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Spin-Off: Sex during your period? (Could be adult....)

alguma pessoaalguma pessoa Posts: 619Registered Users
I never saw anything wrong with it and was surprised that people would not consider becoming intimate with their SO while they are menstruating. And by SO I am only referring to long-term partner/fiance/husband not a guy you casually date because that has health risks.


For those of you who said no, do you not do it because it is uncomfortable or does it just gross you out?
We're all born mad. Some remain so.

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  • NutkinNutkin Posts: 352Registered Users
    Eew...too messy. I can wait until all is clear.
  • msrebamsreba Posts: 143Registered Users
    Mine would be a sometimes. Sometimes yes, sometimes its too uncomfortable. But mentally I have no issues with it. Sometimes physically there are issues. I marked my vote as yes, since I dont have real (read mental) issues with it.
  • curlyarcacurlyarca Posts: 8,449Registered Users
    i couldn't. too much mess.

    "In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer."

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  • anonnymouseanonnymouse Posts: 1,340Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I do, but the mess did bother me some. Then I found these. I don't like to use them for regular period protection (I prefer tampons), but I think they're great for that-time-of-the-month nookie!
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  • AustinAustin Posts: 37Registered Users
    I need to try those. I always used my diaphram...
    "Time wounds all heels."
  • kimmyckimmyc Posts: 551Registered Users
    mrsreba wrote:
    Mine would be a sometimes. Sometimes yes, sometimes its too uncomfortable. But mentally I have no issues with it. Sometimes physically there are issues. I marked my vote as yes, since I dont have real (read mental) issues with it.

    I totally agree with mrsreba. As long as my guy has no issues (which DH doesnt) then I don't. If I don't want to it's because of physical discomfort.
    2b/3a, primarily use Jessicurl and DevaCurl products, Curls Hair Tea conditioner and various gels. I'm modified CG-ish since 5/04.
  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    I voted no, but that's just my choice. I feel like crap during my period - physically and emotionally like crap.

    Plus I'm so damned klutzy during my period I'd probably hurt my poor husband somehow. (I elbowed him in the head once when we tried it "lights off" for a change. NEVER AGAIN! :lol: I'm truly a lights on kind of girl! )
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  • nadinanadina Posts: 640Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I said yes, I feel like, why not. I'm more along the lines of.... if my partner is cool with it, so am I.
  • PixieCurlPixieCurl Posts: 5,656Registered Users
    i voted yes. i don't have any problems with it and neither does my fiance. we throw down a towel and go for it. we don't usually do it day 1 or 2 which are heaviest, but after that it's fair game.
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  • amerasiancurlsamerasiancurls Posts: 168Registered Users
    I voted yes because given my condition, I bleed all the time (sometimes heavy, sometimes not). But, we are only intimate when it's not heavy. DH doesn't mind, so neither do I. And I don't know about anyone else, but during that time, I get aroused very easily and things are more sensitive ;)
  • SoLastSunday152SoLastSunday152 Posts: 428Registered Users
    I think it would turn me off.. I just find it hard to feel sexy while I'm leaking a less-than-attractive fluid. :? It's just a week.
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  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    My dh is just not into it. The man is squeamish about his own bodily fluids. :roll:

    It's something we've done before and it's not particularly messy. But I usually can't get past the cramping. I know it's supposed to help ease cramps, but having cramps doesn't exactly put me in the mood.
  • zmanzzzzzmanzzzz Banned Posts: 3,826Banned Users
    what does dh/df stand for?
  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    zmanzzzz wrote:
    what does dh/df stand for?

    Designated hitter.

    Just kidding. Dear or darling husband/hubby.
  • zmanzzzzzmanzzzz Banned Posts: 3,826Banned Users
    mua?
  • SaKkehSaKkeh Posts: 986Registered Users
    Cehua wrote:
    I never saw anything wrong with it and was surprised that people would not consider becoming intimate with their SO while they are menstruating. And by SO I am only referring to long-term partner/fiance/husband not a guy you casually date because that has health risks.


    For those of you who said no, do you not do it because it is uncomfortable or does it just gross you out?

    Nothing 'wrong' with it morally, I think. However, its messy and whats the rush anyway? I believe the penis will still be in working order in six days.
  • mazeymazey Posts: 709Registered Users
    Too messy for my liking. I am not interested in having sex then and neither is my husband, so we take a hiatus. Plus in the first 2 days of my period (when it is heaviest) I feel crampy, extra tired and just blah. Sex is the last thing on my mind.
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  • alguma pessoaalguma pessoa Posts: 619Registered Users
    SaKkeh wrote:
    Nothing 'wrong' with it morally, I think. However, its messy and whats the rush anyway? I believe the penis will still be in working order in six days.

    For me it is not “rushing” but falls in line with what Amerasiancurls said:
    And I don't know about anyone else, but during that time, I get aroused very easily and things are more sensitive ;)

    I totally agree with her.

    Besides, I have a *very* light 2-3 day period since day I started menstruating at 14 years old. I do not get cramps or discomfort and it does not get “messy.” Besides the obvious, the only time I know that I am on my period is that I get extremely aroused. I may be one of the lucky few in this respect.

