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love yourself firstlove yourself first Posts: 5,398Registered Users
This is a spin-off of my question to Mephisto - which he has yet to answer....

Just doing a little unscientific research :wink:
"Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people."
"I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then we live with that decision."
- Eleanor Roosevelt (both quotes)

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  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    you should add a mutual option as there are people who just sort of clicked spontaneously into a relationship. I am not sure if mine was that or initiated by him, actually....
    Get used to me. Black, confident, cocky; my name, not yours; my religion, not yours; my goals, my own; get used to me. -Muhammad Ali


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  • marielle448marielle448 Posts: 1,823Registered Users
    I can't remember. Technically we met over the phone (one of those party line thingies) so I don't remember who left a message for who. We agreed to meet, both called each other (he gave me his # and I called first after the initial meeting) so seems like I broke all the rules I had before meeting my husband.

    I used to be of the "let them make the first move" camp but realized that it pretty much only brought around pompous jerks. With my husband I felt a genuine attraction that was mutual so we didn't keep score as to who did what (I actually had to ask him to remind me of the technicalities of when we met).
  • dia99dia99 Posts: 1,998Registered Users
    DaNa did. I'm happy he did, because I was interested (I loved) in the other guy. But, I had prayed for the right man, and prayerfully written a list of the qualities my husband should have. My "test" of whether the person could be the one was whether or not the person wanted to grow in the Lord with me, and in knowledge and adherence to the Bible specifically. Well, I prayed that one night, and the next day DaNa came to my room and asked if I would start reading the Bible with him.

    I was pretty disgusted actually, because I just knew I was praying for the other guy :lol: . But, I decided to give DaNa a chance. It took a year before I broke up with the other guy (I wasn't sleeping with either of them). I'm so blessed that DaNa waited on me to get it together!!!!
    People rise to the standard expected of them. GC
  • GuardianBGuardianB Posts: 1,818Registered Users
    Do I pick He did or I did to make this poll accurate? :? :oops:
    ~Two friends, one soul inspired~ anonymous
  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Posts: 7,223Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    Amneris wrote:
    you should add a mutual option as there are people who just sort of clicked spontaneously into a relationship. I am not sure if mine was that or initiated by him, actually....
    Same here. we worked together and did stuff as friends first. We both initiated it at the same time.
    When are women going to face the fact that they don’t know their own bodies as well as men who have heard things?

    Don Langrick
    Bonsai Culturist
  • skywatcherskywatcher Posts: 429Registered Users
    He made the first move. He asked me to go to a teenage dance with him. We have been together a longggggggggggg time :D since I was 15 yrs old.

    Side note: His brother also asked me to go to the same dance with him & I turned him down. Boy, did I make the right choice!! :D
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  • love yourself firstlove yourself first Posts: 5,398Registered Users
    Amneris- I created this poll with a mutual option - I started it with 3 options on purpose - did you not see the third option?????

    GB - Sorry for the oversight but I am going to let the poll alone since about 90% of posters seem to be female.. But I/we LOVE having you here and your input, so please stay (with your curls :D )

    Skywatcher - 15 :?: :!: That's amazing that you have grown together and have remained together - what an inspiration!! I am curious - is there much of an age difference between you and DH?

    Thanks to everyone else for posting too - Keep those votes and stories coming.... :D
    "Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people."
    "I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then we live with that decision."
    - Eleanor Roosevelt (both quotes)

    (taking a break from posting starting late august 2009)
  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    Amneris- I created this poll with a mutual option - I started it with 3 options on purpose - did you not see the third option?????

    Isn't the third option for being set up by a mutual friend? I meant mutually being attracted to/approaching one another, not necessarily on a set-up which I think is different .... but maybe I am missing something?
    Get used to me. Black, confident, cocky; my name, not yours; my religion, not yours; my goals, my own; get used to me. -Muhammad Ali


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  • skywatcherskywatcher Posts: 429Registered Users
    Yip, eyestrain 15 :!: Love him more & more every day too :D

    He is 1yr 5 months older than me.
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    Loving: CON poo, Elucence MBC, Jessicurl WDT, B&A Gel.
    SLS free poos since Feb 6/05
  • love yourself firstlove yourself first Posts: 5,398Registered Users
    Amneris-

    Oh, I see your point...... Usually someone makes the first move in approaching the other person or striking up a conversation or asking the other person out. I've really never known it to be so completely mutual!? That's cool if that's what happened to you.

