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My baby is sick :(

KaiaKaia Posts: 8,815Registered Users
I feel so awful! If I knew we'd have to go through all this, I would have kept him in a sterile bubble the first month. Dylan developed a fever last night. I called the pediatric after-hours number and they sent me to the emergency room. Now we've just been admitted to the hospital, and they want to keep him for 48 hours. This is after they poked and prodded him to get blood, urine, and a spinal tap. Poor baby! He was so brave through the whole thing, even the spinal, but I feel awful. It's the first time I've let something bad/painful happen to him. He's been acting OK despite the fever, so I hope it's just a cold and the tests will all come back negative. I had no idea a baby getting sick would result in such an ordeal! :cry:
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  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    Aw. Poor little guy. I hope he's better soon.

    Do not blame yourself, Bailey. It's not possible to keep them in a plastic bubble.
  • CurlieGlamourGirlieCurlieGlamourGirlie Posts: 1,198Registered Users
    I'm sorry you're going through this. All my best that he's a-okay.

    It's winter - there's TONS of germs out there, so don't blame yourself.
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    Yeah, they always do a spinal tap on a baby under 2 months old with a high-ish fever. I think it's overkill, but they are trying to rule out meningitis. I hope he feels better soon. Are you breastfeeding him?
  • mad scientistmad scientist Posts: 3,530Registered Users
    Hugs, honey!

    My son had a high fever at 17 days old and we were in the hospital for 6 days. The worst 6 days of my life, without a doubt. I still remember him screaming through the spinal tap, the catheter, the IV insertion and every other procedure imaginable.

    In the end he had a kidney infection (and was diagnosed with kidney reflux). I hope that your little one just has a quick cold that will be over with soon!
  • cymprenicympreni Posts: 9,609Registered Users
    Poor thing!!! I hope he gets better soon.
  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Oh, no! Hope he recovers quickly and that it's nothing serious.

  • wavezncurlzwavezncurlz Posts: 1,814Registered Users
    Aww honey! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers! Please keep us updated.
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  • goldygoldy Posts: 5,455Registered Users
    poor guy.. when a baby that young spikes a fever they want to rule out everything and figure out immediately what is causing the fever so they can appropriately treat it..

    {{{hugs}}}

    you can't keep him in a bubble, it's not your fault.. i hope everything turns out well..
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  • PixieCurlPixieCurl Posts: 5,656Registered Users
    You're not a bad mama! We can't protect our babies from everything. I'll keep little Dylan in my thoughts, hoping it turns out to be nothing.
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  • CynaminbearCynaminbear Posts: 4,476Registered Users
    ((hugs))
    I hope he's ok and it's just a cold. You really can't keep them in a bubble, no matter how much we want to.
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  • curly_keltiecurly_keltie Posts: 791Registered Users
    I'm so sorry that you are going through this. But your little one is lucky to have a strong mom to be there for him to comfort him and wipe away his tears.

    Although I am certain this will not bring comfort, I hope it will help you not feel so badly - Sometimes things inevitably happen...even if you keep them in a sterile bubble.

    Please keep us posted.
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  • KaiaKaia Posts: 8,815Registered Users
    Yeah, they always do a spinal tap on a baby under 2 months old with a high-ish fever. I think it's overkill, but they are trying to rule out meningitis. I hope he feels better soon. Are you breastfeeding him?

    Yup, and I fed him right after the spinal tap, which seemed to make him feel better.

    This whole thing seems like overkill, and I feel like they're treating me like a complete moron. They say he needs to stay here for "monitoring" but nobody is monitoring anything. :? They haven't even been in here to take his blood pressure since we were admitted, so I'm not sure what kind of monitoring they think they're doing that I couldn't do at home. Then I asked them for a regular bed instead of the metal crib/cage thing, because he cries in it and I'm laying with him in this really uncomfortable recliner. Of course, they told me no b/c I could roll over onto him. Um, I've been sleeping with my baby since he was 2 days old and incredibly have managed not to kill him. :roll: And now, I'm a bit peeved b/c the doctor (who finally just came after we asked for the dr. at 9 am) asked me what kind of formula he eats. Um, he doesn't get formula. :?

