I think it tiime to give up
So I co washed my hair today after flat larifying it. I then put in a leave in, when my hair dried a litle i put some moisturizer in it. The hair was soft for a litte bit, then it went straight back to being dry. I dn't think natural hair is for me, I cannot bush my hair when it wet. It looks dry and dull all the time. Braid outs and bantu knots don't work with my hair. I think I am getting a perm this weekend. Thank you ladies for all your help, I really did want to be natural but it's just not working for me.