafood, if he liked it, or what kind he's tried. She said that in an earlier post. That's why I'm confused.
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  • SpiceCurlsSpiceCurls Posts: 501Registered Users
    He actually said he wasn't "big on" seafood. So I don't know exactly what that means. I'd like to know and plan to ask. No big deal. That's not pushing in any way. I'll ask him to clarify.

    Have people been really pushy with you in life? Therefore a hint of it now drives you crazy or what?

    He could be morally opposed (I don't believe so). He could be allergic (again, I doubt it). He could be turned off by the look, smell or just thought of it & never tried (I know people like this). He could have tried one thing and decided all seafood is not for him. Or he could have had one bad experience but still be open to seafood.

    And I called him a non-seafood lover and said "introduce"...idk...b/c it all seemed easier to type at the time. I could have used other words. So it wasn't an assumption just a choice of words. But I shouldn't have to be this specific over such a minor situation.
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  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    SpiceCurls wrote: »
    He actually said he wasn't "big on" seafood. So I don't know exactly what that means. I'd like to know and plan to ask. No big deal. That's not pushing in any way. I'll ask him to clarify.

    Have people been really pushy with you in life? Therefore a hint of it now drives you crazy or what?

    He could be morally opposed (I don't believe so). He could be allergic (again, I doubt it). He could be turned off by the look, smell or just thought of it & never tried (I know people like this). He could have tried one thing and decided all seafood is not for him. Or he could have had one bad experience but still be open to seafood.

    And I called him a non-seafood lover and said "introduce"...idk...b/c it all seemed easier to type at the time. I could have used other words. So it wasn't an assumption just a choice of words. But I shouldn't have to be this specific over such a minor situation.

    But if you aren't specific, then people are going to ask you questions like I did. You can't leave info out of your original post and then get annoyed when people don't know that info. Or when they take the words you choose to mean the things that those words usually mean.

    I'm not trying to flame you, Spice Curls. I asked you some questions to clarify the situation in my mind and then I was confused because your responses weren't consistent with your original post.
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  • criscatcriscat Posts: 355Registered Users
    SpiceCurls wrote: »
    He actually said he wasn't "big on" seafood. So I don't know exactly what that means. I'd like to know and plan to ask. No big deal. That's not pushing in any way. I'll ask him to clarify.

    Have people been really pushy with you in life? Therefore a hint of it now drives you crazy or what?

    He could be morally opposed (I don't believe so). He could be allergic (again, I doubt it). He could be turned off by the look, smell or just thought of it & never tried (I know people like this). He could have tried one thing and decided all seafood is not for him. Or he could have had one bad experience but still be open to seafood.

    And I called him a non-seafood lover and said "introduce"...idk...b/c it all seemed easier to type at the time. I could have used other words. So it wasn't an assumption just a choice of words. But I shouldn't have to be this specific over such a minor situation.


    "He actually said he wasn't "big on" seafood."

    Aha!
    That's a polite way to say he hates it.

    But, if you want to know more details, you could suggest a Japanese restaurant and see what the reaction is.

    " Have people been really pushy with you in life?"
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  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    criscat wrote: »
    SpiceCurls wrote: »
    He actually said he wasn't "big on" seafood. So I don't know exactly what that means. I'd like to know and plan to ask. No big deal. That's not pushing in any way. I'll ask him to clarify.

    Have people been really pushy with you in life? Therefore a hint of it now drives you crazy or what?

    He could be morally opposed (I don't believe so). He could be allergic (again, I doubt it). He could be turned off by the look, smell or just thought of it & never tried (I know people like this). He could have tried one thing and decided all seafood is not for him. Or he could have had one bad experience but still be open to seafood.

    And I called him a non-seafood lover and said "introduce"...idk...b/c it all seemed easier to type at the time. I could have used other words. So it wasn't an assumption just a choice of words. But I shouldn't have to be this specific over such a minor situation.


    "He actually said he wasn't "big on" seafood."

    Aha!
    That's a polite way to say he hates it.


    But, if you want to know more details, you could suggest a Japanese restaurant and see what the reaction is.

    " Have people been really pushy with you in life?"
    Yes, I've been hunted by preachers with bibles.

    Yep, that's what I think.

    Criscat, I think the pushy question was directed at me. ;)
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  • JosephineJosephine Posts: 14,175Registered Users
    SpiceCurls wrote: »
    How can I encourage a non-seafood lover to eat seafood? I won’t force anybody or be naggy about it. But I find that when I try stuff that turned me off initially, I usually like it.

    What kind of seafood dishes are OK for newbies?

    I guess it would depend on the person. I hate seafood so none for me. Recently though at one thai place I go to I will eat the soup with the shrimp picked out since it doesn't smell. Everywhere else I can smell it. Before I was so picky, if it even touched my food (even if there was no smell) I wouldn't eat any of it.

    Some people are a little more open. My brother and sister used to hate seafood as well and I think they started out with shrimp and fried fish. My ex also hated fish and most seafood but could eat it if it didnt smell too bad.
  • criscatcriscat Posts: 355Registered Users
    iris427 wrote: »
    Criscat, I think the pushy question was directed at me. ;)


    Oh, now you want the pushy question just for yourself, how cute :tongue1:
  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    criscat wrote: »
    iris427 wrote: »
    Criscat, I think the pushy question was directed at me. ;)


    Oh, now you want the pushy question just for yourself, how cute :tongue1:

    It's because I'm pushy. I'm a pusher.

    (Mean Girls, anyone?)
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  • cymprenicympreni Posts: 9,609Registered Users
    If he wants to try it, fine. But you haven't even asked him yet. Only thing you know is he isn't big on it, (which I too, interpret as hate it).

    Stop thinking so much!!!! You don't even know enough about him to know his seafood history, and you're still counting dates. But your making long-term plans about introducing him to stuff in the future, before even asking if he'd be open to it. Save the long-term plans for when your an exclusive couple. Otherwise, don't plan past the next date.
  • criscatcriscat Posts: 355Registered Users
    I'd be immediately turned off by a guy who can't appreciate a juicy tuna.

    Just sayin.
  • FieryCurlsFieryCurls Posts: 2,904Registered Users
    Why don't you just take past suggestions and chill on men for a while?
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  • spiderman5000spiderman5000 Posts: 673Registered Users
    I hated all seafood up until about six months ago. A few years ago my best friend wanted to take me out to sushi. I went and ended up loving it. The first thing I had was a piece of yellowtail sashimi. I had always kind of enjoyed locks (sp?) as a kid and it tasted very similar. I slowly started eating different kinds of sushi and finally gave in and started eating shrimp, muscles, oysters (YUM), etc etc a few months back. I'm obsessed now.
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