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Do you think women over 40 should have short hair?

On Oprah yesterday there seemed to be an emphasis on coloring the grays and cutting hair short to look "fresh" and younger. Personally, I am 45 and stopped coloring my grays. I just found the time, expense, and damage to my hair to not be worth it for me. And, to be honest, I think with my hair real short, I look too much like my mother!! :laughing9: So, I'm hoping to grow it to at least shoulder-length when dry. I'm hoping that with healthy hair and the right attitude, the length of my hair won't matter. What do you think - am I deluding myself?
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  • chicpowerchicpower Posts: 222Registered Users
    hell no!
    here's my mom on the lower left and i think she rocks the long hair:
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  • lazy loopslazy loops Posts: 8,792Registered Users
    My response is cheeky-smiley-022.gif to them!

    I'm 41 & not about to cut my hair shorter than shoulder length & maybe not even that short! I despise short hair on myself. It just doesn't suit my face even if the length pulls the curls out.

    As for color, I think the grays add a natural highlight. I'll add in some lowlights, but I'll never again get anything that lightens my hair because it's so damaging.
  • marinacurlzmarinacurlz Posts: 1,720Registered Users
    It probably depends on the face shape, etc. But IMO I think whatever floats your boat, tickles your fancy, or toots your horn!

    I used to work at a retirement community and this one man had a daughter with the most beautiful waist length silvery gray 3B hair.....she was pretty too, and I don't think it made her look washed out or old. She was probably in her 50's.


    Plus, my Mom is 54 and has almost BSL 3B hair, and I think she looks great. So yes, I agree with lazy loops :tongue3:
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  • JuicyTubeJuicyTube Posts: 2,369Registered Users
    hell no
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  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    I think anyone can have long hair at any age. It's more about hair being taken care of and looking healthy instead of just letting it grow long and looking hagardly.
    I do think that sometimes trimming and longer layers (shortest being near the face) can help people look better.

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  • CurlyQTPieCurlyQTPie Posts: 447Registered Users
    I thought every single make-over on Oprah looked great. That said, it totally depends on the individual, their hair type and the shape of their face. My mom is over 40 and she has very long hair and it fits her perfectly. I don't know that she would look as good with, say, a chin length bob.
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  • SpunGoldSpunGold Posts: 454Registered Users
    No way. When I'm 40+ (I'm only pushing 30 now) I hope to have BSL gray curls. My color has always been natural, and I think gray is beautiful.
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  • CurliLocksCurliLocks Posts: 10,571Registered Users
    CurlyQTPie wrote:
    ... it totally depends on the individual, their hair type and the shape of their face. My mom is over 40 and she has very long hair and it fits her perfectly. I don't know that she would look as good with, say, a chin length bob.
    Agreed. My sis is 50 now, and she never looked good with really long hair at any age. She has a long slim face and it just dragged her down and didn't look good. She grew it out a few times in her youth, never looked that good. However, she has a perfect face for around shoulder length or even above. She can rock a short bob! It really flatters her features. :)

    I'm 44 and not going to ever go short because of age. I have had it BSL to above shoulder throughout the years, regardless of age, just for change. It's below shoulder now and I'm planning to grow it to about BSL again to see what the curls do, now that they are older and changing. ;) But I plan to keep some face-framing layers that have always been flattering.

    Not to be snarky, just FYI: if you search, there have been several threads about long vs short on older women. Good info in them! :)
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  • CurliLocksCurliLocks Posts: 10,571Registered Users
    chicpower - your mom looks great and very young! :) Nice looking family you have.
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  • linda_mlinda_m Posts: 211Registered Users
    CurlyQTPie wrote:
    I thought every single make-over on Oprah looked great. That said, it totally depends on the individual, their hair type and the shape of their face. My mom is over 40 and she has very long hair and it fits her perfectly. I don't know that she would look as good with, say, a chin length bob.