    I'm tempted to say screw it and just take him home, but I'm worried about insurance implications if we leave AMA. He's acting totally fine (sleeping well, alert when he wakes up, feeding well) and the fever is down, so now I'm feeling a bit stupid for freaking out and taking him to the ER. I feel now like I should have just given him Tylenol and watched him at home. Of course, i say this now knowing he's most likely fine, but if he wasn't, I'd never forgive myself for waiting to bring him in. And I know this isn't REALLY my fault, but why is the first thought that enters my mind "OMG, I made my baby sick." :( Does this guilt ever go away?
    *Poster formerly known as Bailey422*

    Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid. ~ George Carlin
  • KaiaKaia Posts: 8,815Registered Users
    And slightly off topic... I feel like I've birthed a monster. :lol: Dylan is 24 inches and 11 lb 10 oz today!!! What the heck is he eating? Oh yeah.... ;)
    *Poster formerly known as Bailey422*

    Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid. ~ George Carlin
  • inheritedcurlsinheritedcurls Posts: 2,954Registered Users
    Bailey422 wrote: »
    [Does this guilt ever go away?

    Unfortunately no. It only gets worse.

    Hang in there. We're all here for you!!!
  • sarah42sarah42 Posts: 4,034Registered Users
    I wish Dylan a speedy recovery--it sounds like he's feeling better already.

    It's probably better to overreact than underreact; you know, better safe than sorry and all that. I think I'd have done the same thing.
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  • cajuncurlscajuncurls Posts: 270Registered Users
    Being a mom is so hard. And it doesn't get easier as they get older. They'll always be your baby. I still call Tristan every day and worry about her at college.
    I cant imagine having a little one in the hospital! Three kids, and so far I haven't been there. (Fingers crossed) I almost cry every time they give her shots!
    Elli got really sick around 4 weeks, bad congestion, slight fever and general misery.
    She's got her second cold now, at 6 months. Not bad, considering some babies are sick all the time.
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  • KaiaKaia Posts: 8,815Registered Users
    Well, it turns out Dylan has a UTI. How in the world he got it is beyond me... I thought boys don't really get these. According to the doctor that talked to DH (I went home to shower), it's because he's not circumcised. Grrrr! :banghead: Then again this is the same Dr who didn't bother asking how I feed my baby, but instead asked what brand of formula he gets. :roll:

    They still want to keep us for 48 hours, so hopefully we can go home tomorrow morning or early afternoon.
    *Poster formerly known as Bailey422*

    Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid. ~ George Carlin
  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    Bailey422 wrote: »
    Well, it turns out Dylan has a UTI. How in the world he got it is beyond me... I thought boys don't really get these. According to the doctor that talked to DH (I went home to shower), it's because he's not circumcised. Grrrr! :banghead: Then again this is the same Dr who didn't bother asking how I feed my baby, but instead asked what brand of formula he gets. :roll:

    They still want to keep us for 48 hours, so hopefully we can go home tomorrow morning or early afternoon.

    Wow, that doctor sounds like a winner.

    I hope Dylan is feeling better soon! And you too, Bailey!
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  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    Bailey422 wrote: »
    Well, it turns out Dylan has a UTI. How in the world he got it is beyond me... I thought boys don't really get these. According to the doctor that talked to DH (I went home to shower), it's because he's not circumcised. Grrrr! :banghead: Then again this is the same Dr who didn't bother asking how I feed my baby, but instead asked what brand of formula he gets. :roll:

    They still want to keep us for 48 hours, so hopefully we can go home tomorrow morning or early afternoon.



