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Picking a name

jcejce Posts: 507Registered Users
How did you decide on your baby's name? I'm having a bit of trouble.

One issue has to do with names I like, but I know people who either have that name or have named their kids that. And especially if it's people I or DH interact with, I would feel awkward if our kids had the same or similar names.

Second issue has to do with a name DH likes, and I actually like too, but the short form of the name (the one we would use most often) is the same as my boss' dog's name. And I know the dog. He brings the dog into the office, it comes into my office and puts its head on my lap. He does agility shows with the dog, and office conversations on Mondays frequently include "So how did you and Xxx do at the dog show this weekend?" I can't call my child the same name as a dog I know! Every time I called my child, I'd be seeing a standard poodle in my mind.

I'm having a hard enough time finding names I like at all, so this is really starting to get annoying. Any suggestions?
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  • Oregano  (formerly babywavy)Oregano (formerly babywavy) Posts: 5,297Registered Users
    Ya, that does get complicated, but I wouldn't name my kid a name that has either of those connections.

    With both kids I happened to decide on a name when I was almost 9 months pregnant. After my long list of names we were going back and forth with, I decided on Bailey as I was watching WKRP in Cincinnatti while I was home from work (she's the secretary).

    And Bella was decided on totally last minute. We again had been going back and forth with names, and I gave Bailey a couple to choose from - Bella was a last minute choice I just threw in there, and she picked that one!

    The dog thing will get annoying. I have people tell me all the time that they had a dog named Bailey - I'm like, hmmm, thanks.
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  • Jenny CJenny C Posts: 1,195Registered Users
    With my older daughter it was easy. I liked the name Lucy for as long as I can remember, so I knew that would be it. I really don't like the nanme Lucille though so I went the Italian version Lucia as her full name.

    With my second I had a similar issue as you in that one of best friends has a PIG named Sophia. It was one of the few names DH and I agreed upon, but I thought it was a weird to name my daughter after a pig. In the end we decided to just go with it anyway because it's not like we see the pig every day, or anything.

    I say if you really like the name, don't worry about the dog with that name. It's pretty far removed from you, and in the long run, you'll forget all about the dog.
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  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    We'd been discussing names for years and I had always planned to name my first son Isaiah. Then my best friend ruined that for me by insisting that she wanted to name her first son that (she has no kids yet, so I could have ignored her, but I didn't.) I was all sad that I had no boys' names (we didn't find out the gender, so we planned for both, but I just KNEW he was a boy) and then a name just literally came to both of us, and we used it, with Isaiah as a middle name. And this name is a lot less common but also Biblical, which I like. He also has my granddaddy's name for a middle name.

    I already know my first girl will have a variation on my grandmama's name (which is one of mine.) Not sure about the next boy or girl. Generally, where I would look for names would be the Bible, family names, or African/ethnic names. I think whatever scriptures you follow, whatever ethnicity you are, and your own family are great places to start. But I believe in the right name coming to you rather than having to do a lot of searching. I also suggest you not run names by a lot of family and friends because you will get inundated by opinions, you'll get the names you love being criticized, or people will claim that that is "their" name.
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  • KaiaKaia Posts: 8,815Registered Users
    jce wrote: »
    I can't call my child the same name as a dog I know! Every time I called my child, I'd be seeing a standard poodle in my mind.

    I very much doubt that. :lol: Once you give the name to your child, you won't think of the dog anymore. I think you should give your child a name you like. The dog is not even your dog, and dogs don't even live that long. On the flip side, your child will have this name his/her whole life. By the time your child is old enough to make any kind of connection, the dog will likely be gone. My sister has a very similar name to my grandparents' dog. She never even met this dog, and it's long dead now. Unless the dog is in your own house, I wouldn't worry about it.
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  • webjockeywebjockey Posts: 2,786Registered Users
    The deal was that if it was a boy I chose a name & final say and he had limited veto rights.

    If it was a girl he chose the name & final say and I had limited veto rights.
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  • Brown_Eyed_GirlBrown_Eyed_Girl Posts: 1,353Registered Users
    Amneris wrote: »
    I also suggest you not run names by a lot of family and friends because you will get inundated by opinions, you'll get the names you love being criticized, or people will claim that that is "their" name.