    I agree. I had very, very short hair from my 30s into my 50s. I'm 56 now. I started growing it longer 2 years ago. It was well past my shoulders, but I decided it looked best just skimming the tops of my shoulders. That's where it is now, and where I intend to keep it for the foreseeable future. I do get color, though. Not quite ready to go completely gray:-)

    edited to add: My avatar pic is from last summer. My hair is longer now.
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  • chicpowerchicpower Posts: 222Registered Users
    thanks CurliLocks
  • BrioBrio Posts: 1,432Registered Users
    I don't think a woman should automatically cut her hair because she turns some certain age. However, some folks look better with shorter hair, no matter what the age.

    I think the problem comes in because a lot of women get so attached to their hair, they won't cut it off or experiment with different looks because they get so attached to the length. Style is often sacrificed for the sake of length. Women like that, to me, even younger women, often seem like they are in a rut or frumpy.

    The woman above in the photo is very beautiful and though her hair is long, it suits her well and has a "style." Having a style is important (which worries me sometimes because I fear I am getting into this rut myself of just have a big blop of curls with no shape).


    As for color, I am not ready to go gray yet. I'll probably end up being one of those old women with the fake-y looking black hair!
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  • snithiasnithia Posts: 134Registered Users
    You should wear whatever suits your face shape and hair type. I think it should have some style no matter your age. Long, stringy stuck up in a bun or ponytail all the time isn't flattering at any age. I'm 49 and I just had my below the shoulder cut by my DH not because of age but because I'm very petite and it was just too much hair for me. He accidentally on purpose gave me a bi-level bob. I love it, price was right too! :wink:
  • StarmieStarmie Posts: 6,677Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    I'm 44 and am in the process of growing my hair so I'd say no.
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  • violaviola Posts: 224Registered Users
    Not necessarily. Unless the hair is in bad condition. But that is true regardless of age. I like the idea of long curly gray or grayish hair.
  • CurlyinColoradoCurlyinColorado Posts: 3,093Registered Users
    I think a woman should choose a style that looks good on her. Being 40 shouldn't be a factor.

    One of the prettiest women I know is in her mid-40s and has waist length grey hair, she's gorgeous.
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  • KurlyKarenLeeKurlyKarenLee Posts: 1,048Registered Users
    I got tons of compliments when I had 1" short grey hair (see my fotki for pics). Especially when I wore my black glasses. It looked very futuristic. However, I got really boring and I got alot of stangers come up to me and start talking about their chemo (like I was also going through chemo, too) :laughing6: . But when I started growing it out grey I just felt OLD.
    So I started coloring it again.

    I'm hoping I'm not too old to have it past my shoulders. I feel more feminine with it longer; although on bad hair days, I start thinking about getting it chopped again. It was virtually maintenance free.
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  • BBBB Posts: 475Registered Users
    Another vote for no. I'm 42 and my stylist likes me to keep my hear shoulder length. (plus it is curlier when it is longer?
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  • StruttsWifeStruttsWife Posts: 819Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    %$#@ that, LOL ... I'm 44 and my hair is past my bra strap dry and about to my waist wet. I color because I like a little funkier look - my natural hair is dark brown, but I color it a dark brown/plum - not because I'm worried about the grays. And if I'm lucky enough to go the same beautiful silver my mom is, I'll be wearing waist-length silver curls till the day they lay me in the ground :)
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  • msgibletmsgiblet Posts: 5,825Registered Users
    I think if your hair looks good and long hair looks good on you, it doesn't matter if you're 95 years old!! If your hair isn't healthy and looks like crap and you don't have the face for long hair, then it's not going to look good on you even if you're 16! I didn't start growing my hair long from having it very short until I was well past 40 and I've had so many people tell me how good it looks and also how it makes me long 10 years younger, so I think the "short hair after 40" thing is a big bunch of hooey!! :tongue3:
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  • cymprenicympreni Posts: 9,609Registered Users
    bunch of bologna. Age and hair style shouldn't have anything to do with each other.
  • cara4curlscara4curls Posts: 336Registered Users
    WHAT has age to do with it? I can't believe they're still almost universally pushing short hair just because one turns 40. IMO, this is part of the American way of pushing a generic style on people in a lot of these makeovers. Some folks look better, but for others, being "made-over" in this way takes away their personality and character. It depends on the the woman's hair, features, lifestyle, overall look, etc. Here I am, at age 60, with longer hair than I've had in quite awhile, and it's looking BETTER as it grows out. But then, I'm slim, and like to wear unusual clothing and colors, so this suits me. About coloring, that's a personal thing. Some folks look lovely with silver hair, others have the kind of grey and complexion where it makes them look washed-out and tired(I'm in this group, even though my greys underneath this color are white).
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  • FrizzBgoneFrizzBgone Posts: 2,678Registered Users
    snithia wrote:
    You should wear whatever suits your face shape and hair type. I think it should have some style no matter your age. Long, stringy stuck up in a bun or ponytail all the time isn't flattering at any age.

