Softer hair?

Flower princessFlower princess Posts: 608Registered Users
How can i achieve softer hair.My growth feels somehow ''soft'' after washing and detangling ,then after drying it feels so hard.It seams that i can't do anything with it.I've tried roller setting but it didn't work and i don't want it to be braided or in a bun always.What can i do any new style ,any advice to achieve softer hair?

P.S .I try to always do DT once a week and moisturize frequently. I also try co-washes but it seams that nothing works on my hair.

Thanks in advance!!
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  • mariag002mariag002 Posts: 3,557Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Sounds like you're doing all the right things. Did you do the BC yet? Because if you haven't, that could be why. My hair looked and felt alot different until I cut off the relaxed ends. If you already did the BC, it might be that you still haven't gotten used to the roughness of your new hair. My natural hair is alot rougher and stronger than the relaxed hair. I cut it 7 months ago and it still feels "weird" to me.
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    Relaxer free for almost 5 years!

  • Flower princessFlower princess Posts: 608Registered Users
    mariag002 wrote: »
    Sounds like you're doing all the right things. Did you do the BC yet? Because if you haven't, that could be why. My hair looked and felt alot different until I cut off the relaxed ends. If you already did the BC, it might be that you still haven't gotten used to the roughness of your new hair. My natural hair is alot rougher and stronger than the relaxed hair. I cut it 7 months ago and it still feels "weird" to me.

    Hey!Thanks for answering:)I haven't done the BC yet and I'm on the 7th month.But why does it seams that all that i do don't work for my hair?That's little discouraging...
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  • mariag002mariag002 Posts: 3,557Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Because not all products will respond to your relaxed hair, that's why. I couldn't use gel when I had a relaxer, but now my hair responds quite nicely. It was easier for me to "pretend" my entire head was relaxed than to try to make my relaxer act nice with the natural hair :laughing7: I would look in the mirror and just be like omg what a mess.

    I know its very discouraging. I hope it makes you feel better knowing that once you cut the relaxed ends it'll be soooo much easier for you. Don't give up because you're almost there. As far as softer hair goes, the ONLY thing that worked for me was rollersets. Other than that I had a ponytail because nothing else worked. Just keep experimenting until you find something that suits you. Here's a great page that has transitioning tips: http://www.long-healthy-hair-advisor.com/index.html
    - Maria

    Big Chop: 9/23/07
    Relaxer free for almost 5 years!

  • chicacanelachicacanela Posts: 184Registered Users
    i know just how you feel. so many products that promised softness during my transition left me with nothing but 2 different textures of hardness. i honestly didn't really find one that delievered. it would be soft wet, and hard when dry. one thing i will say that made my hair soft period was carrot oil creme by ors. it really softens hair instantly. i would give that a try and report back.
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  • Flower princessFlower princess Posts: 608Registered Users
    mariag002 wrote: »
    Because not all products will respond to your relaxed hair, that's why. I couldn't use gel when I had a relaxer, but now my hair responds quite nicely. It was easier for me to "pretend" my entire head was relaxed than to try to make my relaxer act nice with the natural hair :laughing7: I would look in the mirror and just be like omg what a mess.

    I know its very discouraging. I hope it makes you feel better knowing that once you cut the relaxed ends it'll be soooo much easier for you. Don't give up because you're almost there. As far as softer hair goes, the ONLY thing that worked for me was rollersets. Other than that I had a ponytail because nothing else worked. Just keep experimenting until you find something that suits you. Here's a great page that has transitioning tips: http://www.long-healthy-hair-advisor.com/index.html

    Thanks mariag002 for the link ,and your kind and encouraging words.I'll just keep trying probably after the BC it will change :)
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  • multicultcurlymulticultcurly Posts: 5,136Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Your unprocessed hair may also be adjusting. When I grew out a relaxer my new growth was hard and a different texture than what it was before the relaxer. It took about 3 months to a year to normalize. That may be a factor.

    It could also be what Maria said, especially if you've never known what your unprocessed hair is like or if you have both relaxed and natural hair. Give it time. You'll eventually grow to love it!
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  • missmoniemissmonie Posts: 920Registered Users
    i agree.....it may take time for your hair to adjust and for you to adjust to your hair. when i transitioned....when I let my hair air dry....the natural hair felt like brillo which was a bit discouraging. once i officially chopped the relaxer, started co-washing and doing deep treatments....it took about 3-4 months before my hair started to feel soft and moisturized (and this is partially because I wasn't moisturizing it properly when i transitioned). i also found Karen's Body Beautiful Hair Milk to work really well on softening my hair. I'm really happy with the current health of my hair....but it wasn't like this in the beginning, so just be patient, continue doing the right things and I'm sure it will change.
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  • Flower princessFlower princess Posts: 608Registered Users
    i know just how you feel. so many products that promised softness during my transition left me with nothing but 2 different textures of hardness. i honestly didn't really find one that delievered. it would be soft wet, and hard when dry. one thing i will say that made my hair soft period was carrot oil creme by ors. it really softens hair instantly. i would give that a try and report back.
    Thanks for answering chicacanela .I'll try it since my sister bought some a few weeks ago.:)
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  • Flower princessFlower princess Posts: 608Registered Users
    Your unprocessed hair may also be adjusting. When I grew out a relaxer my new growth was hard and a different texture than what it was before the relaxer. It took about 3 months to a year to normalize. That may be a factor.

    It could also be what Maria said, especially if you've never known what your unprocessed hair is like or if you have both relaxed and natural hair. Give it time. You'll eventually grow to love it!
    Thansk for answering multicultcurly!:)I'll give it time :D
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  • Flower princessFlower princess Posts: 608Registered Users
    missmonie wrote: »
    i agree.....it may take time for your hair to adjust and for you to adjust to your hair. when i transitioned....when I let my hair air dry....the natural hair felt like brillo which was a bit discouraging. once i officially chopped the relaxer, started co-washing and doing deep treatments....it took about 3-4 months before my hair started to feel soft and moisturized (and this is partially because I wasn't moisturizing it properly when i transitioned). i also found Karen's Body Beautiful Hair Milk to work really well on softening my hair. I'm really happy with the current health of my hair....but it wasn't like this in the beginning, so just be patient, continue doing the right things and I'm sure it will change.

    Thanks for answering missmonie:)
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    It's Not What's ON Your Head, But What's IN Your Head!

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