    ITA. We're keeping the names a secret until the baby's born. (We have a girl name picked out, but still working on a boy name.) Even our parents haven't protested too much. I have told people a few of the names we liked but discarded because they are so popular right now.

    I agree about not worrying about the dog. I wouldn't even worry too much about knowing other people with the same name (exceptions would be an ex, or someone you or your husband really didn't like). Unless you pick a really, really offbeat name, chances are even if you don't know anyone with that name right now, you or the child will later.
  • nynaeve77nynaeve77 Posts: 7,135Registered Users
    My hubby and I had the WORST time trying to pick out a girl's name. We finally resorted to reading through lists of names on babynames.com until we found one we agreed on. I like really girly names like Olivia and Sophia, and he liked Margaret and Linda. We finally settled on Danae because it was very distinctive.

    Of course, Lord help us if we have another daughter someday...LOL!
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Both my kids have names I found interesting when I was a child. They stuck with me all this time.

    That's not to say we didn't consider lots of other names. We did! And we didn't decide on either of the names until the kids were 2 days old and we were being pressured by the hospital photographer! LOL

    Choosing a boy's name was much harder for me because most of the names I liked were the names of my various exes. And I felt a little ehhhh about that. But whatever. And I understand the dog thing because I would have named my son the same name as my dead dog...but DH wasn't going for it!

    Traditionally, Catholics were supposed to choose a Biblical name, the name of a saint or the name of a family member. But the church has moved away from that so we have more options. Too many options, it seemed at times!

    But I wanted to steer clear of the uber trendy names. I didn't want them to be one of five in their classes with the same name. And I found the more you talk to other local expectant parents about names, all you hear are the same uber trendy name suggestions. It's probably best to talk with an old person, a person from another culture or a person whose personality is totally different from yours if you want less common/popular name suggestions. On top of that, I didn't want their names to sound stuck up or silly. So, lot's to consider. LOL

  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    Both my kids have names I found interesting when I was a child. They stuck with me all this time.

    That's not to say we didn't consider lots of other names. We did! And we didn't decide on either of the names until the kids were 2 days old and we were being pressured by the hospital photographer! LOL

    Choosing a boy's name was much harder for me because most of the names I liked were the names of my various exes. And I felt a little ehhhh about that. But whatever. And I understand the dog thing because I would have named my son the same name as my dead dog...but DH wasn't going for it!

    Traditionally, Catholics were supposed to choose a Biblical name, the name of a saint or the name of a family member. But the church has moved away from that so we have more options. Too many options, it seemed at times!

    But I wanted to steer clear of the uber trendy names. I didn't want them to be one of five in their classes with the same name. And I found the more you talk to other local expectant parents about names, all you hear are the same uber trendy name suggestions. It's probably best to talk with an old person, a person from another culture or a person whose personality is totally different from yours if you want less common/popular name suggestions. On top of that, I didn't want their names to sound stuck up or silly. So, lot's to consider. LOL

    Yep! It's a tradition in my family that those are all used for middle names, if not first names. All of us have a saint name, and my son has one as a middle name (which is also my granddaddy's name.) In fact, another boy name I like is a saint name.
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  • cosmicflycosmicfly Posts: 1,814Registered Users
    My ex husband and I did not find out Maxwell's gender in advance, but we had both a boy's name and a girl's name picked out, they just kind of came to us and they fit. My ex husband is Indian, so we chose an Indian middle name for Max.

    For Maya, my ex wanted to use the girl's name we had picked out for Max, but I wasn't sure. Max actually suggested Maya, and all 3 of us liked it. I used the original girl's name for Max as Maya's middle name.

    This time, we are having a terrible time. We each had a couple of girls' names in mind, but this baby is a boy. I have a son and SO has 2 sons, and out friends and family members have lots of boys. It's been a real challenge to find a name that we like that isn't taken. Nothing's really speaking to me, I feel like I';m going to end up choosing a name that I think is nice, but I won't be able to find *the* name.