    Skywatcher-

    Awwww, so cute :D Puppy love :P
    "Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people."
    "I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then we live with that decision."
    - Eleanor Roosevelt (both quotes)

    (taking a break from posting starting late august 2009)
  • FoxyCurlFoxyCurl Posts: 19Registered Users
    I think alcohol should be a choice!!!
  • dia99dia99 Posts: 1,998Registered Users
    FoxyCurl wrote:
    I think alcohol should be a choice!!!

    :lol: :lol: Not if you're a "good" Christian :wink:
    People rise to the standard expected of them. GC
  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    dia99 wrote:
    FoxyCurl wrote:
    I think alcohol should be a choice!!!

    :lol: :lol: Not if you're a "good" Christian :wink:

    Good Catholics can drink as much as we want!!!!!

    ... maybe that explains me...(had to say it before you all did)
    Get used to me. Black, confident, cocky; my name, not yours; my religion, not yours; my goals, my own; get used to me. -Muhammad Ali


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  • dia99dia99 Posts: 1,998Registered Users
    Amneris wrote:
    dia99 wrote:
    FoxyCurl wrote:
    I think alcohol should be a choice!!!

    :lol: :lol: Not if you're a "good" Christian :wink:

    Good Catholics can drink as much as we want!!!!!

    ... maybe that explains me...(had to say it before you all did)

    But you'll aren't "real" Christians anyway! :twisted: 8) :lol:
    People rise to the standard expected of them. GC
  • AmnerisAmneris Posts: 15,117Registered Users
    dia99 wrote:
    Amneris wrote:
    dia99 wrote:
    FoxyCurl wrote:
    I think alcohol should be a choice!!!

    :lol: :lol: Not if you're a "good" Christian :wink:

    Good Catholics can drink as much as we want!!!!!

    ... maybe that explains me...(had to say it before you all did)

    But you'll aren't "real" Christians anyway! :twisted: 8) :lol:

    hey, we didn't start the schism!!!!!

    (I am JOKING)
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  • love yourself firstlove yourself first Posts: 5,398Registered Users
    Foxycurl-

    LOL at your post 8)

    It kind of bugs me that I have to click the "view results" button just to monitor my own thread?! But since I'm not a married curly, I am not allowed to vote :wink:

    So far, we are at 8 (he did) and 2 (I did) with no one picking the third option.. I 'm not sure which GB picked..
    "Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people."
    "I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then we live with that decision."
    - Eleanor Roosevelt (both quotes)

    (taking a break from posting starting late august 2009)
  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Posts: 7,223Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I think my husband made the first move and he insists I did. I truly think it must have been mutual. It did take alcohol to bring us together. Thankfully, I'm Catholic so it's okay. :?
    When are women going to face the fact that they don’t know their own bodies as well as men who have heard things?

    Don Langrick
    Bonsai Culturist
  • DarkAngelDarkAngel Posts: 2,671Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I'm not sure who made the first move. We were friends first. I had him firmly in the male friend category complete with complaining about the guys that I was dating and asking for advice. Somewhere along the way, we both realized that we would rather be more than friends but I don't remember anyone making a first move. I think I will ask him.
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  • mad scientistmad scientist Posts: 3,530Registered Users
    We were already friends, but he initiated the relationship by first asking me out. We had a fun first date, but I had to go out of town unexpectedly right afterwards and through some misunderstandings, he didn't think I was interested in him. So I had to "re-initiate" the relationship when I got back to town.
  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    mrspoppers wrote:
    Amneris wrote:
    you should add a mutual option as there are people who just sort of clicked spontaneously into a relationship. I am not sure if mine was that or initiated by him, actually....
    Same here. we worked together and did stuff as friends first. We both initiated it at the same time.

