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Do you have a "no shoes" house?

BohemianRenegadeBohemianRenegade Posts: 1,078Registered Users
Do you take off your shoes inside because you don't want germs/stains/etc. from your shoes to get on your carpet? Do you make others take off their shoes also?

I am very uncomfortable when I go to a "no shoes" house. I just feel more comfortable with my shoes on at other people's houses. However, I always feel more comfortable bare foot at my apt. and at my parents house.

When I was in England I went to visit some people who actually had a sign on the door of their apartment telling people they had a "no shoes" home. I thought that was very rude and not very welcoming.
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  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    what if they provided slippers?

    I toy with this idea from time to time but have yet to take the plunge.
  • gekko422gekko422 Posts: 4,869Registered Users
    I don't make people take their shoes off at my house, although when I was in Hawaii they did because that is the culture. That being said, I do not wear shoes in the house and I always appreciate when people ask if I want them to remove their shoes.
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  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    I tend to not wear shoes in my house. But I have dogs. If anything, not wearing shoes should seem squicky because of the dogs.
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  • PoodleDooPoodleDoo Posts: 24Registered Users
    My gosh....who has time to even think about taking off their shoes when they come in the door? :shock:
    The only time I'm careful is when I've just mopped my floor. If I go outside, I'll take off my shoes when I come back in. Or if it's muddy outiside. But most of the time, I just fly in the door and don't give my shoes a second thought.
    I don't ask people to remove their shoes when they come over. If I go to someone's house and they ask me to remove my shoes, it makes me feel uncomfortable, like everything else in their house is untouchable. I stay tense the whole time I'm there.....I want people to be comfy when they visit....and that should be your first priority....making people feel at home. :)
  • FreeCurlsFreeCurls Posts: 4,408Registered Users
    I don't wear shoes in my house but I don't make visitors remove their shoes. I myself don't like getting caught off-guard when visiting someone's house and having to go barefoot. If I'm going to a friend's house where I know they prefer shoes off I'll make sure to wear socks. I'm not crazy about showing my feet publicly unless I'm really prepared :)

    plus I think i have ugly feet so I prefer to keep them hidden.
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  • wild~hairwild~hair Posts: 9,890Registered Users
    I grew up in Minnesota, where most of the year there was some sort of slop on your shoes from the weather. We always took off our shoes at home and everywhere we went we took off our shoes.

    I've given up on this since living in other areas of the country. Culturally, it's not acceptable in most places to ask people to take off their shoes. But I still don't wear shoes in my own house. When I have guests, I just turn a blind eye to it, although it does bother me.

    However, it bothers me more when I have carpeting. If I have hard floors, I don't care because I can mop them and get the dirt up. I clean my carpeting from time to time, but it's never really the same again once it gets dirty. And it always gets dirty. I have carpeting right now and it's off-white and it only ever really looks clean the couple weeks after I clean it.

    [I couldn't vote, obviously, since I don't have a strict yes-or-no policy on the matter.]
  • BohemianRenegadeBohemianRenegade Posts: 1,078Registered Users
    PoodleDoo wrote:
    ..I want people to be comfy when they visit....and that should be your first priority....making people feel at home. :)

    This is my thing too. I want people to be comfortable and feel welcome.
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  • dia99dia99 Posts: 1,998Registered Users
    It's IN MY LEASE :shock: . Yet another reason why the rent is too much :roll: . I understand that it is a part of Japanese culture, but we are renting the house, so I don't think we should have to abide by that - we're not Japanese. We liked the house more than we disliked the rule, though, so we gave in, and we comply. It hasn't been a big deal, really - I just didn't want it in my lease for the amount I pay. In HI, most people I've seen automatically take their shoes off anyway. Maybe that's why they wear slippers all the time? You drive past houses and see piles of shoes, and shoe racks, outside every door!
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  • PoodleheadPoodlehead Posts: 6,959Registered Users
    I always tell people to leave their shoes on, because otherwise they'll just have dirty socks when they leave. I'm NOT the best housekeeper in the world! :oops:
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  • Aries_jbAries_jb Posts: 1,556Registered Users
    I leave my shoes on in the house and I don't care what other people do with their shoes. I've had people ask me if it was okay to take them off in my house, which to me makes more sense. Some people might think it's offensive to expose your feet in another person's house, so they ask first. Personally, I feel uncomfortable when people ask me to remove my shoes. I don't feel welcomed. After that I feel awkward asking for a drink or asking to use the restroom. It doesn't make me want to go back there too badly.
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  • PixieCurlPixieCurl Posts: 5,656Registered Users
    sfcurlee wrote:
    I grew up in Minnesota, where most of the year there was some sort of slop on your shoes from the weather. We always took off our shoes at home and everywhere we went we took off our shoes.

    same with me, except upstate NY. and i have to have slippers - i hate taking off my shoes and my socks getting all cold and wet from the slushy mess. i still always take off my shoes the second i walk in the door and immediately put on slippers, my fiance always takes his off, and guests usually do too, because they see we do, not because we ask. at other people's houses, i don't like taking off my shoes unless i have slippers, which i sometimes bring with me. i guess i'm a weirdo!
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  • Oregano  (formerly babywavy)Oregano (formerly babywavy) Posts: 5,297Registered Users
    I wish they would b/c I'm a clean freak! In the winter in New England, yes, I make people take their shoes off, but in the summer, I'm not as strict about it.
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  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Posts: 10,778Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I would never even consider walking around someones house in my shoes unless they specifically said to do so.

