friend in curly denial

i have a friend who would have such gorgeous natural curls, but no matter how much anyone tries to convince her, she refuses to wear them down. instead, she wakes up every morning at 4:30 to straighten it. she really needs an intervention, and i want to convert her to cg, but how do i do it without offending her or turning her of at the first mention of no brushing or shampooing?


  • curlygirlymecurlygirlyme Posts: 1,340Registered Users
    I hate to say it but it's not like she's using crack or alcohol. I would just buy her a copy of curly girl and tell her it has good info if she changes her mind and that you'd be willing to help her figure it out.
  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    It's her hair, she has to live with it, do the routine every day, whatever it is. It's really her call. You can't change people.
  • curlycaramelcurlycaramel Posts: 472Registered Users
    I would leave it, she enjoys straightening her hair. I think unless she approaches you and says something along the lines of wishing her hair could look like yours or asks you for help, there isn't much you can do, and I learned with my brother's partner, some people will ask you for help then still do what they want anyway.
    You can't convince people to do what you feel they should.
    Long thick curls, mix of 3b/3c
  • DolphinCurlsDolphinCurls Posts: 370Registered Users
    As hard as it is not to talk to her about it, it's her hair. If she wants to fry it, that's her choice. When I was straightening my hair, there was NOBODY who could convince me to wear it naturally. I had to realize that my straightening routine was a chore on my own.

    However,if she does come to you for advice because she is frustrated with her hair, then that would be the time to help her and introduce her to this site. But she has to come to the decision on her own.
    3A/2C combination of ringlets and waves :nike:
  • banjocurlbanjocurl Posts: 1,031Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    well, yesterday i asked the xray gal in my dentists office if she had curly hair. she was amazed that i could tell. i told her i was a hair psychic :) she was a young woman who liked my hair a lot but did not think her hair would look good curly so she blow fries and irons it. i told her about this site and curly girl--sent her some info on email. i'll be seeing her again in a couple of weeks/ told her to try washing w co and leaving in some, no brushing just scrunching on a low investment day when she does not care what she looks like and see what happens. she was very receptive. i guess if you sort of ease into it and see their responses as you go--you could sympathize w her and tell her how stressful it must be for her to do that every day, see if she has ever tried leaving it natural, what she does on her days off--if she would ever consider trying something different on a daywhen she is not going anywhere, etc....if she gets prickly just back off. she sees your gorgeous curls and knows she can ask you about them.
    Susan suburban NY
    3b going gray, not thick, waist length when wet, a bit below shoulders when dry
    CG since 11/11/04
    PW: banjo
    HG: suave and honey for co-wash, deva, i use garnier fructis regular CO's or boots pink or white as leave ins and LA looks sport gel. plop w microfiber turban, then curl towel scrunch, then another turban.i sleep with the turban on. little one minute hair styling videos
  • ConfusedcurlConfusedcurl Posts: 243Registered Users
    banjocurl wrote:
    well, yesterday i asked the xray gal in my dentists office if she had curly hair. she was amazed that i could tell. i told her i was a hair psychic :)

    Oh man... I'm a hair psychic too... and I even try to guess what type they would be if it was curly!

    I see soooooo many women like this - and I have realized that *most* people in this world are wavy/curly!
    3b, and increasingly c pieces... my curls will always be a little confused, but that is just fine!
    PW: naturallycurly

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