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What Do You Want To Happen To Your Body After You Die?

SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
I'd like to be cremated... maybe sprinkled over someplace pretty so my loved ones will always know where I am.

I saw a thing where you can have your loved ones ashes made into a diamond. It may sound awful, but as dear to my heart as my daughter is, I can see myself having a diamond necklace made so that I could always wear her close to my heart.
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  • mazeymazey Posts: 709Registered Users
    Without a doubt I want to be cremated. Burying dead bodies skeeves me out, not to mention do we really need millions of acres in this country used to bury dead people?
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  • three rivers curlythree rivers curly Posts: 994Registered Users
    Ashes to ashes...

    Hubby and I have been discussing this lately. We both love the coast - he wants to be cremated and his ashes buried under a palm tree,

    I want to be cremated as well, but I want my ashes spread over the ocean. There is a pier in Myrtle Beach. Our first time going there we rented a house with others right on the ocean. It was such a beautiful view. There is this great little restaurant at the base of the pier. Our daughter was conceived there (in the house not the restaurant!) - she was kind of unexpected - in the best possible way.

    I figure, we created a pretty amazing life there once, might be a good place to start the next phase.
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  • geminigemini Posts: 3,325Registered Users
    Burying dead bodies skeeves me out, not to mention do we really need millions of acres in this country used to bury dead people?

    I'm glad you said this. I have the same feelings exactly. Besides, after one or two generations, the graves are not tended by anyone but the cemetery (even that is iffy).

    I am surprised so many people want to be cremated. My husband wants to be buried and acts like I am a freak for not wanting that. his reasons are based on his beliefs from the bible (which I do not take literally). My mom also wants to be cremated, but my dad was buried (according to his wishes). Maybe it's a guy thing. :wink:
  • MizKerriMizKerri Posts: 1,701Registered Users
    I also want to be cremated. I'd like my ashes spread, but I haven't decided where yet.
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  • CurlOnWheelsCurlOnWheels Posts: 170Registered Users
    I'm not quite sure. My deceased loved ones are all buried. I like going to their grave sites and "being" with them, ya know? Because of that, I think I'd like to be cremated, but then buried.
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  • CurlOnWheelsCurlOnWheels Posts: 170Registered Users
    Also, I never quite understood the urn-on-a-shelf thing -- even before seeing Meet the Parents. It just seems kind of... icky to me.
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  • geekygeeky Posts: 4,995Registered Users
    Ideally I'd like to be cremated and buried under a tree. But a Jewish burial is important to Mr. Geeky. That is being buried in a plain pine box, no enbalming, no airtight coffins with satin linings. I told him my first preference, but that a Jewish burial is OK with me too. I figure as long as my body breaks down and is returned to the cycle of nature it's fine with me.
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  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    My husband wants to be cremated. If he goes before me I will keep his ashes in an urn. I may even carry them around with me, which would make me a crazy old lady but I don't give a damn.

    As for me, I don't know. Part of me really wants to be buried in the cemetary in my hometown with my grandparents, my sister, and my daddy. My mom'll be buried there too. But if I go first, I don't want to be buried 1000 miles away from my husband. So maybe cremation is the way to go with some of my ashes buried under a headstone with my parents and the rest of my loved ones.

    I was only sort of kidding about carrying around an urn of my husband's ashes. I KNOW I'll get one of those tiny vials and wear some of his ashes in the vial on a chain around my neck.
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  • SystemSystem Posts: 39,059 Administrator
    not my choice.

    I'm comfortable with whatever gives my family and friends peace.
  • HairproductjunkieHairproductjunkie Posts: 363Registered Users
    Just plain buried for me. Nothing fancy. I think it's ridiculous to spend all this money on a box that's going to end up being plant food. I won't be needing satin, and I won't need ruffles or bows, either.

    ETA: And I've told my husband that I DO NOT WANT AN OPEN CASKET AT MY FUNERAL!! I hate it when they put all of the makeup on the deceased person and they look like some weird mannequin from the 80's.
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  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    Poopsie wrote:
    ETA: And I've told my husband that I DO NOT WANT AN OPEN CASKET AT MY FUNERAL!! I hate it when they put all of the makeup on the deceased person and they look like some weird mannequin from the 80's.