    I would never say so, but I would prefer people not to wear there shoes in my house. Unless we're in and out of the backyard, I think it's kinda rude :?
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  • marielle448marielle448 Posts: 1,823Registered Users
    I grew up walking barefoot even on tile and I love going outside barefoot so I rarely wear shoes. I don't know what's worse, a stranger's bare feet touching the rug I like to lay on or their shoes. LOL
  • MyradelleMyradelle Posts: 26Registered Users
    I don't ask people to take off their shoes in my home and I'd rather not do it in somebody else's home. If it's cultural, then I can accept it. If you don't want me to get your carpet dirty, my feelings are hurt and I wouldn't be likely to visit often.
  • curly_princesscurly_princess Posts: 360Registered Users
    I voted no because it's not my house so I can't really make that a rule, but even in my own house I probably wouldn't not allow shoes in. I don't really wear shoes inside anyways - being barefoot is so much more freeing. :D
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  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    I live in a "no-shoes" house because I hate wearing shoes... :lol: but anyone who comes over wants to wear shoes in my house, I'm ok with that.
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  • mrspoppersmrspoppers Posts: 7,223Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I never mind taking off my shoes in other peoples' houses. If I notice a pile of shoes by the door, I take my shoes off too. I would NEVER wear random slippers, though. The thought of wearing something that other peoples' sweaty feet were in grosses me out.
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  • jennifer ^v^jennifer ^v^ Posts: 16Registered Users
    Yes, I take off my shoes upon entering my house, as well as my DH. I also ask that everyone else take off their shoes as well. I don't know where their shoes have been, and I consider it rude to go tracking "outdoors" into my home. I have somewhat "one-size-fits-all" slippers for unannounced guests should they want them--the regulars know to bring their own slippers if being barefoot is going to bother them. I also take off my shoes when I go to someone else's home for the same reason.

    It's partially a spiritual thing, keeping the outside and whatever energy comes with it out, and keeping the serene indoors. It's also part, "I don't want the dog poo you stepped in to be in my house." :)
  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    Wow, I can't believe people think it's rude to *not* take your shoes off. Other than in weather, I think it's rude to take your shoes off, unless you at least ask first, and it's rude to ask someone to take their shoes off. Barring cultural stuff, as mentioned....
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  • SoLastSunday152SoLastSunday152 Posts: 428Registered Users
    I never ever wear shoes in the house or at my BF's, just because I've always been more comfortable barefoot or wearing slippers. I would never force people to take their shoes off in my house unless it was raining or snowing out.. I feel uncomfortable when I'm visiting someone and I need to take my shoes off, so I would not want to make guests feel uncomfortable at my home. IMHO, floors were made to be walked on. 8)
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  • mad scientistmad scientist Posts: 3,530Registered Users
    I would never walk into someone's carpeted home with my shoes on. And I've never had to ask anyone to take their shoes off at my house. I just assume it was standard practice.
  • HeadintheCloudsHeadintheClouds Posts: 8Registered Users
    I would never even consider walking around someones house in my shoes unless they specifically said to do so.

    I would never say so, but I would prefer people not to wear there shoes in my house. Unless we're in and out of the backyard, I think it's kinda rude :?

    I think I seem to be talking to much America vs Canada lately (after that survey thread!) but this is another one. I have never come across a Canadian that regularly wears shoes in their house. It's honestly just odd up hear to have people walking around in their shoes. When I was little and would watch American TV, they were always wearing their shoes in the house, and it confuse(d/s?) the hell outta me.
    I definitely think the shoes in the house thing is American. In Canada, there isn't even a question about shoes. They just..come off when you walk in the door. If someone has them on they usually get a comment like "Hey, stay awhile."
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  • LipGlassHoneyLipGlassHoney Posts: 230Registered Users
    Personally, I don't wear shoes in my home and I ask people to take theirs off. I don't wear shoes at other people's house either though. Most people that know me already do this anyway and I have never heard anyone gripe. If someone is coming over and I think that they may feel or cannot take them off I let the garage door up and let them come in through the kitchen. I have "off white?" carpet throughout most of the house but the kitchen and informal dining area are hardwood. My son is 3 and even at 2 he knew that if he wanted to go to his room he has to take his shoes off and he will be the first to tell ANYONE that. Usually that helps for him to tell people and they think it's so cute and then I throw in a " He's serious".
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  • LipGlassHoneyLipGlassHoney Posts: 230Registered Users
    If someone has them on they usually get a comment like "Hey, stay awhile."

    I'm American (Black American) and I say the same thing if people leave their shoes or coat on! lol
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  • babypiebabypie Posts: 37Registered Users
    we do because we have hardwood floors that would get marked with things like high heels...i actually tested this once in the corner of my walk-in-closet with a stiletto and it left a tiny bullet mark on the floor :shock:

    i don't mind people wearing sneakers or things like that but i've never had a problem as guests tend to take their shoes off when they see our flooring :)
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  • deedlesdeedles Posts: 2,467Registered Users Curl Dabbler
    I live in an apartment with all cream colored carpets which seem to get dirty so very quickly. DH and I take off our shoes when we come in the house.

    We have a mat with our "pile" of shoes by the door. I don't really force people to take shoes off but they usually see the pile and get the idea...
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  • skywatcherskywatcher Posts: 429Registered Users
    This is kinda weird cause I thought that everyone removed their shoes when they went inside. At least everyone that I know does. I think it comes from living in a place that has such yulky weather, always raining or snowing, it seems. My carpets would be an utter disaster if no one removed shoes. We have a landing where we take off our shoes when we come in. I always have my slippers waiting there & so does DH. Most people here have a porch or "mud room" where they remove their shoes. It's strange to me cause I just assumed everyone did this. :) It's an automatic thing to us, no one is asked to remove their shoes, they just do.
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