    Everything below the waist is going to be blamed on his foreskin, you know that don't you? Just let it slide...they're ignorant of what being intact really means.

    Boys don't generally get UTI's, but they can catch all manner of nasty stuff in the hospital, so he may have acquired it at birth, or even during your present stay. Did they catheterize him at all while you have been there?
  • KaiaKaia Posts: 8,815Registered Users
    Did they catheterize him at all while you have been there?

    Yes, when we first came in, but that's the urine sample that was positive for the UTI, so it must have been there already. When he was born, he never left my sight, so I don't think he would have caught it then. I guess it's one of those things that sometimes just happen.
    *Poster formerly known as Bailey422*

    Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid. ~ George Carlin
  • RedCatWavesRedCatWaves Posts: 31,258Registered Users
    Bailey422 wrote: »
    Did they catheterize him at all while you have been there?

    Yes, when we first came in, but that's the urine sample that was positive for the UTI, so it must have been there already. When he was born, he never left my sight, so I don't think he would have caught it then. I guess it's one of those things that sometimes just happen.



    Yeah, it's probably just one of those things. Still...he could have caught it in the hospital after he was born and he has just been brewing it for the last few weeks. Hospital bacteria are especially virulent and even a quick exam done by the doc/nurse as a newborn could have given it to him, especially if anyone tried to retract the foreskin at all. I've seen doctors do that with my own eyes...doctors who have spent 12 years in college (so I know they're not stupid) and should know not to retract a foreskin, just trying to yank it back...because they "just want to take a quick look".

    I hope he feels better and you get to go home soon.
  • mad scientistmad scientist Posts: 3,530Registered Users
    Bailey422 wrote: »
    Well, it turns out Dylan has a UTI. How in the world he got it is beyond me... I thought boys don't really get these. According to the doctor that talked to DH (I went home to shower), it's because he's not circumcised. Grrrr! :banghead: Then again this is the same Dr who didn't bother asking how I feed my baby, but instead asked what brand of formula he gets. :roll:

    They still want to keep us for 48 hours, so hopefully we can go home tomorrow morning or early afternoon.

    Are they going to test him for reflux? If a baby boy gets a UTI that's usually why, and its the most common reason for UTIs in newborns. Its a weakness in the urethra that allows urine to flow back into the urinary tract/kidneys making them prone to infection.

    In my son's case, no one ever suggested lack of circumcision as the reason for his UTI (I even asked about it). The doctor thought it had started brewing in utero.
  • KaiaKaia Posts: 8,815Registered Users
    Yay, we're finally home! They did an ultrasound on him and everything looked good, so they sent us home with antibiotics and a follow-up visit with our ped tomorrow. We also have to come back next week for a VCUG (I think that's what it's called), where they inject a dye into his bladder and do another U/S (I think that's what you're talking about, mad scientist). I'm so glad to be home, and I think Dylan is too. He was looking around all content when we first came in. I really hope everything will clear up b/c I REALLY don't want to repeat this. I thought labor was the longest 2 days of my life, but being in the hospital with a sick baby definitely beat that.
    *Poster formerly known as Bailey422*

    Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid. ~ George Carlin
  • mad scientistmad scientist Posts: 3,530Registered Users
    I'm glad you guys are home and doing well! ((hugs)) I remember how horrible the experience is.

    Its great that the u/s looked good. DS's had shown a hydronephrosis (hardening of the kidney walls) which was the first clue that it was a kidney infection and reflux. If your DS's kidneys look good then this may have just been a random occurence and not reflux.

    The VCUG isn't fun either, although I have to say the urology nurse was about a bzillion times more competent at putting in a catheter than anyone on the pediatrics unit. Hopefully the procedure will go smoothly!
  • mad scientistmad scientist Posts: 3,530Registered Users
    Did Lucas have his VCUG yet? How is he doing?

    Just thinking about you guys and hope everything is going well!
  • KaiaKaia Posts: 8,815Registered Users
    Thanks for thinking about us!