    Call me old-fashioned but I prefer open caskets (when possible). I find comfort somehow in it.
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  • Dee CurlzDee Curlz Posts: 123Registered Users
    Cremated. I can't even begin to think of being buried, I'm claustrophbic, even though it would hardly matter at that point.

    My dad was cremated and his ashes are buried in a barrel planter in my mum's backyard, with a garden fairy on top and, of course, plants and flowers each year. Sometimes I get the vision in my head of his body being burned to ashes and it's horrific, but it's what he wanted. I have a very overactive imagination unfortunately.
  • mazeymazey Posts: 709Registered Users
    Poopsie wrote:
    ETA: And I've told my husband that I DO NOT WANT AN OPEN CASKET AT MY FUNERAL!! I hate it when they put all of the makeup on the deceased person and they look like some weird mannequin from the 80's.

    Ugh, I hate open caskets. The worst one I ever went to was a couple months ago. A friend of ours (an Army Staff Sgt.) was killed in Iraq by shrapnel to the back and back of the head. I was horrified there was an open casket. There was so much make-up on, even more so than a normal open casket. Afterwards, his brother mentioned to me how creepy it was, but his (the deceased's) fiancee and the father wanted it open. Blech.
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  • LisaAnnLisaAnn Posts: 436Registered Users
    Cremated and my ashes scattered. I certainly don't want the cat knocking me off the mantle.
  • NetGNetG Posts: 8,116Registered Users
    LisaAnn wrote:
    Cremated and my ashes scattered. I certainly don't want the cat knocking me off the mantle.

    What she said!



    Despite being a Jewish service, my grandpa's funeral was open casket. I think I was the only one who didn't have any desire to look. I just kind of hung out behind my mom with my hand on her shoulder so she'd know I was there....and my brother said he wished he hadn't looked. I figured that wasn't my grandpa, just his body, and theonly thing it would have done was make me feel horrible for how much he suffered before finally going.
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  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    mazey wrote:
    Poopsie wrote:
    ETA: And I've told my husband that I DO NOT WANT AN OPEN CASKET AT MY FUNERAL!! I hate it when they put all of the makeup on the deceased person and they look like some weird mannequin from the 80's.

    Ugh, I hate open caskets. The worst one I ever went to was a couple months ago. A friend of ours (an Army Staff Sgt.) was killed in Iraq by shrapnel to the back and back of the head. I was horrified there was an open casket. There was so much make-up on, even more so than a normal open casket. Afterwards, his brother mentioned to me how creepy it was, but his (the deceased's) fiancee and the father wanted it open. Blech.

    There are definitely instances when an open casket is completely inappropriate.
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  • StephSStephS Posts: 352Registered Users
    Donate for medical/research what I can, burn and scatter the rest. I will leave it up to whatever family member/friend gets the ashes to choose where to scatter them.
  • MarMar Posts: 3,003Registered Users
    not my choice.

    I'm comfortable with whatever gives my family and friends peace.

    Same here,but if I am cremated,I'd rather be interred than scattered or sat upon a mantle :)
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  • kurlykittykurlykitty Posts: 162Registered Users
    Cremated and scattered. I want the organic matter of my remains returned to the earth as quickly as possible.

    I think that modern burial practices are wasteful, extortionistic, and a tad bit gross. We are embalm people, then stuff them into $5000 satin-lined mahogany caskets with the extra comfort pillows and the deceased's favorite paintings above his head. Why? Why do the dead need pillows? Can the dead even see paintings? In the dark?!?! :? What's next... caskets with a flat screen tv and a dvd player? And most of us think the pharoahs were a bit off for having Fluffy embalmed and mummified.

    The prices are marked up *way* above the costs of actually making the damn things, and are marketed to the grieving (who probably aren't thinking straight and don't have time or the desire to shop around for prices) so they'll feel bad for burying Uncle Otto in the basic casket instead of some overly marked up box with a pretty name containing "Love" or "Serenity" or something.

    Then there's the "peace and comfort in death" thing of these lovely airtight containers. Yeah, right. They don't prevent the body from decaying. They contain the gases that a decomposing body creates, prevents them from escaping into the atmosphere, heats the container, and causes the remains to liquefy into goo until the casket explodes and leaks. Its like giving the dead body E bola after it dies. I'm sorry, but I do not see how an exploding human liquification device is more honoring or "comforting" to the deceased than the plain old pine box or a good hot fire, no matter how pretty of a name the device has. Blegh!

