Something to Really Soften my 4a/b hair..

akilamonique

Hi, anyone have a great non-greasy/oily conditioner. Leave in, rinse out ore deep conditioner.
I'm newly natural. I just did the BC a few months ago. I have been using KT and [buylink=http://www.curlmart.com/Kinky-Curly-Curling-Custard-p-778.html?utm_source=naturallycurly.com&utm_medium=text-link&utm_content=curltalk-post-text&utm_campaign=kinkycurly-curling-custard]KCCC[/buylink] for the past few days, and I just ordered Blended Beauty product. The KT and [buylink=http://www.curlmart.com/Kinky-Curly-Curling-Custard-p-778.html?utm_source=naturallycurly.com&utm_medium=text-link&utm_content=curltalk-post-text&utm_campaign=kinkycurly-curling-custard]KCCC[/buylink] don't really seem to leave my hair soft when I don't have the product in my hair.
I would like my hair to be soft to my hubby's touch, at night! Sounds silly, but he is a big reason why I did the BC. I tried to transition my hair last year, and I wore in in braid outs all the time and he LOVED my wash and go hair, but it wasn't really natural because it was so full of relaxer. So with lots of encouragement from him I did the BC. It's now 2 1/2 in long, but it really isn't "touchable" any suggestions please.

bush

I only have 3c hair, but i really like coconut milk--it's not very oily, but it really softens my hair. There's a post a few above this one, discussing coconut milk and oil, if you're interested.

multicultcurly

I love coconut milk as well! It really does soften hair. I usually leave it in somewhere between 20mins to an hour. Olive oil also works well. I usually apply it in combination with a cheap (Suave) conditioner and leave it in overnight or for at least 30mins.
I went through a long phase of growing out unruly, damaged hair and the above helped a lot. I also love the Aubrey Organics Honeysuckle Rose condtioner. It totally helped me balance my normal and damaged hair. I definitely recommend it if your hair needs moisture.