    Oh, about the dog thing- I am sooo sick of hearing "I have a dog named Max". Ummm- that's nice, it's a people name too. I might be a little sensitive to it, when I named Max, my mom kept insisting it was a dog's name.
  • picklesgirlpicklesgirl Posts: 1,955Registered Users
    with max we decided before we were pregnant that we liked that name and just stuck with it. I also deal with people constantly telling me "i've always loved the name Max I actually have a dog named that"

    And with Quentin that was a very last minute thing we were going to name him Cole and we wrestled with the name Dayne to but with two weeks left my husband decided to tell me that he no longer liked the name Cole (I think because I nixed Dayne) and so then we had to start all over looking for a name then we heard the name Quentin and decided we liked it and it's not a name you hear much well then two weeks after our Quentin was born another couple in our church named their son Quinten I have no idea how long they had been planning on that name but we kind of laugh about it now.. I think the real reason my husband wanted the name Quentin is because he loves Johny Cash and he did that album Live From San Quentin hence the spelling of our Quentin's name I didn't catch on to that however unitl after we had already named him that.. I guess it's better than Bruce after Bruce Springsteen which was brought up because he's an even bigger Bruce Fan than he his a Johny Cash fan
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    cosmicfly wrote: »
    Oh, about the dog thing- I am sooo sick of hearing "I have a dog named Max". Ummm- that's nice, it's a people name too. I might be a little sensitive to it, when I named Max, my mom kept insisting it was a dog's name.


    Um, then you probably won't want to hear that I had a dog named Maya...

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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    I never had a problem naming my kids. There were always a lot of names I really liked. I didn't feel any pressure to use family or biblical names though...I just named my kids with names I liked and that I thought would grow-up well, and also that couldn't be shortened easily, because I don't really like nicknames. I even have several leftover names that I'm a teeny bit sad that I'll never get to use.
  • cosmicflycosmicfly Posts: 1,814Registered Users
    RCW,
    Maybe you have some other dog names I'd like then :wink:. Maxwell's name was going to be Sophia, and my mother kept telling me that was a dog's name.

    I have a couple leftover girls' names that I'm kind of sad about not using and SO has a girl's name that he's always wanted to use but has never had the chance. I find boy's names to be difficult and unfortunately so does he. I like plenty of them well enough, but I can't seem to find the right name for this little guy. I guess I have a little while, though.
  • WileE-DeadWileE-Dead Banned Posts: 24,963Banned Users
    We had one name in mind that was fairly easily to come to an agreement on...
    Sure nuf...we had the opposite sex like I expected...
    But it was all good in the end...
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  • mad scientistmad scientist Posts: 3,530Registered Users
    Both my kids were nameless at birth. With DD, she was nameless for almost a week. I feel like I need to have an actual baby in front me in order to be certain of the name. It has to fit the person.
  • curly_keltiecurly_keltie Posts: 791Registered Users
    Both my kids were nameless at birth. With DD, she was nameless for almost a week. I feel like I need to have an actual baby in front me in order to be certain of the name. It has to fit the person.

    ITA - None of the boy names I thought I would like for a boy suited DS. DS's name was one my mom suggested (because we were stuck) and it just suited him.
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I was at the dentist today and was able to check out the kiddie name/picture board. Here are some less common ones: Jovi (girl), Raelin (boy), Nandi (girl) and Jafari (boy)...in case anyone is looking!

  • DarkAngelDarkAngel Posts: 2,671Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I pulled out my list of Saints and ran through them for names that we felt a connection to. Xander's name has the added bonus of being my mom's maiden name. His middle name is his dad's middle name and his granddad's name. If he hadn't grown a penis, his first girl name was Skylar with my middle name (also great-grandma's). I have no idea what we were thinking at the time. We finally settled on Isabel the day before we found out about the penis. It is the most popular name here so I am glad we didn't use it. We are kind of empty on girl names for now.

    Edit: I also wanted names that had a Spanish counterpart. He is Alejandro to his dad's family.
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  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    We are looking for names that can be easily pronounced in English and Spanish. FI's name is not easily pronounced in Spanish at all and when he lived in Argentina as a child, it made things difficult for him. We have a couple in mind--they are names that we have always come back to when we would casually talk about names that we liked. We've liked them for years, so I think that's a good sign. But that might all change when we meet our baby in person.