    Yup, Dylan had the VCUG and it came back normal. So I guess the UTI was just a random infection, possibly from the hospital or maybe even before he was born. Who knows...

    Anyway, I think we're almost done with all the sickness drama (I hope). When D. was on antibiotics, we got thrush. Then he scratched my nipple and I got a nasty infection, so then I was on antibiotics. And now that I'm almost done with mine, I think we may have thrush again b/c he's once again being very rough with me when he nurses. I guess this is all I get for having such an easy first few weeks with him. :lol:
    *Poster formerly known as Bailey422*

    Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid. ~ George Carlin
  • CynaminbearCynaminbear Posts: 4,476Registered Users
    Bailey422 wrote: »
    Well, it turns out Dylan has a UTI. How in the world he got it is beyond me... I thought boys don't really get these. According to the doctor that talked to DH (I went home to shower), it's because he's not circumcised. Grrrr! :banghead: Then again this is the same Dr who didn't bother asking how I feed my baby, but instead asked what brand of formula he gets. :roll:

    They still want to keep us for 48 hours, so hopefully we can go home tomorrow morning or early afternoon.

    Are they going to test him for reflux? If a baby boy gets a UTI that's usually why, and its the most common reason for UTIs in newborns. Its a weakness in the urethra that allows urine to flow back into the urinary tract/kidneys making them prone to infection.

    In my son's case, no one ever suggested lack of circumcision as the reason for his UTI (I even asked about it). The doctor thought it had started brewing in utero.

    My friend's grandson was recently diagnosed with reflux. And the first recommendation is to get him circumcised. My friend is anti-circ, so we were talking about this. How can medical personel think that a flap of skin on the outside of a penis cause reflux inside the body? It makes no sense. But, this is a first time mom, a little ditzy, and her mother was a pharmacist so she's 'in the industry'. They'll cicrumcise little J and find out that's not the answer.
    Bailey422 wrote: »
    Thanks for thinking about us!

    Yup, Dylan had the VCUG and it came back normal. So I guess the UTI was just a random infection, possibly from the hospital or maybe even before he was born. Who knows...

    Anyway, I think we're almost done with all the sickness drama (I hope). When D. was on antibiotics, we got thrush. Then he scratched my nipple and I got a nasty infection, so then I was on antibiotics. And now that I'm almost done with mine, I think we may have thrush again b/c he's once again being very rough with me when he nurses. I guess this is all I get for having such an easy first few weeks with him. :lol:

    So glad he's doing well. I've been thinking about you guys. I dealt with thrush with all 3 of my kids. I had to attack it with several approaches: eating yogurt and taking acidophillus pills, swiping their mouths with a little yogurt throughout the day. I think at one point I tried letting yogurt dry on my nipples would help. I should have cut out all processed sugar from my diet, but didn't think of it at the time. My oldest was given some purple stuff for his mouth (not gentian violet) but it didn't get rid of it all the way, so I switched to the yogurt approach. That finally worked.
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  • KaiaKaia Posts: 8,815Registered Users
    Funny you mention sugar b/c I was craving sweets like crazy before I found out we had thrush. Then the lactation consultant told me it was b/c of the yeast and it was making me crave sugar to feed itself. I was like great, I just fed it a whole package of cookies yesterday. :roll:

    I've been trying to eat yogurt, but from what I've read online, even the yogurts that say they have active cultures often don't have much. Something about the bacteria mostly dying off before the item reaches the store. 've been drinking kefir, which is supposed to have more live cultures than yogurt. Where can I get probiotic pills? A health food store or a place with vitamins/supplements?
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  • CynaminbearCynaminbear Posts: 4,476Registered Users
    I got them from my local health food store. You can also get good yogurt from them that will have active cultures.
    I had to giggle a bit at feeding the yeast a box of cookies. I fed it chocolate chips and peanut butter at the time.
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