    The death industry makes me ill. :x
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  • geminigemini Posts: 3,325Registered Users
    I think that modern burial practices are wasteful, extortionistic, and a tad bit gross.

    And expensive!!! When we buried my dad, my mom went to a cemetery that my dad had mentioned when he casually discussed plans and I think the plots were 6 or 7K apiece (in 1993). It's a huge cemetery, my friend's dad is buried there and she has a hard time finding his grave because the place is so huge. It just happens to be on a hill with a panoramic ocean view.

    My mom chose a plot in a smaller private cemetery and I know exactly where he is.

    I don't get all of the fuss with coffins, etc. I mean you really can not take it with you. On a sidenote, does anyone remember a couple of years back there was a rapper who was buried in his car? At the funeral, he was propped up like he was driving. That is just bizarre to me.

    I also don't get how people wait a week+ to bury the person.

    Also, I would like to donate whatever I can--why not help someone if I don't need my parts anymore?

    I'm done ranting now. :)
  • legendslegends Posts: 3,073Registered Users
    Cremated and ashes scattered, for the reasons KK and stated. If my family really wants a burial, then I don't want to be embalmed and want a plain box.
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  • dia99dia99 Posts: 1,998Registered Users
    Hopefully, I will die in a fashion where I can still donate all my organs, including my eyes, and my skin if they can use it. I think that would be pretty freaky to see in an open casket :shock: , so I would prefer to be cremated. But, I told DaNa that he can do whatever will make he and Dia feel better after I die, as long as they donate my organs while I'm alive. I had to put that in writing because he doesn't want to donate organs (his or mine).
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  • SisaSisa Posts: 759Registered Users
    dia99 wrote:
    Hopefully, I will die in a fashion where I can still donate all my organs, including my eyes, and my skin if they can use it. I think that would be pretty freaky to see in an open casket :shock: , so I would prefer to be cremated. But, I told DaNa that he can do whatever will make he and Dia feel better after I die, as long as they donate my organs while I'm alive. I had to put that in writing because he doesn't want to donate organs (his or mine).

    I'd love to have my family donate any useable organs, too.

    When I was married, I had expressed that desire to my husband, and he wasn't keen on it either. Do you think that it's a guy thing, or just a spouse not wanting to imagine the thought of their young, pretty wife "cut up into pieces"?

    For me, while I am here on earth, it is a body that doubles as a temple - so I try to treat it well. After I die, you can do what you will - Sisa ain't here no mo'! :dance:dance.gif
  • dia99dia99 Posts: 1,998Registered Users
    Sisa, I think it may be a guy thing. My husband doesn't want to be cut up either, and he wouldn't even know he was being cut up! Women are natural "mothers" I think, and a lot of us will go to our grave, literally, trying to help others. I'm sure there are lots of guys who will donate, too, but women probably think about it more often.
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  • RainRain Posts: 217Registered Users
    Other. I don't care. Whatever gives my family the most peace.
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  • gggg Posts: 1,865Registered Users
    I chose othert. I've been wanting to donate my body to medical science.
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  • GuardianBGuardianB Posts: 1,818Registered Users
    I really feel I'd like to be cremated but where I am spread or if my family chooses to bury me at that point I think is their choice. I would ask that they think of me and us in their decision so we can all be satisfied with that since I still don't know what would become.
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  • geminigemini Posts: 3,325Registered Users
    My husband is not too fond of organ donation either, though I hope he would follow my wishes.

    He tends to think the doctors will let you die if they know you're a donor.

    I just tell him "What if YOU were the one who needed the organ? You'd change your mind about organ donation then, wouldn't you?" People don't think about being on the receiving end.
  • browneyedgirl27browneyedgirl27 Posts: 10Registered Users
    I chose buried, but really, I couldn't care less. I'll be dead, I won't be in this body anymore.
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  • goldencurlygoldencurly Posts: 2,385Registered Users
    I want breast implants, a tummy tuck, and laser eye surgery. Then in the next life, if I come back as an Ancient Egyptian, I'l be sexy and not vision impaired.

    Or if my family choose to not cremate me and do that horrid open casket thing, they can truly say, "oh, she never looked better!"

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