Dressing Inappropriately For Your Age

SpringcurlSpringcurl Posts: 8,002Registered Users
I had to go to two different pharmacies today to find the right tampons.

In the first pharmacy there was a woman of about 60 dressed in a pink mini skirt and with a matching pink top. She wore little white tennis sneakers on her feet.

At the second pharmacy my cashier-- maybe 50 but looked a lot older-- had dyed jet black hair and a barbell piercing in her eyebrow.

Personally, when I see someone dressed so inappropriately I think they look like they're trying to hard to look young.

What's your visceral reaction?
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  • StephSStephS Posts: 352Registered Users
    Gives me something to use my cellphone camera for - to send to my sisters and have a good laugh.
  • ShrekLoverShrekLover Posts: 2,551Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I'm over 50 now and I do stop and think sometimes about whether something I want to buy is appropriate for my age. I've passed up some really cute stuff and what is irritating about it is that I feel 25!
  • geekygeeky Posts: 4,995Registered Users
    I ususally think 'ick" but then figure "It makes her happy, so good for her"

    It's better than seeing people dressed inappropraitely for any age (i.e,. frump-o-matic shapeless sweats).
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  • CurlyCanadianCurlyCanadian Posts: 10,904Registered Users, Curl Ambassador Curl Connoisseur
    I usually feel sorry for them. I think alot of women dress younger in order to make themselves feel younger. There's dressing fashionable, and there's dressing inaproriatly. I was at a wedding shower last summer and one of the btb's aunt's showed up in a hot pink pleather mini skirt, a black blouse with shoes (pink high heels, purse's and such) printed on it and one of those clear little lunch box looking purses (carried by the way to long fake nails, where they just hold it with the tips of there figers?). This woman was probably in her early 50's, but looked at least 10 years younger. She would have looked amazing in just about anything else, but this get-up made her just look trashy. And the worst part was all the other older women in the family kept going on and on about how wonderful this woman looked and how she was always wearing the latest fashions :shock:

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  • SaKkehSaKkeh Posts: 986Registered Users
    It depends to some extent on what the person looks like...but for the most part, I'd stick to age appropriate clothes, etc. If u're all wrinkly and sagging, forget the minis and tight pants...but I say, if you're 40-50 with a good tight body, a little sexy outfit for certain occasions cant hurt at all. No daisy dukes, please. After sixty tho, it doesnt matter what u look like, put some clothes on. I like to see older women in nice pants-suits and delecate jewellery.

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  • AmbrosiaAmbrosia Posts: 60Registered Users
    I am extremely aware of what I wear and how that is percieved by others...whether in a professional or social environment. I try my hardest to dress as I think to be respectful to others and age appropriate.

    However, commenting on or even assessing others' inappropriate dress (the lady whose skirt doesn't cover her varicose veins, etc) is far too judgemental for my taste. To each their own. It may seem tacky, but I would bet at one point and time each of us has worn something an onlooker may consider inappropriate.
  • j'adorej'adore Posts: 1,966Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I'm not too sure about that one. Being inappropriately dressed for your particular body type has to top my list of pet peeves. I have bird legs, so I don't wear mini skirts or shorts. If I had Naomi Campbell/Tina Turner legs, I'd wear shorts up my crack until I croaked.

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  • kurlykittykurlykitty Posts: 162Registered Users
    geeky wrote:
    It's better than seeing people dressed inappropraitely for any age (i.e,. frump-o-matic shapeless sweats).

    Yup.

    Pink shirt, pink miniskirt and white tennis shoes are a fashion trainwreck even for a 20-year-old. Its not that she dressed inappropriately for 60. She just has no taste.

    :lol:

    It is funny that you mention the age-appropriateness of clothing. My mother recently sent, as a bday gift, a baby pink blouse in a cut that I would consider sort of matronly looking - especially in combination with the color! I *never* wear that shade of pink, I never have. Some darker pinks and salmons, yeah, but I don't do pastels. Her reasoning? I'm still young and shouldn't wear "old lady clothes."

    :shock:

    Sometimes I think people in different generations have different ideas about what's old people and young people clothes. Either that or my mom is just cu-razy, which is a possibility I have often considered. :lol:
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  • SweetPicklesSweetPickles Posts: 850Registered Users
    Makes me wonder how others perceive me actually, and how they will perceive me. For example, I have no intention of taking out my nosering anytime soon. Will that make me look like I'm trying to 'act' younger? Maybe. I also do consider this clothing-wise a lot--I'm a very small person and unfortunately, it's virtually impossible to find grown-up clothes that fit, and which are also in my price range, outside the 'Juniors' department. That's really frustrating me at the moment!
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  • mishymishy Posts: 33Registered Users
    I guess I have to say "to each his/her own", because my mother, who is over 60 and still looks pretty good for her age, dresses like a teenager. :shock: You wouldn't believe the stuff she wears, pretty embarrassing sometimes :oops: I think most people who see her agree that it looks pretty awful, and she would look so much better if she wore stuff that was more flattering to her figure - not old & matronly, just more flattering. But, after all, she is my mother, so I am compelled to defend her and say "to each his own" :lol:
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  • bouncebounce Posts: 297Registered Users
    Makes me wonder how others perceive me actually, and how they will perceive me. For example, I have no intention of taking out my nosering anytime soon. Will that make me look like I'm trying to 'act' younger? Maybe. I also do consider this clothing-wise a lot--I'm a very small person and unfortunately, it's virtually impossible to find grown-up clothes that fit, and which are also in my price range, outside the 'Juniors' department. That's really frustrating me at the moment!