    I say forget about other people's kids unless they are family members, and dogs. Who knows how long they will be in your life, especially a dog! Your child will be with you the rest of your life and so will their name. Pick a name you like and try not to worry what others think.

    I also recommend not telling people the names until your baby is born and named. If you like a name, then you like it. You will never find a name that everyone in the world likes, so all that will happen is people will say they don't like it and you will get hurt and/or end up changing your plans for your child's name based on someone else's opinion.

    This from someone who does not have a child yet, so take it with a grain of salt if you want :)
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    Maybe you have some other dog names I'd like then icon_wink.gif


    After Maya (a Pug), I stopped using people names for pets. My current pets are named Splash and Smudge...not very good people names. Other pets that I've had with people names were Ginger, Kerry, and Lilly. No help to you, though, since nearly all my pets have been girls.

    My leftover baby boy names were Nolan and Kellan...my sons are all named with 'an' at the end of their names (Ryan, Evan and Tristan). You're welcome to them, since I don't think they'd make very good pet names.

    My sister has a dog named Sam. My brother had a baby boy after that and named him Sam. It doesn't seem to cause any confusion in the family.
  • susancnwsusancnw Posts: 1,366Registered Users
    I've wanted to name a boy Christopher Michael since I was a kid. Hubby was okay with Christopher, but didn't care for Michael...so I suggested hubby's first name as Chris' middle name...and he almost cried...it was so sweet. If he had been a girl, his name would have been Christine Michelle (I think). #2 son is David and two middle names after his GFs..MIL apparently is still upset that my father's name is first--we decided on alphabetical order - and she is definitely upset that both his name were not used on his HS diploma - after all, BIL's diploma has all his names on it...okay, we're talking 27 letters as opposed to 31 and those 4 letters make a difference on a diploma. If they had asked, I would have asked that they use both initials on it.

    Victoria Autumn is my oldest daughter's name (I love her name) Years ago I worked with a tall, elegant creature named Tori and I loved her name. Took me a while to realize that it was short for Victoria, but Victoria just did not suit her. My daughter goes by Tori or Victoria. We call her both and school calls her both. I was determined not to have a 'princess' after 2 boys, so what do they do? Tell her that she was named after a queen. She wasn't, I just like the name! Again, MIL doesn't care for it (actually told Tori that she hates her name) as she is a rabid Anglophile and holds Queen Victoria personally responsible for the downfall of the British Empire. (I can't win with names) Younger daughter is Alexandra Grace...wanted Grace as a first name, hubby didn't care for it, so he found the Greek word for Grace for me.:D We considered Bethany til I looked up the meaning "House of Poverty" and I refuse to give that to a child. Mentioned THAT to her and she said, 'well, how fitting'. We've never had tons of money like her other sons so....but that was so out of line. I make her sound horrid, but she is wonderful in a lot of ways...she's been there for us at some pretty difficult times and was such a Godsend when we lost our youngest son...so I tend to cut her some slack, but she's about run out of that!

    Maybe check back in your heritage for popular names. I do love the name Emma, but that was soundly vetoed so...I considered Sydney for Tori, until I thought of Victoria and then no question about it.

    Another hint is make sure that you can go to the front door and yell it at the top of your lungs...I tried that with a name or two (forgotten now) and died laughing...so those were off the list.
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  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    Susan, your MIL sounds like mine--very helpful at times and someone you want to strangle at other times.

    Good suggestion to practice yelling names.
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  • KaiaKaia Posts: 8,815Registered Users
    babywavy wrote: »
    The dog thing will get annoying. I have people tell me all the time that they had a dog named Bailey - I'm like, hmmm, thanks.

    Yup, I have a dog named Bailey. ;) I also have dogs named Lisa and Jake (this one I regret b/c I liked Jacob/Jake as a boy's name, I even thought about renaming the dog). I don't really get why people (in general, not just BW) get offended about this. I always have to bite my toungue when I meet a Lisa b/c I'd love to tell them that's my dog's name too. :lol: If I met a dog with my name, I'd be thrilled, but maybe I'm just a crazy dog person. DH's dad named a dog after him, although DH didn't go by that name at the time. He does now, so whenever they talk about the dog, it's "xxx the dog" to differentiate between them. DH was never offended, he thought it was pretty cool. Like I said, unless the pet is a young pet living in the same household as the child (as is our case with Jake), I would not let this stop me from choosing the name I liked best.
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  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    Bailey422 wrote: »
    babywavy wrote: »
    The dog thing will get annoying. I have people tell me all the time that they had a dog named Bailey - I'm like, hmmm, thanks.