    That was what happened with us, too - hung out as friends with a group of other friends, then gravitated toward one another.
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  • love yourself firstlove yourself first Posts: 5,398Registered Users
    Great posts everyone.... Thanks :D

    I tried to edit the poll options but it won't let me :( So, for now, we are all stuck with the same 3 options in terms of voting...
    "Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people."
    "I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then we live with that decision."
    - Eleanor Roosevelt (both quotes)

    (taking a break from posting starting late august 2009)
  • itsjustmeghanitsjustmeghan Posts: 652Registered Users
    i put he did.
    we were best friends for a few years...but i always liked him more then that. well he broke up with the girl he was dating...and we just wanted to spend tons of time together. we flirted HORRIBLY!
    so it was kinda both of us...
    but it was Him, age 17, on November 12th that sat me down, looked into my eyes, and said "Meghan....will you go out with me?"
    so corny! but i was walking on cloud nine and bouncing off the walls! :lol:
    we've been married 3 years on june 2nd.
    and i still love him to pieces! :D :wink:
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  • GuardianBGuardianB Posts: 1,818Registered Users
    So far, we are at 8 (he did) and 2 (I did) with no one picking the third option.. I 'm not sure which GB picked..

    I didn't pick. Clearly this is a sexist question just trying to keep the man down. :wink:
    ~Two friends, one soul inspired~ anonymous
  • MephistoMephisto Posts: 555Registered Users
    GuardianB wrote:
    I didn't pick. Clearly this is a sexist question just trying to keep the man down. :wink:

    Toss her a *roll* !!! That'll fix'her!!!
    The good people do is interred with their bones. Their mistakes live on forever...
  • love yourself firstlove yourself first Posts: 5,398Registered Users
    GB -

    No need to be down, by all means be up if you like 8) :P

    PS. I mean no offense to Mrs. GB, who seems like a lucky woman! :wink:

    Meph-

    I just figured out what you meant. LOL! :roll: :roll: :roll: :wink:

    PS. I so hate that there is a typo in my poll options that I cannot fix :( I don't know why polls cannot be edited like other posts.... Bummer!
    "Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people."
    "I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then we live with that decision."
    - Eleanor Roosevelt (both quotes)

    (taking a break from posting starting late august 2009)
  • KurleeKurlee Posts: 1,354Registered Users
    Both. :) :wink:

  • geekygeeky Posts: 4,995Registered Users
    We were kind of set up by a mutual friend, though he never told us he was setting us up - just kept finding ways to get us in the same place at the same time. After a few years of hanging out in group situations I was the one that finally made the move.
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  • M2LRM2LR Posts: 8,630Registered Users
    mrspoppers wrote:
    Amneris wrote:
    you should add a mutual option as there are people who just sort of clicked spontaneously into a relationship. I am not sure if mine was that or initiated by him, actually....
    Same here. we worked together and did stuff as friends first. We both initiated it at the same time.

    Same here too.

    We were both at the same place, he was his friends, I was with mine. I went to sit by him in hopes to start conversation, and then he bought me a drink...so we kinda mutually hit it off.
    :rambo:
  • bouncebounce Posts: 297Registered Users
    I don't really know. He was eyeing me for about 2 months when I was in a previous relationship.

    We had some mutual friends, or at least I was becoming good friends with his friends, and one thing I'll never forget is everyone, and I mean everyone, telling me how lucky I am that BK "likes me." So that of course peaked my interest.

    I broke up with my boyfriend, a relationship that really needed to end anyway, went to a party at DH's apartment (we were still in college - afterhours of course!) walked right up to him in his bedroom and kissed him. He was shocked, happy shocked. I stayed with him that night and stayed with him every day/night following until he graduated a semester before me.

    I feel so warm and fuzzy. Thanks!
  • Jenny CJenny C Posts: 1,195Registered Users
    We met online on match.com. He e-mailed me and then after we sent a few back and forth he asked me if I would like to meet.
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