    One of my girlfriends is a high school english/speech/debate teacher. We will both be 28 in May and she still has her tongue ring in - we got them pierced together and I took mine out (for good) about 2 years ago. She's a silly girl and I don't even notice it b/c it's very "her", plus I think her students like it which helps with student/teacher rapport, but anyone who doesn't know her....look out. Judge, judge, judge.
  • TootsieTootsie Posts: 7Registered Users
    It goes both ways. I find myself shaking my head when I walk behind 20 year olds who are flabby, out of shape and spilling out of their expensive, low rise jeans. It's sad when I'm in better shape than someone half my age. So what's appropriate or not given those circumstances? And I agree with other posters that clothing can be flattering or tacky all on its own. Still, I definitely avoid the junior department!
  • ShrekLoverShrekLover Posts: 2,551Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I find myself shaking my head when I walk behind 20 year olds who are flabby, out of shape and spilling out of their expensive, low rise jeans. It's sad when I'm in better shape than someone half my age.

    I think this all the time. I can't believe how out of shape young people are now and how they don't mind their flabby guts hanging out of their low rise jeans.

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  • love yourself firstlove yourself first Posts: 5,398Registered Users
    Some of those real life examples of inappropriate dressing are :shock: Then again, that all navy 2 piece number someone posted above looks matronly to me (or maybe just kind of boring) and seems to really age the model who is wearing it.

    Call me biased, but I don't think that anyone over the age of 24 can (or should) trot around in trendy, trashy, novelty-type clothing. What makes sense to me is to develop a personal style based on flattering cuts, colors and fabrics and then stick to that. Personally, I dress to flatter my figure (which is fuller in the past 4-5 years than before)

    Beyond age (since I have seen much older woman in yoga class or on the streets with smokin' bodies) I think it always makes sense to dress in a classic, tasteful style that suits your body shape. If there's any rule on top of that, I would say AVOID SO-CALLED AGE-APPROPRIATE CLOTHES at either extreme - whether it be cheaply made and tacky teenage/young 20-something stuff or those shapeless, monochromatic mumuus and other frumpwear associated with the over 50 set.

    Possibly ageless fashion? Ann Taylor, Anthropologie, Tahari, B. Republic, A. Klein. Stuff I wince at in catelogs I wish would stop coming? Boston Proper, Coldwater Creek.
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  • ~915~~915~ Posts: 519Registered Users
    Actually, I like it. It makes me happy that women seem to be a lot less self conscious than years past about their bellies. Women's bodies have fat on them. It's part of the shape. I just love seeing women with lots of body confidence even when their body isn't Playboy quality.

    Also, I don't care about age appropriate clothing. I do prefer to see someone in flattering clothing, though. I think what it all comes down to is taste. That pink and black outfit described above doesn't sound like it would look good on anyone! :lol:
  • mad scientistmad scientist Posts: 3,530Registered Users
    I was thinking about this... and I don't think I ever actually notice whensomeone looks "not age appropriate".

    I usually notice women dressing "not body-type/size appropriate" or "not even close to being in style", but I can't think of an example of a older women I've seen wearing younger women's clothes where the real issue wasn't that the clothes didn't fit or was just plain ol' trashy.


  • MzShvyMzShvy Posts: 121Registered Users
    I'm more bothered by clothes that don't fit a body type, than clothes that don't "fit" your age group. It grosses me out to see someone squeezed into something 5 sizes too small. If you look good in something, and you feel good in it, go for it.
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  • curlyarcacurlyarca Posts: 8,449Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    agree with mad scientist, chocolate curls, and ambrosia.

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  • Ju Ju BeanJu Ju Bean Posts: 6Registered Users
    I don't see how those looks would be 'inaproriate'. Maybe not so flattering, but i'm sure both of those women were pretty darn interesting people.
  • j'adorej'adore Posts: 1,966Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I agree that the blue outfit is very matronly. I would consider wearing that at 90 or so. That model looks like she could get away with something much hotter!

    And I think style and fashion are two different things. Look at SJP as Carrie Bradshaw--she's petite and stylish and can get away with anything. She's 40! I can't imagine anything that would not look good on her. She could do shorts and a crop top. It all depends on how you put it together, the accessories, etc. "Funky" can work forever. "Cheap" only works in your teens.