    Also, I read that it is good for your health to orgasm during menstruation (posted quote on other “period” thread). So, I also do it for my health. :)

    Totally understand why others would not do it. At first, I thought it was because of religious/health reasons (which I understand), the messy aspect (understand), or people thought periods were gross/dirty/embarrassing (cannot comprehend because it is natural and there is a thing called a shower...but to each her own).

    However, from some of the responses it looks like some of you have heavy flows that last for days. I can see why/how it could get messy/uncomfortable…..I consider myself lucky (and so does my SO :wink: ).
    We're all born mad. Some remain so.

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  • MizKerriMizKerri Posts: 1,701Registered Users
    Very rarely, and only if it's on the last day when there's barely any flow left. The first few days I'm usually crampy, with a heavier flow, and so not in the mood.
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  • SaKkehSaKkeh Posts: 986Registered Users
    Cehua wrote:
    SaKkeh wrote:
    Nothing 'wrong' with it morally, I think. However, its messy and whats the rush anyway? I believe the penis will still be in working order in six days.

    For me it is not “rushing” but falls in line with what Amerasiancurls said:
    And I don't know about anyone else, but during that time, I get aroused very easily and things are more sensitive ;)
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    I also am VERY sexually strung in the week before my period DURING my period in up to two weeks after. Still IMO, it can wait until we dont have to put three towels on the bed.
  • medussamedussa Posts: 12,993Registered Users
    SaKkeh wrote:
    I also am VERY sexually strung in the week before my period DURING my period in up to two weeks after. Still IMO, it can wait until we dont have to put three towels on the bed.

    Wow, then you're "on" all month. :lol: Good for you!
  • alguma pessoaalguma pessoa Posts: 619Registered Users
    SaKkeh wrote:
    I also am VERY sexually strung in the week before my period DURING my period in up to two weeks after. Still IMO, it can wait until we dont have to put three towels on the bed.

    My body is highly sensitive two weeks before and the week during my period. And as noted before, I have a very light flow so messiness/staining is not an issue. We even do not have to use towels (and I have not stained anything either).

    I am pretty lucky. I guess most of you have heavy flows and/or cramps and discomfort. I have never thought of that before as all of the women on both sides of my family have light flows and little to no discomfort/cramps. And of my friends, only two get cramps. Of those two, one is a virgin and one will not have sex again until marriage/finding the right person. So I know they are not having sex during their period. :lol:
    We're all born mad. Some remain so.

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  • babypiebabypie Posts: 37Registered Users
    Cehua wrote:
    For me it is not “rushing” but falls in line with what Amerasiancurls said:
    And I don't know about anyone else, but during that time, I get aroused very easily and things are more sensitive ;)

    I totally agree with her.

    same here, then and during ovulation.
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  • geekygeeky Posts: 4,995Registered Users
    I have, but dh and I generally don't want to bother with the mess. And I usually feel crampy and grumpy. I don't have any categorical aversions to it, but it's just not that fun for me.
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  • LittleWashuLittleWashu Posts: 10Registered Users
    Definitely a "yes". I have a clear pattern - I'm very even-tempered all month, except the 2 days before it starts I get irritable, clumsy, and easily frustrated. Then it arrives, and the first day I am very, very... well, let's say "eager".

    The BF has no problems with the period, but I use the Instead cups so I don't have to worry about towels, messy sheets, when, where, whatever. They just make things easier and more spontaneous.
    3A most days, and it just CRAVES moisture.
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  • SkySky Posts: 58Registered Users
    I voted no, although I have had sex on occasion during my period.

    I would only do it on a light day, so the mess isn't really that big of a deal, but still it does change the game for me. I'm very visual and very tactile (I like to have my hands in the game too). Looking at and/or smearing blood on me/him just is not sexually stimulating. So I can't look and touch and get into like I usually would which make it less pleasing for me. Plus sometimes the waiting part makes it more exciting.
  • bouncebounce Posts: 297Registered Users
    Nah - I can wait a few days till I'm all squeaky clean.
  • SaKkehSaKkeh Posts: 986Registered Users
    medussa wrote:
    SaKkeh wrote:
    I also am VERY sexually strung in the week before my period DURING my period in up to two weeks after. Still IMO, it can wait until we dont have to put three towels on the bed.

    Wow, then you're "on" all month. :lol: Good for you!

    LOL. :lol:
  • M2LRM2LR Posts: 8,630Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    PixieCurl wrote:
    i voted yes. i don't have any problems with it and neither does my fiance. we throw down a towel and go for it. we don't usually do it day 1 or 2 which are heaviest, but after that it's fair game.

    Same here.
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  • rainshowerrainshower Posts: 4,420Registered Users
    when my husband and i were teens (close your mouths!) and were limited in where and when we could get together, we had sex whenever we could and sometimes that was during the heavy days of my period. we just used a towel.

    as we got older and had our own residences, we didn't feel as desperate to have to have sex during my period. so we sort of just stopped doing it on those heavy days.

    my periods last for 7 days and i'm a heavy bleeder during 4 of those days. even today, we won't have sex during those very heavy days (even though we did when we were younger), but we will have sex during the lightest flow days (the first day and last 2 days).

    several years ago, my husband actually said that "we aren't kids anymore. we don't have to do that. i can wait a few days."

    not so off topic: does anyone else get really horny during her period, or am i the only one? the day after my cramps subside, i'm feeling rather friendly, but my flow is so heavy that i really don't want to deal with the [literal] bloodbath.
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