    I totally agree .... I recently cut my hair above my shoulders, because the length was really dragging me down. I think it is all about face shape and the health of your hair. I think long healthy hair is beautiful, but there is nothing worse than long hair that looks like it died years ago and the person didn't know enough to lie down :laughing9:
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  • KaiaKaia Posts: 8,815Registered Users
    I think it has less to do with age and more with your face shape and condition and style of your hair. My ex's mother had long hair that looked awful! It was dry and flat, and she parted it down the middle. The ends were really thin and scraggly looking. She would have looked 10 years younger if she just cut some off. It was obvious that she wasn't willing or able to adjust from her young hippie days. However, some people can pull it off, I just think you have to keep your hair in good condition and keep a good cut that doesn't drag your face down.
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  • spiderlashes5000spiderlashes5000 Posts: 17,495Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I'll be cutting my hair when I reach about 40. I don't think it has to be "short" but I don't like it especially "long" either. I don't think really long hair looks polished enough for a middle aged woman. JMO, though.

  • AmandacurlsAmandacurls Posts: 6,252Registered Users
    Yeah, I'll never go for the stereotypical "mom" cut. It wouldn't work with my face or hair.
  • marybethmarybeth Posts: 342Registered Users
    msgiblet wrote:
    I think if your hair looks good and long hair looks good on you, it doesn't matter if you're 95 years old!! If your hair isn't healthy and looks like crap and you don't have the face for long hair, then it's not going to look good on you even if you're 16! I didn't start growing my hair long from having it very short until I was well past 40 and I've had so many people tell me how good it looks and also how it makes me long 10 years younger, so I think the "short hair after 40" thing is a big bunch of hooey!! :tongue3:

    go msgiblet! i totally agree. i can't even believe they were pushing this on oprah. so ridiculous!!!!!!!!!!! i refuse to conform to how society thinks a woman over 40 should look or wear. :angryfire:
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  • shellynotshellynot Posts: 1,140Registered Users
    when i'm in my 40's, i definitley want bsl silvery curls!! i personally think this is beautiful, even if some people think gray = bad. like others have said, it depends on the preference of the person. there are no "should"s or "should not"s in this case, IMO.
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  • jeepcurlygurljeepcurlygurl Posts: 19,238Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    I think everyone should wear their hair as they want and shouldn't care what other people think about it.
    My hair is grey and wild and long. Some people think it makes me look older. Oh well. I love it.
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  • banjocurlbanjocurl Posts: 1,020Registered Users
    i have slightly below BSL curls (when dry), and proudly wore them to my 40th high school reunion. do the math :)
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    i am quite happy with my long colored hair. i plan to cut it off when it looks dumb with my old wrinkled face and i am ready to go gray. then i will get the zen master cut, then grow it again. over 40?? yes quite. ready for short hair? NO WAY.
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