    I am 35, and I don't think I dress like a teeny bopper, per se (though I do still shop in the junior department), but my staples are low rise jeans, mini tees and funky hats. Professional type clothes and "missy" items just hang off me. I hate them.
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  • CurlsWannaHaveFunCurlsWannaHaveFun Posts: 251Registered Users
    See, I read this topic and immediately thought of kids (i.e. younger than teenagers) wearing the latest Britney/Christina oversexed atrocity of an outfit. I definitely don't think "to each their own" in that case.

    However those old enough to dress themselves, if they're happy, I'm happy. :D Who am I to judge. Tho I can still laugh and make snarky comments, right?
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  • love yourself firstlove yourself first Posts: 5,398Registered Users
    CurlsWannaHave Fun said:

    Who am I to judge. Tho I can still laugh and make snarky comments, right?

    That's like the unofficial NC.com non-hair board motto right? :wink:
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  • SaKkehSaKkeh Posts: 986Registered Users
    Then again, that all navy 2 piece number someone posted above looks matronly to me (or maybe just kind of boring) and seems to really age the model who is wearing it.

    Its not a blue-print for what I think older women (60's -up) should wear on certain ocasions, its just a general idea.
  • love yourself firstlove yourself first Posts: 5,398Registered Users
    I hear you Sakkeh, and I hope you didn't take offense. I am prone to wearing a lot of dark, neutral colors, particularly at work (i.e. suits, slacks).

    I guess I really don't know what I'll be attracted to (or the shape of my body) when I hit my 50s and 60s. If I'm still in touch with NC at that point, we'll have to start another thread :wink:

    PS. Is that Kobe Bryant with hair in your avatar?! I LOVE Kobe (his talent and looks, if not the awful charges pending against him last year).
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  • PoochiePoochie Posts: 315Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    Warning

    When I am an old woman I shall wear purple
    With a red hat which doesn't go, and doesn't suit me.
    And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
    And satin sandals, and say we've no money for butter.
    I shall sit down on the pavement when I'm tired
    And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells
    And run my stick along the public railings
    And make up for the sobriety of my youth.
    I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
    And pick the flowers in other people's gardens
    And learn to spit.

    You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
    And eat three pounds of sausages at a go
    Or only bread and pickle for a week
    And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes.

    But now we must have clothes that keep us dry
    And pay our rent and not swear in the street
    And set a good example for the children.
    We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.

    But maybe I ought to practice a little now?
    So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised
    When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple.

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  • PartyHairPartyHair Posts: 7,713Registered Users
    I love that poem, except I wasn't so sober in my youth, nor am I all that sober now. I'm a goofball, so I don't think anyone will be surprised when I start wearing purple with a red hat that doesn't suit me. :lol:
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  • PoochiePoochie Posts: 315Registered Users Curl Connoisseur
    I like it because it just illustrates that we care less about what's "appropriate" or fashionable as we learn more about what's really important.

    I, for one, will wear what I like. It's too much fun to wear hot pink, miniskirts, and big curly hair to worry about what anyone else thinks is appropriate for me. What do they know about me, anyway? 8)
  • Sweet CurlySweet Curly Posts: 32Registered Users
    I don't think twice about what people wear because honestly I couldn't care less. If those women felt good in what they were wearing, what do you care? Maybe they FEEL 20, so that's how they dress. Maybe it makes them happy to put those clothes on every day. Maybe it's the ONLY thing that makes them happy. Should they change it to make YOU happy? I don't think so.

    Every year that goes by makes me realize how short life is. I've spent way too many years caring what other people think of me, torturing myself with trying to make the "right" decisions, whatever those are. With each passing year I care less and less what other people (especially passing strangers) think of me. I do what makes me happy and figure f%&k everybody else.

    I just don't understand why people care so much, especially about superficial things like clothing. I'm always amazed here when I read things like "oh, those shoes are frumpy and went out of style 2 years ago". LOL. Or "that handbag is too busy". I guess fashion is far more important to most people than it is to me. I'll just never understand why it's important, most of all to OTHER people.
  • ScarletScarlet Posts: 3,125Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I just don't understand why people care so much, especially about superficial things like clothing. I'm always amazed here when I read things like "oh, those shoes are frumpy and went out of style 2 years ago". LOL. Or "that handbag is too busy". I guess fashion is far more important to most people than it is to me. I'll just never understand why it's important, most of all to OTHER people.

    If you just don't care, then why do the opinions of others bother you so?

    And sorry, but your post smacks of self-righteousness. Specifically, a posted ASKED for opinions on whether or not we thought a pair of shoes were "frumpy". Jumping to the conclusion that this makes those of us who answered "superficial" or frivolous is extremely offensive.
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  • three rivers curlythree rivers curly Posts: 994Registered Users
    Springcurl wrote:

    In the first pharmacy there was a woman of about 60 dressed in a pink mini skirt and with a matching pink top. She wore little white tennis sneakers on her feet.

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