I don't know how to have consistency in my curls and how to make them last, what am I doing wrong?
So, I started my curly girl journey a month ago, because I wanted my waves/curls to last because they would straighten out after 1h of being awake. I discovered the whole journey, the products everything and I am desperately trying and it's not really working, or not as well as I hoped. There is a hit of an evolution but it's hard for me to see.
I think I'm a 2A-2C but I'm seeing some 3A in there as well when my hair just dried. So I co-wash once a week, deep condition once a week as well (shea moisture deep conditioner), use a leave in (lush rnb) and use a gel (eco styler) for hold. I apply my styling products right after washing and blotting (I blot my hair with a t-shirt) scrunch all the products in, plop it and leave it to air dry, once a month I clarify. I don't really know what to do when my hair is dry for frizz or to refresh them, i wet them a little and put more leave in and gel and it looks okayish but it's still very frizzy. When my curls/waves have a weird shape i'm at a loss. Like a lot of my locks lost their shape and the back of my head of hair is pretty much straight, same for the curls underneath, a lot of the curls are straightened out or stringy, the clumps are super small except one curl. Sometimes they come to life but it's barely there. Anyway, So on washing day after it dried my hair looks good, not perfect but really nice, low frizz, nice curl pattern... And then I wake up the next day and they start falling apart again and it just gets worse as the week goes. I don't know what I am doing wrong, any experienced curly girls with tips are very welcome because I am desperate, I honestly about to give up and cry
Oh and just fiy before I started my journey all I used was shampoo, conditioner and leave in conditioner and my curls were gone. I found co-washing helps my oily scalp, it barely gets greasy anymore, i have no scalp itchiness anymore and most of my dandruff is gone so I think my hair is just very very dry.