    Yup, I have a dog named Bailey. ;) I also have dogs named Lisa and Jake (this one I regret b/c I liked Jacob/Jake as a boy's name, I even thought about renaming the dog). I don't really get why people (in general, not just BW) get offended about this. I always have to bite my toungue when I meet a Lisa b/c I'd love to tell them that's my dog's name too. :lol: If I met a dog with my name, I'd be thrilled, but maybe I'm just a crazy dog person. DH's dad named a dog after him, although DH didn't go by that name at the time. He does now, so whenever they talk about the dog, it's "xxx the dog" to differentiate between them. DH was never offended, he thought it was pretty cool. Like I said, unless the pet is a young pet living in the same household as the child (as is our case with Jake), I would not let this stop me from choosing the name I liked best.

    Didn't Steve Irwin name his daughter, Bindi, after one of his favorite crocodiles at his zoo? :lol:
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  • DarkAngelDarkAngel Posts: 2,671Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Susan, I'm a Torri. Not Victoria. Just Torri. My mom liked Torri and almost named me Victoria but my grandma campaigned too hard for it so my mom didn't use it to spite her.
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  • CGNYCCGNYC Posts: 4,937Registered Users
    My mom's best friend had a dog with my name. The dog came first. My mom and her friend had their kids all around the same time, so we did a lot of stuff together till I was like FIFTEEN. That dog lived to be like 105 and IT PLAGUED ME. Ok, slightly dramatic, but it sucks sharing the same name as your friend's family dog. ONLY my mom would do something so scattered as name me after a freakin dog.

    We named our daughter after our mothers and that was pretty easy. I had planned to name the next after my grandmother (I AM NOT PREGNANT) but my brother and his wife are expecting and they called it...so now we'll have to think of something else. They've also called it even if this child is a boy...for the next one. I'm not sure that's fair but I'm not going to start anything over it ;)

    Right now I have a short list of girl names I like (I am pretty certain if we ever have a boy, we'll name it after our brothers because oddly, they have the same names) but I'm keeping them kind of close. I like them and don't want them picked apart. It doesn't matter how much you love a name, if you trot it out for inspection before the baby is born, someone is going to say something to hurt your feelings.
  • fuzzbucketfuzzbucket Posts: 996Registered Users
    I never had a problem naming my kids. There were always a lot of names I really liked. I didn't feel any pressure to use family or biblical names though...I just named my kids with names I liked and that I thought would grow-up well, and also that couldn't be shortened easily, because I don't really like nicknames. I even have several leftover names that I'm a teeny bit sad that I'll never get to use.

    I don't like nicknames either. We almost named Harry "Henry" after DH's grandpa, but I really hate the nickname "Hank." Harry is a big family name too, and we preferred it, so we went with that. Our girl's name (not pregnant either!) is Anna Elizabeth, for two of our grandmothers and because Anna is not easily shortened.
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  • CurlieGlamourGirlieCurlieGlamourGirlie Posts: 1,198Registered Users
    While pregnant Cool Hand Luke was shown on tv and I fell in love with the name. But it was still a toss-up between a few boys names. So when Luke was born and having trouble breathing right away DH had to soothe him by saying "Okay baby, it's okay" since I hadn't given the green light on a boys name. I had to see him to see if he was a Luke!

    We still have a girls name stashed away that we totally agreed on.
  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    CGNYC wrote: »

    Right now I have a short list of girl names I like (I am pretty certain if we ever have a boy, we'll name it after our brothers because oddly, they have the same names) but I'm keeping them kind of close. I like them and don't want them picked apart. It doesn't matter how much you love a name, if you trot it out for inspection before the baby is born, someone is going to say something to hurt your feelings.

    I agree--if you know you like the name, that's all that matters.
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