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firelilyfirelily Posts: 1,298Registered Users
I didn't get into grad school. I had only applied to one because my field is so specialized that there are only 3 schools in the country that offer degrees. I didn't meet the prereqs for one, and didn't like the other.

I am really broken up over it, more than I've let anyone know. I kept on crying at my desk at work yesterday.

I'm not sure what to do now. Maybe apply to a program in a closely related field, but it's getting kind of late for that, and the school I'd apply to is in Boston. I don't want to live in Boston anymore.

I'm going to try to appeal the rejection....but if that doesn't work, hopefully something good will come along. I'm too old and too easily bored to keep on working office jobs, it's not where I belong.
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  • quickcurlquickcurl Posts: 1,310Registered Users
    I'm sorry. :cry:

    Is there any chance that you could apply to another school, for a related field, then transfer into the school that said no later on? I don't know if that works for grad school, but I know people who have gotten into undergrad in their "dream" schools that way.

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  • nepanthenepanthe Posts: 292Registered Users
    I am so sorry to hear about this..is there any way to meet the prereq's?
  • DarkAngelDarkAngel Posts: 2,671Registered Users Curl Neophyte
    I'm sorry. I think that if I were you, I would find out why I wasn't admitted and do everything I can to fix that between now and next year and then reapply. I would also start bugging a few professors on a regular basis so that when it comes time to admit people, they know me as more than just name on a piece of paper.

    I hope things work out for you.
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  • gekko422gekko422 Posts: 4,869Registered Users
    DarkAngel wrote:
    I'm sorry. I think that if I were you, I would find out why I wasn't admitted and do everything I can to fix that between now and next year and then reapply. I would also start bugging a few professors on a regular basis so that when it comes time to admit people, they know me as more than just name on a piece of paper.

    I hope things work out for you.

    This is a really good idea. In the meantime, that sucks! I hope you feel better about it soon.
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  • Resume WriterResume Writer Posts: 645Registered Users
    I'm sorry to hear this--that's rough. But, like the others have said, I would use this opportunity to see what can be done. Can you meet with the department head and ask what would increase your chances for admission next time? I know someone who did this, and she eventually got accepted into the program. Setting yourself apart and putting a person to the name could really help you.

    Good luck.
  • luvmylocsluvmylocs Posts: 7,578Registered Users
    i'm sorry. i know you're hurting. when you're ready devote your time and attention to getting in next year. do you mind sharing what field of study it is?
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  • michellermicheller Posts: 470Registered Users
    I'm so sorry - I hope your appeal works. But, remember, and I know it is totally cliche (but so true) whenever one door closes, another one opens - maybe you are destined to do something totally different than what you planned. You never know. Hugs and good luck to you.
  • firelilyfirelily Posts: 1,298Registered Users
    I'm going to talk with the people I interviewed with to find out why they didn't think I was a good match for the school, and if there was anything I could do better. I'll be in SF (where the school is) this week, so hopefully I'll get an appointment.

    I'm not sure if I'd be able to go next year. It's a 3 year program, and it would start to cut into baby making time for me. If I have kids, I'd really like to have my first before I'm 35.

    The field is somatic psychology. Right now I'm studying art and dance therapy, but since I am/was a bodyworker (on hiatus due to injured hands), I'd really wanted to do body oriented psych. Maybe I'll stick with the art & dance now, although one of the best schools for it is in Boston - so that means staying here.

    I'm not sure if I could transfer into the school next year, they're pretty tiny and like to keep their cohorts tight. I'm also not sure if I could meet the prereqs in time for the other school, but I also don't know if I could get SO to move to colorado.

    I do hope that this door closing means that an even cooler one opens.
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  • Who Me?Who Me? Posts: 3,181Registered Users
    I think it's also a good idea to talk to the school where you didn't get in. But I would try to keep the tone of the conversation as "I know there's only a few spots and you recieve applications from many qualified candidates. I'm really dedicated to the field, and would like to know where I could improve my application to stand out more in next year's application pool"....as opposed to basically saying your application wasn't good enough, and wanting to know where it wasn't good enough. You just always want to have a positive "I'm awesome, you know you need to accept me" attitude when talking to the grad schools. And if you do decide you want to apply next year, you should put a LOT of effort into forming relationships with professors at the school in this year. Regular correspondance, seeking them out a professional meetings, etc.

    But keep in mind that just maybe this isn't the right field for you. I was upset about not getting into a specific program years ago....and then a few years later I applied to competely unrelated programs and now I LOVE what I do. And I really don't think I would have been happy had I gone with the original programs. Honestly, I think that sometimes the admissions committees just know that a student wouldn't be a good fit, or wouldn't be happy somewhere, even if we insist it's what we want!
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  • gggg Posts: 1,865Registered Users
    firelily wrote:

    I do hope that this door closing means that an even cooler one opens.

    Definately. Don't look at it as a rejection look at it as there's a different path you need to follow. I would definately talk to someone to get answers as to why you didn't get in so at least you won't be wondering. If it's something you really want keep trying but also keep an open mind about other things too.
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  • luvmylocsluvmylocs Posts: 7,578Registered Users
    i recently got "rejected" for someting i wanted and i totally feel like it's a blessing and i feel like it gave me a new idea that i hadn't considered before....

    i have a feeling you will be just fine....you were not rejected! your steps have been reordered but you were not rejected....

    keep us posted!!!
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  • iris427iris427 Posts: 6,002Registered Users
    I'm sorry to hear that, firelily ((hugs))

    But like others said, I really think this gives you the potential to improve yourself as an applicant and perhaps discover new avenues in life you wouldn't have otherwise.
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